I had lost a whole bunch of weight using this site, and in particular, through the support of an amazing group of girls that were going through the same thing I was. I wound up being one of the heavier ones in the group, and while the losses I made were my own, it was through a combination of support, questions, complaints, whining, and calling each other out on our bull that really made the group take off. I came back on in the hopes of reconnecting with the group, but that thread has apparently *gasp* died. There are a few of us still around, because I've seen them stop and post in there recently enough. And other people that I haven't seen around but have looked at their most recent picture seeing how they've hit their goals. And I'll say they look great! So, I start this thread in an attempt to restart a version of that thread.
While I respect and wish everyone luck in their weight loss, no matter the starting size, there is something completely different when you're looking to lose about 100 lbs. This isn't something that can be done in a month or two. This is something that will take a normal person (ie, not on a tv show) a while to do. Probably at minimum it's equivalent to a pregnancy term. And the rest of you have no idea what chub rub is.
So, I'll start. I've previously lost over 80lbs and have a bunch of excuses for what happened next. My biggest goal right now is to lose that again and move past the plateau this time around. Anyone else interested?
Thanks Kathryn and Topeze for the welcome.
So all of you know each other from another group? this is great. I would love to know more about you, your current weight, goals, and if you don't mind your ages.
I will start.
I am 37, female, height is 5'3" , weight is 250. My goal is to reach 140. Short term goal is 199lbs.
Working out is a bit of challenge for me right now because I have blood clots on both lungs and I get tired very quickly. Diet is also a challenge because I should avoid dark green leafy vegetables. So we will see how I can lose weight with this condition.
Losing weight will help improve my blood circulation as well as my overall health. So I will give it a try this time.
hi im new here and im 4'11 and weigh 232 lbs. i would like to lose about 100 lbs or more. i know for my height and body build the weight isnt good or healthy. so im working on eating better and getting in my exercise everyday. currently im just walking to the park and back, this takes about 10-15 mins. im 38, (hope its not too old for this thread ) :) and i just want and need to get healthier for me and my loved ones. thank you :)
OK, I am 27, weight 193 (eek) want to weigh 130. I have great plans but lack in follow through. The goal is 7 days of 1 hour of cardio and something of strength training. I have started the New Rules of Lifting for women and the 250 sit ups programs so will do those on alternating days. Eventually. Of course I need to work up to this. I was doing 1 hour eliptical 3 days a week in January (was doing it 5 days a week in November) but I sprained my ankle in February and haven't gotten back to it yet. Tomorrow I hope to go to the gym. As far as food goes I have done this enough times to know what foods to eat the challenge is eating those foods and passing on the not good stuff. My goal on that front is to be 100% perfect 80% of the time. I have a short term goal of 180, and then I have rewards set up for every 5 pounds after that. I am not rewarding myself for loosing the weight I have gained since February.
70in8months, I refuse to call you 70, cause then you'll always be known as 70 (with the lbs thought in our head). So, I'm calling you Kady.
Kady, welcome! You'll totally be able to do it. I keep reminding myself that I need to continue to eat like this. So, I don't deprive myself of anything like chocolate, ice cream, Chinese food, etc. The list goes on. I have to be able to balance it. So, I'm totally there with your attitude of being healthier. Makes it more worth it in some ways than just getting thin.
Although as I say it, I think, me thin? Isn't that just not a part of my personality? Ok, moving on from there...
Pita, congrats on the 8 lbs! And omg, I rolled my eyes at your hubby. What would he say if you responded with "Yeah, I figure they'll be peanuts by the time I'm done"? And what a sweet and beautiful daughter! You too look so much alike.
Kathryn, my hubby sounds like that too. I get the whole, "I don't worry, it's a wasted emotion" response. They don't seem to get that sometimes we just want to vent and move on. Hope you start feeling better! I've heard the New Rules are pretty good. And kudos to you for 1 hour a day of cardio.
