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hello lovelies(:

my boyfriend liked my curves but likes my slim as well!

he is happy when i am healthy and happy with my body,

and i can tell hes not lying!

when i wanted to lose weight and when i would complain he would say

"just do it!" and wouldnt weep with me.

that helped me stop moping around and get to it!

 

if a question doesnt apply to you, just put "n/a".

1. does your boyfriend like your weight now?

2. does your boyfriend like you curvier or slimmer?

3. has your boyfriend ever pressured you to lose/gain weight?

4. have you ever been hurt by something your boyfriend said about your weight or looks?

5. what does your boyfriend say when you tell him you want to lose/gain weight?

6. is your boyfriend wanting to gain/lose weight for himself?

7. has your boyfriend ever struggled with weight?

8. what is a good low cal date meal/restaurant youve tried or want to try?

9. whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend?

10. are you both in love?

 

thanks guys(: i love reading your responses!

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1. does your boyfriend like your weight now?

yes, he loves that i've lost weight because i am so much more energized now and alot more happy!

2. does your boyfriend like you curvier or slimmer?

my boyfriend ofcourse loves curves, but also loves the toned/healthier look. as long as im not at an extreme skinny or fat, he doesnt care!

3. has your boyfriend ever pressured you to lose/gain weight?

no, but when i was at my heaviest he wouldnt mope around or support me being sad about my weight. he would push me to just do it already instead of talking about it.

4. have you ever been hurt by something your boyfriend said about your weight or looks?

no! he knows how sensitive girls are, but i love joking around with him about stuff like that. we both dont take anything too seriously.

5. what does your boyfriend say when you tell him you want to lose/gain weight?

"just do it already and stop complaining. lets start running together!"

6. is your boyfriend wanting to gain/lose weight for himself?

no, he would like to start weight lifting again. which he started last week.

7. has your boyfriend ever struggled with weight?

he has in the past and lost 40 pounds of his "baby weight" his freshman year of high school by running.

8. what is a good low cal date meal/restaurant youve tried or want to try?

outback steakhouse chicken on the barbie; without sauce, seasoning or butter(plain) and a side of brocoli(without salt or butter/plain) with a glass of water.

9. whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend?

i have alot, but one would be our date to the circus, or maybe our one year anniversary.

10. are you both in love?

yes(:

1. Yes :)

2. Nope.

3. Kinda, both at different times but he's never really really pressured me more like encouragement.

4. Nope :)

5. When i say i want to loose weight he says i'm fine as i am.

6. Nope

7.Nope

8. Idk

9. Just being at my house doing nothing really, just being together for the sake of being together :)

10. I hope so :)

I'm probably going to be the oldest person to answer these questions here, (20) haha.

1. does your boyfriend like your weight now? Yes

2. does your boyfriend like you curvier or slimmer? Both

3. has your boyfriend ever pressured you to lose/gain weight? In my bad Eating Disorder days he urged me to gain, he also keeps those thoughts from comming back.

4. have you ever been hurt by something your boyfriend said about your weight or looks? He was NOT pleased when I shaved my head and said some bad things- but we're on a truce about it now.

5. what does your boyfriend say when you tell him you want to lose/gain weight? 'Why?'

6. is your boyfriend wanting to gain/lose weight for himself? He's trying to gain weight himself

7. has your boyfriend ever struggled with weight? He's always been the '90-pound-weakling' all his life, which he insists is a weight problem.

8. what is a good low cal date meal/restaurant youve tried or want to try? We've both tried a lot of stuff- not necessarily 'low-cal' or even 'healthy'. Our usual go-to 'date' meal is Medeterrainian food.

9. whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend? It's easier to pick out the infrequent bad times than it is to pick out which memory is the best. *hurkpuke sappy line*

10. are you both in love? Eh, I have yet to kill him in his sleep, so I think we're pretty dang close to loving each other as one can get.

1. does your boyfriend like your weight now?

Yep. But he doesn't care about my weight, he just wants me to be healthy and happy.

