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Does anyone else feel that they try to control their weight to a borderline eating disorder level?


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I know that I don't technically have an eating disorder, but I am very controlling of my portions and exercise to a level that I wonder whether it's healthy.  I am 5'9 with an athletic build and I weigh about 139 and know that I do not need to lose weight.  I would go to 135, but know that lower than that is not a healthy weight for me.  I exercise on a consistant basis and eat multiple small portions during the day.  I know these are good habits, but I feel like I am a little obsessed and people (and my kids) will sometimes make comments.  

I am thinking that I feel like I can control this part of my life when the rest is out of control (see almost an eating disorder).  I don't feel like I will ever go to the extreme, but I don't necessarily like coming across and rigid as I do and I'm not sure its mentally healthy when I don't really have to worry gaining more than 5 pounds or so.  Does anyone else have this issue?

Oh, and I'm 40...maybe that makes a difference

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Based on comments said to me while preparing or eating my meals, some people see me as rigid and controlling. I've noticed they are either unhealthy and/or care about me and/or don't understand the science of food. #1 - Consider the source.

I probably do have a control issue of some kind but it's not hurting anyone. I'm the healthiest I've ever been and really happy. #2 - Be true to yourself.

I was 40 when I decided to make a change in the way I ate. Maybe it does make a difference..

How long have you been at your target weight?  If it's only been a few months you may just be in the "focused and determined" stage, which is a mode many people have to get in and stay in to lose weight (hi, I'm one). 

You can try letting go a little bit at a time, eyeball things instead of weighing and measuring, maybe take one day a week and aim to eat healthy but without counting calories at all.   Move at a pace you're comfortable with, and always remember that if you don't take your eye of the scale (or decide that getting fat again is just fine) you'll NEVER get more than a few pounds heavier than you want to.

jp5074139-thanks for the advice.  I have been at a thin weight for a few years now and really never struggled to lose before that (just lazy) and I think I just keep pushing it...not because I need to make sure I don't gain, but because I like the control and pushing my fitness level.  This is good to a point, just worried that I am going to far.

Original Post by suzyannie:

Based on comments said to me while preparing or eating my meals, some people see me as rigid and controlling. I've noticed they are either unhealthy and/or care about me and/or don't understand the science of food. #1 - Consider the source.

I probably do have a control issue of some kind but it's not hurting anyone. I'm the healthiest I've ever been and really happy. #2 - Be true to yourself.

I was 40 when I decided to make a change in the way I ate. Maybe it does make a difference..

Oh, I definitely consider the source:)  And I definately think 40 is a turning point. 

 

Original Post by rudy2clara:

jp5074139-thanks for the advice.  I have been at a thin weight for a few years now and really never struggled to lose before that (just lazy) and I think I just keep pushing it...not because I need to make sure I don't gain, but because I like the control and pushing my fitness level.  This is good to a point, just worried that I am going to far.

Standard answer then, though keep in mind I'm an engineer and not any other kind of expert:

If it starts to interfere with your life, or is causing you or anyone else any harm, or is making you or others unhappy, then you've gone too far.  Up until then it might be weird, but not "disorder" level of weird.

My kids rag on me all the time about my eating and exercise habits.  Taking ANOTHER walk?  Didn't you just walk this morning?!  Hey, I've got a 2-for-1 coupon for ice-cream cones... no dad I know YOU don't want one.  Meh.  I'm happy and healthy and comfortable with what I'm doing (even if I could stand to take my own advice and let go a little more).   So I'm good.

To answer your first question-yes, I too feel like I'm controlling my weight too much. I used to have eating disorders when I was 14ish till about 16, then on and off for the last year or so. I'm 18 now, 5"10 and 147lbs ish. I know I'm less than average for my height, but losing weight is so addictive. I know I have a problem with it and can't relax into a meal, but have just accepted that now and let myself yo-yo quite dramatically between the 130s and 140s

 

Just so...yeah, I know where you're coming from x

Controlling my diet and being rigid...yes.

On the verge of an eating disorder...no.

For some people they can let lose after they've lost the weight and not gain it back. For others, it's not that simple and it's an everyday struggle.

Don't listen to other people. People are stupid.

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