My friend is a sheep.

Not a literal sheep, a figurative sheep.

Here's the story.

I have a friend, we'll call her Jane. I have another friend, we'll call her Amy. Well I started talking to a guy a while ago, and neither Amy nor Jane had met him yet. Amy had seen the boy at a punk show not too long ago, and she made fun of him for being the only skin there and just being all around a bit goofy. So she teases me about it.

Jane drives. The boy lives an hour away from me. One weekend we decided to take a mini trip up to where he is. We all met up. Jane liked him, said he was super nice, and sweet.

But as soon as Jane got in Amy's company, she made fun of the boy. Made him out to be stupid and ugly.

It's true he's got a bad stutter, he stumbles over words when he tries to get his thoughts out too fast. But it doesn't, in any way, make him stupid. He's a smart guy.

But I'm just tired of Jane. She's done this with the last guy I was with too. Makes them all into jokes.

I just needed to rant. Have any of you had friends like this? (I know, it seems like such a teenage thing...but it's all her, no one else is doing anything to instigate)

Wow.  And you are friends with her why???

... there's something about a man with a stutter ... oh, temptation.

I had two friends, say "dolly" and "roberta" who made fun of my last boyfriend, call him "ricky".  in the end it turned out that dolly was just jealous of ricky spending so much time with me, while roberta was a hateful bitch.

Original Post by peaches0405:

Wow.  And you are friends with her why???

 Because I feel bad for her. No one likes her.. her old friends won't even invite her anywhere. Amy introduces us to her friends, and they all really dislike Jane and like me.

I think I'm almost done with her though. She needs to stop, seriously.

"

... there's something about a man with a stutter ... oh, temptation."

I love his stutter! :)

I don't keep friends like that, honestly.

If you want to try to remain friends with Jane, I suggest that you let her know, without attacking, how it makes you feel when she puts down your new friend. " i enjoy spending time with Brian, and when you keep putting him down it makes me feel hurt and angry." She may have been so busy trying to fit in with Amy (whose teasing it sounds like is more good natured?) and not thought about how it might make you feel.

P.S. I love punk rock! Don't know if it's the same kind as you like, because I think I am a good bit older. But I do love the punk! I try my best to go to a show at least every other month or so.

Original Post by trashleyf:

Original Post by peaches0405:

Wow.  And you are friends with her why???

 Because I feel bad for her.

 One of the worst reasons for "friendship" (quotation mark intended) there is... And it usually backfires on the merciful person.

"No one likes her.. " - well, now you know that they have a good reason...

I'm happy for you for wanting to end this relationship... Good luck, and best of luck with the guy

Original Post by shinyblackpit:

P.S. I love punk rock! Don't know if it's the same kind as you like, because I think I am a good bit older. But I do love the punk! I try my best to go to a show at least every other month or so.

 I like seventies punk mostly, and a little bit of today's. :)

Thans a lot shevandell, things withthe boy and I are going good, and I don't see it changing any time soon, especially because a so-called friend can't be a grown up.

She could be a bit insecure about being around friends in/starting relationships.

Friends? Hm. I don't think you should use the word friends so loosely. It's not wise to pretend to like someone just because you pity them. Some people are disliked by others for good reason. Reasons that you'll continue to learn with time. Did it ever occure to you that the friendship isn't mutual? It's pretend on both of your behalfs! It's your choice to be friends with anyone for whatever reason. However, you should try to remember that you choose your friends which make them a reflection of yourself.

Yep I used to have a "friend" like that. She was extremely manipulative and possessive, and one thing she would do is make fun of every guy I was interested in to make him seem unworthy, so that I would dump him and she would have all my attention again. It was a really dysfunctional relationship, I can see that now.

Eventually, through this and many other kinds of evidence, I realized she was not someone who had my best interests in mind, only her own. When I started seeing someone new I did not introduce them, and had no interest in ever doing so. We had already been drifting apart, but that was the final nail in the coffin.

If you asked her about me, I can pretty much guarantee she would say I was the kind of person who dumps her friends for a boyfriend. Ha. I have less friends in my life now - culled out all the flakes and non-supportive jerks - but my life is much happier for it. You don't need people who pull you down, period.