Not motivated anymore and am gaining weight

can not seem to fidn the will to carry on after loosing 21 pounds and seeing no change in myself im slwoly started to gain weight and cant seem to fidn the motivation to start excercising or eating less.

Stop all the negative talk! Say some motivating statements out loud so you can really hear them! Youve lost 21 lbs!! Thats an enormous accomplishment! Focus on the positive and you will reach your goal weight! I get so down on myself as well. Go outside and take a 10 minute walk, go in a closed room where no one can hear you and scream at the top of your lungs..it helps you get out your frustration.

I know you can do it!

If you lost 21 lbs, and according to your bio you started at 236, that means that you lost almost 9% of your bodyweight!!!  I find it hard to believe that you see no change in yourself, or that others don't see it.  Your clothes must be hanging on you!

I get down myself, and fall off my program.   I call it 'having my head up my a--".  I had my "head up my a--" last week.  Today I am trying to remove it.  Reading posts and helping others has taught me one thing.  We all struggle, and we all have bad days or weeks, or even months sometimes.  Decide that just for today, you will log your food, control your eating, and exercise.  Don't worry about tomorrow or yesterday.  Then, tomorrow, decide to do it again just for the day, and over, and over.

Lindsay's right.  Focus on the positive!  You lost 9% of your bodyweight!  Good luck!

TOTALLY understand how you get there.  But whenever we do something that is wrong, or on the wrong path, we can't beat ourselves up.  Where do you go from here?  That is the measure of the kind of person you are.  Love yourself!  You deserve good things.  Including being at your goal weight.  As the other people who replied said, we struggle with this.  Maybe not everyday, but a lot of days.  Don't beat yourself up.  Pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again.

well in the past before 2009 I had many a diet disappointment...however this year when I hit plateaus I did a natural colon cleanse not kits, just good foods and the weight started going off again. 

I checked my BP and pulse in January 2009 and it was really bad so I made rhe decision I wanted to live a healthy life and no more of this gaining weight and then losing it weight loss programs.

This time I said I would do it!! 

Jan I was 202lbs, I am 174lbs now and will be 167lbs May31st...it took determination and discipline but it is working.  After years of disappointment..I will do it...

and you can do it...if you want to do it...

it is your choice.

We are our best friend, best coach, and greatest motivater OR we are our own worst enemies! You could watch countless inspirational tv shows that make it look easy or make you think its possible OR you can MAKE IT POSSIBLE! DO IT!! No one else is going to do it for you! Only you can make the changes you need to make! I am training for a sports competition in Israel this July and last October when I got the news I was on the team I was so excited but also so afraid!

I have struggled with an eating disorder for the past 7 years and losing weight was always quick and painful and more of a chore!!! I did not enjoy my weight loss b/c it was endless. There was not goal weight, the scale was always wrong and not low enough. I decided to do it the healthy way this time around and I have busted ass to get to where I am now! BABY STEPS..is what my trainer says..

Celebrate those little victories b/c when you add them all up theyre HUGE!!

Positive thoughts! You can do it!

ps..I would strongly advise people to only weigh themselves once a week. Same time and same day for the best accuracy. Also judge your weightloss by the way your clothes fit and not by your actual weight (lb/kg). I was 165 lb years ago and a size 12 and now at the same weight I am a size 8!

aah!
I can relate T_T!
I lost 40 lbs in 2008... now I'm kinda having trouble with maintaining since march s: gained 7 lbs and not feeling motivated... not exercising....getting this horrible binge episodes where I can't stop eating even though I feel sick... and asdfff lots of drama. I know 7 lbs is not THAT much but...I'm kinda terrified of gaining back everything.
though this week I decided I'll go back to my healthy eating habits FOR REAL. because during the last months I said it but didn't do it....
thankyou for making this post... the replies helped me too :3
we can do it!! :D

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I totally understand. Lost 15 pounds and this past month I've lost 0.  What I like to do is take a break from food deficits.  I still go to the gym (feels good, and when you've done it 4 months, 5 days a week it becomes routine). Anyway, I took a week or 2 off deficits and when I started again, I lost 4-5 pounds in about 1.5 weeks.

It's okay. Keep moving and doing some activity (at least for your heart) and get focused again on eating less in about a week or two. 

The only thing defeting you is your attitude. Give yourself a break...YOU LOST 21 POUNDS! HELLLLOOOOOOOOOOO!???

Great quote from my trainer...

"You push the weight, the weight does NOT push you!"

Keep it in mind when youre lifting weight and/or trying to lose weight.