WEIGHT LOSS VENT... I want to hear your frustrations....

as a woman trying to loose weight, I know it's hard and frustrating sometimes when you don't see the numbers on the scale budge much.. I know its hard after a long week of exercising you may only see a budge of a half pound...But what I think will help us to not give up the fight is if we had support from others.. so i want to hear your frustrations as well as your continued determination....

Here goes...............

I've been on and off diets for the past 9 years. Every year I get started, and I should say this is the longest I've went doing this good. I've gotten far, but I never held the title long. I've lost over 49 pounds with in the past year- and sometimes it gets hard. Sign a contract with yourself and a gym membership. One of your babies get sick, you miss a week at the gym. Another one gets the bug. You mess another week at the gym. You call in a baby sister. She backs out 30 mins before you head to the gym. You run around with your head off thinking what's waiting on you when you weigh yourself on Monday.

You feel you can never get right. If it's not a fight, then I don't know what it is. It's like fighting Tyson, and he is no easy match. The fat is doubling up on you, and all you can think about is the fear. The fear of not losing 1 pound at all.

The "FEAR" of not losing 1 pound. The fear of gaining a pound come into play. You step on the scale to see you had lost, but then you worry. Is that pound coming back.

So during the next week, you kick tail like it no more time to diet in the world. You are like them people on the biggest loser working your butt off just to see to it that you gain a pound.

BUT.... Somehow during that week of pushing and over doing it, you get no where again. You see no weight lost, and then you see that one bad (A) pound that you lost last week -laughing at you. That fear you was thinking of, that fear you brought back to the hips-gut-thighs- maybe even your boobs. No wait... I think it's trying to make me a new chin. I go over and over with what I did wrong to get this bad (A) pound back, and then I start to think. It was the over doing it. No! It was the not eating right. No! It was all that water I had the night before holding on somewhere to set me up for a depressing fall.

I can hear that pound laughing and saying to the fat cells in my body.. BABY! I'm back. Then you kick it into high gear one more time hoping for a 3 or a 4, and then you weigh in again on Monday, and you see you see -6 pounds, and not a +6 pounds. Then you say.. Thank you god, like you won some award, knowing you have to get back on board and do it all over again.

You get the blues when you are trying to lose weight. You get all upset, and then you fall of your own wagon. Not looking at what you did months back with a major weight lost of 18 pounds that month. You think in your head like a fool...

I did it once, and I know I can do it again. But you can't do it again. You done hit an all time low of the plateau. You try to reset yourself, but that doesn't work for you just then. You go at it again and again. Then you weigh in on monday just to see you have lost .5oz. Then you are on that it's not a pound, but I will take it.

I don't have to take that. But I take it anyway. Sometimes I want to give in and give up, but I can see the fat I lost wanting to be back on me somewhere. They don't care where they land just as long as they have a home.

Well the home isn't me, and I am not all for it.

I'm on Round 12 of an life time of keeping them 49 knock outs where they need to be.. Laying on the mat with a black eye and a busted lip.

I'm not going to give up.. Sorry for the long vent... But you posted, and I'm going to give it to you because this is how I feel at times..

Great post.

Thank you,

Lynn......

 

thank you... that is exactly how I feel... there have been times when i worked my butt off the whole week.. i ate right and exercised plenty... almost killing myself on the elliptical to only see a .4oz weight loss on friday for the whole week.. and i am thinking to myself "all that for nothing".. when will the day come when i can see 3 or 4 pounds a week weight loss..sometimes its so bad that i don't want to drink water before I go to bed because i know that it just added a pound and will i be able to loose that along with the other pounds by morning... my husband constantly telling me i am loosing inches and he can tell i am getting smaller but i am thinking yeah, but thats not what the scale says.. you get on the scale five times a day, even after you use the restroom.. at times it gets so bad that you are afraid to go out to eat with your family... so, i understand all to well... but i will not be defeated again... keep up the work and we will win the battle.

Yeah, we are going to do this. I don't care if it takes me a while to get the rest off. I just have to stay on top of things with this diet thing. I been at this for 9 years, and this is year number 9. I got past the 8th year still holding my title, I didn't let the holidays trip me up. Thats has always been one of my down falls. You know holidays, kids birth days, and family memebers who like to give party's when ever they felt like doing one... Food,drinks, and more food.

I'm not with it. I can't be.

We are going to do this. You D--- right we are. We are going to do this. I know we can kick this weight problems in the "A".

Lynn

I’ve hit an all time low in my process, and I needed that little vent of yours to remind me that this is a constant struggle.  I’ve hit the longest plateau of my life, and nothing seems to work.  I’m down, upset, frustrated, and miserable.  It’s hard when you’re at this point to see the light at the end of the verrrrrrrry long tunnel.  I just have about 15-20 pounds left before I’m happy.  But I can’t get them off!  Summer is coming, and I have visions of bathing suits that haunt me in my sleep.  I’m kind of panicing, and kind of wanting to give up.  I’ve only lost 10 pounds since Christmas, and I need to be losing at a faster rate.  But I can’t shake this plateau, and I’m tired.  Tired of fighting for 20 years of my life to feel good about myself.  Tired of fighting the obesity gene that runs in my family.  Tired of competing with my sister-in-law who is the perfect size 2.  Tired of being the heaviest person in the room.  Tired of the double chin.  Tired of constantly having to worry about what I'm eating.  I want to give up.  I want to hang up the gloves.

