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weight loss takes time, how to stay focus?


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I know I won't see the rest of my fat gone in a week, but lately i've been running out of patience, therefore making me eat bad foods and having UNNECESSARY cheat days, that eventually slows down my weight loss even more! 

 

Any advice to stay focus? I really want this, I do and I know it's about being consistent.

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Hey I can kinda relate to u. What I usually do is remind myself that right after that meaningless snack, it's gone and I've gained nothing. You should also try and set a goal, if it's a weight goal, a marathon, or to get in shape for certain activities. It also helps to have a buddy to work out with. For me I want to learn parkour not just because it is a great workout but it also looks AMAZING!! I hope this helps.
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Thank you, very helpful. I know what I have to do to get this done...now it's about having discipline. I mean when i eat healthy, i feel great and when i eat crappy food i feel like crap...but sometimes that evil voice inside my heads gets the best of me, but no more. We got this. Thanks again :)

One Week, ONE WEEK. Thats how long my great diet went. I fell off my woohoo diet wagon. So don't feel bad. I really need to get back on it though..

 

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Set small goals to keep your mind of the big picture.  I have to do this.  When I started, I had 100lbs to lose, and I can't even explain how hopeless and frustrated I was.  So, I started with 'I'm going to get into the 220s, below 200, 180s, etc'  Celebrate EVERY loss!

 

Also, I saw this quote the other day that I think about whenever I want to snack.  "What do you want more; that snack you've wanted a few hours or the body you've wanted for years?"

 

Take it ONE day at a time.  Wake up and focus only on getting through that day.  Eventually you won't have to think about it anymore.  You'll just do it ;)

 

 

And, one last thing, a person above me has recommended rewarding yourself.  That is definitely something you should do, but I find that rewarding myself with a rest day or eating something nice doesn't work for me.  Instead, for every small goal (like I said, mine is every 10lbs) I buy myself an nice nailpolish (like OPI or something), a new shirt, or I splurge on the red hairdye I REALLY wanted.  Usually something in the $20 range, which is more than doable every 2-3 months.  Something that, when added to the 10lb loss, will help me feel even better about myself :D

 

You CAN do this!!!

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Omg thank you!! Great advice!!! Day by day...

lupita - how long have you been restricting calories for? If it's been a few months you may be burnt out and just need a break eating at maintenance for a while before you feel recharged.

Staying focused is a constant challenge for me. I began my lifestyle change about 14 months ago. The first mnonth I lost nothing but was becoming more aware of my choices and keeping an honest record of what I ate...everything I ate. I did really well setting weight loss goals. I started small. My goal was one pound a week. in 5 months I lost 34 pounds. It was slow but steady...then I hit a plateau...a super long plateau, something like 7 months. I was discouraged but then I realized that although I was not loosing anymore I also had not gained. I was still frustrated but was able to be more acceptant. It was not until I changed my goals that the weight starte coming off again. I made goals like "I will at least 2 cups of raw veggies for 3 days" or "I will eat 300 calories for breakfast for 5 days". Basically, what I was doing is taking focus off of the weight loss and putting it on making healthy choices. The weight loss came naturally and my focus came back. So, bottom line...sometimes you need to change your goals, focus on something else to maintain your overall focus. 

I know how you feel.  I believe most of us here on this website feel the same pain.  Generally, a food craving will last for around 10 minutes.  When you get a craving for something, try to get your mind busy doing something else, even if it is just playing a senseless computer game, or a game of Sodoku, or a crossword puzzle.  And, remember that if you do resist the urge, you will feel like you have really accomplished something.  It will be easier each time you resist.  Good luck.

86thetomato, you are awesome.  I think I will tape your quote "what do you want more: that snack you've wanted a few hours or the body you've wanted for years" on my pantry cabinet!  and love your reward idea too, I've lost about 50lbs since starting my new lifestyle in 2010, but the past few months I've just been feeling blah and the snacking is getting out of control.  I think you just helped me hop back onto the weight loss wagon and given me the push I needed to start over.  you're right, I do still want that body much more than these crappy snacks!

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Set small goals to keep your mind of the big picture.  I have to do this.  When I started, I had 100lbs to lose, and I can't even explain how hopeless and frustrated I was.  So, I started with 'I'm going to get into the 220s, below 200, 180s, etc'  Celebrate EVERY loss!

 

Also, I saw this quote the other day that I think about whenever I want to snack.  "What do you want more; that snack you've wanted a few hours or the body you've wanted for years?"

 

Take it ONE day at a time.  Wake up and focus only on getting through that day.  Eventually you won't have to think about it anymore.  You'll just do it ;)

 

 

And, one last thing, a person above me has recommended rewarding yourself.  That is definitely something you should do, but I find that rewarding myself with a rest day or eating something nice doesn't work for me.  Instead, for every small goal (like I said, mine is every 10lbs) I buy myself an nice nailpolish (like OPI or something), a new shirt, or I splurge on the red hairdye I REALLY wanted.  Usually something in the $20 range, which is more than doable every 2-3 months.  Something that, when added to the 10lb loss, will help me feel even better about myself :D

 

You CAN do this!!!


Your reward system is awesome!  What a great idea.  I used to reward myself with junk food which of course led to feeling bad, and guilty.  Now I'm going to buy myself something nice instead!

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86thetomato, you are awesome.  I think I will tape your quote "what do you want more: that snack you've wanted a few hours or the body you've wanted for years" on my pantry cabinet!  and love your reward idea too, I've lost about 50lbs since starting my new lifestyle in 2010, but the past few months I've just been feeling blah and the snacking is getting out of control.  I think you just helped me hop back onto the weight loss wagon and given me the push I needed to start over.  you're right, I do still want that body much more than these crappy snacks!

