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Obsessing over food and weight loss


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Hi Everyone,

So i don't know whats wrong with me but i've realised that i've become obsessed over food and my weight loss. It seems all i do all day is think about what to eat and what i want to eat and what i would like to eat but can't eat. Its starting to affect my life a little bit because my friends say all i talk about these days is how fat i am and how i can't really eat particular foods and what i can eat, all about diet and weight loss. 

So a bit of history about me, i am 20, 5'5" and i started my weight loss three months ago in the beginning of march. I was 158 pounds and for two weeks i was uneducated and ate about 400 calories a day (i know, thinking about it now i really do wonder why i was so stupid). However this made me 147 pounds in two weeks. Then i decided to eat normally increasing to about 1200, because all i did was sit and sleep at home all day. This caused me to plateau and gain some weight and lose some weight. 

I also started to exercise because we got a treadmill two months ago. And i started reading more about how to eat right and since a month ago have increased my calorie intake to 1500 and have joined the gym to do weights. In the last two weeks i've broken my plateau and am now at 143 pounds (my bathroom scale at home was lying! i thought i was 143 pounds two months ago but i was actually 147 pounds). Another thing about the last two weeks, i have actually increased my percentage of fat intake and ate regularly on some days with my family. The reason being, i never gained weight when i ate normally with my family, it was only due to my recent holiday in New York that i gained about 10kilos (20pounds or so).

But now, i can't stop thinking about food and obsessing over everything. It makes me very irritable and i keep snapping at people for no particular reason. It is also effecting my uni work as i can't seem to concentrate on my assignments, i just keeping going on to log in calories and see what i could eat and what i have been eating. Then planning out my days meals and either ending up binge eating or following it but during the hours im not eating, i just constantly think about my next meal.

I also seem to have intense cravings for pancakes and bread and it doesn't help my mum works at a bakery and always brings fresh bread and cakes home. I used to hate eating the bread and cakes.  

I've also haven't had my period for the last three months and for some reason i always feel cold? The last few days i've also eaten dinner and then (sorry this might be a bit gross), i'd burp and a little bit of my dinner would be regurgitated, but i just keep it back down.

I don't understand whats happening? has anyone else experienced this and how did you get out of it? Its very distressing and distracting.

 

Thanks if anyone could help

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Been there, yeah.  Still am, sometimes.  Not the lost-period thing, wrong gender and so others will have to chime in on that, but the obsessing thing.

Some thoughts:

Do you have a goal date to reach your target weight?  If so, I'd suggest throwing it away.  All it does is add more stress you don't need.  This will sound sappy but it's true: you'll get where you want to be eventually.  You're 20, you've got 70 years or more left to live, what's a couple extra months compared to that if taking just a little longer is what it takes to lose weight with less stress?

Do you have a goal weight?  Just about everybody does.  Maybe throw that away too, stop worrying about getting down to some number on the scale and concentrate only on doing all the right things: eating better, getting enough exercise, getting enough sleep, doing enough fun/relaxing things to combat the other stresses in your life.  Do all that and the weight will slowly take care of itself.  It's hard to know what a good goal weight is anyway until you get down there and see what it looks like, I've been at this almost 2 years and I'm on my FOURTH goal weight (and trying to take my own advice and abandon the idea of having one at all).

According to a BMI calculation you're at 23.8, which is considered a healthy weight.  I realize that doesn't mean you like the way you look at that weight, I'm at 23.0 and still trying to lose a little pot-belly.  But maybe you could take a couple weeks off from trying to lose weight and just aim to maintain (a zero calorie deficit), maybe work on adding a little muscle mass.  I had to do that the first time I plateaued in order to get my body willing to burn fat again, and it was a tremendous help mentally in breaking out of the obsessive mode I was constantly in (and sometimes will still fall into).

For cravings, are you trying to go low-carb and avoid things like bread and pancakes?  If so I'd suggest skipping low-carb, it's known to create cravings like that and make it harder to stick to your plan. 

