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Here's what my ideal body would look like, if I could choose my build:

I'd be curvy, with narrow shoulders and mid sized B cup boobs, a small waist with just a little bit of a stomach and wide hips. Maybe about 5'3". I love that shape, it's so femenine and adorable.

But when I gain weight, it happens pretty evenly, and I just get wide. It's not pretty. I either look muscular or like a jiggly box. :(

I agree with whoever said that they don't like Jillian Michaels body. Yeah, there's no denying that she's in shape, but I SO do not find that attractive.

My boyfriend, unlike all yours, prefers girls that are slender and lean but still curvy. He has ex girlfriends that are skinny. Typically and traditionally skinny. I don't understand why he went for me (who is not really thin) but I do know that he likes tiny. He always says I have a lovely figure and I don't need to lose weight. But he also isn't worried about becoming less attracted to me if I do.

A lot of men like women that curvy and voluptuous, but there are also a lot of men who like women to be tiny. There are men who prefer their women strong and muscular, but I doubt I will ever be with one of those sort of guys. :-P

Oh yes, I definitely think that all girls should have a least a little somethin somethin. I would hate to be just skin and bone :-)

I personally like a hard tight body, not overly muscular but a body that says       " yeh, I lift weights "  Laughing  My goal is to be hard and muscular but I also have an issue with abs, I don't really like the bumpy man looking stomach, I would still like a waist line.  Tight but still girly.  Does that make any sense?

Well before you go around saying you need "mush" and "curves" to look like a real woman, you should remember that not all of us girls are blessed with fat in all the right places. I have a very small chest and no butt either. It's how I am naturally built. But I think I too have the right to be proud of my body and to feel that I'm an attractive girl.

I personally don't think you need to be fat OR skinny to be "girly." Being a woman has nothing to do with how you look. Sure, I would love to be of another ethnicity (I'm Asian) so I could have some "cushion" in the "right" places but I'm not built to have curves. There is no one ideal "girly" body, that is the point I am trying to make.

look, i wasnt trying to offend anyone.  im a total apple shape by the way.  im shaped like humpty dumpty, for gods sakes. the point im trying to make is that i see that some many people try to get skinny skinny and it bothers me.  i went to a weight watchers meeting a few months back and this tiny lady was so pissed off that she weighed 132 lbs.  I wanted to punch her.  I just think things have gotten a little out of control is all.  Every animal has meat on their bones and yet so many female humans want to be skeletons.  Its creepy.  At the end of the day, I cant and dont dictate how others live their lifes, but Im just asking if anyone agrees with me.

Original Post by msheeran:

I know men tend to like curves.

I think the most attractive thing is to be in good health and look healthy.  To be in balance, not at any extreme (too much weight, too skinny, or overly developed muscles).

Now if we can only get this criterion to apply to men too. Oh wait men MUST go to the gym 5 nights a week and lift extremely heavy weights to be considered physically attractive. Well not to women with interests other than body builders who can scare people at a mere glance. Actually I think it is myth perpetuated by media that women MUST have a muscular body builder type. And I say this because my first hand experience has been anything but what the media suggested it would be growing up. 

Umm actually I think your right on that last sentence.


I don't go for ripped or burley men.   To much muscle is kind if a turn off for me... and I'd imagine dating a body builder type guy would be hell on my self esteem.   I mean I'd feel like like a fat ass around him no matter what.  I have friends who are body builders, but I'm just not immediatly attracted to that body type.

I think this is a myth perpetuated by the media... I'm with you one hundred percent.   In fact.... my biggest body "requirement" for being attracted to a guy is that his belly not hang over his belt.   Not skinny, or ripped, or even toned... just not hanging over his belt.  of course most guys I'm attracted to are for reasons other then the physical so it doesn't come up much.

My fiance loves to hug (and, weirdly, bite) my "squish," as he calls it. I almost hit him the first time he said that, but he didn't mean any insult at all, and while I hit the gym daily he tells me he hopes I don't lose that soft feeling. I was pining over a cut set of abs in some magazine and he looked panic-stricken that I might get a six-pack...

When I was 200lbs, UK size 18, I wanted to be a UK 12. Now Im pretty much there...my target has changed to a 10. I dont think I'll go any lower as it really wont suit me. I think I'll be comfortable at that size.

As for being 'ripped' - too much effort! Nicely toned will do. I couldnt stand the thought of spending my days working on my abs!

Original Post by lunaripyros:

Umm actually I think your right on that last sentence.


I don't go for ripped or burley men.   To much muscle is kind if a turn off for me... and I'd imagine dating a body builder type guy would be hell on my self esteem.   I mean I'd feel like like a fat ass around him no matter what.  I have friends who are body builders, but I'm just not immediatly attracted to that body type.

I think this is a myth perpetuated by the media... I'm with you one hundred percent.   In fact.... my biggest body "requirement" for being attracted to a guy is that his belly not hang over his belt.   Not skinny, or ripped, or even toned... just not hanging over his belt.  of course most guys I'm attracted to are for reasons other then the physical so it doesn't come up much.

Thin women tend to be the ones I was referring to. It seems socially acceptable for females to merely be thin to be considered healthy, but for men, the criterion must be muscle mass, and lots of it. It is a lop sided perspective I think. That said, I do not condone anyone being overweight first and foremost for health reasons. 

Original Post by becky_dickel:

When I was 200lbs, UK size 18, I wanted to be a UK 12. Now Im pretty much there...my target has changed to a 10. I dont think I'll go any lower as it really wont suit me. I think I'll be comfortable at that size.