 

But I’ll fight. 

 

I’m off to kickboxing class.

 

Lauren

After a long week of exercising I'd be ecstatic to see a half pound loss.  But I'm still in the early stages of exercise where even liftin a pencil will build a pound of muscle.

My only frustration with weight loss is dealing with it.  I've been losing weight easier than I ever possibly imagined.  I never did imagine, though, what I was going to do after I lost weight.  My clothes don't fit, I don't know how to work with this new body shape, so making new clothes has been a little challenging.  It's a welcome challenge at times, but I don't let my body know that. ;)

DON'T GIVE UP THE FIGHT..I KNOW ITS HARD AND FRUSTRATING... YOU DO ONE THING TO LOOSE WEIGHT AND YOU TRY ANOTHER TACTIC TO LOOSE WEIGHT. BUT WE MUST NOT GIVE UP.. AT THIS POINT IF I LOOSE INCHES IS FINE WITH ME. MY GOAL IS TO BE HEALTHY.. I H AVE HEARD THAT SOMETIMES IT TAKES A WHILE TO LOOSE POUNDS WHEN YOU START DIETING AND EXERCISING....JUST TRY TO REMAIN AND THINK POSITIVE.. AND WE WILL WIN THIS BATTLE... IF YOU NEED SUPPORT GIVE ME A HOLLER THROUGH A MESSAGE OR JOURNAL AND I WILL SUPPORT YOU.. TRUST ME I KNOW WE NEED ALL THE SUPPORT WE CAN GET...

i have no idea what is going on with my body!!!!!

after losing 8.2 lbs in 11 weeks, i've gained 4 lbs over the last 7 weeks!! WHYYYYYY!

 

i've been averaging about 1300-1500 cals/day (my bmr is 1400), so there's no reason i should be gaining! and i had a "free weekend" this past weekend hoping to kick up my metabolism along with another "free weekend" about 2 weeks ago (btw, neither of these weekends were enough calories to equal 4 lbs)... but the scale keeps going up! it doesn't make any sense to me, and it's really bumming me out!!!

I know and I hear  you, girl...Sometimes it seems so easy for others to loose weight but for most like me... i only can loose like a pound or so a week... I think we should just concentrate on trying to  be healthy and then maybe the numbers on the scale will follow...And if that fails, we need to contact the makers of these scales and tell them that they are broken....lol....

I try my best to stay with in the range of 1400-1600 now. I have not hit my calorie mark at all this week, and told my friend I was going to add bigger cal meals to my plan. She told me to not be a fool and mess up a good thing, since I lost the 2 pounds within 2 days. So she is right. I better not mess it up.

I ate only 1200 on Monday & Tuesday I had 1083, and as I did my add up tonight I only ate 1192. I don't want to eat at all, and I do count the cals in my candy. I have a glass beside my now sugar free candy jar, and I place those wrapping inside. I count them after I'm done having my candy moment, and I don't eat anymore.

yesterday I counted 8 wrapping, and then tonight I counted 5. I removed the candy jar so I want reach for more. I'm staying focus, and that is something we have to do to stay on top.

I hate to say it and I love my family, but I got the bad genes! Round face that holds flab (so I have to lose more to get a frikin angle on my face!) Bad metabolism. My mom's side can eat TONS of food and is always tall, skinny and beautiful Even on my dad's side, which is mostly girl cousins, they are all pretty and skinny and confident. I want some confidence!

Confidence is a weird thing to wish for, but you want it. You know you want it and you know its there, but it doesnt come out when you need it most. Like when you feel like you are still a big person, you lose confidence in yourself that you can pick back up where you started.

I feel that if I lose weight and become skinny enough to wear a bikini to the beach (my fave place) I will gain confidence. The problem is I KNOW that is not true. But how does one bring out the confidence within? Maybe I have a confidence problem, but I mask it with weight problems. oooo, here's something new...:)

I'm at a plateau too. I've been working so hard, i don't understand why the weight has stopped coming off. I don't go over my 1300 calorie mark, i take the dog out twice a day for 30-40 mins, when i come home i get out my mini stepper and work my ass of for 15-25 mins twice a day, i drink plenty of water, i cut out sweets and chocolates, i even got my mum to stop buying cheese since it's my weakness. I've got people around me that are really supportive and tell me I'm losing inches. I just want the scales to tell me it's all worth it. On my bad days i find it very hard to stick to my diet, i suffer from depression so my bad days are like a living hell of complete failure.

I don't want to give up but it just seems too hard to keep going. If anyone has anything that can help me I'd be very grateful to hear it.

one suggestion is too maybe put away the scale... That is what i am going to do because I feel okay about my progress until i look at the scale. I am going to weigh only every two weeks or once a week. i think that will help alot.

