How many calories is considered a lot for one serving?

Is 200 calories, for example, considered a lot for a serving of some type of grain? (like cereal or pasta or something) see I'm trying to go by the food pyramid rather than counting calories but I understand that that obviously doesn't mean I can have a McDonald's milkshake to fulfill my dairy servings for the day. I became too obsessed with counting calories, to the point that now I have to "re-teach" myself how to eat. Since I became so obsessed with numbers, I have also learned I need to stop being so fixated on a certain number for when I weigh myself on the scale. Now I'm trying to learn how to eat healthy to have a good body (not exactly focussing on weight) That's why I'm going by the food pyramid. My plan is to have about 4 servings of grains a day, about 5-6 servings of protein, 3 servings of veggies, 2 servings of fruits, 2-3 servings of dairy, and about 2 tbsps of oils. I am going to try having mos of y grains be as whole as possible. I'll also be going a lot by the glycemic index and try eating as least processed foods as possible. I won't have too many starchy veggies. My fruit will be fresh, rather than dried or canned. My dairy will be low fat. If I eat like that and exercise moderately, should I maintain a healthy weight and body? Bc if someone eats healthily and in appropriate moderation, they shouldn't be "fat" right?

Most dairy fats are pretty good actually (doesn't mean you shouldn't moderate, but I don't believe something is better because it's low fat, we need fats too!). I know you sound like you've done a fair bit of thinking on this, but the food pyramid is outdated. It has great intentions, but it's not everything it should be and servings are ill defined.

Instead, if you want something pictorial to go by, try Myplate.

http://www.choosemyplate.gov/images/MyPlateIm ages/JPG/myplate_green.jpg

 

Keep in mind, that we all are different. I tend to avoid grains a lot, and it helps me, but others cannot do this. I get plenty of carbs to fuel my body through fruits and veggies, and I up my protein. It takes a while to figure out what works for you, so read a lot, experiment, and take your time.

Right I know, in fact the portions and serving sizes I wrote and stuff were based off of that website you gave me:) i just want to make sure that basically, if I ate this balanced diet, I shouldn't become overweight right? Does the plan I wrote sound okay?