2. does your boyfriend like you curvier or slimmer?

He loves curves, but knows I'm happier skinnier. He hates it when I weigh myself and count calories because it makes me unhappy, so overall, I think he'd rather have me curvier and happy, if that were possible.

3. has your boyfriend ever pressured you to lose/gain weight?

Never. He helped me out of an eating disorder.

4. have you ever been hurt by something your boyfriend said about your weight or looks?

Never! He thinks I'm the most beautiful girl in the world.

5. what does your boyfriend say when you tell him you want to lose/gain weight?

If I say I want to lose weight, he gets mad at me and says, "You know that isn't a good idea, it always becomes anorexia. Please, just eat healthy and stop worrying about it. You're so beautiful."

6. is your boyfriend wanting to gain/lose weight for himself?

He wants to gain muscle? But he really doesn't care.

7. has your boyfriend ever struggled with weight?

Not a bit.

8. what is a good low cal date meal/restaurant youve tried or want to try?

9. whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend?

10. are you both in love?

 

 

1. does your boyfriend like your weight now? yes he loves me the way i am :)

2. does your boyfriend like you curvier or slimmer? i think curvier. he told me to gain 15 pounds even though im at a healthy weight :P

3. has your boyfriend ever pressured you to lose/gain weight? no. not even when i weighed 85 pounds or when i weighed 135. he has always accepted me the way i am.

4. have you ever been hurt by something your boyfriend said about your weight or looks? yes. he said it doesnt look like i have an ED so i took it as he was calling me fat.

5. what does your boyfriend say when you tell him you want to lose/gain weight? stop it. youre beautiful the way you are.

6. is your boyfriend wanting to gain/lose weight for himself? he wants to GAIN.

7. has your boyfriend ever struggled with weight? struggled with putting on pounds. hes super skinny.

8. what is a good low cal date meal/restaurant youve tried or want to try? sushi is pretty low cal. we go there all the time.

9. whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend? theres so many! my favorite was probably prom.

10. are you both in love? yess :D

1. does your boyfriend like your weight now?  Yes.

2. does your boyfriend like you curvier or slimmer?  Both I'm sure.  I've always been "curvier" though, I'm sure I'll lose my ass and boobs when I lose weight.

3. has your boyfriend ever pressured you to lose/gain weight?  Nope, he's very supportive.

4. have you ever been hurt by something your boyfriend said about your weight or looks?  Nope.

5. what does your boyfriend say when you tell him you want to lose/gain weight?  He used to say that I was fine the way I am and blahblahblah, but after I explained it wasn't about what he thought of my weight he got a lot more supportive when I talked about it. 

6. is your boyfriend wanting to gain/lose weight for himself?  He wants to bulk up.  He's 6'3 160 pounds so he doesn't need to lose weight.  I think he said he wants to gain to like 170 in muscle.

7. has your boyfriend ever struggled with weight?  Not losing weight, he's skinny as hell.

8. what is a good low cal date meal/restaurant youve tried or want to try?  Nothing cause we don't live near each other.  I have a few places picked out I want to go with him.

9. whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend?  Just any time I get to spend time with him!

10. are you both in love?  Of course!

Original Post by tonilynmarie:

 

if a question doesnt apply to you, just put "n/a".

1. does your boyfriend like your weight now? yes

2. does your boyfriend like you curvier or slimmer? He likes me as I am. I could gain, or lose weight and he would like me the way I am.

3. has your boyfriend ever pressured you to lose/gain weight? never. He always tells me that Im fine the way I am.

4. have you ever been hurt by something your boyfriend said about your weight or looks? n/a

5. what does your boyfriend say when you tell him you want to lose/gain weight? He tells me to do what makes me happy BUT he always reminds me that he loves me the way I am.

6. is your boyfriend wanting to gain/lose weight for himself? He wants to lose weight. He has gained a ton in the past 7 months.

