Lots of guys are creeps, after being verbally abused (calling me stupid and disgusting) and sexually harassed by my boss (touching my lower back, putting his arm around me and inviting me to have a dirty weekend with him, type thing) I had a breakdown and gained and then gained with meds. And this was not my first boss to sexually harass me.
At first with the breakdown my self esteem had me not wanting any attention even from my bf. After time I wanted to improve but in the back of my head I think you'll just get that attention again and it will ruin your life again, it took about 2 years before I did decide I wanted to lose more than just the depression and med gain I wanted to be the the best I have ever been and not let creeps like that make me feel bad for being pretty.
Basically there are underlying issues that need to be addressed, healing that needs to be done. Upping self esteem and learning to love yourself despite jerks and creeps! You are better than them!
I can so understand this. I once dated a guy who was insecure. Without realizing it, I started eating and eating and over time had gained 20 pounds without even realizing it. It was my way of protecting myself from unwanted advances and my boyfriend was completely okay with the weight gain.
20 pounds heavier wasn't who I was. I lost the weight and lost the boyfriend too