my friends are making me fat!

ok... a lot of my friends that i hang out with on a regular day-to-day basis are slim, but they eat a tonnnn (especially unhealthy food).  And they make it seem like it's no big deal, so i end up eating more than i should... it's really frustrating... especially when i've eaten well all day and then go hang out with my friends and basically throw my whole day out the window!

does anyone else have this problem? how do i stay healthy when they're eating like pigs!?

pretty much everyone i hang out with overeats (my boyfriend's the only one who doesn't). I just give them a heads up that I'm trying to be healthier so they back off. Try to go to restaurants that have better choices, too :)

yeah it's really hard. hanging out and being social always seems to revolve around food. out to dinner, grabbing coffee, snacks at the movies, late night trips to taco bell, etc. it's really hard to not eat when your friends constantly are. i'm not very good about not overindulging when my friends are, i just try to limit myself or think about how i will feel after i'm done ((usually bad about myself)).

if you feel comfortable with your friends let them know you're trying to eat healthy and maybe they'll be considerate. if you can't help it and have to eat something thats not too good for you, just try and do better tomorrow and get a little extra exercise.

not meaning to come off as harsh, but the only person "making you fat" is YOU. i know its hard but you can control yourself. talk to your friends about it, im sure they'll be understanding and considerate. but honestly, its not their responsibility, its yours. remember, its ok to indulge a little every once in awhile.

all of my friends are obsessed with unhealthy food. it's really pretty gross. onion rings, strawberry crepes, huge amounts of pork, whatever. it's pretty normal for teens i guess. i'm not trying to lose weight but i am really health concious like you. the best thing you can do is research your favorite restaurants and find out the nutrition info on their foods then choose the best one for you. that way you don't have to feel weird not ordering anything but you don't have to feel guilty for eating crap.

thanks guysss.

i know i should try and have more control... but it's like, i see them and i'm like, "they're doing it and they're skinny... i'll be fine."

and i swim for on average 16 hours per week (but the seasons actually ending tomorrow... so i'm a little scared of whats gonna happen until i get myself on another workout plan) so it's not like i'm gaining, i'm just not loosing.

and basically everything we do revolves around food.  tonight we went to olive garden, and i feel SO sick right now because i just ate TOO much, and last weekend we went out at midnight for an ice cream run... and whenever we go to movies we're always out to dinner afterward. ughh. but i know that i'm the one that has to control myself. it's just really, really hard to watch everyone else pig out mindlessly!

Here's another idea (especially after hearing the Olive Garden) that I recommend for constant dining out. Eat slowly and only eat half of what's on your plate. Then take the rest home and eat it later or pawn it off on your family/friends. Anytime I eat out I end up over eating and feeling sick all night because the American restaurant industry gives you 3xs the portion you should get. Therefore, look at the food on your plate and make some kind of line through it and tell yourself you're simply not going to cross that line. 

Also, chug a lot of water. It will make you feel much fuller, and, if you're me, it will give you four of your eight glasses. ^.^

(As for desert, take a bite or two of your friends and be done. It's expensive, anyway. ;_; Although, that's more difficult for me.)

It's weird because Im Israeli and Im not used to eating out AT ALL.  So If my friends do and I don't it doesn't feel weird at all but that's probably all in the Israeli mentality.  What I do (Even though it's easier for me as a result of my mentality difference) is I just sit and talk rather than gorge, It just feels good seeing that they eat all the Blah stuff while I can just look at them devouring while im...Not.  Makes you feel really superior.  At least for me.  Just try it, If you really REALLY want to not eat the junk you won't.  good luck  =)

Whether we're eating out or not my friends are horrible too. Whether they're really skinny or not, whenever I'm with my friends it's like "OH THE PIZZAS HERE! I BAKED COOKIES! BRB I'M GOING TO GET SOME CHIPS AND SODA!". And I just sit there, miserably.