Safina, I actually only know Akela, sonini, and aka. I'd suggest instead of thinking of it as a diet as thinking of it as a lifestyle change. I don't really like the leafy green, although I do sometimes have salad. For me, it's all about portion size and working some of those healthy foods into my diet. So, I love a bunch of different fruits, and I try to make sure I'm eating more fruit every day. eating it as snacks before jumping to other things I shouldn't have and then limiting the not as healthy (ie, anything with chocolate) foods in portion size.
I'm 33, 5'8", and weigh in at approximately 370ish. I'm hoping that's about right. I have no scale here, I'll have to wait until hubby moves up. Finally.
Welcome Ladi! 38 is fine for this thread. Personally, it's less about the age and more about the current life stage. Most people in this age are dealing with similar issues. Not retirees, not young and partying...the work and/or taking care of children and have a lot of responsibility stage. That's fantastic that you're walking to the park. "I'm just walking to the park" means "I'm actually pushing myself to do something I had to work at to get myself to do". And that's more than I'm doing. I'm trying to pass off the Wii Fit as exercise. Which makes it once in the last week.
I'm going to say, I'm proud of myself today. I walked down the candy aisle and stared it down! I had to stop cause I don't know what I'm doing for lunch (well, i do now) and needed more fruit cause I ate it all. So funny how this works - my mom got honey wheat bread per my request. She gets the type that is 100 cals a slice. Omg. All I wanted was my Nature's Own honey wheat for like, 130 or so for 2 slices. Now I have to factor in a bunch of extra calories. Grr... I'm also finding there are so many new products out there now. And some of the prices have gone way up! My favorite low cal ice cream is a Skinny Cow chocolate cone. I used to pay something like $3 and got annoyed when it went up to $4 for a box of 4. I checked them out today and $6.49. Are they friggin' kidding me?? Seriously, just because I'm fat doesn't make me rich. Now if only healthy foods were the cheap ones, everyone would be eating right.
topeze I am hopping to be back up to an hour of hard cardio (pushing myself the whole hour) by the end of June. For now I am just taking it easy, building back up to strong. I noticed today that I have still been keeping weight off my one leg at work (due to the sprained ankle from February 5) so I am not going to push it. I was in the old forum but after you left I think. The Wii Fit is exercise and I also love skinny cow, as a treat, once in a while, if it was cheaper I would probably have treats every day so it might be a good thing that it is expensive.
This is exciting, I really like the idea of a group to b***h to and encourage each other!
I'm 32 and 5ft 7.5in and I weigh 279.8lbs as of today.
I have been steadily gaining weight from about 8 years old and was size 28-30 UK dress size at my biggest when I was 20. I was down to 185lbs about 7 years ago after slowly losing with Weight Watchers. I have now pretty much regained it all and was 286lbs a couple of weeks ago. I've had a pattern of trying to crash diet to encourage myself with a quick loss and THEN having a sensible lifestyle change.... I have now admitted I need to do it the slow old fashioned way which worked before :)
Ok now the b****ing, I don't weigh every day but this morning my scales told me I am 279.8, up 1.4lbs!!! But I've decided to ignore this and look at the bigger picture! So seeing a group today for women in their 20s/30s with over 100 to lose is great timing. I have to say I'm glad I'm not the only one redoing it! Plus akela you don't have to think "how did I let it all come back??" ;)
Hello Everyone. I started cc May 4, 2011 and I was hoping to have lost more weight by now. I'm 31, 5'7" and am currently 242.2. When I started I was 253. At one point during this year of using cc I was down to 236 and then I turned around and put it back on. I would like to get down to 150 but it seems like a really long journey, I've been overweight since I was little. I have no clue the last time that I was under 200 pounds but I would like to get to 199 by the end of the year, so I have something positive to celebrate in the new year and to motivate me to keep going. I would like to join this thread and I do have a question I would like to ask. My doctor wants me to weigh myself everyday to keep an eye on my weight, but it's so discouraging when you get on and you put on, even if it's under a pound. Does anyone else weigh themselves everyday or do you do it weekly? If you do it everyday, how do you not get discouraged?
ltinsley - I usually hop on my home scale every morning before I shower but my actual weigh in is on Monday, and I use my dr's scale for that. I don't really get discouraged when I don't see the home scale move, it just motivates me to do better. Good luck on reaching your New Years goal, we will be here to support you!
