Curvey women or stick thin women?

I put this in my journal, but I just wanted other people's opinion.

People say men want something to grab hold of, they like a woman with curves.  So why is it that every man I know goes on about women who are stick thin?  Every thin, female customer they see, they lust over.  Never over a woman with "curves"  And what's worse is they talk to me about them.  It's "Wow she's fit isn't she? wow look at her behind"  It does my head in.

When I was thinner (too thin really for me) I got loads of attention from the opposite sex and now I get none (none that I notice anyway)

So I think that maybe people only say men like women with "curves" because they think it will help stop women getting eating disorders.  I don't think they really mean it.

Thin is now a status-symbol.  Higher-class means personal trainers, psychotherapy and higher-quality food, as well as dining in restaurants with notoriously small potions.  Sad.

I used to be shallow,  admit, concieted, all the above. The reason women bash men. LOL. I always had the perfect woman in my mind, 5'2" 5'3" size 0-2, i would never give a woman a chance any size above that. Today I'm Married to a very loving woman who opened my eyes. She is 5'7" 160 lbs I love her to death. I really dont know why before hand i wouldnt date taller women, i think tall women intimidated me. LOL Im not really tall myself ya know lol.

Men like thin, tall women, sad but true. I'm 1,70 m (5'7'') and 63 kgs (139 lb), muscular, I've been a swimmer most of my life, my weight is normal but the ideal appears to be 50 kgs (110 lb) at 1,70 m and that is literally skin and bone, S size if not less.

Yeah I agree that everyone has there own preference on what they like in the other sex, they like skinny, curvy, fat whateva,

 yeah everyone thinks that most guys like really skinny girls with big boobs and butts and whatever. Those guys are probably really shallow(have you seen the movie "Shallow Hal") you dont want to be with someone like that anyways.

 I have a friend that is a lil overweight and she is has a normal look and her fiance is really good looking and has a nice body and first I was thinking"wow how did she get him" but everyone has there own preference in the other sex. I see it all the time. Like a really pretty girl with an ok looking guy that looks kind of nerdy or chubby or whatever,  and vice versa. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

 Im 5'11 and weight 135 and a lean athlectic build and I used to model. People are always coming up to me saying oh my gosh your so pretty and tall dont you have a boyfriend, and Im like nope. For real I dont hardley get any guys to come up to me. I used to be kind of insecure cause I was so tall and thin. But now Im more confident and I like the way I look. I dunno guys have there own prefernce so i know for a fact all the pretty skinny model looking girls dont get all the guys.  

 I also believe in staying healthy and taking care of yourself and not letting yourself get overweightor underweight were its unhealthy for you. Just enjoy life and your body the way you are. Too much thinking about the way you look or how much you weigh(im so fat/skinny blabla) takes out too much stress and time. Your life will pass you by.   Enjoy it and be around people that lift you up and enjoy being in your company.

u're right about that...when i'm slimmer i get checked out so much more (but that probably has to do with my confidence increasing perhaps? when u feel sexier it shows)...when i'm 140lbs (still a normal weight for my 5'5 height)...i stll do get checked out BUT my boobs and butt get more attention than i do! and men are going after stick thin women only coz women themselves lack confidence in their curvy figures...i noticed this in myself as well...when i'm 'curvier' after a 10 pound weight gain for instance, i feel more self concious and dress myself in dark colors in attempt to draw attention away from my bod. that sends off negative signals to any guy...so what happens then? he goes after the confident skinny chick who knows she has the coveted build lusted after as depicted in the media. it's all about confidence and the image you 'sell' to others...a sexy welldressed curvy woman will attract more guys than a withdrawn selfconcious skinny girl. blame it on the media!! i don't know any guy who won't turn down a nice round booty or a curvy bustline! that's not to say women should be overweight, they should be at a normal healthy weight. all i can say is, thank god for celebs like beyonce. u don't see many guys salivating over kate moss or model types when there are women like beyonce or J Lo to salivate over.

so believe me, the guys are innocent, it starts with us women learning to love ourselves and accentuate our positive qualities. it's our job to make ourselves feel sexy before anyone else can decide whether or not we're sexy enough. 

In many Western and East Asian societies, women like the waif look.  In the West, women who can't achieve this look bitch about the ones who are successful, and in the East they take diet pills and mourn the loss of their girlish stick figures. 

