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it's not fair why can't i be one of those people


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who can eat EVERYTHING all the time.

 

I was out with my boyfriend and his sister today.. and we went to starbucks, and I was sitting there with my skinny latte... meanwhile they special ordered coffee cake WITH a mound of whipped cream and drizzled caramel and chocolate. I went to high school with his sister too, and every 2nd period between breakfast and lunch she'd go to the caf and get a slurpee and a small pizza.

and they are both skinny and fit

I just don't see how this is fair AT ALL

 

I gain weight when I look at food

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i worked with a woman who was probably my height (5'8'') and likely 115 pounds.  she was really slim built, but definitely a small woman.  all i ever saw her eat was chips and other equally healthy food.

the more i worked with her, i realized a couple things.  she practically ran EVERYWHERE she went.  so was also constantly hyped up on caffeine.  and she worked crazy hours.  and after work, she rarely even had time to eat dinner.

all i'm saying is...people can eat crappy food, but still not be consuming tons of calories.  and if they are consuming lots of calories...check back with them in 15 years.

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yah i know there are down sides to it and a lot of the people who are like that are often active... i just want cake with whipped cream is all

Original Post by thin_girl:

pgeorgian - honestly, get a life

um...thanks for the link.  did you think i was lost?

i've never understood why people do that.

Original Post by thin_girl:

yah i know there are down sides to it and a lot of the people who are like that are often active... i just want cake with whipped cream is all

 then eat it.  just work it into an otherwise healthy day of eating...

if they're eating that way all the time, they're not getting nutrients that are needed...and you (hopefully) are. 

i used to feel the same way you did...but i've since realized that i enjoy eating healthy and feeling good about how i eat.  i'd rather be educated about these things...

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Original Post by pgeorgian:

Original Post by thin_girl:

pgeorgian - honestly, get a life

um...thanks for the link.  did you think i was lost?

i've never understood why people do that.

umm.. because when you copy and paste someones name it copies the link to their profile as well?

you have some kind of angry paranoia going on

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Original Post by starlitocean:

Original Post by thin_girl:

yah i know there are down sides to it and a lot of the people who are like that are often active... i just want cake with whipped cream is all

 then eat it.  just work it into an otherwise healthy day of eating...

if they're eating that way all the time, they're not getting nutrients that are needed...and you (hopefully) are. 

i used to feel the same way you did...but i've since realized that i enjoy eating healthy and feeling good about how i eat.  i'd rather be educated about these things...

hhaha i know i know

 

and i do treat myself from time to time to things like that, I just mean like i'll  come home and make a low-fat/low-sugar alternative to it, whereas they can just go into the store and eat it without a second thought

 

i will say my boyfriend does eat healthy stuff too

guess i haven't had to copy-and-paste a name.

if it's hard to spell, most around here just call me pg.

I think the question is not whether it is common or uncommon to be jealous of the "naturally thin".  The question to me is whether it is helpful to focus on whether life is fair or unfair.  That kind of thinking promotes unhappiness and resentment within me, which leads me to emo-eat.

Yeah, I want pastries with whipped cream too.  And I will probably have some when I go away for my anniversary in a couple weeks. 

You're right, thin_girl, this topic has provoked a lot of strong feelings!  Thanks for giving us all the opportunity to explore why that is for each of us...

I guess I just feel like it's a defeatist attitude to be jealous of the "naturally thin".  For most of my life, I accepted that some people were "naturally thin" and I was "naturally fat".  Suffice it to say, that was not only discouraging but it also contributed to me not bothering to take care of myself.  After all, what was the point?  It's only since I've started food journalling that I realised how easy it was to have no idea how many calories you're really taking in.  And if that's hard enough to do for yourself, it's practically impossible to do for anyone else.  Then factor in that some people drive everywhere, some people walk places, some people run up and down the stairs twelve times while "being sedentary watching an hour of TV", some people fidget like crazy, etc. and predicting anyone else's burn becomes practically impossible too. 