Mlamken - Great job on losing 40 lbs. Even with the 7 lbs gain you're still down 33 lbs!
Topeze - I love skinny cow but you're right, it can get expensive. If you want a cheaper treat you can get Nestle Lil Drums. They're mini drumstick cones and only 120 cals. One is plenty for me. Last night I was struggling not to buy a pint of salted pretzel and caramel ice cream, instead I bought the caramel Lil Drums and I was definitely not disappointed.
I don't know if I'm too young to be welcomed here but I'll give it a shot.
I'm 22 and married, living on my own. I'm 5'11'', 257 lbs. I've never been a decent weight in my life and hope to just, someday, feel normal. my goal weight is 170 so that means i have 87 lbs to lose. this is only my second week and i could use some support. especially since my husband and i are going on vacation for a week in less than a month. I've been doing really good so far. I accredit this to the fact that I love cooking and will put in an hour a day to make from scratch meals. the weekends are my difficult points because I'm around food all day. it's kind of hard to find a place where i fit in because of both, my unique life situation, being married and childless at 22, and because i have so much weight to lose at such a young age. it seems like many people my age are only trying to lose 10 or 20 which is way different from 87.
regardless, I hope you all find the love and support you need :)
Kathryn, always frustrating to stay off of an injury when you want to do something! Hang in there, you'll be back to normal in no time.
Welcome Oons! I'm so there with you about the letting it come back. Like, I didn't notice quite how big I got to start with, you think I would have noticed the 2nd time around that I was just gaining. And don't let 1.4 lbs get you down. It's probably water weigh, cause it's impossible to gain that much quickly without REALLY trying. Think about a 10,000 cal meal on top of what your body burns every day...omg.
Welcome Mlamken and congrats on the 33lbs lost!
Tinsley, welcome! I'm not an every day person. It gets frustrating to see the ups and downs. Well, the ups at least. I think the concept behind it is that if you weigh every day, you start to get used to the fluctuations that occur all the time. On any given day, it can vary quite a bit. If you don't feel comfortable with that, why don't you decrease it to every other day or twice a week, see if that helps? And yes, it is a long journey. I think that by being a long journey, it keeps us more focused once it's gone. And to be in it for the long haul, a lot of people have to relearn how to eat healthy and find balance. That takes a long time and many temptations, holidays, etc.
Pita, omg, I think I just drooled when I read that. I love salt and sweet combo. I'll have to give those a try. I bought Edy's slow churned last night and then tried the milk shake thing that I don't think was really worth it.
Welcome Giggle! Age really doesn't matter...think it's more the mindset for most people. The last thread like this one was for the 20's, and I was pushing 30. But at 22, I was I don't even remember how much overweight. So, there are other 22yo that have that same issue. You just might not find them in here. I find that people with a lot of weight to lose tend to get lost on these forums, that's why I wanted this thread and loved the last one. Weekends are typically harder for me too. Can you limit what you have in for the weekend? I know that my mother shops on Fridays, so by Wed/Thurs, there isn't much left in the house to eat. If instead I shopped on Sundays with hubby, there wasn't as much there on fri/sat. dunno, just a thought. Or maybe use all that weekend cooking to make really healthy foods for during the week, thus taking up all of your time?
So, I'm getting stressed about being able to find a place to live. I have these 2 large dogs, which really makes it difficult in this area and in my price range. Add to that being in a new job, missing my hubby and daughter (and dogs), arguing with my mother...bleh. I just want to be in a place all to my own again with my hubby and daughter! I feel like I've waited so long for this moment and it isn't coming together like it should be. Just getting discouraged with it at the moment. It'd be fine, but the one dog is sort of breed restricted. I'm debating about lying about it and saying he's something else, I just have to figure out what. It just worries me, and I'm not really a worrier. We'll see when i call people tomorrow how many more "No"s i'm going to get. Wish me luck!
