Why do I feel like the fattest girl in the forum!?!

I recently read a forum post about thigh measurements and girls here my hieght, 5'9 had hip measurments of 34-36 inches. Mine are a whopping 38. I hate them. i came on here looking to find someone with similar stats and instead  I can't stop crying, I feel like all the girls my age are so thin. I"M SO FRCKING FAT!!! Instead of encouraging me, the posts here make me feel sick with myself. I think that i would rather just be dead sometimes. I used to model alot more and I wanted to return to it but my agent says i'm too fat and i just want to do what I love. God, why does everyone have to be so thin....i hate myself.....

ps sry for the vent

Deep breath.... Self loathing is one thing you absolutely can't keep inside. It needs lots of fattening food to keep it company. If you can just get rid of a little bit of that self loathing, you will feel better about dieting. You're NOT the fattest girl on here. This is a big community of people who are all trying to do something positive in their lives and support each other while doing so. Maybe right now you should focus less on measurements and more on motivation. A lot of people here have great stories, really good ways to handle temptation, fun things to do instead of binging, etc. You don't need to apologize, we have all felt just sick about our bodies at one time or another. It's not about hating yourself, it's about loving yourself enough to change. Here's a couple things for you to focus on:

1. Your hips are smaller than mine, and I'm 5'6.

2. You have an agent. A modeling agent. That kicks ass.

3. Just being here can be the start of an awesome transformation. It's the first day of the rest of your beautiful, exciting, fabulous life.

Thanks....I tend to vent alot and it's a nice feeling knowing someone is listening :) I really appreciate you taking the time out :)

You're 5ft 9... your hips shouldn't be smaller than 38 inches... well unless your a man. lol.

I'm 5ft 4 and I think my hips are 35-36... if I was your height I'd probably be about the same or possibly bigger. Also, so you measure your hips at the hip bone or the lower part of your belly? Bc my lower gut if 31 in.. so it quite literally looks like I have a deformity... lol, but whatev. Big hips are hot and anything else is stupid , lol!

Oh! And besides... you look great so don't trip! You have to fit your own skin, not a cookie cutter. And if it helps I wear 5in heels a lot just to be your height... so there!  We all want to be different I guess! lol!

Alright, first off, chill! 38" hips are not fat, at all.

Modeling is tough, that's a serious talent you have! You should be proud and embrace your body. I mean a modeling agent? wow! That's awesome.

I know how you feel when you see someone thinner though, it sucks, but you have to love yourself or the world will eat you alive.

Remember some things are just ridicules. I went out shopping today, they had a small shirt on one of the models at american eagle, but they had to pin it in the back so it wasn't too big. what the heck, huh?

Just remember your awesome and you deserve nothing but happiness. :)

Oh my.  I hope you're not fat, because your measurements are almost the exact same as mine, and I'm an inch shorter than you!

I was actually going through the exact same thing as you are the other day.  I'm curvy.  I'm not fat, but I'm seriously curvy.  I'm 36-25.5-37.5.  Our BMI's are almost exactly the same, too.  I really can't afford to lose much more weight without becoming /underweight/, so I'm trying to accept the fact that I'll never be a size 0.  It's hard, because I see people with higher weights and bmi's than myself, and they're tiny little things.

It looks like you want to be a model, too, so that's like, bonus you have on me.  At least you're pretty!  No matter how much weight I lose, I'll still be homely.

Please feel free to PM me.  I think we share common frustrations, and maybe we can motivate and encourage each other or something. <3

well now I feel like the fattest girl.... I misread your post and thought you were talking about you thigh measurement and I was thinking "sheesh, she's got some large thighs"  I was feeling pretty good since my thighs only measure 25 inches.. Then I read some replies and realized you were talking about your hip measurement and that is when I started to realized that not only am I fat, but I am also a poor reader!  lol well at least I have nice breast! 

halizabeth--LOL, your post made me laugh. and 25" thighs are wonderful.

bremcclurkin--38" hips are wonderful too. I'm 5'7" with 37" hips and i think they're too small! I wish i had bigger hips! Good luck with modeling! Also, i read you wanted to lose 3.5" off of your hips, not to be discouraging, BUT, i think you'd have to saw off some of your bones to do that. That would probably hurt. My advice is work on exercising and eating right, don't worry about the numbers too much.

*edit* I also must mention that that thigh measurement forum IS THE DEVIL. There were girls my height, with like...18" thighs that were complaining. Mine are 20.5" (AND THEY ARE NOT BIG AT ALL) You are not the only one scratching your head at how those girls can possibly be that tiny.

Damn I would be greatful for your numbers.  I am working to reach them.  I have a long way to go to reach my goal.  I have to lose 80 lbs!!  I think it;s important not to compare to others and work hard and be greatful for the results we achieve.  It's hard not to be envious when Im busting my chubby butt on the treadmill, but it sure motivates me and shows me what I can achieve!!