My husband is making me fat..lol he eats to much junk food.
When they are around you can try to get snacks that are healthy..such as lower cal chips. You can now get the 100 cal lays baked chips in a little container. Just eat the slowly..or 100 cal chocolate bars.

just stay under control and show self-discipline. my friends don't really care what they ea either but they know i am a health freak. like 2 weeks ago it was my bff's b-day and we went to a asian buffet. i took the opportunity to get a full plate of fruit and a salad, my friends laughed but that's alright. just don't break down and if you go out to eat with them, order something healthy. Even McDonald's has some ok food now, thy have fruit and walnut salad, apple dipper, and salad but they don't have fat free dressing so becareful!

no one makes ANYONE fat. do they shove the food down your mouth? no.

seriously, i hate when people blame others for what they do.

 

i go out with my jock friend, she get chinese food, a BIG plate of it. do you see me eating along with her? no. instead i get healthier options that i know the cal count for.

c'mon people don't be hasty. what she means is that when her friends eat junk she misse those good old days and becomes much too tempted. It's just a matter of self control. When we go out to eat with a group, I always start with a salad, then order a half order of something i like.. or only eat half and send the rest home.

You can still have the snacks you love just downsize them. Bring a preportioned snack with you everywhere you go.. movies, mall, school.. It will save you the hastle of trying to choose a healthy & low cal option (it can be tricky!), and will save you money. 

Sandwhiches, granola/ trail mix, 100cal snack packs, mini bags of chips, nuts, baby carrots, fruit, cheese & crackers.. and try to limit the amount of cals you drink. Get diet soda or water.

 good lcuk!

its not being hasty. its enlightening her. she shouldn't blame others for her actions &its better to learn that now than later.

I can totally sympathize. There really isn't much to do in my town, so all my friends and I ever do is go out to eat. When I get salads they eye me incredulously. But, I always get the last laugh when they're complaining about being overtly full. I know it's hard, but you just have to resist the temptation or just lay it out to them straight that you're done with junk food, and give them the reasons why. It may make them rethink how they're eating, too, even if they don't need to lose weight. Just tell them how much better eating healthfully makes you feel.

I'm going thru the same thing. I've been eating healthy but my bf doesn't. He eats late at night, he will drink soda and not work out. It makes me want to eat and it's hard! I will eat healthy for most of the day and then see him and fall off, but lately i have been doing good controling myself. Since ive been eating healthy for a week most of my cravings have gone away and i can see him eat and not feel like it now.

i know how you feel.  and i know its not really your friends making you fat. but you sound like me, im a social eater too.  when i get together with friends, its usaully out to lunch or dinner.  i eat salads a lot, but its so tempting to get something else.  my boyfriend eats whatever he wants and still doesnt have enough fat to pinch.  but i asked him last night if he could stop eating such bad food when he's around me cuz it makes it hard for me to make good descisions about what i eat.  so hopefully he'll be more mindful of things like that.  i know its easier to get your bf to do something like that than it would be for the rest of your friends, but ask them to keep encouraging you.  hopefully theyll follow your lead and thank you for it later! and what fairydust125 said is true(for me too at least).  when you get in the habit of eating good food, not fried food or sweets etc...you get used to it.  there was one point where i did that and i felt disgusted by greasy and sugary foods.  i wish i wouldve kept up with that, but hopefully ill start back up again.

obviously she knows her friends are not making her fat peacelovehominy. relax.

thanks everyoneee.

thanks for the helpful advice =]

yeah i have that problem too. I'm starting to change my diet to healthy food and working out a bit. But after school my friends hang out at this food place and it has burgers and frys and junk food. So I have to tell myself no! because they are all thin or thin with muscle, and here is normal me. so yeah just be like ummm im trying to be healthy, and ask if all of you could go somewhere else. I did that and we went to subway (not that healthy but its ok)

If you're eating out, as for a box when you order. That way, you can take half of the food off of your plate before the eating starts, which makes it a lot easier to stop when you know that you should.

You could also eat something filling before leaving. If you're full before you leave, you'll eat a whole lot less once you get there!