kathryn: You are so silly. Actually... I followed YOU to the thread you made, so... Um... I just got here a bit faster?? *lol* Giving up the day one mentality is hard... I still like clean slates... And I find I can only have a genuinely clean slate on a Sunday/Monday or the first of the month... Which is silly, of course. Still, I think the only reason I kinda feel optimistic is I have a bad day, and then I TRY to do better the next. Sometimes I still have multiple bad days in a row, of course, but my brain is different. I wake up every morning and I TRY to behave. Used to I'd have a bad day followed by a bad week followed by a bad month and every day I'd be JUSTIFYING it. Now I never justify. I just try to do better. Hope you are feeling better, hon!
pita: I hear ya. My results are still about the same (i.e. I'm not losing, at the moment) but at least my BRAIN is in a somewhat healthier place. I also feel committed... I hope the momentum gets me somewhere, soon! I feel ya. That letting one bad decision spiral into MANY bad decisions is a really hard habit to kick, but I have faith we can get there. That was super sweet of your daughter. Support is so important! Sorry your hubby isn't always exactly... Um... With it. *lol*
topeze: Hmm... If I ever actually made it three months straight, and I was being brilliant, and not losing, then I might consider asking a doc what the problem was. The thing is... I'm physically CAPABLE of losing... I just haven't figured out how to execute the process, yet. I overindulge way too often. I gots to conquer the mental beast... The rest will follow, I think.
kady: Welcome, and best of luck to you as well! :)
safina: I'm 31, 5'7", 255 lbs. I am excited to get in the 190's, I'm SUPER excited to hit something in the 180's (I vaguely remember being close to 180 in early middle school days. That's THE smallest I ever remember being. So that'll be a pretty big deal.) Will prob. see what maintaining is like in the 180's for a bit, maybe even worry less about a deficit and work to get leaner/build muscle. Then I will work to get another 20 or so lbs off. I'm very much in this for health, more so then vanity. Vanity was a motivator when I first joined CC, but time keeps slipping away from me and I can't help thinking of all the heart disease, diabetes, etc. that I'm not helping avoid packing all this extra weight on me. I also want to be fit enough to be able to keep up with my boy. He'll be five this summer, and he's a ball of energy. He exhausts me and it breaks my heart being "that mom" sitting on the sidelines watching him play because I can't keep up. I owe him a FEW good years of fun play time, darn it.
ladi: Welcome, and GOOD LUCK!!
oons: Support groups are AMAZING. I hope you find this group a good fit. We're here for ya!
mlam: At least you are catching yourself, NOW. Good job. Just get back in it, girl. You can do this.
ltin: It's a long (sometimes hard!) journey, but the end results are SO WORTH the effort. Better health, looking great, feeling amazing, all that jazz. :) I've been overweight since I was little, too. I feel that pain. BUT... That doesn't mean we aren't capable of being healthier. It's just really hard work learning to dodge around that lifetime of bad habits. I prefer weekly weighing. I'm actually surprised a doctor would suggest the daily weighing... The plus of weighing daily, though, is you will start to learn how your body feels at certain weights and start seeing patterns every month (TOM bloat, etc.) so it IS a really good way to get to know your body. You just have to learn to detach yourself from the numbers a bit, and remember that they are JUST arbitrary numbers. If you are exercising regularly, I would suggest measuring yourself as well. Waist especially. 'Cause sometimes we are getting leaner but the scale is an idiot and tells us we're "gaining" (or not budging at all ) because we're building muscle, etc.
giggle: As I just mentioned, I've been REALLY heavy my whole life so you certainly aren't the only young 'un with some pounds to lose. Actually, hon, I'm jealous. I went through almost an entire decade of knowing I NEEDED to lose weight, but not knowing the science of the proper/healthy way to go about doing it. At least you are here, NOW, and can get this taken care of and have years and years of youthful happy bliss! Great job on cooking at home. You are off to a great start! Keep the momentum going.
apologies if I missed anyone!
