The somewhat minor annoyances of being overweight -- what are yours?

So, after a little over 3 months using CC and almost 5 months of hard work, today I hit the 10 pound mark!  30 more to go!  And I was thinking... it's really nice that my underwear doesn't fall down anymore.  It had gotten so annoying that since my stomach was sticking out so much, and the waistband of my underwear hit just below the largest part of my stomach, it kept rolling down.  It wasn't so bad when I was wearing jeans which helped to keep them up, but if I was wearing a skirt, I would inevitably have to pull the waistband back up a few times.  Of course now all my pants are starting to fall down, but for that I really just need to suck it up and go shopping for new pants.

We all have the big reasons for losing weight -- wanting to be healthier, wanting to look better, etc.  But what are the little things that nag at you?

Hi Kristenmathers:

I have never posted here before so..hello!

I have to share that when we were in Itawan (korea) a shop keeper chased me down the street yelling "we have big clothes for you!"

I am a widow and feel that no one would want to date someone my size. It has been helpfull to read all of your gripes.

Hi jepatton-

I just joined today also. I have never belonged to any groups on-line but I saw this one and just had to try it. I am so disgusted with my weight gain and the fact that I can't seem to do anything about it. I struggle to breathe when I bend over and I get winded just walking upstairs. I have no energy and can't wear any of the clothes I was wearing a year ago.

I just remarried a year ago to a guy I dated in high school. We hadn't seen each other for 37 years. I should be on cloud nine! Trouble is, cloud nine isn't strong enough to hold up my new found weight!!

im sooo... feeling what your feeling. I have some of the same issues like thighs rubbing together to the point of rawness. My shorts role up in between my legs when i'm walking through wal-mart to the point that by the time i get done grocery shopping i just want to go home and throw the shorts away and go naked! I can't fit into my jeans either. i Gained all my weight in a few months time and it seems like forever getting it off...I use to just have big thighs ,here lately its big all over. In my mine i was skinny til here recently when i went to the beach in a two piece bathing suit, my husband took pics of me and i was crushed at the way i looked......its even hard for me to admit still i"m over weight ,but i don't won't to keep lying to myself (i'm over weight BUT i'm DOING something about it)

My issue/annoyance with being fat is that I always feel like people are judging me, even when they might not be! 

I feel like I don't deserve to have a boyfriend because I'm fat. And the worst is that I feel like my boyfriend's parents don't want him to marry me because I am not healthy and will probably have overweight children. 

Even if they don't think that, I know they were shocked when they first met me. Their health conscious, cross-country runner son bright home a girl who weighs over 200 lbs...imagine that inner reaction!

Just the constant judgements...Or judgements I project on others from myself.  

I've never posted here but I can totally relate. 

For me the worst is listening to all of my thin friends complain about how they need to lose 10lbs.  I mean...come on. 

I've lost 23lbs (from 256 to 234) and you can barely see it.  If they lost even 10lbs they'd all be rails!

I am always the token fat girl.  There is the beautiful one, the funny one, the smart one and the fat one...that is me.  I am so tired of it.

The thighs rubbing together, the roles and the jiggling, I totally sympathize.  There are parts of me that jiggle that just shouldn't.

Angel

Original Post by linz78:

Chub rub.....yeah I'm with you on that one madamq

When you are feeling the effects of your workout and healthy diet and feeling pretty good until you turn round and accidently catch sight of yourself in a mirror or see a photo someone took and crash back to reality that you're still fat and has SO far still to go

When you're walking through town on a night out and there are two guys walking behind you loudly commenting on how fat your ass is (that was about 30lbs ago though but its still pretty huge....always one of the last places to lose!)

When you can't wear all the nice clothes other people are wearing cos they just don't look the same with fat rolls

When you're going on holiday in 8 weeks with your skinny friend who looks great in a bikini and just about anything and you're still feeling like a whale

When you feel like you don't deserve to have a boyfriend and will be single for the rest of your life cos surely nobody would find someone as fat and ugly as you remotely attractive :(

When you feel inferior to your gorgeous, slim friends

When your feeling a bit down and being fat just makes you feel 10 times worse :(

i know all of these soo well!

also not being able to enjoy hot summer days because being very overweight on a day is so uncomfortable.

Original Post by chiquita26:

...

Especially if by some miracle I meet a guy I like and...

yep, and

- thinking he will not like me because of the extra fat

- well he might!!! (happy dance)

- no, he just wants to be friends. DUH!!

Original Post by xcathyxx:

it annoys me that iv lost 40lbs (well not that haha) but that it doesnt look like iv lost that much! its all from my chest area....i wanna loose belly fat!!

i hear ya!

after losing about 40 lbs i went to france, loved it (knowing i have a long way ahead but still) until some small kid started to make fun of how big i was, and is mother was just staring at me with schadenfreude. all confidence gone.

