Weight Loss
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For some it's not getting to goal weight...ever.

For some it's relapsing.

For others it's never getting the chance to be healthy.

For others it's encouraging the formation of healthy habits in others.

For many it's looking and feeling great in your own skin.

For many it's quitting before ever knowing what goal feels like.

For me it's never experiencing the joys that come from feeling sexy and confident in my everyday life.

What is it for you?

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I think I worry about Phantom fat... and not being able to see myself as Slimmer.

that i've changed all this and still can't get pregnant.

that I will get injured and not be able to run the half marathon.

I try really hard to just stay positive and not worry anymore at all. I think worrying is a big reason why I started eating for comfort.

That I will give up before I see real progress.

Great vent post. We all need a release.

I worry that I'll return to my old body composition from when I never exercised at all and didn't like myself, both in appearance and otherwise. Then I fret about gaining weight, both from not exercising and eating compulsively like I used to. I think I associate not exercising with not liking myself.

I had to give up exercising in the past (due to sickness) and then gained all the 15 pounds back.

 

I fear that external force....stopping me. That I would gain all that I have lost. (Lost 10 pounds so far and many more to go). That I'll never reach the goal weight. That people will continue to hurt me and never see me for what I am but for what I have become. That all of me doesn't matter, and only my weight matters.............which has been so of late--I fear this will always be the case.

 

I get very stressed when even a remote chance comes up of obstructing the gymming. And eating clean.

Gaining it back. I don't think I'm alone with this fear..

Definitely not reaching goal weight... ever.  And always being a stone's throw away from a healthy weight, but never actually getting there.  And that I'll constantly let situations in which there's unhealthy but yummy food readily available draw me in so that I let the weight I've worked my ass off to lose creep back on.

I live in this safety zone in which I almost always have time to excercise every day, and I only keep healthy food in the house.  But other than those two things, I'm really not particularly happy with my lifestyle.  I'm 32, I haven't dated in ages, I live alone, no kids, and I'm working part time while I job hunt.  This isn't the life I want for myself.  I'm worried that either things will stay the same, and I get to keep my healthy safety zone or that I'll get a life, get tempted back into old bad habits, and won't be able to keep up with my healthy choices.  I realize there's a third choice, that I can have both, but I've developed the lifestyle to lose this weight in a vacuum.  I want my lifestyle to change, but I worry about what will happen when it does.

Original Post by dolphinclick:

...I'll get a life, get tempted back into old bad habits, and won't be able to keep up with my healthy choices.

Same as this. I worry about getting to my goal weight and then stopping the gym visits because I naturally eat lots of fruit and veggies, meaning my diet is mostly lowcal so I could probably maintain.

Or that I will do what I sometimes say I will ("You can have that muffin when you're not on a diet and your allowance is higher") and end up gaining, then having to lose, then gaining, then having to lose.

I also worry about weight loss not being enough to make me feel beautiful and healthy, or that it will be the opposite (exactly what I needed to do to reach my max potential) and then I'll have no way of improving. Haha, both sound irrational when I type them out.

I worry about the same, that I will not reach my goal weight and that I will regain what I have lost.

To have the success that I have had, losing 68 lbs, I have had to be very strict with my workouts and calorie counting. I worry that the almighty calorie will rule my life forever. I have tried to not count and eat "normally", but the weight always seems to go back up. Last year around this time I did hit my goal, ya, for 2 weeks, then I kept gaining, gained back 25lbs. So this fall out came the kitchen scale, the measuring cups, and logging every calorie. And at present, just 5 lbs from goal.

 

Oh geez....I suppose I am a Pollyanna.  I really dont worry about much in life.  I enjoy each and every day and embrace the challenges.

In my life I'm trying to be far more stress and worry-free, but I do have a few worries. Currently, I avoid meals with others so that I can eat my own food and know exactly what's going into my mouth. I worry that this habit will make me antisocial! I don't want to be a loner.

On the flip side, I worry that if I ever date someone seriously enough to consider moving in together, I'll have to drop my habit of weighing my food and knowing exactly what goes into my mouth in favor of joint grocery shopping and meal preparation!

I dont think your human if you dont wory about something even if its the tincy wincy tinest bit...but having alot of faith in a higher power can help.