so... Apologies to those I've been in contact with who already know this, but I started the p90x fitness program at the beginning of the year. I've been fighting it, and fighting it. I get through about a month and then something always seems to crop up... Sickness, etc... And then I get behind. Then I get frustrated. It's been a pretty nasty cycle. (The plus side is, even if I'm not exercising daily or even 5-6 days a week as I should be, I am still exercising more this year then I ever have done.) ANYWAY... I can't keep up with it. I mean, technically, I'm JUST fit enough to do a bulk of the moves and I am really amazed/proud of what my body can do, even in its current condition, but I'm not ready for a program quite that extreme, yet. A sad reality, but there it is. So after much advice, soul searching, etc. I'm temporarily throwing in the towel. I have a program on its way called Power 90 and I'm going to see what that's about. (It's supposed to be REALLY good, but a lot easier to keep up with. A better beginner's program.) I'm excited about that, and will use it (and walking, swimming, etc.) this summer. Also hoping to get some c25k training in this fall. We'll see where I am at the end of this summer and I'll take it from there.
This week has been a little shaker then I was originally hoping. Tomorrow is another day... My problem is, I ALWAYS tell myself that. Frankly, I'm too lenient, anymore. I have to buckle down. Sugar detox flew out the window Tuesday. Going to restart that on Sunday. In the meantime, just trying to keep an eye on the cals, but been drinking a bit too much and eating a bit too much, so...
Time to fix it.
@akela I find even the simplest workouts hard to keep up with at my weight so i applaud you for doing p90x. i just started Zumba so we'll see. I'm having a difficult time right now because I recently broke my foot and ankle and am still recovering which really limits activities i can do from home
I would love to be part of this, I seem to have fallen into a slump of some sort. I started at 274 lbs in January, and am currently at 240 lbs. (I know..great! right?). However, I am starting to get discouraged. I have been the same weight for nearly a month now. Not sure if it is a plateau of some sort...or if I am doing something wrong...or just need a change....I would love to have some support...motivation...and any ideas you have to offer.....I am 5'6, 240 lbs....and have made a goal of 180 lbs. (my first goal at least). I have 2 children, so as most of you know...I never sit still lol. I also walk 2 miles a day, along with some strength training and toning. I am currently eating between 1500 - 1700 calories a day. This is the part where I get confused..not sure where to put my activity level, and whether or not my BMR is too high
Topeze - I'm sorry you're feeling stressed. I am such a freak about having my own space that I would probably lose my sh-t if I had to stay with someone else for an extended amount of time, especially without my husband or kids. Some people will overlook their breed restrictions if you can provide proof of renters insurance showing high liability limits. I don't know if you have renters already or not but you can usually get it for around $10 a month and it provides a discount on your auto insurance (can you tell I'm an insurance agent?). Good luck on finding a place, I'm sure you'll find what you're looking for in no time.
Giggle - Welcome! Your name is adorable!
Yesterday was just an "ok" day. One of my best friends is hitting the road on his motorcycle for an unknown period of time, with no destination in mind. He got rid of all his possessions, boarded up his house and left. I'm jealous of his freedom but so happy for him. Anyways, he stopped by on his way to say goodbye (he lives 2 hrs north of me) and he asked me to go to Carls Jr with him, I caved and got 2 of their crispy tacos. I make sure I worked them into my calories for the day so I didn't go over but I felt guilty for eating all that fat and grossness.
I was pleased when I got home to find that my hubby had already went shopping and bought a bunch of things he knows I like. Now, to stress the significance of this gesture let me explain that I have been with this man for 20 years, since jr high and never, not one single time has he taken it upon himself to go buy groceries. He will stop by the store on his way home if I ask him too but he's never just went. In addition, he isn't a fan of the healthy food I've been eating. He was raised on a farm so he's a red meat and potatoes kinda guy. He works as a commercial superintendant for a large construction company so he stays very fit and can eat pretty much anything he likes without gaining an ounce of fat so he balks when I try to feed him anything healthy, he also bought a bunch of packaged meals for him and the kids so I don't have to stress over cooking two dinners every night. Oh and also I overheard my 19 yr old son ask if they could order pizza and my husband said "no, mom's trying to eat better and we don't need that stuff in the house". I ended up ordering them the pizza anyways and made a mock pizza myself using an english muffin, low fat mozz cheese, and sliced tomato. YUM!
Now I feel bad for putting him on blast for the boob comment.
I hope everyone has a successful day today!
