so I am on day 4 no drinking...I look and feel better....
Anyone want to support or join me?
To feel better...I guess both.
Day 2 for me!
Last night my dad was having a few beers and offered some Sourpuss on the rocks (so good) but I said no... and this morning we toughed out a good 5km jog in the heat and humidity. I was totally motivated and it was actually really fun! C:
Awesome sulfyr! I feel like we have a lot of similar things we are trying to get though! ;)
Man today feels sad...I am so tempted to get some wine on the way home...I won't though! I am going to work out and feel good! ;)
Sober for almost 9 years, but I quit for another reason other than weightloss. Keep it up, it is possible to live sober and enjoy life.
Alcoholic here--sober >23 years. Also ACOA. I used a 12-step program (AA) for a long time, and I still consider it to be a foundation. Quitting drinking wasn't the hard part: Learning to live life on life's terms was the challenge, but that's what had to happen for me to stay sober. I had no tools, no understanding of what was missing or wrong in my life.
How did you two do it? I feel like pressure to do it is everywhere...all the time. Everyone talks about it...social events, work events, husband has fun with me he said... Do you feel much better now?
I surrounded myself with other non-drinkers. No "everyone" does not do it or talk about it. Many, many people who have never had a problem with it simply choose not to drink. For me it really was a day at a time. today it simply is not part of my life. I don't notice it, I don't think about it.
I didn't mean everyone in a bad way at all! SO SORRY! :D
Honestly I meant like all the people that talk about it all the time... I didn't mean to offend you at all!
After not doing this for almost I week I don't really miss it...and its strange to see how uninteresting and detached people become.
Thank you for the support!
I'm not at all offended. The point I was trying to make is that I used to wonder if I would have a Scarlet "A" tattooed on my forehead if I became a non-drinker. A couple of lessons I have learned: People really are not that interested in whether I do or do not drink. I had to change my playground and my playmates. I discovered that many of my "relationships" (such as they were by the end of it all) were centered around drinking. Once I quit I had nothing in common with those people. My life-focus shifted, so I began to see things differently. Drinking is not as large of a piece of lnormal life as I used to think it was.
I already understand this a bit...I feel like much of what I have been doing for a long time now is focused around this...some of me if afraid that I will loose who I was with them and drinking but really I don't want to be defined like this...
I have been feeling better...ALOT. I want to become the real me again. And with drinking I can't. I have already got though 5 day and will continue . ;) Thank you again! It really helps! Keep in touch! :D
i really don't talk to anyone i did 2 years ago only 1-2 people. All other's were just drinking buddies, only hanged out when i got drunk. It took alot of will power to quit, i never went to aa never will. Some people i see say you can have one, but i can't ever agian. Guess im lucky that i quit when i was 25 now 27 still young not to get major health problems or dui's which i should of got a couple of them.
Hang in there each day will get alittle easier. There will be day's you want to rip you're hair out cause you're craving so bad.
DAY 7! ONE WEEK!
Thank you so very much! I am only 28...so I am still young too.
I want to have a family at some point and feel like drinking all the time wasn't going to fit into this life that I want. Especially being that I come from alcoholic parents...The strange thing is that I feel like I am at time getting a lot of pressure from my husband. He has been drinking every night this week...I hope that I can be the cause of him to quite at some point but for now I am going to take it day by day..;) Thank you all! Everyones support has helped more than they will ever know! Tonight is a huge work related drinking event at a bar. I will be getting a pop or something non-alcoholic! ;) YAY! <3
Original Post by c1234567:
I feel like I am at time getting a lot of pressure from my husband. He has been drinking every night this week...I hope that I can be the cause of him to quite at some point but for now I am going to take it day by day..;)
I wondered if that would start to happen. :( I once heard it said that alcohol starts as a playmate, changes to a demanding spouse, next becomes your king, and finally your master. Depending how far along that road you are, more and more energy gets devoted to protecting your ability to drink.