Men don't usually want their women to be waifs, but they like thin women because they appear to take care of their bodies, and caring about what you look like is important.  I find that most guys dig hourglass figures, many like short women, and a rare few prefer BBWs with lots of curves.

I love curvy women I have never dated a skinny woman I have always been attracted to Phat Butts and breast. i cant stand the runway model look. its disgusting. I go more the stripper video/girl type body. but a terrible attitude and personality can erase all that, Its really the most important thing.

I'm curvy my two best mates are sticks. flat chested, pretty, but thin.

I have have had boyfriends, they haven't because they don't want one they do, boys have never gone after them. I have been stopped in the street and been told im beautiful. they haven't. I used to hate my self because i wanted to be thin like them. But i've realised now, i think i've got it better than them in terms of relationships and attention.

I didn't read what anyone else said, but are you sure you're not confusing curvy with chubby?  People (especially women's magazines and such) often talk about 'curvy' as a synonym for slightly overweight (to make us feel better?  Oh, I'm not fat, I'm curvy!), but really, you can be thin and curvy--it's all about the hip-waist-bust ratios and all that.  I don't know if the people you're talking about fit into this category or not, but it's something to think about.  You can be thin and still have a 'curvy' butt, so maybe that's what they're talking about? 

 Curvy and chubby are two different things. In order to be curvy one would have to be trim to begin with. Rolls of chub is not curves. That's just chub/fat.  I agree with Lauren.

This is like tall or short.

Its a preference not a stamped attraction

I think of curvy women as women who have boobs and hips, they curve. I curve, My friends have boyish figures, straight up straight down, You can be slim and curvy, you can also be overweight and straight up straight down. they are both attractive, in my opinion, i think my friends are gorgeous, we just attract different men, and i have been luckier in attracting this attention so far.

my girlfriend went through gastric bypass a few years ago and list over 100 pounds. she got TOO skinny there for awhile. fortunately, she still has some junk in the trunk. its important. 

Men seem to like stick thin women with big boobs and a full butt....

threads like this depress me because i'm stick-like in the sense that i simply DO NOT gain weight in my hips,butt,chest.  if i gain weight i become a thicker stick with a belly.  i have a boyish figure and yes, my ribs show and no i'm sick, or starving myself or suffering from an eating disorder.  i've never had trouble finding dates at my current weight or when i was 20 pounds heavier, despite being nerdy, insecure and at times dressed completely like a boy.  none of the girls i've been friends with have had as much trouble as guys i've known, fat, thin, short, tall ect...meanwhile tons of very nice guy friends i've had, couldn't get a number for YEARS of longing, so i really think girls have an easier time in general.  yes men tend to be more visual than women, but i honestly think women are more quick to judge/dimiss a guy then viceversa.

and i seriously think women are more judgemental of weight/body ourselves and of other women then men.  i hear WOMEN saying all the time "love everybody type" and then writing stuff like stick women are aneroxic and gross and commenting on how relative X gained weight since last time blah blah.  men in my life couldn't care less unless it's extreme weight gain/loss that really shows some life altering issues.

i'm extremely distrustful of men, but i think women can be just as hypocritical with the whole saying one thing about body image and doing the opposite.  we objective ourselves, often in a much worse way then we "percieve" men objectifying us.

meh depends what you mean by curves.. i think that a guy likes a girl in the normal weight range who has a bit of curves but not so much overweight girls, which did you mean? sorry :( x x x

I agree with the comments that go along the lines that curvey does not mean overweight.  Guys generally like "curves" not folds.

id love to be stick thin, with little or no shape, no boobs, just bones, i hate to say it but its true =( x

Wait... this is the second post I've read in less than a day having to do with HIGHLY inappropriate comments being made in the workplace.  AGAIN, the only reason the comments the guys made would make me feel uncomfortable would be because it's reeeeeally reeeeeeeally inappropriate to comment on a customer like that - particularly to a female employee.

I hate to be a killjoy, but geez.  This is how imbalances of power happen in the workplace.  What happens off the clock is one thing, but at work?

i was actually surprised, but i noticed this as an obvious fact. i got LOADS more attention from guys at 130(ish, possibly a little more) than i did at 105-110. i was expecting the opposite, of course, but actually rarely got any attention at my lowest weights. I am only at 112-115 now, but am already noticing im starting to get looks again. could it be all in my head? maybe, but i really don't think so. i live on a busy street in a city, and "before" i would get verbal comments, constantly. so i couldnt miss them. since losing the weight i've heard zero.