How did you relationship progress?
I'm reffering to the usual steps. First time the 'love' word. Moving in together. Talking about life plans, kids etc.
Do you think there's a certain speed it should go, or do you think it's possible to go quite fast if the person is right?
Met online, I knew he was the one but I wasn't his type, hung out for 4 months as friends with no clue whether anything would develop, he tried to chase me off at one point because he knew I had feelings for him and didn't feel like it was fair to keep me hanging, around the 4 months mark he kissed me and immediately regretted it ("Great, now she's going to expect that all the time," was his thought), within a month he'd had some sort of epiphany and proposed, two months later we were married. We never lived together. I think he probably didn't tell me he loved me until about a week before he popped the question.
Married a year and a half now.
We are dorks. :D
Practically instant (I proposed 7 days after the first date) and will last our lifetime (30+ yrs so far).
Met at work. Worked together for a year, then started sleeping together, he moved in about 2 months after that. Had our first date somewhere in that time frame. First time the word 'love' was used...somewhere around 3 months after sleeping together. Knew without a doubt I'd marry him (if he asked) about 6 months in.
Married 4 years this October.
To each their own, I suppose. Some people are more comfortable doing things one way, others another. I think the only time relationships progress too fast or too slow are either when there are warning flags that something isn't right anyway, or when it makes one uncomfortable.
L-word dropped two weeks into our relationship. I was the first one to say it. He moved in with me four months after we met. We started talking life plans before he moved in. Engaged a year and a half after we met. We just had our one-year anniversary in May.
My wife and I are married 22 years. I suppose the L word will be dropped....eventually:P
everyone is different. I go from taking it real slow emotionally, to once I've overcome fear, immediate commitment.
After 3 months, I knew my DH was the one. After dating almost a year, I still hadn't heard "I love you". Call me needy, but I don't see the point of being with someone that long and not having those feelings. So, I got emotional and pretty much demanded knowing if he did or not...because god forbid I said it first (not my best moment).
He wanted to move in about a year before we got engaged, but I wanted to wait until we were engaged. Which we did...about 3 years after first dating.
I regret not moving in before the engagement now. I feared that if we lived together, he wouldn't have proposed (why buy the cow...). But everything moved so quickly, I missed out on playing house: He still acted like guest in my place (not pitching in) and it became annoying. I feel if we lived together without knowing we were sealing the deal, it would have been more fun.
Whatevs. It worked out though.
PS: you're going to have to read through the poor grammar...don't have time to edit
Original Post by kevinatthebrook:
My wife and I are married 22 years. I suppose the L word will be dropped....eventually:P
lesbian? damn, that sucks that she waited that long to come out with it.
Original Post by mjsophia:
Original Post by kevinatthebrook:
My wife and I are married 22 years. I suppose the L word will be dropped....eventually:P
lesbian? damn, that sucks that she waited that long to come out with it.
Well done MJ, well done indeed;)
We started dating about 6 months after we first met. We started off as just really good friends, and our hesitation about "ruining" a friendship almost stopped it from happening. "I love you" about 5 months after our first date, sex about 1 month after that. During the remaining 3 years of college we shacked up with each other a lot, but didn't move in together until after graduation. Another 9 months and we got married. About 6 years later we had our first baby, our next one about 2 years after that.
In September we'll celebrate 18 years of marriage, 23 years since we first met.
And no, I don't think there's a certain speed it's "supposed" to go - it's different for everyone based on a lot of factors.
I'm hoping this thread means you've met someone new?
Yup :). From a chance encounter (damn you all who said just wait and it will come when you least expect it... did not expect it). We have spent maybe a total of 2 days apart since we met. All dating conventions were not respected (he messaged me 12 hours after we met, and had a date that day). We are ridiculously compatible. He's that kind of person who is genuinely good, that you would trust implicitly. Normally I'd freak out if it moved so fast, but it just seems so natural to just be together.
Am happy for you, Suzu. That's an exhilarating feeling.
Yay! Enjoy it. It will lead where it's supposed to lead. :)
It was instant for both of us but we thought we should wait some time to get engaged... so he popped the question 5 weeks after we met and we got married three months later. :D And we couldn't be happier! When you know, you know.
Love and sex was quite early in our relationship, but grown more genuine over the years.
Original Post by suzushii:
Yup :). From a chance encounter (damn you all who said just wait and it will come when you least expect it... did not expect it). We have spent maybe a total of 2 days apart since we met. All dating conventions were not respected (he messaged me 12 hours after we met, and had a date that day). We are ridiculously compatible. He's that kind of person who is genuinely good, that you would trust implicitly. Normally I'd freak out if it moved so fast, but it just seems so natural to just be together.
I'm glad for you. When the chemistry is just right, things can happen quick.
Original Post by cajunrider:
Original Post by suzushii:
Yup :). From a chance encounter (damn you all who said just wait and it will come when you least expect it... did not expect it). We have spent maybe a total of 2 days apart since we met. All dating conventions were not respected (he messaged me 12 hours after we met, and had a date that day). We are ridiculously compatible. He's that kind of person who is genuinely good, that you would trust implicitly. Normally I'd freak out if it moved so fast, but it just seems so natural to just be together.
I'm glad for you. When the chemistry is just right, things can happen quick.
i agree! :)
I saw him from across the bar, gave him my number. He texted me late into the night after we parted ways. He was adamant about taking me to dinner the next night, and I gave in. We talked about the really important stuff the first few days of knowing each other, I said I loved him about 2 weeks in, he followed a day or so later. We live together now, planned to get engaged this year but surprise! are expecting our first child, its barely been a year and a half but we're really happy. Still getting engaged soon, not getting married until I drop the baby weight and we settle into being a family (maybe a year or two from now)
Its unexpected but when its right and it goes quickly, there is nothing wrong with it if you are both happy and comfortable with the speed.
I moved to a new city almost a year ago. Met Trevor on match.com. April 12. May 25 he told me he was in love with me. We have talked about all the important stuff and we already are 100% certain we will be together forever. And trust me, I'M FUSSY.
He would give me the world. He loves me unconditionally. He makes me want to be a better person.
We will move in together some time after Christmas.
I'm happier than I've ever been. I'm not exageratting a bit :-)
:) Awww, I'm happy for you igs.
We were married 5 months after he proposed. We are happily married still. We had our first child 4 years after our wedding.