Faith or not, I worry about the unkown. Things that go through my mind. What if something weird happens and I cannot physically or emotionaly maintain a healthy life style? What if my birth controll (mirina) stops working and I suddenly get pregnate and gain all my wieght back..ugg ( happend last time). What if after I reach my goal I get to comfortable and lose controll of what I am eating and doing. I definately fear not getting to my goal weight. I fear being jealous and not being able to stop my self from negitive thoughts or depression. Both of my sisters have chosen to either go on diet pills or get a tummy tuck instead of exercise and count calories and they have litterally droped 20 -25 lbs in about 5 weeks (wtf?) this a.) makes me angry because I know its not healthy and b.) makes me jealous that I have gone through the sweat blood and tears to loose the weight I have in a year (66lbs) through diet and exercise and they have lost a quarter of it in a month..grrr. I fear not being able to get over this type of situation and getting depressed ( depression drives me to stop exercising and to eat). Well in any case a quick prayer and a trip to the gym allways makes me feel better." Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; the courage to change the things I can;and the wisdom to know the difference."

Original Post by devilish_patsy:

Oh geez....I suppose I am a Pollyanna.  I really dont worry about much in life.  I enjoy each and every day and embrace the challenges.

I'm the same, though I prefer to call it "self-confidence".  Smile

And not without reason.  I've don't have any fears of gaining all the weight back, because I know what to do to lose weight, and it worked fine for me before.  If for some reason beyond my control I gained some weight, then why wouldn't the same thing work just as well to take it off again?  And if I keep weighing myself every day and tracking my trend then I'll know when I have to do something when it's only a few pounds I'd have to shed, not loads of pounds like the first time.

I'm not completely anxiety-free.  I worry that calorie-counting the rest of my life will become a burden that I'll want to drop and that "intuitive eating" simply won't work for me.  But if I get those challenges then I'll just face them, the same way I did with being overweight.  I can imagine what I'd have thought back when I was majorly obese, listening to future-thin-me whine about what a drag it is spending 15 minutes a day doing calorie accounting in order to stay at a healthy weight.  I'd wanna smack that fool upside the head.

Original Post by jp5074139:

Original Post by devilish_patsy:

Oh geez....I suppose I am a Pollyanna.  I really dont worry about much in life.  I enjoy each and every day and embrace the challenges.

I'm the same, though I prefer to call it "self-confidence".  Smile

And not without reason.  I've don't have any fears of gaining all the weight back, because I know what to do to lose weight, and it worked fine for me before.  If for some reason beyond my control I gained some weight, then why wouldn't the same thing work just as well to take it off again?  And if I keep weighing myself every day and tracking my trend then I'll know when I have to do something when it's only a few pounds I'd have to shed, not loads of pounds like the first time.

I'm not completely anxiety-free.  I worry that calorie-counting the rest of my life will become a burden that I'll want to drop and that "intuitive eating" simply won't work for me.  But if I get those challenges then I'll just face them, the same way I did with being overweight.  I can imagine what I'd have thought back when I was majorly obese, listening to future-thin-me whine about what a drag it is spending 15 minutes a day doing calorie accounting in order to stay at a healthy weight.  I'd wanna smack that fool upside the head.

 I love what you said! Thats a great way of thinking about things :)

I'm scared to death of maintenance.  What if I can't keep it off?

My fears are irrational.  Like--that no matter how long/hard I work--I will never see a new body.  But that's just because I've given up so many times in my life.  And it's because I'm on a ridiculous plateau, so I feel discouraged.  Obviously, if I keep doing what I know is right--I will see a different person in a year.  In two years. 

But because I have never seen that person before, (because I have never gone about this in a sane and healthy way), I doubt that she exists at all.

As a recovering compulsive worrier, I try to keep worry out of my head and it can be a real struggle at times.  I used to worry about everything and invent stuff to worry about when things were good.  Now I just try to stay positive, but I admit to a small about of worry about gaining all the weight back once I get to goal.

my biggest worry right now is that i'll plateau lol. i know it's kind of silly... but i know i'll get down to goal eventually.. i'd just rather it be in a year then 3 years... not just a plateau... one of those ones that take 6 months to eat at maintenance to get back on track :/ lol. i know it seems silly but i strongly believe i will see progress.. i will see the end result.. and i'll be happy along the way.. and i believe i'll even be able to maintain as long as i keep at it.. but it's the stallingi n the process that makes me a little fearful lol.

it may be irrational but it is what it is :)

This is awful.

We were having a serious conversation the other evening about when we want to start trying to have a baby. We're thinking not this fall, but next fall. We'll have been married for two years.

I'm scared that I'll hit my goal weight, love my body, and then get pregnant. I know that I want to have a baby one day, but I want some time to enjoy my body after all of this hard work.

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