Aww, thanks for this post. I am so glad to read that I am not the only one losing their friggin mind!  I have struggled with weight, eating compulsions bordering on addictions and have recently dropped a lot of weight. I neeeeeed to lose a lot more. I started counting calories about a month and a half ago. I started exercising strenously 2 months ago. I go to the gym every day... 6 days a week, sometimes 7.  I am starting the couch potato to 5 k thing, I use the elliptical every day, I bought a heart rate monitor for goodness sakes!!!  And for what?

To go almost 2 weeks at the same weight.  To have my inner demons yell at me every time I get on the scale and say... see, you ARE a fat person and you cant lose weight.   It gets very discouraging and makes me almost want to give up. I know I can't give up since I am down 60 lbs but daaaaaaang.  Its also upsetting to me to think that whether or not I lose a pound determines my mood and self-esteem for the day. I hate that I have to struggle with food and weight loss.  I always just try to think of something positive and hope tomorrow morning will shut up those voices in my head!

(For the record, I don't mean voices like... "go kill the neighbor" or "they're watching you" kinda voices.. LOL. Just the voice of my food demons.  )

lol.. you are too much.. I tell you lets just put away those scales for a while, what do you say?

Okay...my turn...

Why is it that I can go to Aldi's or a similar (cheap) grocery store and buy food that is not good for me at a lower price? BUT! If I want to eat healthy, it costs me two or three times as much at another store? It's not fair. I've finally just decided that I'm going to have to spend more money on things for me to eat. The bonus to that is that on top of spending more money on food, I'm also spending money to have my pants taken in. Oh well...it's cheaper than buying new ones. With four kids in my house, every penny counts. It just doesn't seem fair that it costs more to be healthy.

Next...why is it that thin people have to complain about needing to lose 10 or 15 pounds? I am all for people eating healthy and taking care of themselves, but come on! I've lost 46 so far and am only half way to my goal. I know how hard I'm having to work at it. I would love to only have to lose 10 or 15. It seems like sometimes people don't know how good they have it.

Mmdeam: I agree with you on the costs of being healthy and I think that the fees related to eating well may be related to the high rate of obesity...it's way easier too to eat pastas everyday than to actually cook healthy fish...

On another note, I don't think that you're being fair about "thin people who have to complain about needing to lose 10 or 15 pounds" as you called them. Maybe you just don't understand that losing weight is not just a question of numbers but also a question of self esteem and for some people that 10-15 lbs is just the same as your 46! On top of that, you don't where these people started, so please don't judge, we're all on the same boat, just on different stops here... I've lost 37 lbs so far and for the last month I've been on the same 2-3 lbs that just won't go away, I'm as (or even more) frustrated as you can be! So close to the goal, but yet... Anyway, congrats on your loss and keep going!

Original Post by roylucie92:

Mmdeam: I agree with you on the costs of being healthy and I think that the fees related to eating well may be related to the high rate of obesity...it's way easier too to eat pastas everyday than to actually cook healthy fish...

On another note, I don't think that you're being fair about "thin people who have to complain about needing to lose 10 or 15 pounds" as you called them. Maybe you just don't understand that losing weight is not just a question of numbers but also a question of self esteem and for some people that 10-15 lbs is just the same as your 46! On top of that, you don't where these people started, so please don't judge, we're all on the same boat, just on different stops here... I've lost 37 lbs so far and for the last month I've been on the same 2-3 lbs that just won't go away, I'm as (or even more) frustrated as you can be! So close to the goal, but yet... Anyway, congrats on your loss and keep going!

 

roylucie92--

Please don't take what I said the wrong way. I didn't mean to offend anyone. Perhaps I wasn't clear enough.

I know of two or three women who are and always have been, like, a size 4. They eat pizza and whatever else they want. Then they complain that they need to lose weight. For me, struggling with my weight for the last 20 years, it's hard to not be frustrated when I hear someone talk like that. I guess I'm just looking forward to the day when I'm in their position.

Congrats on the 37 lost. I know it's hard, but try not to be frustrated.  I once battled against the same 2-3 pounds for several weeks also. I know that sometimes it doesn't make it any easier to hear it, but if you keep at it, those last pounds really will come off. Good Luck!

OH, it's SO nice to know I AM NOT ALONE!!  I've been doing EVERYTHING right!! Doubled my workouts, I stay WAY below my caloric daily intake, tripled my walking distance/time and yet the scale WILL NOT BUDGE!!!  I am about to pull my hair out!  This weight is SO stubborn....but yet, my mind is even MORE stubborn (just ask my husband).  I am NOT giving up! My weight struggle began almost 10 yrs. ago.  I never had a weight problem before; always had a fast metabolism, until I had a total abdominal hysterectomy. There went my metabolism along with other major organs! In the past, I tried on and off to lose the excess weight, but my body is just NOT giving in to it, so I eventually give up and just go with it.  But not this time!  I've been serious for almost a month now, and I've only lost 3 lbs.  It's pretty depressing.  But I want my OLD body back! I want to be healthy, strong and active like I used to be!!  I will NOT give in!!!  Who's with me??   LOL!!  I feel like I'm swinging a sword in the air and leading the Calvary stampede!!!