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Who Wants to be Skinny, Anyway?


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Is there any teen girl on this board that would rather have some muscle than be a delicate waif?

Just curious, since it seems to be a trend for our age group.

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Hey there I have no desire to be a stick figure I just want to get healthy, fit, and tone up

I've been questioning myself about that lately. I'm still not sure, considering my recovering from an ED.

i love that you're posting about this though.

With my natural shape anyways (tall, quite big bone structure - I blame two really tall parents) there's no way I could be a waif if I tried. So toning up and just getting rid of a few flabby bits is my priority :) I want to be able to wear a bikini and look nice, not have every single little bone sticking out.

I'd love to be toned over stickly. And I am recovering from an eating disorder, too, but I know I find healthy looking girls and women a hell of a lot prettier than skin and bones.

I would love to be considered slim, strong and athletic by those that look at me. I would much rather appear to be capable of whipping your butt than to appear to be easily broken in half.

But, even more important, I'd like my doctor to rave about my weight.:) He is a smart doctor, and I think that he actually paid attention during his years upon years of medical training.;)

I have always appreciated muscles and strength, so no, I dont want to be a pile of bones and skin. Lean and slim would sound wonderful though.

In my mind, I really want to be stick thin, only because I feel like. if I were skin and bones, I would finally view myself as "beautiful". I think I'm so disgustingly fat and have always thought that of myself. I'm afraid that no matter how skinny I become, I'll always think I'm fat. However, even though I don't think I'm skinny, I'd love for other people to tell me I look disgusting[ly skinny].

I know that's really complicated, but its just how I feel.

slim frame with a toned psychic...so a middle between the two. :)

Original Post by slb537:

In my mind, I really want to be stick thin, only because I feel like. if I were skin and bones, I would finally view myself as "beautiful". I think I'm so disgustingly fat and have always thought that of myself. I'm afraid that no matter how skinny I become, I'll always think I'm fat. However, even though I don't think I'm skinny, I'd love for other people to tell me I look disgusting[ly skinny].

I know that's really complicated, but its just how I feel.

Sara ~

You are currently within a healthy BMI (based on your profile) and your goal is within a healthy BMI range as well, so that is good.

Why do you feel that no matter what, you will still feel "fat"? 

Often times, it takes people time to adjust to their new bodies after losing weight to see the true results that other people see.  Usually these feelings go away for most. 

For others, they may develop Body Dysmorphic Disorder

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/body-dysmorp hic-disorder/DS00559

Definition

Body dysmorphic disorder (BDD) is characterized by an excessive preoccupation with a real or imagined defect in your physical appearance.

People with body dysmorphic disorder often have problems controlling negative thoughts about their appearance, even when reassured by others that they look fine and that the minor or perceived flaws aren't noticeable or excessive.

Have you talked to someone about the way you feel? 

Wanting to be told that you look disgustingly skinny is something to be concerned for even though your goals are still within a healthy range.

The reason why a lot of people choose to concentrate on building muscle versus losing weight is because one pound of muscle will take up less space than one pound of fat.   (example

I would LIKE to be thin, but my main body idols aren't stick thin, and I hope to someday be built like them (Jillian Micheals, Jackie Warner, Joan Jett).

Sure, being thin would probably get me more guys and girls to like me, I MAY be happy with that shape, but I want to look like I could destroy someone rather than be javelined fourty feet away by a ten-year-old, hahaha

i wouldn't really say i like sickly skinny because i don't.. but being petite i've always liked looking thin and waiflike. i guess it's cause muscle on me makes me look kinda bulky. but either way, it all depends on the person and how they look.

Original Post by direwolf689:

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Sure, being thin would probably get me more guys and girls to like me, I MAY be happy with that shape, but I want to look like I could destroy someone rather than be javelined fourty feet away by a ten-year-old, hahaha

I love this analogy!

I can tell you that the older you get the more important personality becomes when it comes to people actually liking you (male and female).  Having a healthy body is so much more important at any age than the pounds on that body.

Ya know...


up until I got down to like 104, I still thought of myself as fat.


Not that I thought that I WAS fat, but I just was so used to feeling that way about myself that it was weird to me when people would say, "You're so skinny!"


I'm recovering from a minor ED but I never got to the point where I was grossly, sickly thin.


I've always looked toned and built, because I do a lot of strength training.


And I love that; I don't think I want to look sick and frail.

i wanna be skinny...

i worked as a dresser at a fashion show this weekend and all the girls were absolutely gorgeous. being 5'6 and 116 lbs and being around those girls made me feel awful about myself

ugh it just makes me want to go on a crazy diet... 

Original Post by fashionista01:

i wanna be skinny...

i worked as a dresser at a fashion show this weekend and all the girls were absolutely gorgeous. being 5'6 and 116 lbs and being around those girls made me feel awful about myself

ugh it just makes me want to go on a crazy diet... 

I question whether or not you're a troll sometimes.

a troll? fashionista01: It sounds pretty harsh if you're 5'6" and 116lbs and want to go on a crazy diet though. >"< I'd think that the girls would have to be around your weight as well to look absolutely gorgeous? (Or maybe I'm just biased cause I have a boob complex >"<)

If I could choose my genes, I'd want to be fair and soft (kinda like kate winslet in titanic). Sadly, I'm semi-dark and fat looks kinda gross on me... (I'm ecto/mesomorph so ideally (based on my bodytype), I'd be lean and toned. I prefer waifishness (if it's not a bony/stick-like sort of waifishness) to muscles though, cause i don't particularly like angularity and high definition...). 

I think we should all just be happy with what we have to offer.

If you're a runway model, flaunt your tall, sleek form because you're fortunate to be blessed with it.

If you're not, be happy with the idea what you have to offer the world is more than just the way you look, which inevitably fades with age.

Love yourself; look in the mirror every morning and say, "Damn - I'm sexy!" because an overweight, complainy person is a helluva lot more annoying than an overweight confident person.

Original Post by oxymoron00:

... because an overweight, complainy person is a helluva lot more annoying than an overweight confident person.

Thats SO true! After all, there's a girl in my class who is pretty overweight, maybe even obese, but she's a wonderful person, very humorous and confident, and very popular!

But what's even more annoying than a complainy overweight person is a complainy skinny person. Like, "eww, my BMI is over 18, thats SO GROSS!" >_<

I do not want to be skinny!! I want to keep my curves, I love my butt I love my boobs, I love my hips!

Oh and Fashionista or whatever ur name is.... 5'6 and 116 sounds very unhealthy. I am 5'7 and I could NEVER imagine being that thin...I think I would literally look like a bag of bones!

Original Post by slb537:

In my mind, I really want to be stick thin, only because I feel like. if I were skin and bones, I would finally view myself as "beautiful". I think I'm so disgustingly fat and have always thought that of myself. I'm afraid that no matter how skinny I become, I'll always think I'm fat. However, even though I don't think I'm skinny, I'd love for other people to tell me I look disgusting[ly skinny].

I know that's really complicated, but its just how I feel.

 I totally understand feeling like that. I'm the same way. And I bet you a whole bunch of girls passed by this same post and thought the same thing. I wouldn't have answered if I was the first person to answer I'd rather be skinnier and I bet those other girls didn't post for the same reasons.

Just keep reminding yourself that its not entirely healthy and you're just buying into unrealistic images of women that are plasterred everywhere. Ignore that.

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