People say men want something to grab hold of, they like a woman with curves. So why is it that every man I know goes on about women who are stick thin? Every thin, female customer they see, they lust over. Never over a woman with "curves" And what's worse is they talk to me about them. It's "Wow she's fit isn't she? wow look at her behind" It does my head in.
When I was thinner (too thin really for me) I got loads of attention from the opposite sex and now I get none (none that I notice anyway)
So I think that maybe people only say men like women with "curves" because they think it will help stop women getting eating disorders. I don't think they really mean it.
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yeah everyone thinks that most guys like really skinny girls with big boobs and butts and whatever. Those guys are probably really shallow(have you seen the movie "Shallow Hal") you dont want to be with someone like that anyways.
I have a friend that is a lil overweight and she is has a normal look and her fiance is really good looking and has a nice body and first I was thinking"wow how did she get him" but everyone has there own preference in the other sex. I see it all the time. Like a really pretty girl with an ok looking guy that looks kind of nerdy or chubby or whatever, and vice versa. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Im 5'11 and weight 135 and a lean athlectic build and I used to model. People are always coming up to me saying oh my gosh your so pretty and tall dont you have a boyfriend, and Im like nope. For real I dont hardley get any guys to come up to me. I used to be kind of insecure cause I was so tall and thin. But now Im more confident and I like the way I look. I dunno guys have there own prefernce so i know for a fact all the pretty skinny model looking girls dont get all the guys.
I also believe in staying healthy and taking care of yourself and not letting yourself get overweightor underweight were its unhealthy for you. Just enjoy life and your body the way you are. Too much thinking about the way you look or how much you weigh(im so fat/skinny blabla) takes out too much stress and time. Your life will pass you by. Enjoy it and be around people that lift you up and enjoy being in your company.
so believe me, the guys are innocent, it starts with us women learning to love ourselves and accentuate our positive qualities. it's our job to make ourselves feel sexy before anyone else can decide whether or not we're sexy enough.
Men don't usually want their women to be waifs, but they like thin women because they appear to take care of their bodies, and caring about what you look like is important. I find that most guys dig hourglass figures, many like short women, and a rare few prefer BBWs with lots of curves.
I have have had boyfriends, they haven't because they don't want one they do, boys have never gone after them. I have been stopped in the street and been told im beautiful. they haven't. I used to hate my self because i wanted to be thin like them. But i've realised now, i think i've got it better than them in terms of relationships and attention.
I didn't read what anyone else said, but are you sure you're not confusing curvy with chubby? People (especially women's magazines and such) often talk about 'curvy' as a synonym for slightly overweight (to make us feel better? Oh, I'm not fat, I'm curvy!), but really, you can be thin and curvy--it's all about the hip-waist-bust ratios and all that. I don't know if the people you're talking about fit into this category or not, but it's something to think about. You can be thin and still have a 'curvy' butt, so maybe that's what they're talking about?
This is like tall or short.
Its a preference not a stamped attraction
and i seriously think women are more judgemental of weight/body ourselves and of other women then men. i hear WOMEN saying all the time "love everybody type" and then writing stuff like stick women are aneroxic and gross and commenting on how relative X gained weight since last time blah blah. men in my life couldn't care less unless it's extreme weight gain/loss that really shows some life altering issues.
i'm extremely distrustful of men, but i think women can be just as hypocritical with the whole saying one thing about body image and doing the opposite. we objective ourselves, often in a much worse way then we "percieve" men objectifying us.
id love to be stick thin, with little or no shape, no boobs, just bones, i hate to say it but its true =( x
Wait... this is the second post I've read in less than a day having to do with HIGHLY inappropriate comments being made in the workplace. AGAIN, the only reason the comments the guys made would make me feel uncomfortable would be because it's reeeeeally reeeeeeeally inappropriate to comment on a customer like that - particularly to a female employee.
I hate to be a killjoy, but geez. This is how imbalances of power happen in the workplace. What happens off the clock is one thing, but at work?
i was actually surprised, but i noticed this as an obvious fact. i got LOADS more attention from guys at 130(ish, possibly a little more) than i did at 105-110. i was expecting the opposite, of course, but actually rarely got any attention at my lowest weights. I am only at 112-115 now, but am already noticing im starting to get looks again. could it be all in my head? maybe, but i really don't think so. i live on a busy street in a city, and "before" i would get verbal comments, constantly. so i couldnt miss them. since losing the weight i've heard zero.