My friends kill my diet.

They're so persuasive. It's evil. Today I was persuaded to go to Coldstone for some ice cream with one of my friends. I had completely eliminated cookies/ice cream/donuts/milkshakes from my diet because of my utter inability to enforce portion control. But of course, my friend just laughed at me and gushed about how good it would feel, etc etc. It was nice, a brownie and chocolate ice cream mix, but I feel so bitter about not being able to stick to my guns. Especially after viewing the nutrition values I dug up on here... horrific. It's like I had a goal, and my friend dismissed it and flicked it away, and I'm left feeling farther away from it then ever! I tried to think of alternatives on the spot, but I succumbed so easily to her will... haha. I guess I'm just feeling bummed and I felt like whining to people who may understand and care...

Wow, you just missed this thread today about someone else having to resist Cold Stone ice cream.

http://www.calorie-count.com/forums/post/9826 .html

LOL, yeah, the difference is I already ate it. =( Buyer's remorse...

You said it destinyrox, evil is the word.  You know the saying, friends like that, who needs enemies.  Now that you know what to expect, take a rain check.

I forgot to add, after some rest tonight you?ll be strong again for tomorrow?s new challenge.  We all have friends like that and it is never easy.  Good luck!

It weren't your friends who killed your diet, you made the decision to eat icecream, take responsibility for your own decisions.

Yikes seraph.  I think we all know that her friends didn't force the spoon into her mouth.  I think she was just commenting on the fact that its hard to keep on the straight and narrow when your friends aren't on the same page. Give the girl a break, we've all been thru it.

I agree with seraph...its put bluntly, but its true :)

Dude, my friends do that to me all the time, but I don't think they're trying to be mean, they just don't think I need to lose weight! It's not their fault. I think you should enjoy the yummyness of it, but next time remember your goals and maybe go for something else.

Right, that may be the case, however, if we can't come here and whine every once in awhile without getting slapped down........and she also stated that she KNEW she succumbed too easily.....I don't think she was so much NOT taking responsibility, just irritated with herself for giving in so easily.

This is true...but we're all different.  You take a kind supportive stance to the statement, and she took a "quit whining about it" approach.  To each his own.

I know it is hard sometimes.  But you are the one making the decisions.  When I go out with friends to "Sonic" or "Fritzs"  I will sit there and have a diet coke or order the smallest size they have and only eat half of it and throw the rest away or give it to a friend.  :)  I feel so good when I do that and in CONTROL!!!!  And I think my friends respect me more when I do that too.  They don't bring it up as much.  :) I also love playing with fire.  I drive up to Krispy Kreme and only order a diet coke for the road.  :)  God now that is a rush!!!

Hang in there and be strong!!!!

Trish  

dont feel down, destiny.  remember this is a way of life, it takes time to form any habit.  you will, we probably all will, fall off the horse several times.  one sunday will not ruin your better lifestyle unless you decide that you can't resist your devilish friends and just give up.  but the fact that you did post about your remorse shows that you have not given up, that you realize the err of listening to your friend.  i would have a real conversation with your friend, tell them how important this is to you, and that you could use their support.  if your friend still poo poos your desires to be healthy and reach your goals, then it may be time to question how good this friend is for you.

?An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind.? -Hindu Prince Gautama Siddharta, Buddha

I'm not slapping anyone down mizztracy, sometimes the truth is hard to hear.

do your friend know your dieting? my sister and her boyfriend are ordering chinese in a bit i had to say NOOOO as pigged out on popcorn and chocolate at the cinema ystday (its ok to have a cheat day every now and then and certainly doesnt seem to affect how many lbs i loose) be careful anyway, you have a great figure dont loose any more weight :-p

I know what you mean.  Whenever I eat out with my friends, they
comment on how little I eat.  Mind you, their comments are based
relatively on the supersized entrees.  Just because I'm practicing
portion control doesn't mean I'm starving myself.

I find that I can resist temptation more easily when I'm full.  I'll have a big salad (sometimes with diet bread), and then - even though it's still hard - I'm able to make smarter choices.

what seraph said is the truth and it is something important to understand.

I used to think it was my dh's fault that I was overweight. He did not eat healthy, so how could I? It is something that I had to get over and realize that my eating habits were my own responsibility.

My mother just started this calorie counting stuff bc she saw how well it has done for me. Her words? It was my father's fault bc he eats so unhealthily. (I see a pattern here.)

I heard it on Dr. Phil or something that you cant blame others for your chioces. That is what turned me around. It hit me like a hammer. I think that is all seraph wanted to point out, maybe she is just more blunt than some people care for. :-)

That being said: You ate the ice cream bc YOU wanted it. Sooooo....enjoy it! You cant tell yourself that you are never going to eat ice cream again!! Ice cream is too good to NEVER have it again. You would be setting yourself up for failure to think you can never have it again. Just dont make a habit out of it! ;-)

That was exactly my point, thank you meredithgonzalez.
There's nothing wrong with being blunt, not when your intentions are good. :)

I used to have a friend who would always drink heavily before going out. I do drink an occassional beer or two every once in a while, but nowhere close to what he was doing and certainly not as a part of some rule. Our friendship did not last long.

What I am trying to say is that the relationship with food and drinks is one of the many aspects of compatibility between people. Our diets are (hopefully) not a temporary thing but a new approach to life, which will/should last a lifetime. Sometimes you have to break an egg or two in order to make an omelette.

Ah, I know how hard that is- my family, especially my mom, doesn't think I should be counting calories at my age, even though I'm not trying to lose weight. Thus, she always goes on and on about how good or delicious something is. You just have to learn to tune them out, and visualize that picture of fat somebody posted a while ago. Or, visualize yourself as a sumo wrestler; that usually works for me. XP

It will take a lot of determination, but you can do it! Just do your best not to do it again, and don't beat yourself up about it. Plus, you're quite skinny as it is; one day certainly won't do much harm. : )