Original Post by mikkselsenmom:

 

Also, women's clothing - why do men get to be comfortable in baggy t-shirts and shorts while I have to wear skintight jeans and top to be trendy?

you are so right. i hate it when perfectly well dressed women are told they could wear something more fitting, tight etc. well some people do not want to, period

Original Post by ajumma:

I would add sitting down...if am walking i'm ok, i don't feel too fat...but the fact that whenever i sit down I need to adjust my pants and bring them a bit up so my love-handles and stomach rolls of fat don't hang over my jeans is a minor annoyance

 Totally agree with this!!!!

I hate seeing myself from a distance in the mirror or window and thinking, "Oh I'm not really that big, it's just the distance distortion" then realizing a skinny person next to me still looks skinny :((

How my head looks miniature on my big body.

Being afraid to be naked in my own house.

Being afraid I might become "the fat mom" when I want to be "the hot mom"

Rings getting too small for my fingers.

My one friend who doesn't think I need to lose any weight...that's not encouraging. (and I secretly wonder if they want me to stay big because they are big)

Not being able to have the energy for anything, and being clumsy, and not being able to dance anymore.

My three year old pointing to the stretch marks on my belly and saying "you have owies"

OWIE :(

When my thighs touch when I walk, stand, pretty much do anything

When skinny people eat whatever they want and stay skinny when I eat nothing but veggies and water and look like a whale.

No energy

No confidence

Being overweight sucks!!!!!

Amen sister--You got it all right--Pink Lady--Jnance44

I know its gross, but perspiring more. When I was thinner, I don't think I had to worry so much about setting the A/C at just 'perfect' to prevent wilting.

Having arms bigger than your boyfriend's.

Muffin-tops.

Looking like you're a widow in mourning because black is about the only color that flatters you.

Not having fun because you're thinking about being the fattest girl in the group.

I have to say that flying on an airplane and fearing the need of a seat belt extender.

Also having 2-3 sizes of clothes in my closet because of the yo yo dieting.

Yeah, I hate it when you see yourself from afar in a reflection or otherwise. I see the bulge of my lower back/butt and I can't believe it is that big. I am happier in my life the less I see my body and the less that people take pictures of me. I get excited about losing a few pounds, and then see myself and I want to scream!

I hate how plus-size pants still only have 5 belt loops. If I want to wear a belt, I have to add belt loops or put up with the belt coming up over the jeans and chaffing my belly.

Something that I've had a problem with my whole life is squeezing past seated people, like in the theater or lecture halls. I had to do that last fall when I was a good 20 pounds heavier, and I ended up getting a big bruise on one thigh from the fold-down desk top on the lecture hall seat. And my classmates were trying to take a test. -_-

Similarly, going through narrow spaces. Having to worry about not being able to go through or overestimating how much space there is and banging into something isn't fun.

What I hate- I've gained 30 pounds in the last two years- 

waving -to my kids and seeing my flabby arms waving again-hello double wave

 my bras never fitting right- having to stuff and re-place them throughout the day-

Knowing that I'm actually a size 14, but can wear stretchy 12's.. oh isn't spandex in cotton great! No, because deep in my heart I know I'm a 14.

feeling unmotivated, but sick of feeling fat-

Today is my first day:)

1)Feeling lost in my own body.  Since i've lost control over my dietary habits, i've been on a slow and steady weight gain for about five years.  This means that every few months my body is new to me and I'm unfamiliar with how to use it.

2)Trying to find new ways to keep myself from touching myself (no, not like that)!  The fatter I get, the more places poke out and touch myself.  This reduces my range of motion!

3)Trying to find a bra that actually fits!  And once I do, trying to find clothes that de-accentuate my fat back and the deep grooves that the bra digs into it to keep the girls up.

4)Lunch-lady elbows.  Yep, i've got that little pucker where my elbow is an innie and not an outie.

5)Meaning well friends who tell you that you *could* be really pretty.  Really?  I thought I was just ugly.  Thank you, it never occurred to me before that I could just loose weight.

6)The fact that i've been here before and I told myself “never again.”

7)Not ever being effortlessly pretty.

8)Dismissive looks from guys (I used to turn heads).

I remember when I used to work at a bank and there was a strict dress code, so the employees were thrilled when they started "Casual Friday."  But the condition was that you had to wear the bank-issued shirt TUCKED IN to your khaki pants.  First of all, I knew the X-large (biggest size they offered) shirt would not fit me.  Second of all, I would never, ever tuck a shirt in with my bottom.  Being the only fat one there, I was alone in this predicament.  No one could believe it when I came in on the first Friday dressed in my usual dress code clothes.  I was too mortified to tell them why I wasn't participating-I don't even remember the excuse I made up.

You see, it's often a feeling of isolation, and it depressed you.