Whether you're low-carbing or not, how often are you aiming to eat?  The standard three meals a day works best for some people, but others do better with 5 or 6 smaller meals or even just "graze" throughout the day with no official "meals" at all.  I do that on weekends, where the only real meal I have is breakfast.  I find it keeps me from thinking too much about when I next get to eat if that time isn't very far away.

I get the always-feeling-cold thing too.  Well not this week, it's been nearly 90 (er... 32 Celsius) every day.  It can happen when you're restricting calories, your body is trying to put off burning fat so it'll last longer, and it figures some cold extremities are worth it if the emergency fuel reserves (the fat) last longer.  That's normal and nothing to worry about.

thanks for your reply! its made me feel better =) and less weirded out! 

Yeah i have a goal weight and goal time and i guess yes its time to throw that away =) and destress. 

I used to be 132 pounds and extremely happy, eating normally and actually eating a lot of junk food (but its australian portion sized, so i when i got to america and ate american portion sizes, the weight just piled on like a brickhouse). Anyways back then i never put on any weight. So yeah this is alll whoa for me. 

I'm trying to just eat a bunch of everything, all good food but not restricting myself with any particular things except sugar and salt. 

And i tend to graze throughout the day because i get hungry quite often.

haha its currently autumn in Australia so i've been rather cold lately 

 

thanks so much for your reply! its made me feel much more normal and calm =) 

anniexlol,

I have a few ideas that may (or may not) help:

1.  about the food obsession - I have the same issue.  What I do every weekend is go to the grocery store and buy what I'm going to eat for the week.  Then I sit down on CC and plan out what I will eat each day and if it's not on the plan...I CAN'T eat it.  It might help with the distraction since you'll already have your whole week planned out and once you get into the habit, it may take your mind off counting.

2.  the menstrual cycle issue - I've been there numerous times.  It doesn't come, it comes early, it's last a long time, it lasts a few days...I'm all over the place.  My doctor told me it's because it has to do with your diet and fat content.  You said that you've been all over the place with your calorie intake.  That doesn't help.  You should try to stick to the same number of calories every day.  The idea above might help with this issue too.

3.  The bread is calling to you - I've been seeing a naturopathic doctor for about a year.  I was having some issues with inflammation and stomach distress.  Come to find out I had an intestinal yeast infection that fed off of all of the bread and sugar that I was eating.  Once I cut that out of my diet, I felt like a totally different person.  It was SO DIFFICULT!  It took about 2 weeks of not eating either of those foods to really get rid of the cravings.  Now, I could give or take bread and sugary foods (except chocolate during that special time of the month).

As for the burping thing...I wish that I could help.  Sounds like a bit of reflux.  I can't burp, so that's not an issue.  LOL!!

Good luck with everything.  I hope that someone has the answers that you are looking for.

Best wishes!

Hey sarsydiak,

I like your ideas and they answer some of my questions! haha

i usually plan out my day, but i guess i'll plan out my week! but the problem is that i live with my parents and ... well i have to fight for the kitchen haha and also fight all the nice food they cook. 

I think i'll just be more consistent with my calories and not limit my fat intake. 

Wow! you fought off bread cravings! i've fought off sugary cravings even though everyday i sell people lollies and chocolate! but im all good now and haven't had either for over a month =D!

 

Thanks for your advice im going to try to plan for my week

Everything that u have described has happened to me when i was in high school, i used to be orthorexic. (I'm a medical student so let's do it this way)

So let's note ur symptoms

       &nb sp;               &nb sp;  Feeling cold (hypothermia) Loss of body fat creates it so that the body has no way of insulating and keeping heat anymore. Your body burns fat to increase body temperature.

       &nb sp;               &nb sp;  Obession over food is taking over life (psychological symptom): you should consider, is diet everything for u? what is more important? set ur priorities.

