hate being fat!!!

You're not fat.  you know you're not fat -- you've asked us before.

If you want to work out -- go for it, but keep your calories at least at 1800 (which you are not doing now), if not more.  You won't benefit if you insist on under-eating.

Get bigger jeans.

You're obviously not FAT.

Also, Even if you were, Is FAT the worst thing you possibly could be? Try toning if you're stomach is ' huge ' as you claim. Crunches and on youtube there's an awesome girl who does this thing called ' blogilates ' and tone it up

halfwaytobeautiful -- before you call us 'harsh' -- go read all the threads this poster has started.  We're not being harsh -- we're being honest and realistic. 

You get platitudes and petting when you first arrive -- after you've been told for the 15th time that you are not eating enough (because you've asked 15 times), after being told that you are not fat and your bmi is normal, repeatedly (because you've asked repeatedly), you lose the right to receive Internet hugs and warm fuzzies -- you get the truth.  Unvarnished.  Which means we say the same thing we were saying before -- you are not fat and you are not eating enough -- we just don't wrap it in a pretty bow.  Nobody was rude.

ok coach K. whatever you say goes, obviously. noone is allowed to have different opinions and if they do they can not be shared. i realize she has posted many times and checked before i even replied to the thread... if you don't think anyone was being rude..well OK. maybe its just me. xx

please get a reality check, when you 200lbs and 5' 4''  like I am then you can say your fat. I'm  tired to telling you that your not fat to make you feel good while I'm feeling like crap today. 

What matters more than what we think is what you think. It sounds to me you're unhappy with your body image, regardless of the numbers. IMHO, this is a psychological issue, not physical. Ask yourself: are there other aspects of your life you're unhappy about? career, where you're living, relationships? are you in the habit of self-criticism? did you grow up with a critical parent? Do you seek external validation, be it body image or other topics?

What's helped me in the past was finding a good book to understand my psychology and loving and accepting myself and life the way it is. This lead me to stop caring what I thought people thought. Believing in myself more propelled me to start getting stronger and healthier physically.

good luck.