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Umm, why do you want to be a player? I think you would have a better time with women if you treated them with respect.

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Dating is easier when you love yourself and your body. You don't have to be skinny for that.
yeah as a girl i can say i have a lot of guys after me but the ones i like are those with confidence and personality. guys are totally unattractive without those 2 qualities. and intelligence. but that last one is just me personally
Original Post by Peter1145:

I allaways thought my weight was holding me back and if I lost it I would finally be able to be the player I allways wanted to 

LMAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAOOOOOOOOOOO

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well just to inform you girls don't find self pity or any attempts at making us feel sorry for you attractive.   Maybe you should work on your character and the ladies will come in time

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I'll bet Peter gets a lot of action.

Peter let me peep you on some game. First off I recommend that you do not give up on weight loss because you didn't see positive results. I guarantee you those ladies did not turn you down because you were skinny and they didn't like guys who lost weight. Those ladies more than likely turned you down because it probably showed that you was trying to be a player and was not smooth about it. 

When it comes to the question of why you are not getting any play you have to be completely honest about your flaws. 

Okay so you lost some weight and congratulations. How is your conversation when you approach a woman? I hate to judge you by the way you type but honestly that is all I have to go by and if you talk like you type then I can definitely see why you got ignored. Are you the type of dude to be like "pst hey girl. whats your name. let me holla at you". Then yes ladies are going to keep walking. Any woman who does respond positively to that is a chicken head hands down.

So you thought your weight was the only thing holding you back? Maybe it was. Who knows. I mean if you were trying to talk to girls who kept their bodies up then yeah it probably held you back. However, just be real honest about your flaws and if you are willing to make some changes or is able to make those kind of changes then change them and try try again.

A man usually cannot go wrong in getting a more positive response when he approach women with respect, confidence, good conversation, and good hygiene and grooming. All four is a requirement for a woman to even respond IN MY OPINION. It wouldn't hurt to have tasteful sense of humor but you can include that in good conversation. 

Now whether you want to play women or be monogamous is not my business but you have to get the basics down first. 

Original Post by imsatindoll:

Peter let me peep you on some game. First off I recommend that you do not give up on weight loss because you didn't see positive results. I guarantee you those ladies did not turn you down because you were skinny and they didn't like guys who lost weight. Those ladies more than likely turned you down because it probably showed that you was trying to be a player and was not smooth about it. 

When it comes to the question of why you are not getting any play you have to be completely honest about your flaws. 

Okay so you lost some weight and congratulations. How is your conversation when you approach a woman? I hate to judge you by the way you type but honestly that is all I have to go by and if you talk like you type then I can definitely see why you got ignored. Are you the type of dude to be like "pst hey girl. whats your name. let me holla at you". Then yes ladies are going to keep walking. Any woman who does respond positively to that is a chicken head hands down.

So you thought your weight was the only thing holding you back? Maybe it was. Who knows. I mean if you were trying to talk to girls who kept their bodies up then yeah it probably held you back. However, just be real honest about your flaws and if you are willing to make some changes or is able to make those kind of changes then change them and try try again.

A man usually cannot go wrong in getting a more positive response when he approach women with respect, confidence, good conversation, and good hygiene and grooming. All four is a requirement for a woman to even respond IN MY OPINION. It wouldn't hurt to have tasteful sense of humor but you can include that in good conversation. 

Now whether you want to play women or be monogamous is not my business but you have to get the basics down first. 

I nominate for top 100 best posts ever. The use of the term "chicken heads" sealed it. Awesomeness.

 

As for the OP--dating will be easier when and if you gain a little confidence. And I'll say it isn't true: not every girl wants to manipulate and use guys. Do you think that maybe the fact that you believe otherwise is partially responsible for your lack of success in the dating world? Maybe just a little bit? Hmm?

On the female side even when I had a few pounds on I was still as confident as my usual weight and even had guys fighting for me, I was shocked cause other times I had weight on I had low self esteem issues I really didn't bring that aura as I did with self esteem.

Now as for guys, two guys I saw were not in their ideal shape, in fact one guy was still trying to get in shape from some gain and another was slim (maybe skinny fat) but at his personal highest weight. The only things that would turn me off is players and as mentioned bad hygiene (at least for first impressions, before they even speak).

Ditto what imsatindoll and kotov said.  I've liked guys who have been overweight, and underweight. I've never liked a guy who acts like what people think a "player" should act like. Those guys are creepy.  As the others have said, it is about mutual respect and confidence. And how relaxed and "fun" they come off as. Girls know when you are trying too hard or are desperate and it is a huge turn off.