Oh and one more thing. Last night I woke up at 2 am and couldn't go back to sleep. I ended up eating a small snack but I'm not sure whether I should log those calories for yesterday or today, or if it even matters? How would you ladies log it?
kim: It is SO hard to ditch the "instant gratification" mentality. But we've got to. Anything worth doing is worth doing RIGHT and we've got to focus on health, first and foremost or we're just shooting ourselves in the foot. Welcome and good luck on the rest of your journey!
giggle: You are very sweet. I hope to be *truly* ready for that X program, by 2013. Was really hard for me to admit to myself that I couldn't hack it, but at least I'm still searching for that magic something that I love AND can do. I hear Zumba is SO MUCH fun. One of my treats to myself (when I get a *bit* fitter) is going to be to check out a class. I'm pretty clumsy, so it's a little intimidating for me, but I've heard nothing but good. Hope you love it!
dolly: I, personally think you're doing pretty darn awesome. Lots of tips and tricks to breaking a plateau. I'll throw a few out there. Hopefully you can find something that'll work for you. 1. Make sure you are eating enough. Never have over a 500-1000 calories deficit each day. 2. Try zig-zagging your calories. If you're eating 1600 calories a day, plan out a week and eat different amounts (that still average) to 1600 at the end of the week. Random example: Monday: 1400 calories Tuesday: 1700 calories Wednesday 1500 calories Thursday 1300 cals, Friday 1600, Sat 1800 Sunday 1400 (Okay, I just pulled those numbers out randomly so that averages to something like 1528 calories a day, which may or many not work for you, but hopefully you get the idea. Just play with it.) The idea is that this helps "confuse" your metabolism into working a bit more efficiently. 3. Take a week to eat at maintenance calories every single day and then get back into deficits the following week. 4. Shake up your exercise routine LOTS of ideas out there, girl, and they're all supposed to work. Good luck getting out of your slump. You can do it!
pita: We've gotta make time to celebrate special occasions, or we'll go mad. :) Glad you got to see your friend off/sorry he's leaving. Ahh... That was SUPER sweet of your hubby to be more supportive, now! And you did the PERFECT thing, letting them have pizza and finding something else for yourself. I've just learned that I'm going to have to bite the bullet and fix myself a separate mea l, some of the time, when the boy-o's are craving crazy stuff. I am often up until ungodly hours, so I have learned that I *have* to just keep everything on that one day until I get my "real sleep" in... Not sure how to explain it better... But I never wanted to start that whole "Ooh! It's after midnight! I can technically log this on tomorrow's log so my numbers look better!" Just know myself well enough NOT to get that started. BUT... You are probably much saner then me, so do what works best for YOU, hon!
kathryn has inspired me! I am now working very hard to get rid of the "Day One" mentality. This has plagued me for years, and now that I'm really thinking about it, I have wasted SO MUCH time because I tell myself "I will start Monday" or I will start on the 1st." No more!
I tried starting a round of Phase I of the South Beach Diet... Started Monday to kind of reset/cleanse my system. (This really helps me with cravings, too, so it's good (for me) to do. I should probably do it several times a year, but it takes a bit of work. Quite a bit of food prep. All that jazz.) Fell off Tuesday. Back on Wednesday. Fell off, yesterday. (Laughing at myself. I love me, but I'm pretty pathetic with food/drink, sometimes. Or a lot of times.) Beer has suddenly become an “issue.” I can’t drink in moderation. I can’t generally say “no” if beer is offered. So a two week break, there, probably ain’t a bad thing, either.
ANYWAY... Getting rid of this "I need to wait before I can have a clean slate" thing is going to be a HUGE challenge for me. As it's Friday, I'd pretty much convinced myself, "Well, I'll try again Sunday or Monday." And then I thought... SCREW that. I've already messed around too much this month. No more "day one" mentality, right?? So... Attempt III (this week) Day One South Beach. TODAY. And I am going to work VERY hard to do that with all my fitness things. No more waiting for the next day or a fresh week or a new month to start stuff.
Do it NOW.
So this is different. I know if I can truly embrace it, it is REALLY going to help me.