Gaining 14 pounds as a newlywed!!!

Hi everyone!

Why does calorie-count look so different!!!  I haven't been on for a while. I started in 2007 and lost about 25 pounds in about a year. I got married in July and I weighed 130.  I originally lived in Maryland and I had my own routine. Work, gym at 5, eat healthy. Now I live in NY and I work from home and there is no gym close by and I cant go for walks because it's so crowded.  I've gained 14 pounds in 4 months!!!

Today is my first day of eating healthy. That's the first step. I'm also trying to go for walks for at least 30 minutes. better then nothing!

Are there any newlyweds here? How did you deal with a new environment???

I'm a newlywed, and I gained about 10 pounds in the 6 weeks after my wedding. I think part of the problem is that when you've got a goal in mind (i.e. look great in your wedding dress!) it's hard to stay quite so disciplined afterwards, especially if you're on your honeymoon and you want to eat lots of yummy foods!

My environment didn't really change after the wedding, but I did need to recommit myself to calorie counting and exercising. It sounds like your goal to eat healthy and walk is a great way to start. Have you also thought about working out at home? I also work from home, and I found I'm much more productive if I workout for 45 min-an hour every day in the mid-morning.

Good luck!

i'm not a newlywed yet, but when my fiance and i first started dating, we got comfy quick! We were going out to eat (mexican food usually) all the time and I quickly packed on a ton of weight due to that anda  number of other reasons. It took me 4 years into the relationship to start losing the weight. You are lucky you are stopping the increase at only 14 pounds! I had about 65 or so pounds to lose! I'm almost back to where I was when we first met, and I"m hoping to look awesome again by the time we get married next july.

I think you should definitely get the husband involved. Learn new healthy recipes to cook together (cooking together can be sexy!), go for walks, challenge each other to a pushup competition, etc. Just start slowly. there are a lot of workouts you can do entirely at home. Get a dvd or two and do them in teh morning or when you can. Little things will make a difference!

I'm a newlywed!  I actually gained during the wedding planning process.  I was so stressed and busy with planning that I ate out a lot, and when I didn't I ended up giving myself as big a portion at dinner as I gave my husband.  Luckily we got a bathroom scale as one of our wedding gifts and that was a real motivator.  I started portion control and exercise and in 3 months have lost 15 pounds (2 to go).

Good luck!

I am joining this club as well. DH and I got married three months ago and we got way to comfortable. I must have gained about 10lbs since the wedding. It's hard to get back where you were.

The only thing I am doing is taking it one day at a time. If I jump right into it, it will be a disaster. I am changing one meal at a time and sticking with it.

I have yet to get my husband motivated though!!

imcoolsoni:

don't worry, you're definitely NOT alone. I am a newlywed (been married for about 9 months now), and have put on 15 lbs since our beach wedding. What is even more disturbing, is when we FIRST met (in summer of 2005), I weighed 120 lbs. Now? Yeah, I'm 180. I don't know why it happens.. I guess we get "comfortable" with one another, but I absolutely cannot stand it. I know I need to lose the weight, and he encourages me as well. But then something lapses in my brain, and I'm like, "let's get a pizza for dinner tonight". AHHH!

Thanks for all the replies!!!

My husband has gained a lot as well. About 23 pounds but I know he will loose it in a month or so.  Another main problem is that we live with our in laws (It's indian culture. The oldest son takes care of his parents) so my mother in law who is an awesome cooks makes dinner. It's sooo hard to say no to her food and then make a SALAD!

But last night i made my own dinner, went for a walk, and did some sit ups.

Lets see how it goes!

I got married about six months ago and I gained before and after the wedding.  22lbs total , but I've lost 8 of it now .  Mine was a combo of wedding stress, moving to a new city, starting an office job (a change from my former, more physical job), and downright laziness.

It's awesome that your getting hold of it before it becomes a lifestyle.  I'm jealous but also not jealous of your home cooked Indian, I love it!  I would gorge myself so much! 

Try exersizing with your hubby, me and mine were running together (before the wedding planning got in the way), and it was awesome.  Neither of us were ever runners, so we took it slow; in the end we felt great, got to eat lots and not worry about gaining, and got to spend a lot of quality time together.  If only I could convince both of us to get back on the wagon....

Good luck to both of you!!

I am about 6 1/2 years into my marriage and gaining and losing weight has been consistent throughout.

With a second child due in February - I am convinced "sympathy" weight is REAL!

Figured I would add the family factor into this posting!!! Good luck to all the newlyweds and soon to be parents.

Yes, I called it my "downward bliss spiral".. eating and being happily married! It's been over a year now since I got married and I think it only took a couple of months to put 30 pounds on. (i know, i know) So now we are both watching our calories. We've had a change in scenery too- we moved from Louisiana to Brooklyn, NY. It's been awesome because we have lots of opportunities to walk walk walk! Nothing wrong with being happy and eating merrily, but I find that we are the happiest together when we also feel great about ourselves :)

WOW, and I felt alone!! I'm so glad that other people go through the same stuff! Got married in May at 120 (went down to 117 just a little before), now I'm at 131.6!!! When we came back from the honeymoon I was 130 and was not freaking out because I figured I would lose it again... but I have NO MOTIVATION whatsoever, stopped almost completely the gym, we did a lot of renovation in the house, i'm not eating so well anymore, and I feel like CRAP!!!!

