Ok, this is a rant, prepare yourself...
I am so sick of being the fat sister-in-law, fat employee, fat mom, fat wife and fat everything else!It always seems like I am the biggest person around, ( and I used to be bigger) no matter what. As horrible as this sounds I wish I had fat friends, so I didn't feel like such a failure. Best friend, 95 lbs, sisters-in-law tall and skinny, mom, well she is fat but she is also psycho. I know I am just feeling sorry for myself ( as I am stuck on a plateau)but I am frustrated and cried most of the morning.
If you are still there, thanks for listening!
Reason: locked to prevent unnecessary zombie bumps. OP last login 2010
i'm sick of being this fat too all the time.. but i am doing something about this.. and so are you! ;) my plateau just broke the other day so i know it can be done.. it takes time to get through to the other side of a plateau.. but it feels soooo good when you get through it!
hope you are feeling better sweetie!
The point is that you need to surround yourself with people who will uplift you and support you, whether those people are short, fat, skinny, tall, burly, whatever. If they're your true friends, they won't care what you look like on the outside, and will celebrate with you when you accomplish your goals. I promise things will get better. You're taking steps to better your life, and that is great!
It's hard, but you'll get through it, I promise. We're all here for you!
My case is the opposite - I'm the "thin" one - and I'm trying to lose those last few pounds - so I get the other side of the coin - "Do you want to go out for lunch today?" "Want to go have dinner this weekend?" - etc. My hubby and kids are slender - as is my sister and brother, but I don't see them. My parents aren't, my friends aren't...
even worse when I'll be out to dinner with my friends and of course-
the smallest skinniest one is ordering the most fattening delicious
meal. [how does THAT work out?! haha] And I'm sitting there with my
salad. Just think about how happy you'll be when you get there, it
takes time. As long as the people who you surround yourself with are
supportive- be blind to how they look, before you know it you'll be at
your goal weight.
I think this is about self critisizm. You're angry at yourself
and hurt that you are not experiencing the body that you want to
have. You ARE however, doing something about it and that is
checking what you eat against some proven information. You are in
controll... not out of controll. And it's important to look at
ourselves from time to time and shake that finger at yourself to
motivate you to action or to make sure you're not b.s.'ing yourself...
BUT, you are not doing that when you tear yourself down and shame
yourself the way you are doing today. I heard somewhere that we
have about 1,000 negative, self thoughts per hour! So, why don't
you focus on some of the things that you can honestly appreciate about
yourself when this wave of recrimination hits you. Make a list,
keep it handy, and take it out and read it outloud to yourself until
you feel it. Because fat or thin, old or young, good lookin or
not so hot... we ALL have wonderful attributes, gifts and contributions
to contribute to life! You are not the exception to that rule!
All the best from the froggette *ribbet*
I keep on thinking of a bumper sticker I saw,
"I may be fat, but you're ugly, and I can diet."
Unlike so many other problems we could have been cursed with, at least being overweight is controllable (albeit with a lot of patience)
But rubiwanda is right...it's not about my skinny sister or about your 95 lb. friends. It all boils down to body image and self-criticism, and we ARE in control of this (most of us, anyway). I think what she was trying to say is that every once in a while it's good to say, "I'm slippin'...better get back on track!" But self-criticism, making yourself feel ashamed, and really wallowing in the fact that you're bigger than people around you is reactive, not proactive, and will diminish your chances of success greatly. CONGRATULATE yourself for taking control and doing something about it, like counting calories. Most people just sit around and whine that they are fat, but you are taking action. You've already taken the first step toward busting that plateau because you are being proactive.
I love the idea of making a list of your positive attributes. I spend a lot of time thinking about the things I do poorly that I could work on, but I rarely celebrate what I'm good at. You're a Mom, wife, employee (3 full-time jobs right there)...there are things that you excel at that people miss when you're not around.
I'll start...mine is a smartass sense of humor. What's yours?
For clarification, I am simply saying that you are not your weight! You have wonderful attributes, gifts and contributions. I feel so defensive for you because I feel strongly that you were being hateful to yourself and that will only hurt you more. I want you to feel empowered and see that you are amazing.... so however I managed to make you feel bad, is the COMPLETE oposite affect I was going for. Forgive me, and be well!
certainly did not intend to come off as mean, and your kind gesture of
clarification was most generous in spirit. Add that to your list
of attributes, you are indeed generous!
then do something about it instead of complaining