Somedays I wish I could disapear...
Hey Everybody,
I'm new in town. Last year I weighed 187 and thought to myself what in the world am I doing! I think I had tried on a pair of pants that didn't fit anymore and totally got upset. This morning before work I weighed in at 130 and that's great and everything except now I have problems.. Girls hate me, Boys make gross comments, my closet is over flowing, I'm always comparing myself and I live on the dang scale! I was happy when I was fat now I'm miserable! Whats up with that!
Chelsea*
I'm sorry you are feeling overwhelmed right now.
Is the closet overflowing with clothes you don't fit into anymore? You could do something about that today. Get rid of everything that doesn't fit.
Why do girls hate you? Certainly that's not about your weight, unless you are constantly bragging about it, or something.
Why does anyone feel like they can make "gross comments"? Is this at work? Can you report the offenders? If not, just tell them that you find those types of comments unacceptable... or roll your eyes and walk away (<-- that's what I do). Don't let the comments get to you.
As for the comparing yourself and living on the scale, I'm sure there are those here that are much more qualified than I am to address those issues. I can't do more than recognise that, yes, those are serious issues.
I hope you are able to move past this bad feeling and find some inner peace.
The problem is between your ears my dear. Stop obsessing, comparing, and maybe even stop weighing yourself for a while.
Original Post by trustwomen:
Maybe you took it too far. Come back to the center a bit, stop obsessing over your weight and stop comparing yourself to others. Ignore the creepy boys and the bitchy girls and focus on your life - your real life, I mean, not your weight. Be kind to people, don't be shallow and obsessed with looks, and some of the girls, at least, will get over it. (And maybe you'll meet a better class of boys).
The problem is between your ears my dear. Stop obsessing, comparing, and maybe even stop weighing yourself for a while.
I agree.
I've been where you are right now about four years ago. I was overweight all my life and after a doctor's appointment where I weighed in at 190 pounds (at 5'3 and age twelve), I got down to 118. Unfortunately, I didn't really do it healthily and was obsessed. I ended up having to go to the doctor weekly to get monitored and eventually turned to binging. When I started to gain weight from that, I was determined to lose weight fast and quick. That resulted in my getting to my highest weight two and a half years later. Since then I decided that I needed to put my health first and to stop obsessing over things and I've been much happier since (and successful too!).
Take a step back. You're obsessing over this and that will lead to no good. Is there anyone you can talk to about it?
Boys your age are retards. As least that's how I remember most of them acting. It gets better. Ignore the 'tards. Find girls who like you because you're you. Weigh yourself once a day and then forget it. Stop comparing yourself to other people. Learn to live in your own skin.