       &nb sp;               &nb sp;  Cravings : unbalanced diet. For your body to function normally it requires that u intake certain foods, like amino acids ( found in proteins, building the structure of ur body) calcium, vit B, C, iron etc.. If ur body is missing one of these, it will crave for the loss of certain nutrition. So u will feel cravings.

       &nb sp;               &nb sp;  Irritationn: ur body is stressed bc it cannot work properly as u have not a balanced diet.

       &nb sp;               &nb sp;  Loss of concentration: same cause as before, if ur body is not functioning properly it will not be able to focus. It is only thinking of how to obtain the nutrition it lacks or seeking for what to do to "save" ur body. 

       &nb sp;               &nb sp;  Retarded period (Amenorrhea) Indicates a failure of hypothalamic-pituitary-gonadal interaction to produce cyclic changes in the endometrium resulting in menses. In other words the periods stop or do not start. Secondary amenorrhea is the absence of period for more than 3 months. Anxiety and emotional distress can also cause a missed period.

I am not saying u cannot lose weight. When lossing weight u should consider increasing ur metabolism, and this can be done by exercising, eating fiber (veggies), u should drink green tea, eat blueberries.

Some healthy foods include

 - broccoli, spinach, whole grains, nuts, fish, fruits, etc

in this site, they can count the nutritional benefits of the foods u consume, so u can know if u r missing one or the other. In this manner, ur body will not lack of the nutrition it needs. ( click food log then analysis)

Is losing weight better, or is trying to get a fit body better?

losing weight the unhealthy weight might be fast but will present the symptoms u indicated, but u should lose weight in terms of making ur body become healthier and stronger.  ( for example, losing a bit of fat percentage, increasing muscle percentage *lifting weights do not "bulk" u up if u consume less calores than u need, or the same amount of calores that u need, it will tone u down) muscle burn more calories than fat.

good luck and be Healthy :)

Hi sandyyyy,

Your reply really does explain a lot of the things. I am eating all of the right foods and eating completely clean but i think with the calorie restriction i sometimes end up limiting myself with them. However at the end of the day i usually end up eating a ton of whole grains, both from breakfast (all bran + weetbix) and snacks (muesli). 

I think for the next two weeks im going to eat normally with my family, they eat a very asian diet and are both skinny and extremely healthy. I used to be the same before my holiday to new york. I think i better let my body act normal and neutralise a bit. 

Thanks for the advice! =D i shall be healthy! 

hey! you sound just like me! except for i haven't lost my period or anything yet..

but yeah i can't stop obsessing either, and the funny thing is that even though i count my calories and stuff, i still always manage to overeat hahahaaha

Original Post by anniexlol:

But now, i can't stop thinking about food and obsessing over everything. It makes me very irritable and i keep snapping at people for no particular reason. It is also effecting my uni work as i can't seem to concentrate on my assignments, i just keeping going on to log in calories and see what i could eat and what i have been eating. Then planning out my days meals and either ending up binge eating or following it but during the hours im not eating, i just constantly think about my next meal.

I've also haven't had my period for the last three months and for some reason i always feel cold?

 

Woah, that's JUST like me, right down to the 3 months,

I started at 165, and 5'8

I developed really unhealthy eating habits (othorexia), all I ate was health foods, but never more than 1000 calories a day, it only lasted a month or two though, so most of the wieght I lost was lost in a healthy way.

I'm trying to stop losing wieght, but I don't like the idea of eating at maitenance...last week I had over 2,000 calories left that I didn't eat, and I dropped an extra pound :\

I used to plan out my meals and snacks each day, sometimes the day before, and wrote out how many calories I was allowed each day (1300-1800), I became very grumpy all the time, and what's worse was the closer I got to my goal, the more obsessed I became. I would write everything I would eat that day in my assignment pad, add up the calories, see how many calories my week's defecit was, etc.

