I am freaking out!

I have been cramping since Friday evening. I was supposed to start my period on this past Sunday but I haven't. I've been having cramps as if I'm about to start any minute. Now I'm finding out that I may be pregnant. I've had this scare a few times in my life but the tests were always negative. I guess I'll have to go get another test. I hate going through this. I do want a child so badly but I don't think now is the best time.

have you taken a test yet?  you may want to wait a few days more to not get a flase negative if you are.  worrying can also cause your period to be delayed.  take one day at a time!

For me, I took a test before I'd missed my period and it came up positive. A trip to the doctor two days later confirmed the test.
You know you're body. I always thought it was a huge joke when women said they "just knew" when they were pregnant... however it's true. haha
   

LOL Alibuch remember me saying I was emotional in the PM. Well this is one of the reasons why. I'm so scared but at the same time I am 32 years old! I know I don't look it. People still think I look 21, but my clock has been ticking for years. It would be ok because of that but I don't know if I'm ready financially. Plus my bf and I are not married of course. That's not a necessity but I'd rather be married, but I would not get married just because I was pregnant, that makes no sense to me. Plus I wouldn't be in that good of shape if I did that as far as looking good in my dress. :)

I'd take a test. If you think you're pregnant, then there's a pretty good chance you are.
And as for financial security, I don't think most people are ever 100% ready for a baby. :P

That's just it. I have no idea. I don't think I would know if I really was. I don't know how to tell. I just know I've been cramping and I'm late. This rarely happens. I'm always so regular. I hate to do it but I'm going to get a test on my lunch break.

i agree with ali.  I woke up and new; then bought 6 tests to prove myself wrong and all were positive.  But get the tests.  It may just ease your minds.  Does he know you're suspecting this?  Ask him to help pay for them; since they're expensive.  Get a pack with three tests and try one over the next week or so.  In the morning. 

Ali-  you are so right about intuition.  I was on the pill and I woke up and just knew.  no one is ever ready or has enough $$.

try not to freak out too much nenewa! even if money is tight, these things have a way of working out.

haha I bought one test. My friends kept telling me to go by more. I told them it was unnecessary because I just knew.

I'll leave my pregnancy comments restricted to that.

lol

i was in such disbelief i bought 6!

I just took a test and it's postive! I'm really freaking out now.

NENEWA!!!!  OMG!!!     we are all here for you!!!!  what an adventure this will be for you!!!  I didn't know how to react once I found out.  But now I can't wait to meet this little one!  keep us posted on what your BF says!

Congrats!!! 

It's true about just knowing.  I wasn't even late with this pregnancy, and I just knew I was.  I took a home test the day I should've started my period, and it was clearly positive right away!

If your gut instinct is to want to be pregnant (i.e. want a baby), look at the ways you can make it work, and look for ways around the obstacles. There usually are some.

Good luck!! Hope your partner feels the same way you do about it (however it is that you do feel!).

2 tests both positive. my bf was not too happy. very shocked. he wanted to be married with stability before having another child. he already has 2. I wanted that too. Now I in such shock. I cannot believe this. I kind of thought I could not get pregnant. Just when I was getting in the best shape of my life. How do I continue to work out. what about after the baby is born?

It's best to continue some sort of exercise while you're pregnant. It makes it easier for you to get back in shape afterward. As to what that all entails, I'm not sure. 

Congrats on being pregnant. : ) Just keep working out like you were before. Infact the better in shape you are the less traumatic labor and delivery will be on your body.

Now go rent a copy of "Business of Being Born".  Don't make any decisions about medical care providers until you have seen this movie. 

 

Again Congrats and good luck.

 

Denise

Can I do stomach exercises? Like crunches? Side bends? I don't want to get fat. You know unbelievably fat. I'm so scared!!!! I shouldn't be but I am. I never thought about what I would do if this were to happen and now it has!

When I was pregnant, my doctor advised against stomach exercises like crunches, twists, and side bends particularly in the 2nd and 3rd trimester.   It would be best to check with a doctor.

There are a lot of great resources on pregnancy and exercise, look around you'll find a lot of good information - but I've always gotten good advice from WebMD:

http://www.webmd.com/baby/features/exercise-d uring-pregnancy-myth-vs-fact

I also highly recommend "What to Expect When You're Expecting" - a great month by month resource, and "What to Expect the First Year" is a great reference for a first time mother (I think I checked it daily when I was convinced that every person who breathed on my baby would make him sick....).

I also recommend seeing what kind of childbirth classes are available at your local hospital - it really helps out with preparation, they can help out a lot with questions, and you'll get a chance to meet other mothers / couples that may be in similar situations and can provide a lot of feedback.

Good luck!

Nenewa-  I, like you was a on a health kick when I got pregnant unexpectedly.  I kept going to the gym, but i had a heart tate monitor becuase the doc said I was not to get my HR over 140; common for doc's to say.  I used the elliptical up until my fourth month; but then all the bouncing would hurt my bladder so I stcuk with the treadmill.  I'm in my last tri now; 10 weeks to go; and the only weight that I ave really gained was in my chest; some in my hips and upper legs-  but that's about it.  I still have a little bit of a waist-  and my belly is hard-  it's all muscles.  Just conintue to eat right and do light cardio.  Swimming is great as well.  The joys that you will soon feel when the baby moves will be the most amazing experience you will ever have up until this point; and once you see him/her on the sonogram screen; you'll fall in love!!!  You just need to cope right now and put a game plan together. 

But just think-  there are so many people who try for years to get pregnant; and they work so hard to finally get there-  and when they do it's bliss for them.  If this is the baby you are meant to have; it will happen.  But don't stress too much and keep the lines of communication open with your BF.  He's in this with you.  And, you need support.  The next 9 months will be about you and baby; so lean on people who you can trust for guidance and support.  We are all here for you on cc too!

Also, if you like the internet and want to mee women who are just pregnant and due around the same time you may want go to  www.mothering.com and join a birth club.  The women on that board are very informed about fitness, health, and over all natural childbirth, and child rearing.

www.askdrsears.com. is one of my favorite websites.  I don't read it that often anymore but Dr. Sears has some insight about pregnancy and child rearing I really like.

Keep doing what you are doing.  And good luck.