7. has your boyfriend ever struggled with weight? yes

8. what is a good low cal date meal/restaurant youve tried or want to try? I dont know

9. whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend? Waking him up the most annoying way possible the mornings I wake up hyper and he eventually pins me down and wraps his arms around me and kisses me.

10. are you both in love? very

 

thanks guys(: i love reading your responses!



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1. does your boyfriend like your weight now?
Yeah I think so :) He hasnt said otherwise

 2. does your boyfriend like you curvier or slimmer?
He seems to like fit but curvy girls, so I guess where I am now is okay...

3. has your boyfriend ever pressured you to lose/gain weight?
No, but he has said I was a little "heavy" when I was 10kg heavier.. he never actually sdaid it though, only after I lost weight

4. have you ever been hurt by something your boyfriend said about your weight or looks?
Yeah, but I do tend to take things pretty seriously, even if it's a joke.

5. what does your boyfriend say when you tell him you want to lose/gain weight?
He hates hearing about it!!!! He usually tells me to shut it hahaha

6. is your boyfriend wanting to gain/lose weight for himself?
Not really, he just wants to get some muscle

7. has your boyfriend ever struggled with weight?
Nope, hes got a good motabolism

8. what is a good low cal date meal/restaurant youve tried or want to try?
I cook heaps of low fat/cal, healthy stuff and he seems to like it :)

9. whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend?
Our USA trip in April :)

10. are you both in love?Well I love him :) A lot :)

1) does your boyfriend like your weight now?

He is liking it more every day

2) does your boyfriend like you curvier or slimmer?

He likes me slim with curves and toned muscles

3) has your boyfriend ever pressured you to lose/gain weight?

Not pressured no

4) have you ever been hurt by something your boyfriend said about your weight or looks?

I don't think so...not that I can remember anyway

5) what does you boyfriend say when you tell him you want to lose/gain weight?

He thinks its great when I tell him I want to lose, and he encourages me to do it in a healthy manner

6) is your boyfriend wanting to gain/lose weight for himself?

Lose

ETA: He gained like 50 pounds between 2006 and now after we started living together.

7) has your boyfriend ever struggled with weight?

yes

8) what is a good low cal date meal/restaurant you've tried or want to try?

I dont' think restaurants have low cal meals. But I think most chicken dishes are great for date night and can be done very elegantly and low cal, if you do it right.

9) whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend?

We have been together for six years so that is a tough call. I might have to say the day we got married because it was low stress and our kids were in it and it didn't cost more than like $300 including rings

10) are you both in love?

Pretty sure. I know I am and I know he wouldn't be with me if he wasn't. he's not like that.

Original Post by fenrik_reinsdyr:

I'm probably going to be the oldest person to answer these questions here, (20) haha.

1. does your boyfriend like your weight now? Yes

2. does your boyfriend like you curvier or slimmer? Both

3. has your boyfriend ever pressured you to lose/gain weight? In my bad Eating Disorder days he urged me to gain, he also keeps those thoughts from comming back.

4. have you ever been hurt by something your boyfriend said about your weight or looks? He was NOT pleased when I shaved my head and said some bad things- but we're on a truce about it now.

5. what does your boyfriend say when you tell him you want to lose/gain weight? 'Why?'

6. is your boyfriend wanting to gain/lose weight for himself? He's trying to gain weight himself

7. has your boyfriend ever struggled with weight? He's always been the '90-pound-weakling' all his life, which he insists is a weight problem.

8. what is a good low cal date meal/restaurant youve tried or want to try? We've both tried a lot of stuff- not necessarily 'low-cal' or even 'healthy'. Our usual go-to 'date' meal is Medeterrainian food.

9. whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend? It's easier to pick out the infrequent bad times than it is to pick out which memory is the best. *hurkpuke sappy line*

10. are you both in love? Eh, I have yet to kill him in his sleep, so I think we're pretty dang close to loving each other as one can get.

