Weight Gain
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I have tried my damned hardest to gain weight the last few days. I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow morning (about 7 hours from now) and after I had eaten a good amount of calories for the day, I went to weigh in to see what the doctor will see tomorrow. I wound up losing 3 pounds.

What am I doing wrong?! I'm scared they will make me stop working, or go to the hospital, or something like that. I don't want any of that. Part of me was happy to lose the weight but the part of me that knows I need to gain is freaking out.

I need to gain weight FAST for the appointment. I don't want to be told I'm a massive failure and can't do anything right! I HATE myself for all of this and I want it to stop. I feel like I'm going to be sick, I can't breathe, I can't sleep and I don't know what to do.

PLEASE HELP!!!

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Original Post by caligulove:

I have tried my damned hardest to gain weight the last few days. I have a doctor's appointment tomorrow morning (about 7 hours from now) and after I had eaten a good amount of calories for the day, I went to weigh in to see what the doctor will see tomorrow. I wound up losing 3 pounds.

What am I doing wrong?! I'm scared they will make me stop working, or go to the hospital, or something like that. I don't want any of that. Part of me was happy to lose the weight but the part of me that knows I need to gain is freaking out.

I need to gain weight FAST for the appointment. I don't want to be told I'm a massive failure and can't do anything right! I HATE myself for all of this and I want it to stop. I feel like I'm going to be sick, I can't breathe, I can't sleep and I don't know what to do.

PLEASE HELP!!!


How much are you eating? Cals?

Salty carbs and water.

- stop if you get tingling, heart arrythmias, pain or faintness.

Original Post by caligulove: Part of me was happy to lose the weight but the part of me that knows I need to gain is freaking out.

So you want to lie to the people who are trying to help you, instead of following their advice and doing what you needed to do to gain weight since your last appointment.

Stop and think. Don't panic and look to fake weight gain now, this is your ED talking. Clearly you need more help. Whatever was causing you to under eat before has not gone away. Faking progress towards recovery is not the answer. Go as you are and get the help you need.

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Original Post by foxriver:

Stop and think. Don't panic and look to fake weight gain now, this is your ED talking. Clearly you need more help. Whatever was causing you to under eat before has not gone away. Faking progress towards recovery is not the answer. Go as you are and get the help you need.

Agreed.

If you are still losing weight, then your doctors need to see that and help you fix it. Faking weight gain isn't going to get you healthier.

Original Post by foxriver:

Original Post by caligulove: Part of me was happy to lose the weight but the part of me that knows I need to gain is freaking out.

So you want to lie to the people who are trying to help you, instead of following their advice and doing what you needed to do to gain weight since your last appointment.

Stop and think. Don't panic and look to fake weight gain now, this is your ED talking. Clearly you need more help. Whatever was causing you to under eat before has not gone away. Faking progress towards recovery is not the answer. Go as you are and get the help you need.

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yeah, this.

also, if you actually HAVE been eating a suitable amount of calories for weight gain and have been losing on this, then obviously this means that that's not enough FOR YOU, and that's something the doctor needs to know too!  if you somehow found a way to fake weight gain, rolled up at the doctor's and said "okay, right, i've been eating xx cals and i've gained xx lbs", and they said "okay, great, carry on as you are!" and you ended up losing MORE, how would that have possibly helped?  you need to be honest to the doctor or they're not going to be able to do anything for you.

(i'd also be interested to know what a "good amount" of calories for the day is... "more than i was eating before" is not the same as "enough to actually gain")

Original Post by runtolive_: If you actually HAVE been eating a suitable amount of calories for weight gain and have been losing on this, then obviously this means that that's not enough FOR YOU, and that's something the doctor needs to know too! 

you need to be honest to the doctor or they're not going to be able to do anything for you.

(i'd also be interested to know what a "good amount" of calories for the day is... "more than i was eating before" is not the same as "enough to actually gain")

Very good points!

One of your last posts had you eating around 1600 calories-thats why you are losing weight-most people would on that amount. Eat 2500-3000, and just remember that its YOUR health at risk.

I've gone the route of faking weight gain, and yea, it works, but you just get yourself into a bigger and bigger whole with the more you water-load.

Thanks everyone.

I just got back from the doctors and am going to be using THIER meal plans in order to gain. Since I'm over 18, I chose not to do any in-treatment stuff but I'm still unable to go back to work until I gain something like 30 lbs.

So, not necessarily FAST RIGHT NOW weight gain, but if the meal plans are something to the tune of 3,500 calories a day, I should be ok to go back to work in about a month or so.'

Oy vey.

hey there, my situation is similar to yours in that ive been made to stop working just now as BMI 14 and they want me to gain to atleast BMI of 16 before i can return....that means i need to put on about 11lbs.

i need to gain it fast in that im sooo desperate to work again...not just for the money but for my mental health...to feel like im contributing to society/to see my work friends/to be active and preoccupied/AND TO BE ABLE TO STAY AWAY FROM THE GYM!! But, ive started to "binge it back on" which i never intended to do. i dont want to do it that way...but sometimes i get confused and think well a gain is a gain so maybe i should just carry on eating like 4000+ calories a day anyway to get the weight back on (anyway thats a whole other post of mine lol).

its actually very common when u start to eat alot more after long periods of restriction, to lose weight the first week or so. That has happened to me twice. Both times i started eating about 2500-3000 cals per day plus calogen and ensure drinks (i was an IP), yet the first 2 weekly weigh ins i LOST 3lbs each time. i couldnt believe it. They say its coz our organs are desperate for the calories/nutrition to repair their tissues, and even our hair n nails etc.. which doesnt leave a whole lot extra left to lay down bodyfat/build muscle and so on.

I definitely would not go down the fake weight gain route. I also did this in hospital...drinking about 3 litres of fluid and wearing extra clothes under my pjs and even putting cutlery in my pockets....god, so tragic i know! Anyway i deeply regret it coz the last few weigh ins that i started to do this; my weight was all over the place as u would expect...and on the day i decided to self discharge...i didnt really know for sure what my true weight gain was in that 4 month period.

i totally understand how you feel about secretly being pleased you have lost 3lbs, but at the same time you are scared too. I am in my second relapse right now and only last week i lost 3lbs when they weighed me (i am currently OP), and i was happy...yet sad because it meant i was further away from my goal weight for return to work. Our minds are torn right now and if you are like me..you chop n change your mind a million times a day about whether you want to truly gain/and if so how much u want to gain/how much cals and what types you should eat, etc etc.... This is normal (and meantally exhausting)  (Appologies if this is not the case for you).

ALl the above advice in the other posts are spot on...tell the complete truth or you will dig yourself a bigger hole. Its great you are following THEIR meal plans, and im sure it wont be long until you are slowly starting to gain. But alot of adjustments will need to be made along the way so continue your food diarys and appointment times....like i am! we will get there : )

i just keep reminding myself that when i see ive lost weight..yeh i feel happy..but then what? i go on and lose more! and then a week later i weigh less again. and then what? i lose more...and more...until what?? because its NEVER ENOUGH! well until we either get sectioned (which is what happened to me last time), or we die!

Good luck in your recovery, you sound really determined!

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