I lost 40 pounds in the last 2 years 1/2.... so scared to put it all back...I'm on the verge on having an overweight BMI again... but mostly my body has changed and I miss the gym (but can't commit myself to go back) HOW CAN I FIND MY MOTIVATION AGAIN???? without the image of the wedding gown???

You are not alone.  I'm not a newlywed but when I met my boyfriend a bit over a year ago I was 117lbs.  I know I've put on weight because some of my clothes dont fit the same way. I'm a little too scared to weight myself but i'm pretty certain I'm around 130 now, (the most I've ever weighed).  I know that doesn't sound like much but I have a VERY small bone structure so 130 is actually a lot on me.  I definitely attribute it to just getting comfortable with each other and "being loved for who I am" etc etc.  I used to have sooo much motivation whenever I needed to lose weight, (I used to be a dancer), but as long as I've been in this relationship I just can't find the motivation.  It also doens't help that my boyfriend has a crazy metabolism that doesn't let him gain weight.  He could eat pizza everyday and look great. 

Today is my first day back on the weight watching wagon in over a year.  I'm motivated and have set reasonable goals.   I'm really hoping that I can keep with it.  I REALLY want to look the way I did a year ago.

roylucie92:

I can totally relate to you. I have no motivation now that I dont need to look in my wedding gown. But last week was a major eye opener when my husband and I were getting ready and I was looking through my closet and NOTHING FIT! I refuse to buy anything new because then I will just get comfortable again and keep on gaining.  For a while I was just wearing sweat pants!!!

So I started Monday. Lost two pounds. I'm actually doing the Fat Smash Diet.  I use to count calories. Still do here and there. But I really like the Fat Smash because it teaches you a new way of life. so look into it!

As for motivation... look at your engagement pictures...you look beautiful!

Thank you imcoolsoni! Same here: I've been wearing pyjamas everyday at the house because my clothes are not too tight just yet, only not as comfie!!!!! I'll check the fat smash diet... is it hard to follow? I'm not a big eater... it's the gym part, I have trouble with now... But I'm definitely planning on going to do a spinning class at 5h30 tonight!

 

It's so nice to see that you aren't alone isn't it?  I too am a newlywed although I guess not for too much longer!!(Feb 2008)  Since my wedding I have put on about 25 lbs and that's alot for 9 months! I did also switch jobs where I was much more physically active to a slower paced job.  It's hard because I'm on the road all day, (fast food for lunch) and when I come home I don't want to cook and neither does my husband so pizza it is! LOL.  It's not really funny though because my clothes don't fit anymore.  I decided that I needed to do something about it so I am here. I have been making an effort to make healthier choices and not eat out so much, but the being active part is hard.

Hi there!

I am new to this forum because I googled....Lost weight, and gaining it back! I lost about 25 pounds from December 2006-December 2007. I am very tall and thin by nature, even at my highest 151 I dont think people would call me "fat" however my doctor advised me that I had gained 11 pounds from 2005 to 2006 and that is not good! Soo I cut out the soda, switched equal for sugar in my drinks, bought and elliptical and worked out ALOT. I think what helped me was that I always switched up my routine. One day I would do the elliptical, the next a dance video, the next a toning class at the gym, and the next sometimes cardio and weight training together! I was very focused and serious and my body changed and I was so happy with it. Going on vacation was fun too, I never liked how I looked in a bathing suit and I had toned arms and legs and abs and I felt great!

Now the problem! Since that dreadful doctors appointment in late 2006 when he told me I needed to lose weight (no one has ever told me that before ever) I actively exercised (i still definitely ate things that I wanted in reason but I think the exercising really boosted my metabolism to a point where christmas of 2007 didnt make me gain a pound, in fact I was down to 123 pounds (im 5'8) and people were making judgements that I was too skinny (if that is possible!). Around late June of 2008 I found out that I got  a new job and would be moving in with my boyfriend in New Jersey (i lived on long island previoulsly) and my exercise started to decline with everything else I had to do. Since moving in with him it has declined as well, and the food I consume is horrifying! oreos before bed? Pizza twice in one week???? When I lived at home with my mom we ate frozen yogurt sometimes for dinner or grilled chicken!!!I used to work in manhattan, take a 715 am train to teh city, get home around 630 at night and still work out almost every day! Now I work in a public schol get home around 330 and still dont feel like exercising! What I was doing for the first month I was there was getting home at 330 eating like a pig and watching tv for hours till ym boyfriend got home then we'd eat dinner! I would go to the gym like once a week if that and my elliptical is still at my parents house!