 I beat you on the age thing....I'm 25

1. does your boyfriend like your weight now? Well, my boyfriend is deployed in Afghanistan right now and wont be back home to see the weight i've lost till mid October, but i'm pretty sure he'll be proud of me :)

2. does your boyfriend like you curvier or slimmer? He's never had a problem with my weight, even at my heaviest. But hopefully he'll love my body just as much as he did before!

3. has your boyfriend ever pressured you to lose/gain weight? Nope, and i am so thankful that he never did.

4. have you ever been hurt by something your boyfriend said about your weight or looks? Haha, i remember once he told me he liked how "soft" my body was and i took that as a complete insult! But he never meant to say it to hurt me.

5. what does your boyfriend say when you tell him you want to lose/gain weight? He's told me to do something about it instead of complaining ha

6. is your boyfriend wanting to gain/lose weight for himself? Nope, his body is the epitome of perfection lol im so jealous of his genes 

7. has your boyfriend ever struggled with weight? Never. He can eat like there is no tomorrow and not gain a pound. Damn his fast metabolism!

8. what is a good low cal date meal/restaurant youve tried or want to try? I havent tried being health conscious when eating out with him yet, but when i do im going to try doing it the safe way by eating salads or anything that sounds low cal on the menu.

9. whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend? When he asked me to be his girlfriend (7/06/07)! We went to go see the movie Live Free or Die Hard (as friends) and after that we went to a park i'd go to all the time as a kid and we talked and talked and one thing led to another and he popped the question :)

10. are you both in love? Yes, 3 years later and we still love eachother :)

if a question doesnt apply to you, just put "n/a".

1. does your boyfriend like your weight now? He would prefer me to gain a few lbs but always makes me feel attractive :)

2. does your boyfriend like you curvier or slimmer? I think he likes girls to be slim but thinks I could do with gaining a bit.. I'm technically underweight.

3. has your boyfriend ever pressured you to lose/gain weight? He told me once that if I ever lose weight or show signs of relapsing into my eating disorder he'll 'force feed me a KFC boneless bucket.' 

4. have you ever been hurt by something your boyfriend said about your weight or looks? Erm... no because I know he has my best interests at heart.

5. what does your boyfriend say when you tell him you want to lose/gain weight? He encourages me to gain. If I have a 'fat day' and am pinching my stomach or whatever he hates it.

6. is your boyfriend wanting to gain/lose weight for himself? The wonderful thing about him is I honestly don't think he cares. In fact, at the moment he is trying to 'gain as much weight as possible' (he's a stocky guy - not fat at all but not skinny and doesn't work out!) so that when he 'can't afford to eat any more' at uni (which tends to happen when you're terrible with money) he'll be able to 'live off reserves.' Idiot. I have a feeling I'll end up cooking for him.

7. has your boyfriend ever struggled with weight? He was overweight as a child.

8. what is a good low cal date meal/restaurant youve tried or want to try? I think if I tried to take him to a 'low cal' restaurant he'd kill me. He got annoyed the other day at Pizza Express when I ordered a Legarra pizza (they have a salad in the middle.) 

9. whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend? This entire summer has been the best of my life.

10. are you both in love? Big word. We've only been together 2 months but I am certainly closer to it now than I've ever been before. 

 

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You are unhealthily obsessed with what your boyfriend thinks.  Do what you want and you think is healthy.  I was very alarmed reading all your questions... young girls should have a lot more to care about in their life than what their boyfriend thinks of their weight...

It sounds like everyone is dating really nice guys! :) good.

1. does your boyfriend like your weight now? Yes

2. does your boyfriend like you curvier or slimmer? Slim with curves

3. has your boyfriend ever pressured you to lose/gain weight? Nope!

4. have you ever been hurt by something your boyfriend said about your weight or looks? He said I was ‘one’ of the most beautiful girls in the world.. Excuse me, I’m your girlfriend! When it comes to compliments Lying is a-okay!! Hahaha

5. what does your boyfriend say when you tell him you want to lose/gain weight? Not to

6. is your boyfriend wanting to gain/lose weight for himself? No, his focus is more taken up by comics, friends, and me haha

7. has your boyfriend ever struggled with weight? No

8. what is a good low cal date meal/restaurant youve tried or want to try? Haven’t really thought about it, when I go out to eat I order exactly what I want! I just stay away from foods that fried or heavily coated in sauces/cheese and stick to whole grains.

9. whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend? None in particular, just our in-depth personal talks. I love the rapport we have

10. are you both in love? Love is a complicated concept for me, but I know he wants to love me and we both care about each other deeply.

1. does your boyfriend like your weight now? Yes, I think so 

2. does your boyfriend like you curvier or slimmer? Probably thinks I'm just right now, maybe a bit on the thin side but with curves still all in the right places

3. has your boyfriend ever pressured you to lose/gain weight? No

4. have you ever been hurt by something your boyfriend said about your weight or looks? Not unless he wants to lose a valued part of his anatomy

5. what does your boyfriend say when you tell him you want to lose/gain weight? I once mentioned something about modelling and he said "you don't want to look like that, do you?"

6. is your boyfriend wanting to gain/lose weight for himself? I think he wants to regain muscle tone

7. has your boyfriend ever struggled with weight? No

8. what is a good low cal date meal/restaurant youve tried or want to try? N/A

9. whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend? Lots of times of cuddling close during love making telling each other "I love you"

10. are you both in love? Very much so

 

 



1. does your boyfriend like your weight now?

Yeah. He's under the impression that I'm EXTREMELY attractive, and that I could get away with a skimpy, doesn't cover the belly halloween costume o.0

2. does your boyfriend like you curvier or slimmer?

Slimmer I believe, but he doesn't voice it.

3. has your boyfriend ever pressured you to lose/gain weight?

Not at all!

4. have you ever been hurt by something your boyfriend said about your weight or looks?

I don't think I'm allowed to be hurt when he agrees I'm chubby after I mope about it for an hour or so.... He used to pick on my tiny butt-- now he says it may be small, but it's perfectly shaped. So I guess not?

5. what does your boyfriend say when you tell him you want to lose/gain weight?

Like yours... "Okay, so do it"

6. is your boyfriend wanting to gain/lose weight for himself?

He wants to quit cigarettes and start going to the gym for muscle purposes (and I think secretly for loosing his tummy pooch purposes)

7. has your boyfriend ever struggled with weight?

Nope =/

8. what is a good low cal date meal/restaurant youve tried or want to try?

N/A

9. whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend?

Gosh, so many! Probably when we first started dating and he stripped the 60 some odd rubber bracelets off my wrist after stating "I bet you I know why you wear these". Then he proceeded to kiss my scars. I haven't hid my wrists since.

10. are you both in love?

Head over heels. He bought me a pinky ring the other weekend, but when it gets chilly it only fits on my left-hand ring finger. I apologized-- he told me it was okay because we're practically married anyway.



Original Post by chaolioe:

9. whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend?

Gosh, so many! Probably when we first started dating and he stripped the 60 some odd rubber bracelets off my wrist after stating "I bet you I know why you wear these". Then he proceeded to kiss my scars. I haven't hid my wrists since.

This is so sad and sweet at the same time. I hope you've overcome your struggles now because I know what it's like to hurt so much, although I never cut, I was self destructive for a while.

 

Original Post by blondiecath:

Original Post by chaolioe:

9. whats your favorite memory with your boyfriend?

Gosh, so many! Probably when we first started dating and he stripped the 60 some odd rubber bracelets off my wrist after stating "I bet you I know why you wear these". Then he proceeded to kiss my scars. I haven't hid my wrists since.

This is so sad and sweet at the same time. I hope you've overcome your struggles now because I know what it's like to hurt so much, although I never cut, I was self destructive for a while.

 

Thank you. I had stopped for a long while, life got to me again, and he broke up with me so I could learn to live for me and not just for him. I spent three months going through grueling counseling with a wonderful lady, and obvious- since then he's taken me back and I feel as though I'm in a much better place physically and mentally =] He's my saving grace, really

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