Feeling Guilty

Hi Everyone

So I've been calorie counting for 3 or so weeks now and am feeling really committed to it now. I've upped my exercise from walking a couple of times a week, to cardio and body pump 5 to 6 times a week.

Today I had my day all planned out. My food intake is planned and logged and I'd planned to go to a body pump class after work. Then my friend emailed and said she had two free tickets to a movie and invited me to go. This would mean missing my body pump class, plus I wouldn't be able to have my dinner until about 9:30pm so would need to have a snack to get me through (which would probbaly end up ebing popcorn, there's now way I'd last to 9:30pm without anything since my afternoon snack). So I ended up lying and telling her I had a doctors appointment so couldn't go! I didn't think she'd understand (never having had to go on a diet in her life!) if I said no because I didn't want to miss the gym and didn't want to eat more calories.

Now I feel really guilty for lying and wonder if it's too obsessive to let the diet come in the way of social life? I do allow myself one cheat day a week for socialising etc (try not to go crazy but also not worry too much). But my cheat day was only on Sunday so I really don't want to factor in another day already.

Has anyone else found themselves doing this? Is it obbsessive or just being committed?

Thanks everyone

I've been there myself! I don't think it's obsessive at all. You need to do what's right for you. I always have a weekend cheat day too. If I use it up then I just have to deal with it and look forward to next week. Maybe next time just be honest. If she's a good friend she'll understand.

My diet has gotten in the way of quite a few social events that I wished I hadn't missed but I weighed the pros and cons and have come to the conclusion that in the long run it will all be worth it. Especially since once I'm totally healthy I'll be able to enjoy my time with my friends more.

You're doing a great job keep it up! Never feel guilty for doing something good for yourself!

1. no cheat day

2 work out schedule 

Thanks guys, I feel better now about being a little anal about my social life now! I already have drinks plans on friday night and dinner plans on saturday night, so I was panicing a little at the thought of fitting another night in around gym and calorie count. Glad to hear I'm not the only one though factors this in!

Unicow, I hear you about the late nights too - before I wouldn't have worried about being out late, but now when I have evening plans I find myself thinking "ohh, but if I get home too late I'm not going to feel like going for a run the next day". Funny how priorities change!

I've made choices around social situations that put weight loss first. For example, I recently participated in a Rotary fund-raising event that involved an afternoon of fence-painting followed by a BBQ.

I did the fence painting and hung around on the patio for a while socializing - while drinking water and not alcohol - and then excused myself from the BBQ. No one seemed to mind.

As for movies with friends ... I picked up a largish purse from the thrift store so I could quietly bring my own air-popped, portion controlled popcorn to movies along with carbonated water and a little Thinsations pack of chocolate pretzels.

I realize movie theaters rely on concession sales but most movie theater popcorn isn't a healthy choice. If they gave me a healthy option, I'd buy it from them.

I enjoy the movie, munch my treats, feel totally indulged and stay within my calorie goals.