Good for you for putting the plug in the jug. The next couple of challenges are going to be 1) discovering who you are without it, and 2) deciding which of your relationships contribute to that evolving person, and which ones will need to be managed so that they don't affect your progress.
The best way I have ever found to do that is through a 12 step program. The programs help you to focus on your own growth and teach you the skills to avoid being drawn into someone else's evolving relationship with alcohol.
If alcohol was your king or master, I'd consider AA. If you are more affected by the drinking of others (past, present and future) then ALANON is a place where you can learn to grow despite someone else's alcohol use. You can find meeting dates and places for your area on line, or in your phone book.
Trying to do this on your own, without the support and experience of others who can help you make your way forward, can be very difficult. The wonderful news is that you dont need to do it alone.
Yours in sobriety,
M
Hello,
I am supporting you too. I am going to try to cut my alcohol intake back drastically. I have some wine most days - generally not more than one large glass but somedays 2 or 3. This is really bad and I know this, but I have got into a kind of habit of getting in from work and opening the bottle. At the moment it is just a habit but I do worry that it may become a dependence if I am not careful. So I need to cut it out.
I am doing this to help in my quest to lose weight and for the sake of my liver! I may need support for those nights when I have had a bad day...they are going to be the worst I imagine. So today is day 1.
Congrats on day 7 C!! Do you find it slightly easier to resist the urge? I wonder if your hubby is feeling a little threatened that you are making the healthier choice not to drink and may think he might be forced into doing the same?
I hope that work function went over well though c:
Day 3 for me today! In 3 more days I'll have surpassed my last attempts to cut back.. I'm finding myself craving that warm and fuzzy feeling but I will bet that it is really my body wanting to satisfy that addiction.
7 days is awesome, keep the focus on today. Anyone can stay sober for one day and that is all you have.
I also received the gift of sobriety with the help of a 12 step program. It is not for everyone, but it is is for anyone who really wants to quit drinking one day at a time. I promise you that if you walk into any recovery group anywhere in the world you will meet people just like you. Their goal is to share with you what they did to get sober and to teach you how to live without king alcohol.
Sounds to me like it may worth a look. Besides, the worst thing that can happen is a waste of a hour of your time and drinking some pretty strong coffee.
I need to do something about my drinking, too. I NEVER use to be someone that needed a drink when out with friends, but lately I have one every time we hang out.
I need to restrict it to once a week; at volleyball. So last night was volleyball which means not another sip until Monday.
Good luck to you...you're doing great!
ETA: was under the impression this was for weight loss, but many of you sound like you're trying to quit drinking permanently. I can remove this post if it bothers anyone. Please let me know.
I would love to join/support you too. I stopped drinking for weight loss but also to feel and especially sleep better. I would have a couple of drinks a couple of times a week. On day 24!
No need and no offense taken. We are all here to support, in whatever fashion possible.
Good Luck
divasnote... yes, I know...I feel like we have spent the past 2 years escaping into this and loosing time we could have had together.... Its sad when you think of it. :( I hope he comes with me on this journey but if not... I am still doing this. This is for me and my future. I want to live again.
sulfur yes it is getting easer! I feel sooo much better in general... No drink could make me feel as good as this...Maybe my hubby is feeling threatened... not sure... Congrats on day 3...it will get better for both of us! JUST KEEP IT UP!
csbonest Thank you!
Yeah, I am feeling much better in so many different ways! It is amazing... I am doing it on my own for now...I think this is best for me. I may attend meetings if I have to later down the road. ;)
mjsophia good for you! No worries! Keep up the good work. I think many of us are looking to live longer and healthier and feel better! ;)
Okay, so I have this working event at a bar tonight... A Lot of people will be drinking...not me though! :) "I'll have a diet coke please and my self respect...Thank you" ....
How is everyone doing!?!?! lets keep this up!
Stay Heathy!