Original Post by alicemuncy:

Ditto what imsatindoll and kotov said.  I've liked guys who have been overweight, and underweight. I've never liked a guy who acts like what people think a "player" should act like. Those guys are creepy.  As the others have said, it is about mutual respect and confidence. And how relaxed and "fun" they come off as. Girls know when you are trying too hard or are desperate and it is a huge turn off.

Yes, this is very true. The only guy I really regretted dating was this non-stop and worst off I felt guilty (cause he was the first guy I rejected, or was going to) so it lasted longer than it should have, biggest regret relationship ever.

Original Post by Peter1145:

I allaways thought my weight was holding me back and if I lost it I would finally be able to be the player I allways wanted to be but I lost the weight I'm not sure if I lost enough or what but girls r just mean I finally started talking to girl and when u walk up to them and say hi they ignore u or just try to get rid of u i would understand if a girl talked to me for 5 minets and we had nothing in common but I get instantly nexted why now i was skinny for only about a month I gained the weight back and I'm not sure if it's worth losing it again what's the point

Spell check. Mirror. Shower. Smack upside the head. Manners.

That is all.

Confidence is the key. I have had days that I look the same but if I'm not confident then it shows and I get treated differently. Lose weight for you not for any other reason or person. Finally. Maybe those girls just wanted to have a girls night and not talk to guys that even, maybe they have boyfriends or maybe your approach is off. Try sitting at the bar and talk to a woman like you would a guy friend. Keep it easy and with no expectations. Remember that even though it is nice to be flirted with sometimes a woman just wants to be left alone because she's been cheesed on too much. Have fun and enjoy life.

"I would finally be able to be the player" Ouch ! You even think like that and a girl will know where your coming from. I'm a guy and I can tell you that. Lose the weight, that helps. Then talk to women assuming / believing you will score only on the day you find the love of your life.

Original Post by imsatindoll:

A man usually cannot go wrong in getting a more positive response when he approach women with respect, confidence, good conversation, and good hygiene and grooming. All four is a requirement for a woman to even respond IN MY OPINION.


And in mine. THIS. THIS, SO MUCH.

I agree with what everyone else is saying.

You need to have more self respect. Lose weight for yourself and not others. To me, men who acts like players are a big no. If you act natural and show that you are respectful to yourself as well as others, then you will have a higher chance.

 

Staying away from the whole player crack...

I've lost almost 100 lbs in the last year and have about 20-30 to go to be healthy, I also find myself single for the first time in years.  I'm still a little sideways from my breakup so I haven't actually done anything but let's just say the offers are certainly out there, much more so then when I was obese and last single.

Now I'd like to think it's because I'm looking so great these days but I expect it's got more to do with feeling better and generally enjoying life more making me a better person to be around.  Attraction opens the door but it's who you are that let's you in.

Alex

Original Post by kotov_syndrome:

Original Post by imsatindoll:

Peter let me peep you on some game. First off I recommend that you do not give up on weight loss because you didn't see positive results. I guarantee you those ladies did not turn you down because you were skinny and they didn't like guys who lost weight. Those ladies more than likely turned you down because it probably showed that you was trying to be a player and was not smooth about it. 

When it comes to the question of why you are not getting any play you have to be completely honest about your flaws. 

Okay so you lost some weight and congratulations. How is your conversation when you approach a woman? I hate to judge you by the way you type but honestly that is all I have to go by and if you talk like you type then I can definitely see why you got ignored. Are you the type of dude to be like "pst hey girl. whats your name. let me holla at you". Then yes ladies are going to keep walking. Any woman who does respond positively to that is a chicken head hands down.

So you thought your weight was the only thing holding you back? Maybe it was. Who knows. I mean if you were trying to talk to girls who kept their bodies up then yeah it probably held you back. However, just be real honest about your flaws and if you are willing to make some changes or is able to make those kind of changes then change them and try try again.

A man usually cannot go wrong in getting a more positive response when he approach women with respect, confidence, good conversation, and good hygiene and grooming. All four is a requirement for a woman to even respond IN MY OPINION. It wouldn't hurt to have tasteful sense of humor but you can include that in good conversation. 

Now whether you want to play women or be monogamous is not my business but you have to get the basics down first. 

I nominate for top 100 best posts ever. The use of the term "chicken heads" sealed it. Awesomeness.

 

I feel like this belongs on the CC bingo card....

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