young and getting married
IThey act as tho it's a curse to be with somebody that young.We are happy and instead of doing fun things apart all the time we do them together ( but we give each other space too )
I mean aren't you suppose to grow together not apart??
I know we are very different from how we were years ago, we just grew y Up more and realized life wasn't all fun and games. We understood that college came first because with our a carreer you are nothing
And we are going to wait a little and attend premarital consoling before we get married I feel that couples should be judged individually and not as a statistic. I also understand people are looking out for me but I did have this experiance when I told somebody my story and they were all "aw how cute I know you guys will last because your relationship is strong" I told her my age and her whole outlook changed. She started saying we are bond to get a divorce etc...
Why are people so bitter about young love
Please don't get it confused. I have no doubts about my relationship. My question is simply why ate people so negative. Hearing nothing put negativity is annoying
We took one break for a little while. we are funding it ourself without any help from EITHER PATENTS And also we recieve no government assistance
People are bitter because it didn't work out for them. But who cares about those people, they suck anyway.
- Married at 20 and so far my marriage has lasted longer than all three of my mom's.
I'm with CD on this one. While it is, in fact, rare to meet a couple that lasted that time, its not completely unheard of and its great that you are still together knowing you have grown up together and what not.
I met my husband when I was 19, he was 32, I had a 2 year old daughter and we are still together with a son as well (and my daughter is his for all intents and purposes). We've been together 8 years and "legally" married for three this may. My father and mother only lasted about 7 or 8 years, and neither have had very successful relationships since....
I think as long as you both realize that you are not ONE and the same and allow each other to get those life experiences (within reason) that you are okay. heck, it used to be that people knew each other, even if they weren't boyfriend and girlfriend, from such a young age and later married and stayed that way until death (or extreme old age or whatever you want to call it).
It's rare, but it can happen.
You might want to work on your spelling to help with your professional image. 
^ Agreed.
I met my husband when I was in elementary school and we started dating when I was 16. We got married when I was 23 and everyone told me I was too young and needed to date other men before 'just settling' with him, etc. We've been together for 9.5 years, married for 3.5 and are perfectly happy together. Sure, we've fought - who doesn't? But you work through it. And still, people tell me that one day it'll end, one day I'll see I should have "not just settled" on my first boyfriend, my HS sweetheart...
...I just give them the mental middle finger. Or the real one, if they can see me.
Do what you feel is right, and love your happiness that you've found. Don't let anyone try and take that from you. :)
It may sound cliche but I truly believe that even if you fight, don't go to bed without apologizing.
It sounds as though you casually dated through your teens before deciding to "settle down" with each other. If that's the case, not sure what other people's problems are...unless they misunderstand and think that you've been dating each other exclusively since you were 11. In that case, I can understand the concern. At the end of the day, it's your life to live, not theirs.
My hub and I met when I was 16, he was 19. We got married when I was 19 and will celebrate our 17th wedding anni this summer. ANY relationship is tough, doesn't matter if you start out young or wait until you're old. It's all about the mindset and if you're committed.
Original Post by smw:
It's rare, but it can happen.
You might want to work on your spelling to help with your professional image.
In all fairness, English may not be her first language.
Since we do have posters from all over the place, I always try to keep that possibility in mind.
If you were my daughter, I would hope you'd wait a lot more years.
My two cents is that you should be aware that you and your fiance will probably both continue to change as time goes on. This is natural and so long as you're growing/changing together, and it will be great. A friend of mine from high school met her husband in junior high school. We're all turning 40 this year, and in some way I'm jealous that she has children who are graduating high school already (mine is just 2 years old!).
Personally, I changed a lot while in my 20s--my personality, the way I thought about life, etc. If I would have married my high school/college boyfriend (the same guy, btw--we broke up when we were seniors in college), I would have been very unhappy because I'm a very different person now than I was 20 years ago. I am so happy that I waited until I discovered WHO I WAS before getting seriously involved with someone. I was 29 when I met my now husband, and 33 when I got married.
At the end of the day, its your decision, but just remember that if you decide to move forward, you should both expect to change!
PS--my premarital counselor's best line? "Two words will save your marriage: YES, DEAR". :)
My brother and his wife got married at 19 and 18. They have actually grown together a lot more over the years and have come to respect and care for each other even more then they did as teenagers. They have been married over 20 years now. Age is really no indication of how a marriage will work out in the end. Do what feels right for you.
This is a tough one because I got married when I was 18 and my husband was 21 and our daughter was 4 months old. I definitely understand young love but it's not something I want for my kids.
But we are proof that it can work with lots of patience and lots of understanding because you do grow up a lot as a married couple.
Good luck
:o)
Original Post by cellulitedelight:
People are bitter because it didn't work out for them. But who cares about those people, they suck anyway.
This.
I was 23 and wife was 22 when we got married. My parents were 21/19 and are still happily married.
I'm not sure why people insist on a waiting period for couples that know that they want to spend the rest of their lives together. Not knowing whether you love the person is one thing, but all relationships take work. Might as well put a ring on it.
Original Post by loveit395297:
Why are people so bitter about young love
We took one break for a little while. we are funding it ourself without any help from EITHER PATENTS And also we recieve no government assistance
Wait...I don't think you can legally patent young love...what??
Yeah...people are negative about it for the same reason people are negative about "spiritual healing". It "may" work...once in awhile...especially if you lack other options...but the vast majority of the time it is a BAD idea.
I'm not saying praying for a cure for cancer ain't cool...to each their own...but if I got strept throat...I want antibiotics...not a prayer.
Original Post by caloricat:
Original Post by loveit395297:
Why are people so bitter about young love
We took one break for a little while. we are funding it ourself without any help from EITHER PATENTS And also we recieve no government assistanceWait...I don't think you can legally patent young love...what??
Yeah...people are negative about it for the same reason people are negative about "spiritual healing". It "may" work...once in awhile...especially if you lack other options...but the vast majority of the time it is a BAD idea.
I'm not saying praying for a cure for cancer ain't cool...to each their own...but if I got strept throat...I want antibiotics...not a prayer.
I think you're getting lost in your analogy...at least I am.
I'm saying statistically it's doomed to fail. Nobody on their wedding day acknowledges that they have a 50/50 chance.
thats a **** thing to say
Why? If you want to get married at 18, you still have to face the hard facts.
Original Post by rosieii:
Why? If you want to get married at 18, you still have to face the hard facts.
i personally dont belive that is fact. i believe thats how your personally feel.
what you said was a little rude and unneccisary
it's rare, thats why people say that. i personally think you guys are way too young to get married. i would want to wait until after college. but if that's what you guys want, then go for it. i know a lot of people who married their middle school/highschool boyfriend or girlfriend and they're still married. :) (people who were friends w my mom and dad lol) plus, you said you've taken breaks and met other people. the fact that you know you want to be with only eachother after that is a good sign.
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