Oh and p.s...I work with little kids and was also consuming all the chocolate I had in ym office for them!!!

Well the reality finally hit and I went home for thanksgiving and the number on the scale was scary...I gained around 10 pounds since last xmas and while I still fit into most of my clothes (my jeans are a little snug) I fear that I am going to lose my shape and figure and tonedness that I worked so hard for!!!

 

SO im back on the wagon and I have been exercising more and watching what I eat (although I couldnt contain myself last night and ate tons of bread at cheesecake factory, no cheesecake though dont worry!)

Im just so nervous about losing my shape, I havent quite lost it yet but I hope I can stay motivated because I just would be so upset to trade in my 2's and 4's for my old 8's and 10's again...I worked too hard!!! Can anyone relate!

Melbacks: I'm at that same spot... For a whole 2 years, I was going to the gym 5-6 times a week (I had to force myself not to go everyday!) During my honeymoon in May, I felt WONDERFUL!!! I was comparing myself to other woment and I realized that my body was so defined.... I had never been that way. Now, I have stopped going to the gym for 6 months and even though I put on 10 pounds (I'm short, so it shows) the thing that bothers me the most is the look of my body... it doesn't feel as tight as it used to be! My clothes were all loose now they're OK on the verge of becoming a bit tight...

Eating habits were NOT that bad... :Like I lost my routine at dinner time but breakfast & lunchtime were still good... Another thing that bothers me: How in shape I was!!! I went to a spinning class yesterday (after 6 months) and it was SOOOOOO hard... I did it all (thank you pride!) and i'm not even sore this morning... but still, it was so much easier before... I feel like such a failure.... what a waste!

Anyway, better now than never... so LET'S GET BACK ON TRACK AS OF TODAY (well lunchtime was special today, so I overate a bit.... but at least I wrote it in my journal, i'm at 1100 calories and have not eaten dinrer yet.... I'll have to go to the gym I guess!) GOOD LUCK

 

 

I got married couple years ago and put on 10-12 pounds in about 6 months.  I moved after getting married and my life style had become more sedentary because of nature of my job and I had stopped working out.  Also, I had switched to birth control pills which might also be a cluprit.  Have any of you noticed anything similar? 

I gained like 6 pounds in first 4 months and was steady at that for another 6-8 months after which I gained 4-6 pounds more.  I have been trying to loose for last few months but no luck so far.  I watch what I eat and exercise, but it just doesn't seem to make any difference.

I really like this little forum!!! It motivated me to run on the treadmill and lift some weights...I am currently noshing on a fresh salad with lots of veggies and some left over chicken from a roast chicken I made the other night while my boyfriend is eating chicken with french fries! I feel great!! This is what happened to me the last time, I got so disgusted with myself I just stopped eating so much crap...I mean I really didnt cut out anything completely except soda and sugary drinks and I never deprived myself..I believe it was all the exercise that enabled me to eat as I pleased! AND i definitely did not sit around on the couch eating oreos that for sure!

My body is funny, I know exactly when I stopped working out like crazy, it was in june when I went on a cruise with ym family, and although I exercised on the boat 5 out of 9 days we ate like crazzzzzzy...then after that I got my new job and that was pretty much the end of exercise for me! I never really stopped, but I stopped going at the rate I was...I would go MAYBE once a week or twice when I was used to doing classes and cardio at least 5 days a week...But my body took a while to catch up to my lack of motivation! And believe me my september filled with coming home at 330 and eating untill bedtime did NOT help...BUT you know what, its OKAY. I caught it right in the neck of time while I can still fit into most of my clothes (tight jeans, but they button!!!)

I was also very upset when I first moved here. I am a guidance counselor and after 2 years of grad school I found it very hard to find ajob on Long Island, its very competitive. SO I decide since my BF lived in NJ I would start applying here (even though we always planed and still do plan on living in NY eventualy) to open up my opportunities a bit more...it all happened so fast, I left my job that I was at for three years with tons of friends and my friends and family on Long Island to come here (if any of you are from NY you know that NJ has a bad rep....its not that bad....shh dont tell). ANyways I was really lonely and upset and I believe that had something to do with my weight gain as well! Three months in...im more adjusted and feel better overalll. I love this forum, its so great to get this all out..if I tried to talk to my mom or sister or friends about my weight "gain" they would laugh in my face because every thinks im crazy to want to lose weight and like i said before they thought i was "too" skinny..I disagreed and loved how I looked and will be back in that shape soooon! I am definitely more active in my new job, but I am also more tired and have much more time on my hands...time to me equals eating!!!! During my weight loss year I worked full time, went to grad school full time, and worked out full time!! I would go to work in the city, an hour train commute, then go to school at night until 10, then come home and hop on the elliptical! I felt great...now that I have so much more time I feel like im more tired!

I guess I am not considered a newly wed anymore but just celebrated my first year anniversary...In that time I went from 148 to 186...What craziness... I am trying to get back on the healthy cycle... Good Luck!