Frustrated and feeling bad

I started in December. Started meaning eating the amount of calories I should be to lose weight, that being 1500 and more when I exercised. I also started doing cardio for 40 minutes and some weight training. I lost 25 pounds but stopped losing in about April. I attributed it to eating more, high sugary foods, namely Tim Hortons(aka: the devil) and I was ok with staying the same weight for a while.

The problem is I want to lose more but I can't get back on track. I need to lose another 40 pounds to be at my goal weight but I just can't get my sh*t together and eat right. I will start one day great and then the next day I overeat again.

I don't know what it is. I do know that I have been going to a lot more social events and that doesn't help. I'm also starting a new job and it's a bit stressful so this could very well be because of emotional reasons but I don't know how to overcome that.

oooh my god thats what i am going through.... i am happy that i am not the only one.. but it sucks to go through this though..

Keep it up you two!  You may not see results yet, but as long as you are making teh effort, it will eventually come around.  One day on, one day off will turn into two-on, one-off, a week-on, a day-off, etc.  You will get back into the swing of things! Just keep trying!

I had the same problem. Just try to get through one day. Trite, I know, but it works. And hey, at least you kept your 40 pounds off! And, your metabolism should be back to killer status because you have been eating more than usual. Good luck!

I keep a notebook with me ALL the time...its not that big of a hassel it fits in my purse and if i get the urge to eat when i 'm not hungry i go and sit at the table or in a cafe' like i'm about to eat and just sip on ice water and write instead...

But i think about everything i eat...and i've become very strict about making sure every morsel of food i eat is logged.  And i think about the consequences of eating something unhealthy or overeating.

I've had my share of relapses.  One thing I know is that if I don't start  "today" I know it could be months before I do anything. So if I get through one good day, I have to do a second, because if I don't, I know it could be months before I do anything. And so on.
Hasn't that happened to you? I promise myself I will start, next thing I know it is eight months later.  I think, if I started back then, I would be where I want to be by now.

The way I get going  is by following the Dr. Laura-ism, "Do the behavior, the feelings will follow." So I go through a series of rituals to get me going.

1) Weigh in every day, good or bad,
2) Start keeping a food diary, good or bad
3) Go back to my healthy go-to foods, like start the day with oatmeal, or buy myself grapefruits (my favorite).
4) I like charts, will take me an hour to make one for myself, I post it by the scale. Because I invested the time to make one, I'll use it.
5) When I stop using my exercise bike, I make a deal with myself, I don't have to peddle hard and I get to  listen to my favorite CD. Usually not too long into the CD I have forgotten my deal, and realize I have been chugging away and sweating.

thank-you for all the suggestions!

i am having another problem sorta similar to this. last summer when i happily lost 10 pounds it wasn;'t that hard at all.. i was working part time, seeing friends here and there, it was pretty chill - and i could easily find time to work out.

now... i am working full time, seeing friends more it seems, doing other stuff.. playing gigs, rehearsing, moving out in 2 weeks, i am just SO BUSY! i like being active and doing a lot, but it's also stressful, and it's making the weight loss thing pretty tough...

i think i've given up and decided to exercise in the mornings even though i hate it and am such not a morning person.. but i can't find any other time.

any tips though? i am just finding this so much harder when i am so busy doing things all the time. stress does not make me want to eat little and excersise a lot. the opposite in fact...

Hey there
I don't have much for in terms of answers but I can definitely relate Custard. I started working more hours and playing ball a lot, which I know is exercise, but not cardio which makes the difference for me it seems. I am still trying to juggle everything myself but I think it's important to set out time for ourselves to stick to working out. It may take some sacrifices in other areas of our lives but in the long run, it's worth it, for me at least.

bw - I cut my dreads as well :D I absolutely love it. Actually I cut half off and brushed the rest and ended up with shoulder length hair that is surprisingly not fried or unhealthy. I had grown my roots for months to be able to do that. Just thought I would share :)

glad that you could relate. sucks don't it?

and congrats to you on the dread-choppage. impressive that you could cut only half off! i'd had mine for 2 years so they were pretty tight.. short short hair for me! (although now i'm growing it out)

Great advice all! I am in the same boat! Lost and gained back the same 5-10 pounds about a dozen times now! I am so sick of it!
On a side note....Custard your new brothers are so dang adorable!
Well stick with it everyone! We can beat this!

Custard, I had them for 5 years, lol. They were realllly tight. I just used a ton of conditioner and brushed. Took about 14 hours altogether.

When that started happening for me after losing 60 lbs I decided to join TOPS (Taking Off Pounds Sensibly) for motivation.  It's worked well as I've now lost 91 lbs.  It is definitely going a lot slower than it was in the beginnign, but I'm steadily losing 5 to 8 lbs per month at this point.