at my school every girl is like SO fricking skinny! i know a couple are beliemic and anorexic because they told me but i mean they are stick skinny and they are always looking in the mirror"UGH im SO fat, jeez i need to lose weight!!" then i look at myself and want to cry. if they need to lose weight then what do I have to do?! kill myself so my corpse can dry out and make me look thinner in my grave?! its not fair. and those girls eat like pigs! im at the gym by our school every day and never see them and they are always like "i havent worked out in MONTHS. im SO flabby!" am i at an ok weight?? i just turned 13 and i am 5'3 (They also call me short sometimes) and i am around 117ish lbs my weight fluctuates and i dont have a really up-to-date scale. am i really that fat and short?? honest answers please?!
Your weight is absolutely FINE, please don't get dragged into the 'OMG I'm so fat at 100lbs' routine that ruins the childhood of so many kids these days! being 13 can be hard, and you really don't need this stupid obsession that some of your friends have to make it any harder.
Most of them will grow out of this; those who don't are putting their health at risk, and at the most extreme, their lives. If anything, they are to be pitied not envied. You sound healthier than all the rest anyway!
So, just to restress, you are not fat - far from it, and for your age you're not short either - but guess what? being too thin can stop you growing, so you may well shoot up past those other girls in the next year or so!!
Good luck, and stay strong and healthy!!
mrswilsoncat nailed it.
Maintain your health lifestyle and don't worry about what other people say or think. That will always lead to trouble for you. Live for yourself, not others!
I completely understand, and it's actually one of the things that first triggered me to become anorexic.
I've always been much taller and bigger-boned than the other girls, and began to develop a womanly figure when I was very young. It always made me feel a bit out of place with the other girls, since I look really different. No one ever made fun of me about it, and heck a lot of boys seem to be attracted to me because I have curves the other girls don't, but I still felt like a big whale compared to everyone.
Even still to this day, I feel a bit self-conscious whenever I'm with other girls, but I've definitelly learned to cope with it much better. The best thing to do is to just stop comparing yourself and live to your own standards, thinking only about how YOU look. Right now, at 5'7" and a half, 130 lbs, I weigh a ton more than a lot of girls my age, yet in reality, I'm actually quite slim and proportionate. I'm physically in much better shape than a lot of them too, because I actually work out, even if they don't have to. Sure I may have some womanly fat in which they don't have, but I also have a lot more muscle, and I'm stronger and faster. I could kick their asses :P
You're at a healthy weight. Just keep being active and eating healthily. I know it's rough being an early bloomer, but you'll actually look better than them once they're all matured and filled-out, you'll be in much better shape, and you'll probably outlive most of them if you keep up your healthy lifestyle :)
Thank you all of you! i guess i should hang out with more down to earth people as you said :) you are all really sweet <3
oh my god. u r perfect too! trust me. dude ur so pretty and ur PEREFECT. im not lucky, trust me. im pretty sure u dont have acne like i do. u dont get made fun of as much.... and plus ur weight good be all muscle because muscle weighs MUCH more than bone. :) u are perfect! we can be workout buddys! we got this. we all do! with a little motivation we could both lose hella! <3 dont worry.
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Just remember all those girls, if they are actually anorexic or bulimic, are doing terrible things to their body. If you see them eating a lot they are probably vomiting or purging with laxatives afterwards or exercising at home for hours to get rid of the calories. As you probably know this does terrible things to a body. It damages/makes your hair fall out, ruins the enamel on your teeth, damages your esophagus and digestive system, damages your immune system, and can lead to irregular heart rhythms. People with eating disorders die without help. When you have an ED it takes over your entire life and you are miserable. So if those girls seem happy they are either fooling themselves into thinking they are happy and need help desperately, or they are lying about having an eating disorder because they think it is cool.
