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recovering from anorexia.. having trouble eating enough:/


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Hi! i'm 14 and 5'1 and working on recovery right now and i'm having a lot of trouble.. i'm finding that i'm skimping on things or not eating the fulll amount and i'm reallly scared i'm going to lose weight again but it's hard! i say i'll take the fulll amount and then when i go to do it i can't :/ and also i keep comparing myself to my sister and today my sister went for a run which i haven't done in a while because i'm recovering and it was so hard so see her go for that run and then not eat as much as me later :'( seeing other people eat less is really hard. this is making me really upset and i really need some support for completing my meals, not calorie counting, and dealing with other people not eating as much as me.

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I am right there with you. However I'm 20 and 5'5. I keep telling myself I will eat the full amount but I well my ed voice talks myself out of it and I skimp on things. I also hate that I'm eating all the time I feel like and my sister barely does however when she does her meals consist of wayyy more calories/fat/etc than what I'm putting in my mouth but I feel like I'm still eating more when I'm clearly not. I'm also trying not to count calories but it's hard when I have now come to the point where I can remember certain calories/fat/sodium/fiber in certain foods :/. Hopefully we both can get pass this and beat this! goodluck to you :)

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I am right there with you. However I'm 20 and 5'5. I keep telling myself I will eat the full amount but I well my ed voice talks myself out of it and I skimp on things. I also hate that I'm eating all the time I feel like and my sister barely does however when she does her meals consist of wayyy more calories/fat/etc than what I'm putting in my mouth but I feel like I'm still eating more when I'm clearly not. I'm also trying not to count calories but it's hard when I have now come to the point where I can remember certain calories/fat/sodium/fiber in certain foods :/. Hopefully we both can get pass this and beat this! goodluck to you :)

That's exactly what happens to me! I keep skimping on things and it's really hard to stop! and my sisters meals consist of a lot more fat and calories then mine and she snacks a lot throughout the day on random food and I don't so I know she might be eating more but I still feel like I am :/ and it's so annoying because I know the calorie and fat content of most foods now too so that makes it really hard not to calorie count:/ Goodluck to you too! (:

 

Are you in treatment? Can you be? Regardless of what your sister does you have to find it within to get healthy. This is about your life and health. If you are concerned about your sister then tell her but you still have to get well. Restricting or being anorexic etc is not something you should want to do or be. Try to focus on the negatives of this and not glorify things when it gets hard.

In recovery it is hard. There will never be an easy time. Do you think others who have anorexia think it is easy to eat high calorie meal plan,gain weight,and stop activity. No it is hard as hell but they know they have to do it if they want to recover and have a better life.

You only hurt yourself when you play games by skimping etc. The not counting calories is an excuse many here use to engage in ed behaviors and not eat enough. I keep saying if you don't want to count then use an exchange meal plan.

I encourage you to look at the what I ate thread. What is your weight? If you are under you need at least 3000 being a teen. I encourage you to get treatment and be under a gp for refeeding issues.

I don't know about summerstarxx, but I see a nutritionist once every 2 weeks and a counselor once a week. My nutritionist started me off early June with eating from anywhere between 1400-2400 calories to start off with and see what happens by focusing more on getting the right food groups in and enough of them. I think I have been reaching atleast 1400 on most days, but I'm stuck in a rut on getting more into me. I get weighed again today by my nutritionist so I'm hoping the scale has gone up a little!

But talking to a counselor has really helped me get a lott of frustration out and she has gave me ideas on how to relax when it comes time to trying more calorie dense foods or eating just a little bit more when I'm not too hungry. I think my main concern is I feel like once I start gaining I won't stop. My goal weight is 125-130lbs where I was last August, and my last weigh in was 101.5lbs. I'm also just confused on how long it should take me to weigh what I should in a time period without going too fast or too slow. Summerstarxx, if you are not talking to someone yet for help I suggest you do, it can help!

I think all of us have trouble MAKING ourselves eat the required amount.  Speaking of, I'm going to go get some food.

abbi333: my nutritionist doesn't want me counting calories so i'm on an exchange plan but the fact that i actually don't know how many calories i'm roughly supposed to be eating it makes eating the full amounts even harder in my opinion :/ and i honestly don't know how much i weigh the won't tell me and i've been forcing myself not to step on the scale because i don't want to know. I know i have to stop doing this your right, i'm only hurting myself but it's just so hard when i'm not doing physical activity

 

krystalambro: i see a nutritionist every other week and i talk to a counselor once a week. my nutritionist put me on an exchange plan so i don't know how many calories i'm supposed to be eating and it's really freaking me out and making it hard to take the full amount:/ 

talking to a counselor is helpful because they understand what your going through! and i'm trying to get to a weight of 97 or 98 because thats where i was last year, good luck at your weigh in!!

Yeah my nutritionist doesn't want me to focus too much on calories as getting the right food groups in, but she also wants me to aim for 2000 calories now...haven;t reached that in probably a year right before my ed started to happen. But it's hard for me to not count too, especially when I have now memorized so many calories/fat content/sodium/etc of foods. And she doesn't want me to have much foods with fiber so I won't feel full, which I'm scared of trying because then I'm going to feel like I will always be stuffing my face.

And my weigh in was only a pound and a half more, then last time but atleast it's going up rather than down!

Krystal your nutritionist giving you a meal plan with the range of 1400-2400 is madness. 1000 calories is a huge amount to vary. Then to even suggest 1400 is ok for someone to gain weight and recover is also a huge red flag of a nutritionist that is not on the page of ed recovery.

Summer if you are on exchange meal plan then try to just focus on choosing foods to meet that.  I understand how hard it is but it will get easier in time. Maybe you can post your exchange meal plan on the what eat post or on here and then what you have and people can suggest

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