I have lost my BREASTS. Should I gain weight?

I absolutely hate this...ever since I started lifting heavier (and not even that heavy...like 60 lb squatting and hip thrusts) I have become more muscular (thus, I weigh more, 5'5" and 115 as opposed to 5'5" and 107 like I used to be) but my mom informed me I look thinner.  When I stand up straight you can see my ribs in my chest area and in my back.  I normally wouldn't mind that since I know I'm healthy (and I eat upwards of 2500 cal/day. I don't watch my calories at all). I'm 22 so I know part of this is my age, and I know it's a blessing.

All of that WOULD be a tiny violin issue, except my breasts are way smaller.  I used to be a full 30F (not as big as it sounds, but still decent) and now I'm a 30DD (so, a cup size smaller or 2 cup sizes smaller). My bust only measures 33", my ribcage is like 27".  Those are MINISCULE boobs! I feel boyish, ugly and I hate it.  My mom saw me without my top on and told me how much smaller my boobs got.  I almost never run anymore because of this (I used to run 6x/week, 1 mile).  When people see me they think I'm an A or B cup (if they're rude enough to ask, which often they are).

My dad is the same way in terms of a fast metabolism...even at 53 it's hard for him to put on weight.  It's a total blessing, but I'm a little annoyed that my breasts have suffered.  Generally I don't put on weight in my stomach, but I'm a little afraid of what would happen if I gain--what if my face blows up, or I just start looking chubby? I guess I'd like to hear from other women who experienced this :/

It is possible to look slimmer at 115 than 107, because muscle weighs more than fat. It sounds like you do alot of exercise, maybe 2500 isnt quite enough for your body to maintain on anymore? it takes more energy to feed and restore muscle than it does fat. If you are resistance training, running ect, Any weight you did gain would soon be toned muscle, and probably get you back to a bigger cup size too.

Original Post by moarpotatochipsnao:
 I used to be a full 30F (not as big as it sounds, but still decent) and now I'm a 30DD (so, a cup size smaller or 2 cup sizes smaller). My bust only measures 33", my ribcage is like 27".  Those are MINISCULE boobs! I feel boyish, ugly and I hate it. 

 

Oh come on, 30DD miniscule? Try living with 32AA at age 40, then you'll understand miniscule. If you feel 'boyish and ugly', how would you describe someone like me?

But to answer your question, at 5' 5" and 115, given that much of it is muscle, is a very low weight. You could easily stand to gain another 10lbs and still be nicely slim.

Go for it and gain some weight, it could help with getting your boobs back and also so you cant see your ribs and things like that, you are a very low weight especially with lots of it being muscle, so you could definitely stand to gain some and look good :) 

(p.s. they arnt tiny, im 32C so around the same size, but i know i would definitely like to be bigger and i can imagine dropping 2 cup sizes you would feel much smaller, so if you arnt comfortable just do it)

I think you need to gain some weight in the form of fat in order to look and to feel more womanly.  Basically cut the lifting down a little bit and just focus on enjoying gaining by eating and relaxing for a bit.  As you have lost a lot of weight from your boobs, it's my bet that that would be the first place it would go back on!  All the weight you have gained so far has been in muscle as that is where the extra calories have HAD to go in order to repair and build up your broken down muscles.

I second mrswilsonscat too and think you need to be more sensitive before you write - some of the ways you've expressed your disappointment '(Those are MINISCULE boobs! I feel boyish, ugly and I hate it.)' really made me think well what chance do the rest of us have to feel good if a 30DD size girl thinks she looks boyish.  Remember that a lot of girls would love to be that size and try and be grateful that you are - I am 21, and a 32AA.  THAT is miniscule. 

Wow, sorry male not female,

You are really seeking the feeling and opinions of other woman. first if i see your photo it's either quite deceiving or you have a twisted American view of physics. There are still millions of woman left who accept themselves. my understanding of the third feminist movement has a basis of self acceptance. don't put yourself on any one side of the pendulum of your gender. learn how to love your self the way you are and not the way your piers see you. how does you father really feel about you? I'm sure he loves you regardless. with regards to the third and last feminist movement, learn to love yourself through your own eyes not the eyes of others. If there was a God of love would it be sad that you boobs were not what your piers wanted them to be. Get out and jog if it makes you happy!

Boneman, I'm not religious.

