Anorexic?! Seriously?

Chinese New Year's starts in the middle of this week (it's Feb 7th, yay!) so our entire family got together to have a dinner to celebrate. My cousin was complaining that she didn't get enough rice, so I offered to give her some of mine. I like rice, but I figure if I'm going to have calories, I might as well have something I enjoy - plenty of dishes abound. When I was done scooping the rice out of my bowl into hers, I still had a good 1/2 cup left in mine.

My nephew, cheeky ****, turns to me and comments that I'm anorexic. I already had loaded up with all sorts of crap in my bowl by this time too, duck, pork, shiitake mushrooms, oysters, etc. I eat with my nephew probably biweekly, so I know he notices that lately I've been cutting out a lot of calories - but he can't compare our portions to each other! He's like 6 feet tall and in the midst of puberty. He can eat two giant steaks without thinking too much about it. I simply carve out the 'card stack' size and eat that instead. That's not anorexia - that's the real portion size you're supposed to eat !

I'm insulted! Just because I lost weight, doesn't mean I'm anorexic. I'm just trying to be healthy. I no longer want to eat 2 cups of white rice in one meal. And for the record, I'm not anorexic. I've never starved myself, mostly because I love food too much. I'm still 120 lbs, BMI of 23.6! At 123 lbs, my BMI is 24 - overweight!

Blegh. Anyone been called anorexic before, when you're really not?! Like...really really not. Bizarre.

 

ah don't worry about it too much. "Anorexic" is such a broad term now for some reason. I feel bad for thinner people when they're automatically assumed as that  :( It's just like automatically called a pig because you're fat.. even if you really don't eat that much lol :P

All that matters is that YOU know you're doing the right thing!

Yeah, I'm not going to go over to his place and yell at him (nor did I over dinner), but I was just kind of taken aback. When I was heavier, they all thought it was funny that I was overweight. Make-a-comment-every-time-yo u-see-her-funny. And now that I just kind of tipped over into the normal BMI range, I'm anorexic?

There's just no pleasing some people.

I hear ya, definitely.

This is weird, but when I get that I take it as as kind of a complement. It means they think I'm thin, even if they have no idea what they're talking about.

A BMI of 24 is not overweight.

Anywhere between 18 and 25 is considered healthy.

On the other side don't worry too much about it, since your already in a healthy weight range people may become worried as they cant understand why you'd want to drop a few, if it becomes to much just try to explain your trying to eat in a healthier way.

My brother, mom, aunt and roomate all call me anorexic.  I'm not...so I just tune them out.  I love them all, but I can't listen to them.  The one thing that does bother me is that my aunt was anorexic, for over 15 years.  So much so that she could not have children.  She had compromised her system that bad, so she knows what anorexia is...she also knows I'm not, yet continues to tell me I am.

Original Post by sauvignon:

Yeah, I'm not going to go over to his place and yell at him (nor did I over dinner), but I was just kind of taken aback. When I was heavier, they all thought it was funny that I was overweight. Make-a-comment-every-time-yo u-see-her-funny. And now that I just kind of tipped over into the normal BMI range, I'm anorexic?

There's just no pleasing some people.

no there really isn't! i know exactly how you feel, when i was heavy it was all good to poke at me and every meal was a comment about eating less... then i dropped weight and got really skinny and suddenly i was anorexic and needed to eat more! there really is no middle ground and no pleasing people. it's very frustrating but i guess the most important thing is to *try* not to let it get to you.  it probably would help to talk to this person in particular... let him know that anorexia is a serious issue and not something you have, and how his comments make you feel.  i have a family member who's always been skinnier than i was even at my skinniest and she was held up like a supermodel.  yet i got close to how she got and i was anorexic.  it makes no sense.  good luck with what your doing.  if it really bothers you talk to them. 

Original Post by curalium_lacrimo:

A BMI of 24 is not overweight.

Anywhere between 18 and 25 is considered healthy.

Ah. I was misled by the BMI tool on CC. It said that 24 is considered "slightly overweight"...

Original Post by sauvignon:

Original Post by curalium_lacrimo:

A BMI of 24 is not overweight.

Anywhere between 18 and 25 is considered healthy.

Ah. I was misled by the BMI tool on CC. It said that 24 is considered "slightly overweight"...

 

Some sources even say 18-26 is healthy. I think it depends how old you are. Younger may correlate with lower numbers. I know at 30, I am "normal" in terms of BMI at 25. If you are getting enough calories and nutrients, you know you are not anorexic. Sorry for that frustration in your life.

I too am being called anorexic.....by my kids my hubby just says i am starving to death. I eat alot and they just dont understand noone is here all day so they dont see what i eat. I was also told to eat smaller amounts as the day gets later so they only see me eat my smaller meals  I have lost alot of weight and I did it by eating 4 meals a day and on the diet i was on i didn't count calories so as long as i eat enough i know ill lose the rest. So I know how you feel that he looks at you that way. It is very hurtful and I try to just ignore it but I have made comments too. Like my son is 5 '8 and 120 lbs doesn't eat near what he should so i just tell him it takes one to know one...(he hates that) I know he is not just he is too lazy to eat and his meds dont allow him to get hungry so he knows how i feel now and doesnt do it. Take care and enjoy life (and food) Im with you Id rather the good food in life than the rice.....

My brother has called me "Fatboy" (I'm a girl) since I was probably born.  The overweight jokes have been a part of my entire life... now that I am finally doing something about it, they tell me that I'm not eating enough and I'm not healthy.  I know I am healthy so forget them!  I haven't got called anorexic yet, but if that situation does arise, I will just respond with "Thanks, at least I'm not a fatass."

MOST ANNOYING THING IN THE UNIVERSE!

and it bothers me a lot. I can't even tell most of my friends that I want to lose a few pounds, cause it might just start.

I've gotten that my whole life, and I used to* eat over 4,000 cals a day! : / 

I totally know how you feel!

My BMI is 22, I eat healthy and am watching my weight so I don't become overweight again, and I get called anorexic a couple times a month.

I think a lot of it comes from jealousy - instead of watching what they eat, they try to make others feel bad about being responsible. Granted, anorexia is a real problem that does exist, but that word does get thrown around a lot. Arrrgggh!

I was visiting my friend at her house the other day, and her mum was drunk watching T.V. Anyway, she turned to me and said "You've lost a lot of weight recently... too much", followed by "Are you anorexic?"

I mean I have lost a fair bit of weight, from 145lbs in September, to about 119lbs now. But I'm only 5'3 so I don't think that really I look twiggy.

My friend has also started a diet, and she keeps moaning at me because she thinks I should stop losing weight. I don't know, it just gets a little frustrating. 

im yet another person who knows exactly what you mean! my uncle tries to force-feed me chocolate and cookies because he thinks im anorexic, and comments on it EVERY time i see him. then he asks me if i want a coke, and i say no because ive never liked coke in my entire life, and then he says "oh really, since when dont you like coke? well, what if i offered DIET coke, then you'd accept, wouldnt you?" arrg it annoys me so much. well anyway, we just have to ignore it i guess. nothing we can do!