Convincing myself that there was no such thing as "naturally thin" vs. "naturally fat" just "people fortunate enough to have bodies that self-regulate" vs. "people who have to use pen and paper (or computer) to keep track" was what it took to get myself to a place where I really believed I could lose weight, and where I have actually managed to lose a substantial amount of weight.

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Original Post by thin_girl:

pgeorgian - honestly, get a life

um...thanks for the link.  did you think i was lost?

i've never understood why people do that.

 It's so strange seeing someone on the business end of the dreaded SNARKY and it's not me!

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wow...some people REALLY overreacted to this thread lol

some of these replies are hilarious though

Yea....people definitely overreacted to what seems like a harmless post. I've seen similar posts that people haven't gotten this worked up over!

Blown out of proportion much?

i feel your pain but don't be too jealous. everyone's metabolism slows down eventually! and even if they don't manifest symptoms of their unhealthy eating externally, you better believe that whipping cream is artery clogging (yuck!). i'm stretching my optimism here to the max, but at least those of us who gain weight when we eat unhealthily/too much are more conscious of food's effects on our bodies and can therefore hopefully take better care of our insides as well!

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Original Post by pgeorgian:

Original Post by thin_girl:

pgeorgian - honestly, get a life

um...thanks for the link.  did you think i was lost?

i've never understood why people do that.

 It's so strange seeing someone on the business end of the dreaded SNARKY and it's not me!

i am your just your protege (speaking of, do you know how to make an accent acute?).

I was jealous of this really thin girl once. She could eat anything and not gain a pound. Then she had her gallbladder removed and got a uterine infection.

I stopped being jealous.Tongue out

Original Post by thin_girl:

who can eat EVERYTHING all the time.

 

I just don't see how this is fair AT ALL


I don't think there's anywhere near as many of these people as you think. Sure, there's a few genetic freaks who can put away 5000 cals a day and the only exercise they get is channel surfing, but most of the time, what you see isn't the whole picture. For all you know, they're skipping breakfast and lunch to eat a great dinner, only eating a few times a week and "eating everything all the time" then, or purging after they eat. Unless you follow the person around 24/7 you can't know if you want to be jealous of them or not.

YEAH GUYS N GALS...................calm down. it was a light hearted thread. a btch about ppl who can eat anything!
why are we gettn so hot n bothered?
GI-Jane (as usual) has given the most accurate and reasonable response. everyone has something someone else wants!! i used to be that skinny girl who ate 3000 cals a day, i was sick tho and my brain couldn function for peanuts. i was jealous of the girl studyin medicine. now i'm 63kg ...... not so skinny......... but studying medicine so hey! anyway point is........... Far away hills etc etc!

seriously ppl, why are you attacking the op?  she was just baffled and i think most of us are too at this subject but no need to be so harsh.

i used to be like this and honestly what worked is not being jealous and so focus on those people, because it worked, i was in the best shape i could ever be.  Focus more on treating your body right and everything should fall into place.  Good luck.

I can't speak for anyone else, but I'm sorry if the OP felt attacked or jumped on.  That wasn't my intention at all.  As I explained in my last post, the comment reminded me of how I used to feel, and feeling that way held me back from getting healthy.  So, I was trying (ineffectively as it seems) to help.

I'm jelous of my brother! lol hes only 8 he is the skinneyest person in his year but even though he sometimes eats twice as much as me he also sometimes eats nothing!! he only eats when hes hungry!! But i see him as 1 of those super skinney people who eats loads, but he plays football at least 10 times a week! and he never stops running when i see him!! lol i should start eating and exerciseing more like him!! lol

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no worries susiecue

 

i haven't really felt attacked at all, I think it was mainly the  people who took my post more seriously than I meant it.

but I think on the internet there is no sense of tone so I could see how they might have seen it as me seriously complaining rather than just [sort of] kidding around.

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