The reason i was asking is because I am constantly thinking about losing weight. I always look in the mirror and look at my ribs and to see if my stomach looks bigger. I also count calories and never go above 1700. I weigh myself every morning and im always planning my meals. Everything i eat is either low fat, or reduced fat or diet food. I dont have an ED ( i used to though) but im always thinking about losing weight when i exercise.
Like i said i know teens worry about their weight but is it normal to worry every single day??? If i gain i restrict ugg. The thing is, im not even skinny!!!! Im 5'4 and weigh 122 lbs. its kinda fat but thats ehy im truing to lose !!!! Please help me, please!
It might be normal, but it definitely isn't healthy. You aren't fat. You are at a perfectly healthy weight, and obsessing over your weight must drive you crazy, so why do it. Stop getting on your scale. Stop restricting and enjoy life.
It may not seem like im fat but trust me i am, everything on me is fat even though i eat healthy and do bowling swimming and field hockey ! Ugggg
If your whole family swallowed cyanide, would you join them? They all have body issues and joining them won't do you any good.
I also don't believe that you are fat if you are at a healthy weight and play sports. If you really want to change your body composition, lift some weights.
I'm not sure you have recovered from your ED.
Is it possible to get help from school, if your family also have unhealthy attitudes?
No, it's not normal, and furthermore, eating more than 1000 calories per day does NOT mean you are recovered mentally from an ED (or physically, for that matter). You continue to restrict calories, you are obsessed with food and your weight -- sounds kind of EDish to me.
122lb at 5'4" isn't "kind of fat" -- it's still on the low-side of the BMI -- and it doesn't matter whether we're using the "kid's" BMI calculator or the CC one -- you are still not "kind of fat."
The minimum recommended for a teen female who is OVERWEIGHT and ACTIVE is 1800 calories -- you are not overweight, and should be eating much more than 1800 calories. While losing a pound or two might not be unhealthy, given your previous issues, it's not a good idea.
Difference between a diet and an eating disorder (from something-fishy.org) :
Eating Disorder or Diet?
The most common element surrounding ALL Eating Disorders is the inherent presence of a low self esteem
Having an Eating Disorder is much more than just being on a diet. An Eating Disorder is an illness that permeates all aspects of each sufferer's life, is caused by a variety of emotional factors and influences, and has profound effects on the people suffering and their loved ones.
Dieting is about losing a little bit of weight in a healthy way.
Eating Disorders are about trying to make your whole life better through food and eating (or lack of).
Dieting is about doing something healthy for yourself.
Eating Disorders are about seeking approval and acceptance from everyone through negative attention.
Dieting is about losing a bit of weight and doing it healthfully.
Eating Disorders are about how life won't be good until a bit (or a lot) of weight is lost, and there's no concern for what kind of damage you do to yourself to get there.
Dieting is about losing some weight in a healthy way so how you feel on the outside will match how good you already feel on the inside.
Eating Disorders are about being convinced that your whole self-esteem is hinged on what you weigh and how you look.
Dieting is about attempting to control your weight a bit better.
Eating Disorders are about attempting to control your life and emotions through food/lack of food -- and are a huge neon sign saying "look how out of control I really feel"
Dieting is about losing some weight.
Eating Disorders are about everything going on in life -- stress, coping, pain, anger, acceptance, validation, confusion, fear -- cleverly (or not so cleverly) hidden behind phrases like "I'm just on a diet".
Since you already had (have) an ED you should put on an extra effort to not think about it. Obssessing about your weight might be one of the signs of a relapse. You are not overweight, you are fine, if you want to work out try to think you are doing it because you want to be healthy, because you want to get toned and not because of the weight.
You don't need to eat diet-low fat everything, just try to eat healthy if that will give you some peace of mind. And I also think, in no way, you should weigh yourself everyday.
You should focus on being healthy mentally and phisically, believe me I know sometimes is a struggle but you can do it.
Its normal for a teenage girl (and women for that matter) to be concerned about their weight. Its not normal to develop an eating disorder; but it is EXTREMELY typical for a teenage girl to develop an eating disorder as a means to deal with a crappy home life situation.
Can't control the chaos in your life (abusive dad, complaint mom, spiritual crisis, frenemies, jerk boyfriend and jerk brother, etc), but you can control your weight right? And if you just got skinny enough...you'd be perfect and numb to all the chaos/pain surrounding you.
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Yeah it never, ever, ever, works that way. Losing weight won't solve, well, any of your problems. what will get you on to the path of feeling better, living healthier, and getting out of an abusive situation is if you told someone, like a cop/teacher/guidance counselor/trusted relative/friend's parents/etc.
get help, you don't have to live like this.
I do this alot too..and from experience, it causes alot of unnecessary stress. To answer your question, no. Thinking about calories, constantly checking the mirror for your ribs and to see how your stomach looks and worrying constantly if that piece of cake is going to make you gain x lbs is NOT normal and certainly disordered.
If you want to tone up, fine. I don't see anything wrong with that. But you are already at a healthy weight for your age and height and i don't think you need to loose any more weight. I think you should stop focusing so much on 'loosing weight' but GAINING muscle. try lifting weights. i have heard rave reviews from people who lift and often notice a difference in a few weeks time. But in order to gain muscle, you can't starve your muscle. People who lift often eat around 2200 calories a day and are packed full of protein ( meats and certainly fullfat/nondiet food!). restricting is silly, all you do is loose muscle and then eventually regain fat. its not worth it!!
It seems like you eat healthy and excersise regularly. You are a a healthy weight. You have nothing to worry about. Relax. ( i know, easier said then done but try!) and try not to think about it so much. Whenever i have those thoughts i remind myself " Most girls my age don't excersise at all, eat whatever they want and are still healthy. If they can do it, why can't i?!" and then push them aside and distract myself. Good luck lovey.
Well, since you did say you had an ED, it could be the remains of that. Your stats paint a lean girl in my mind. Weigh yourself maybe once a week, or try to at least wean yourself off of the scale. A tip is to try to gain muscle. The more muscle you get, the "thinner" you look.
Good luck, girlfriend. Just holler if you have any more questions, I'd love to help you!!
That is still a starvation diet for you. You could have double the amount of food you eat and it would still be fine with all the exercise you do. The reason you are obsessing about food is that you are starving.
Who said ~1000 calories is enough for you? It is not enough for anyone who is not bedridden, missing some limbs, in a coma, etc.
Eat more. The stresses and worries will fall away eventually.