Yay!  So glad I could help!  You can do this and you'll get to your goal!  Good luck on the rest of your journey :D

Dont give up. I joined the gym 7 months ago and at first i thought i would not be able to keep it up. When i started i was 13.5 stone now i am 11 stone. My waist was 42" , now it is 32"

I lift weights 4 days a week and do cardio 3 days a week

As for food, the only things i gave up were sweets, crisps and fizzy drinks. I eat every 3 hours.i am NEVER hungry.

If you want me to put up my workout and eating plan, please let me know.

Believe me, if i can di it, you can do it. I was the laziest guy ever and all i did all day was eat and then when i went to wirk at night i would spend most of the night eating too.

I never thought i would be able to get even this far.the person i was seems like a stranger to me now.i have no intension if ever going back to the way i was.

Im even considering going back to college this year to become a fitness instructor.this time last year i would never dream of doing that.

If anybody needs any advice please let me know.

Losing focus has always been a pitfall for me... not seeing results quickly enough would have me fall off track. However I am just re-reading a book that I found helped "tweak" my thinking and keep my eyes on the long term benefits of what I am doing daily. It's called "The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy. I strong reccommend it - it's a relatively easy read, and absolutely reinforces the concept of how making small changes today brings about incredible results in the future. It's not weight loss specific, more so about goals in every area of your life.

I really had to read this to make sure I didn't post this myself.  I have been feeling this way this week the most.  Last week I was on par with my diet and exercise and lost 2/10ths of a pound.  I was so pissed off at my body that I made the conscious decision to abuse it this week.  I spent all day Saturday consuming as many Girl Scout cookies as I could open, candy corn, and Valentine's conversation hearts.  Needless to say at the end of the day I felt like total crap and sick to my stomach.  I thought the next day I could move on and start fresh but my mentality was still negative.  Last night I discovered this website and I am really trying to keep a positive attitude.  I keep telling myself it may not be coming off as fast as I want but it is still coming off and if I give up, the weight will come back on.  I wish you luck in your journey, it is a very difficult road to travel but it is worth it even if it only comes of 1 ounce at a time.  Eventually those ounces add to a pound.  Good luck!

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So so true. You know something that I have been noticing is that I will have so much oatmeal on the weekends, or even cereal because I wasn't having those things on the week days. Therefore, resulting in carb overload! So, I decided if I love those things so much, why can't i have them, but in a WISE way. For example, yes I love oatmeal, so i bought the Kashi Go Lean hot cereal and I even bought the kashi high protein cereal and almond milk. That way i;m not depriving myself from having these things and i will not be binging them on the weekends. Thank you so much for your reply. This is all a learning process because it's a LIFESTYLE change.

86thetomato:::

I LOVE what you mentioned from the 10 lbs comment to the lil gifts to self after accomplishing.

I have been struggling to do the right things as well and your Quote touched me as well.

Thank you sooo much!!!! I'm so encouraged today Wink

This has been an interesting discussion.  I can relate to everyone. 6 months ago I lost 65 pounds and am working on losing 7 more, but I have been on plateau since last June.  I'm pretty serious about keeping this weight off, so staying focused and motivated weren't exactly my problem, but not getting frustrated has been.  Using calorie counter this past 4 weeks has helped me nudge the numbers down again, ozees at a time, and it is sooo rewarding to see. 

I keep two thoughts in mind that keep me focused.  The first one is the thought that about 80% of us who work hard to lose weight statistically put it back on.  That thought is horrifying to me.  But it also clues me in that I have to be vigilant always because the weight will indeed come back if I am not always mindful.  There is both a price to pay and a daily reward built right in to this effort.  The trick, I think, is to build up more and more food choices that I really like that are good, healthy, and calorie conscious so that I actually prefer to eat the way I do now. Eventually it doesn't feel like a sacrifice at all.  Its just what I do and I like doing it.

The second thought I have kept in mind is the advice that it takes about two full years for us to wrap our heads fully around this new lifestyle and make it natural to us.  Day after day we are each reworking our preferences of food, our tastes, teaching our bodies to love movement.  I can tell you after 18 months into this process that it is true that the longer I do this the easier it is.  I have found it's important to break it down into small goals  and then celebrate successes (yes, sometimes just not GAINING weight during those damn plateaus can be a valid success). Because time is working with me in everything I do in this weight loss effort.

 

 

I couldn't agree more with haroldrpieters--that is exactly what I did to help me when I started my own journey (see...not calling it a diet, because it's not!;)), because I knew this was something I wanted, but I also knew how easily I can get discouraged. I made sure that I allowed myself anything I wanted, and in doing that I had to learn how to make room and move things around-that did cause some hungry nights, but I learned quickly. Now I'm -70lbs and LOVING-IT!

Know that you CAN do it! If I can do it, you can do it!

Well, I just started my weight loss journey, but I can tell you what has helped me at everything else I've done and been successful at. 

Keep your goal in front of you.  That is where this website has helped me a lot.  Also, Pinterest, the fitness part also helps keep it in front of me. Just browsing there and seeing the different things helps remind me.

But the second thing is, like others have said, setting realistic goals and celebrating reaching them.  I remember when I was in undergrad I graduated only making one B.  When other people asked me how I did it, I had to think for a moment.  I never set my mind on having a really high GPA when I graduated.  All I focused on was making an A on the next test.  And somehow it worked. 

Sometimes you can't use end goals though.  Sometimes it is process goals that work best, like "I will eat ____ and I will exercise 45 minutes a day" It works best for me, anyways.  Doing my best is the only way not to feel guilty when I don't get the results I want.

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