Title im afraid to loose weight!!

Ok, last year i was 195 lbs and then got down to 160 lbs and was a size 8( in highschool) but when i was skinny, guys where checking me out all the time. I didnt mind when it was a cute college guy, but most of the time it was creepy older men. So summer started and i started a new school and through out that time i had gained all the weight back. So now im afraid to loose it again because i didnt like the type of attention i was getting. Do you have any advise, tips, or comments? I need help

I know exactly how you feel, I went through the same problem. After being heavy my whole life I never had to deal with the attention factor. I don't really have an answer for you, but I think the best thing you can do is just ignore it.You worked hard to be where you are and nobody has a right to take that away from you. For every creepy guy who stares at you imagine how many cute guys are staring at you too. I hope this helps :)

Thank you!!

Lots of guys are creeps, after being verbally abused (calling me stupid and disgusting) and sexually harassed by my boss (touching my lower back, putting his arm around me and inviting me to have a dirty weekend with him, type thing) I had a breakdown and gained and then gained with meds. And this was not my first boss to sexually harass me.

At first with the breakdown my self esteem had me not wanting any attention even from my bf. After time I wanted to improve but in the back of my head I think you'll just get that attention again and it will ruin your life again, it took about 2 years before I did decide I wanted to lose more than just the depression and med gain I wanted to be the the best I have ever been and not let creeps like that make me feel bad for being pretty.

Basically there are underlying issues that need to be addressed, healing that needs to be done. Upping self esteem and learning to love yourself despite jerks and creeps! You are better than them!

Thank you!

Thank you!

I can so understand this. I once dated a guy who was insecure. Without realizing it, I started eating and eating and over time had gained 20 pounds without even realizing it.  It was my way of protecting myself from unwanted advances and my boyfriend was completely okay with the weight gain.

20 pounds heavier wasn't who I was. I lost the weight and lost the boyfriend too