 

I started maitenance 2 weeks ago tomorrow, I'm supposed to be eating 2200-2300 calories a day, but that has only happened 1/3 of the time.

I'm no longer planning out meals anymore though, which is good... I think some of it was because living in a house with all unhealthy eaters made (makes) me anxious, hopefully when I'm in college I'll get completely 100% better (I still log everything I eat each day and write in how many calories)

 

Hahahha its good to know that everyone else is going through the same thing =)

Since eating normally with my family a few days ago, i no longer crave certain foods ... e.g peanut butter which i would non stop crave when i was on my diet! I just eat whatever my mum cooks and just eat healthy. However i did have a block of toblerone last night, but that used to be quite standard when i was at my normal weight before.

I'm also less irritable! and don't feel as obsessive! i think i just needed to give my body a break! =) 

One thing though ... i got sick last night! but i might have caught that off someone at work because the two people i work around most at the moment are sick .. so yeah .. but besides that all is well! maintaining for a while is fantastic before i get back to it to finish at my goal weight =D!! 

Its also good because i have exams coming up now 

Thanks leptos, you can pm me if you like too =) 

i did think that i was developing an eating disorder but i've managed to not go there, i haven't gone low cal since when i started three months ago and these last few days of eating with my family have been good. 

It's like im back to normal! and i also don't crave unnecessary junk and i eat when im hungry. It all just comes natural when you don't obsess. 

leptos i hope you get out of your situation because it does sound distressing especially with your GCSEs. Good Luck! at least you know its a problem and your working on it, most people don't and they just downward spiral. =/ 

Original Post by anniexlol:

Hi sandyyyy,

Your reply really does explain a lot of the things. I am eating all of the right foods and eating completely clean but i think with the calorie restriction i sometimes end up limiting myself with them. However at the end of the day i usually end up eating a ton of whole grains, both from breakfast (all bran + weetbix) and snacks (muesli). 

I think for the next two weeks im going to eat normally with my family, they eat a very asian diet and are both skinny and extremely healthy. I used to be the same before my holiday to new york. I think i better let my body act normal and neutralise a bit. 

Thanks for the advice! =D i shall be healthy! 

 r u feeling better now hun?

Hi Sandy!

I'm great now thanks for asking! =D I've been doing this big breakfast thing where i eat a big breakfast and medium lunch and small dinner. Its been working really well as i don't feel the urges to snack during the day and I don't count the calories. But occasionally i do to see if i'm maybe going overboard but i always find that i'm within my correct calorie range - 1300-1500. 

I guess I have learnt to eat mindfully when i have a BIG proper breakfast ! Which is fantastic! 

=) 

I too live at home, and sometimes it can be tough keeping calories in check. It sounds like you're stressed (lost period, lack of concentration, maybe you're breaking out more too?). I had that problem when I started. It's good you've adjusted your intake and you understand what's healthy now. That's great! Take a break from food. Just relax. I'm naturally a grazer, but that would lead to me eating way less than I should. I'm hungry constantly, but it doesn't take much to fill me up (a hand full of carrots, half a sandwich, etc). When I was eating 3 meals a day, I would eat more than I needed because I didn't want to snack between meals, and didn't want to be hungry! I have found the balance though, and that's made all the difference for me. I graze throughout the day. Carrots, a pop tart, some toast, basically whatever (moderately) healthy stuff I want. It only brings me to about 800 calories for the day, which is clearly not enough. Then I have dinner with my family. I'm sure you know, family dinners can be very calorie dense! Our dinners are anywhere from 500-800, which puts me right in my goal range.

I'm enjoying eating! I eat what I like, and not stressed. Since I quit micromanaging my eating, I have had a normal period, I'm not irritable, and I'm sleeping better. I eat when I'm hungry, I stop when I'm full, and I enjoy eating with my family and spending time with them. This system might not work for you, but it has helped me a whole lot. Find a system that works. What you're doing now isn't.

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