Okay so after reading your post I thought you can't possible be the fattest girl here because my hips are 37 1/2 and I am only 5'1"  I always want to be the winner but not at the fat contest.  LOL

halizabeth you are flipping hillarious.  Thanks

Darn those child baring hips. But in all seriousness,  guys dig it.  Don't be ashamed.  I'm 5'5' and my hips measure 41.  I love having a but and I cannot lie.  It's just how my body was made.  There is no concrete mold that you have to try to fit in.  Just stay happy and healthy.  That's all we can really ask for.

"Darn those child baring hips. But in all seriousness,  guys dig it"

Yup, nothing wrong with a nice feminine body with some curves. Not feeling the Nicole Richie style skeletor bodies I'm seeing in People magazine, only a guy with issues could have a fetish for a woman with the body of an 11 year old girl. Just my opinion. Peace

5'4'' and 40.4'' hips. hands down i beat you!! and i love my curves :)

HIP MEASUREMENTS??? seriously you girls are no way near the lovely 48 inches that are mine... they used to be 52.... can you imagine being like nearly 5 foot around???

we are all different shapes and sizes and thats what makes us, us don't beat ur self up jsut cus someone has something smaller... the fact that you are on this forum means you are doing something about it... you are beginning to make your shape the way you want it, so what if you're not there yet... those girls might not have been there a year ago...

keep your chin up, hating ur self isn't going to make anything better!!! if you wever need soemoen bigger to look at come see my stats. I rave when my waist is 36 inches never mind my hips!!!!

When I first got started I felt the same way because I kept finding posts from people with eating disorders who freaked if they ate 500 calories a day. The two beasts (overweight and eds) are so different I wish they were separate sites!

You just have to work to keep your perspective! Good luck to you!!

People would KILL to be as gorgeous as you. As in, they would tear eachother to pieces with their bare hands.

Plus, you are in NO WAY the fattest girl on the sight. There are plenty of people looking to lose over 100 pounds (who are still lovely). Imagine how they must feel!

Original Post by gary_dubois:

"Darn those child baring hips. But in all seriousness,  guys dig it"

Yup, nothing wrong with a nice feminine body with some curves. Not feeling the Nicole Richie style skeletor bodies I'm seeing in People magazine, only a guy with issues could have a fetish for a woman with the body of an 11 year old girl. Just my opinion. Peace

 Thanks Gary!  It is 10 times better when a guy says it!! ; P

Original Post by aliceinonederland:

HIP MEASUREMENTS??? seriously you girls are no way near the lovely 48 inches that are mine... they used to be 52.... can you imagine being like nearly 5 foot around???

 

 My hips are 59'' around.  Or they were last Saturday when I did my measurements.

I'd love to have 48 inches.

Now I feel bad lol.

But I am 5'9'' so it doesn't look terrible.

Also, you have to remember you're probably taller than most girls on the forum as well, So when you say your hip measuremenet isaround 38 or so inches, it would look much different on the frame of someone who is 5'9" as opposed to someone who is 5'5 1/2" like myself. I have those measurements as well, and I doubt you're hips LOOK as large as mine.

But I know how it feels like to feel like the 'fattest person on the forum', being surrounded by people who are around 5'3" and weigh, like, 98 pounds and are looking to lose MORE weight is very, very, VERY discouraging, to me anyway.

Also, as for modeling, are you looking to do clothing modelling? Have you tried doing just regular modelling? Because, honestly, I know girls who are models at 5'4" and 135 and up in weight. Needless to say, you can never be 'too fat' to model. Find a new Agent. How old are you? Are you still under 18 or so? Agent's to younger models don't take into account your body is still GROWING, and you aren't SUPPOSED to be built like a five-year-old girl forever.

I know it's easier said than done, but relax. Needless to say you're NOT the fattest person in the forum, har har :)

Three inches of height makes a HUGE difference!!

We are all lovely in one way or another!

Especially when we smile!!!

Damn, you're lucky to be 5'9" at that! I can only dream of being that tall! lol

I know how much it sucks to just look at yourself and want to change so many things. And then you look at other people and hate everything twice as much. People tell you to get over it, but they don't understand. Like the first response said, self-loathing really can't be kept inside.

Don't listen to that retarted agent though! An "ideal modeling body" translates to an ideal health hazard in the real world! Models are hangers. Sure, I would deffinetly model if anyone ever asked me, (again, that's so cool that you've modeled!), but when I remember I'm too short to ever model, I keep a few things in mind about how difficult that lifestyle would really be to sustain...

- Modeling bodies are typically flat and plain. Designers don't want anything beautiful or apparent about the model; they feel all of the pizazz should come fromt thier clothing.

- Agents don't care about you. They care about the money. They don't care about your health or what you love. (I'm sure not ALL agents are like this, but)

I ramble on too much! lol I hope you start to feel better though. I'm sure you're deffinetly not the fattest one on this forum, too! I'm sorry about your receant modeling occurance though. Keep your head held high and search for a new employer, one that actually values YOU and YOUR talents, cause I'm sure you have alot to offer! Take care :)