As for being 'ripped' - too much effort! Nicely toned will do. I couldnt stand the thought of spending my days working on my abs!

What about men? Do you have standards as to how a male physique ought to be? Ripped? Toned? Massive?

Original Post by nameless_shape_shifter:

Original Post by becky_dickel:

When I was 200lbs, UK size 18, I wanted to be a UK 12. Now Im pretty much there...my target has changed to a 10. I dont think I'll go any lower as it really wont suit me. I think I'll be comfortable at that size.

As for being 'ripped' - too much effort! Nicely toned will do. I couldnt stand the thought of spending my days working on my abs!

What about men? Do you have standards as to how a male physique ought to be? Ripped? Toned? Massive?

 I am completely turned off by men with big muscles. Especially thick necks- to me it makes them look like they're either football playing meatheads or ex-cons who spent too much time in the prison weight room. Most women I know think that bodybuilders look horrible, but maybe I'm a little more extreme about the big muscles thing. I prefer a guy to be tall and lean...if he has a bit of muscle that can be a plus, but it's not a requirement.

 

Personally I don't like women being too thin or too ripped.  If they have some tone or even a 6 pack, that doesn't bother me.  Everything in moderation is probably the best way to describe it.  One time I dated this girl and she was rail thin and the sex made me cringe a bit.  The last thing I want to see in the sack is all of your rib cage or pelvic bone looking like it's about to pop through your skin.  Needless to say, that didn't last long.

i'm on the fence with this issue. on the one hand, i'd love to look soft and feminine; on the other, i don't wanna end up skinny-fat. although i don't think there's any chance of that happening. at 220ish, i'm already seeing definition in my arms, butt, and legs (abs are a LONG way off!).  my legs especially are rock-hard. but i still have loads of fat to lose, so i don't know what i'm gonna look like @ my goal of 150. i was worried that the muscly legs would bother my guy, but apparently not.

i'm just grateful i have a proportioned body, so the muscle tone still looks sexy b/c of my boobs and booty.

btw, a size 8 is my goal too!

When i was a 12 i wanted to be a 4. I got to a 4 and i was still not happy. I wanted to be a 2. Even though i was thin!!. Now i'm back to a 8-10 and i just have to learn that whats most important is my HEALTH and how i feel about my body.. (and thankfully have a fiancee who loves me no matter what.)

Original Post by pgeorgian:

i used to be "mushy" and soft and i hated it.  the other day a friend of mine--who, by the way, is 26, 5'4", and absolutely ripped--told me that i look strong.  that to me is probably the best compliment i could get.  i've been called other things: thin, skinny, even tiny, but none of those feel as good as being called strong.

mushy?  not something i aspire to.

 Totally agree here. I used to say that I wanted to little cushion... I think partly bc I wanted to justify my being chubby. Also I found muscular girls to be unattractive and threatening looking. Now?? Ass-backwards! lol!! I can't wait to look strong, somewhat hard, and very... strong! lol!! I love the toned look, and while I don't necessarily want a belly like Jill Michael's I do realize the dedication she has had to get there... her body fat % must be in the 10% or so... totally in show quality! I'm at 18-19% and it's tough to maintain... I have had a hard time "cutting" and so I know the stregnth it takes. Woo! lol... so yeah I guess my outlook has changed as I progressed.

And I'll never want to be mushy... :P kinda sounds gross to me.

I think that Jillian Michaels has an amazing body. I really prefer it over that link that was posted...she looks too squishy and undefined. =/

Original Post by dalmalama:

i'm on the fence with this issue. on the one hand, i'd love to look soft and feminine; on the other, i don't wanna end up skinny-fat.

i agree. ehhh, i don't really find mushy attractive.. but everyone is entitled to their own opinion. i like having a thin and toned body.. not muscular but definitly not skinny-fat either, like lindsay lohan or amy winehouse EWWW (that's my biggest hate haha). idk but i really like the bodies of the vs models, most of them at least.. miranda kerr, alessandra ambrosio and adriana lima are my favorite.. they're thin and have curves. you can tell they work out and look healthy.

http://i174.photobucket.com/albums/w108/chaba o1/miranda%20kerr/miranda%20kerr%20posted/i11 6395.jpg

http://farm2.static.flickr.com/1159/758547233 _c1d8b26973.jpg

http://i50.photobucket.com/albums/f319/jaygot era/alessandra-ambrosio.jpg

Original Post by jenny8484:

When i was a 12 i wanted to be a 4. I got to a 4 and i was still not happy. I wanted to be a 2. Even though i was thin!!. Now i'm back to a 8-10 and i just have to learn that whats most important is my HEALTH and how i feel about my body.. (and thankfully have a fiancee who loves me no matter what.)

 I totally feel you here. At the height of my depression/eating disorder I weighed in at a disgusting 114lbs & felt "fat" & hideous. I was so skinny the only "curves" I had were the bones in my chest wall. Sexy, right?

Every time I see girls post their "goal weights" as 100lbs and under (!!!) I think of how pathetic they're going to look in lingerie. I still struggle with some serious body image issues, but I'm also glad that I can fill out a cute bra.

ohohcherri: remember that all of those models are airbrushed. Nobody likes bones sticking out, but to appear so thin yet the models must be extremely skinny. The solution: airbrushing to create "curves" 5'10 112lbs is hardly curvy, unless, of course, you count those curvy bones!

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