Solution.
You have a problem, we will class this problem in the major category, and in an effort to find a solution you have, you feel tried all possible avenues, but none have resolved it.
Let us say it cannot just be left, a solution must be found...What would you do next?
*this is not medical, nor does the problem need to be revealed, it's about when all that you know has been exhausted what would you do next*
I ask for a different perspective from somebody I trust (read: not somebody who'll agree with me no matter what), since it's quite possible I'm missing something or failing to see a solution.
Go back through the problem. There are many solutions. They may not be great, fantastic ones, but they’re there.
You have to choose, then see what happens.
I would have to find a different perspective.
If the different perspective, whether from those close to me, a professional (or group of), library or internet, yields no other viable solutions or no different solutions at all, I would have to reassess why the solutions aren't viable.
There have to be solutions to the problem. I may not like them all, but if I'm getting in a time crunch, I'll have to weigh the pros and cons of each possibility and go with the lesser of the evils.
Redefine the problem and/or get more data. In my experience, ~80% of the time when people are convinced there isn't a solution, it's because they didn't have an accurate picture of what the problem was in the first place.
ETA: And when truly all else fails, there's the serenity prayer (modified depending on religious leanings....)
I called someone who normally knows about this particular thing, but even they started scratching their head, all I got was "Oh god I don't know...I don't know what you are going to do" :{
I might try writing it all down again, and all the solution I've tried, and if I know, why they didn't work.
Maybe, something will eventually jump out at me.
1. identify assumptions
2. question assumptions
3. meditate
4. stream of consciousness writing about problem
5. solution!
There are solutions, I may not see them or I might not like them but they are there.
Talk to someone I trust; a professional if appropriate to the situation.
List out my options..consider possible ramifications (given current info), choose the least worst.
There are times when you have to accept the problem as unsolvable, at least with the tools and knowledge you currently have.
Thank you.
I feel like I am in a giant maze with this, there is one obvious exit, but it has been blocked, so I have to find an alternative way out...At the moment I keep ending up back where I was!
Original Post by pavlovcat:
There are times when you have to accept the problem as unsolvable, at least with the tools and knowledge you currently have.
trouble is I can't, I absolutely must find the solution.
Are you trapped in the Matrix, rainbows? :D
Dump the Jerk.
Ask others to see if they can come up with other solutions that you haven't thought of yet (kind of like what you're doing here)
Research, try to find out what happened to other people who have faced this problem.
Examine the problem from other angles. Perhaps a basic assumption you have about the problem is incorrect (it's not that there's no solution, it's just that the problem was ill-defined).
After all that either a) Chose the solution that is the lesser evil or b) Ignore it and hope that it goes away (it rarely does).
Wait...you're not considering bombing embassy over this crisis are you?
*Busted* :D
maybe you have the wrong idea what the solution is supposed to look like.
Thank you everyone...apart from Ccat 
I will have to go over it all again ><
Try going over it backwards - optimally from where you want to be, but where you are works too.
See if that doesn't add some clarity.
Original Post by gotborked:
maybe you have the wrong idea what the solution is supposed to look like.
Huh! well that's posed an interesting angle.
OK I've taken some notes from what has been suggested, I need to scoot off and do some scribbling, I look in later.