I agree with what others have said. You could gain some weight, and women need a bit of fat (not a lot, mind) it is what helps us to bear healthy babies. I am 5'6.5" and about 160-163 I am almost 27 and I wear barely an A cup. I don't gain weight in my chest area and I have nursed two children. In high school when they were B's my shoulder blades were STILL bigger than my breasts. I am very disappointed in the way my boobs look, but they were functional and my husband doesn't complain. I would LOVE to be at least a C cup, but unless I get plastic surgery (and that ain't ever happening) I won't. I have come to accept that they served their purposes and now they are just there. Padded bras do wonders for me though, I love them and they help me feel better about myself. If you are really that distraught over them, get a couple of nice padded bras with great lift.

Of course, I didn't mean to offend anyone.  What i should have clarified is that my breasts are the only part of me that I considered feminine...so without them, I feel boyish.  There are plenty of women with smaller breasts than me who look feminine because they have nicer faces/butts etc.  But the only part of my looks that I liked was my breasts, so that's why I'm disappointed.

Original Post by moarpotatochipsnao:

Of course, I didn't mean to offend anyone.  What i should have clarified is that my breasts are the only part of me that I considered feminine...so without them, I feel boyish.  There are plenty of women with smaller breasts than me who look feminine because they have nicer faces/butts etc.  But the only part of my looks that I liked was my breasts, so that's why I'm disappointed.

Are you kidding? You're stunning! Go ahead and gain some weight, that will make you look more feminine in the boobs/curves department... but you do look perfectly feminine as you are :) 

feeding your childish issues,

There is a body of evidence that says woman are fed by the idea that creating a body that looks like a young sexy thing is the only way they can be attractive. Please consider that attraction is not how you look but the special kind of pheromones you are producing and it is the same the other way around. When you find someone that effects your pheromone receptors the same as theirs are effected all the things that were diminishing your self esteem will disappear.

it's that physical partnering that is the master blue print of humans. all the domesticating and improvements that your gender has been doing in the last 100 years can not catch up to the 1,000,000 years of the of hunter/gatherer genes, that's why woman have more bad knees then men. They were not meant to be hunters. 

The domestic female has know idea how to keep a 'Hunter' because she doesn't want to be the gather any longer, i understand but you can't evolve faster then the historical timeline. Think about it !!

Boneman.

I went from 165lbs to 106lbs, and my breasts went from a 34B to a... well, 30A's are too big. I just bought and XXS athletic bra from Aerie that fit though. So yeah, I have no boobs either, which is dumb because I'm  super pear-shaped. A 29-22-35 now. The top half of my body looks like a 10 year old boy, and the bottom half is curvy and full like Marilyn Monroe; my W to H ratio is even comparable at 0.62. I think I look deformed and disfigured. Blegh.

I don't plan on gaining any of the weight back I lost, as my face was so gross-looking since I have small facial features, plus I have more energy now. I don't want to lose that. Since implants aren't an option, I'm just going to have to accept these stupid boobs. At least my boyfriend likes them. :/

 

troubador127,

I must complement you on your acceptance of your body. before i lost all my weight, 220lbs 43 years ago, my mother gave me a tip from her long struggle for weight control by using vitamin-E and a mink oil mixture you can rejuvenate the elasticity of our skin along with that rejuvenation is the narrowing of any stretch marks that occurred in your skin. the bottom line is i believe your bosoms will have less sagging and of course the stretch marks will also lesson. both these are benefits to gaining an acceptable image of the naturalization of your body.

What a wonderful thing that your partner accepts your new you. it could imply that both your pheromone pathways are compatible that's hard to have. it sound like you have had a great success.

Boneman, stay happy.

PS the stretch marks don't lesson they just become very narrow in width, like plastic surgery, and eventually disappear should the skin not be abused again. there is more to it....

Original Post by troubador127:

I went from 165lbs to 106lbs, and my breasts went from a 34B to a... well, 30A's are too big. I just bought and XXS athletic bra from Aerie that fit though. So yeah, I have no boobs either, which is dumb because I'm  super pear-shaped. A 29-22-35 now. The top half of my body looks like a 10 year old boy, and the bottom half is curvy and full like Marilyn Monroe; my W to H ratio is even comparable at 0.62. I think I look deformed and disfigured. Blegh.

I don't plan on gaining any of the weight back I lost, as my face was so gross-looking since I have small facial features, plus I have more energy now. I don't want to lose that. Since implants aren't an option, I'm just going to have to accept these stupid boobs. At least my boyfriend likes them. :/

 

It is likely that you have lost your boobs because you are now underweight.

Your BMI is 18, and your aim to get to 99lbs would put you into the anorexic category with a BMI of just 17.  I know you don't want to gain, but your face looks so very, VERY thin now, I really would rethink your aim to lose any more weight.

Also, if you think you are 'deformed and disfigured' I would suggest some therapy/counselling as this sounds like body dismorphic disorder. There are people out there with facial scars, missing limbs etc. You do not classify as deformed or disfigured.