Girls in their 20's who want to lose about 100 pounds
girls, i love and hate message boards. i don't hate this one--you chicks rock!--but i hate the ones i'm on w/ hotty mcsmartypants. i hate them b/c i have a tendency to spill my guts, as you've all witnessed countless times.
see, here's the thing: most of the topics i'm interested in over there are about dating/relationships, but it's not a dating/relationship site. basically it's like the lounge on cc. anyway, i've totally told like everything about my preferences, my fears, weaknesses, insecurities, etc.
hotty mcsp has said some things there too, but not as much. but, i do know he's never been asked out before. he's asked women out his whole life, but no one's ever returned the favor. i SO want to be the one to plant that flag, but i've already tipped my hand about how doing that freaks me out, and how i'm terrified the guy's gonna say no, even though they rarely do.
i thought i was going somewhere with this, but i guess i don't really have a point; just wanted to get that outta my system. thanks!
watchme, forget the numbers. i thought i'd be a certain size by a certain weight, but like you, it happened earlier than that. so just go with it. your body will do what it will do. stop trying to plan the endgame and just enjoy the ride!
ahhh, i can't forget the numbers, lol. in all seriousness though, i'm going to just focus on 199 for now then. i don't want to be in the 200s. so, being in the 100s will be my first goal. we'll see if i'm a size 12 at 199 lbs or not. at this rate, i very well might be! however far i have to go after 199... be it 165 or 125, i'll take it from there.
Hi girls,
I have some random unexpected down time. This is killing me though, cause then I'll be up and running, although not for nearly enough. I can't bill enough hours and it's so frustrating to be so low every single week. Although, the school system has messed us up too. Just wish there was a solution, but nope. No solution in sight. At least not for me. Well, there is one, but that's not for another 1.5-2 years. Sigh, stupid paycheck.
Watchme, grats on the loss of inches. That's awesome! Just keep the focus on something that's going to make you feel you achieved something but also doesn't seem so out of reach. Because you go back and forth on this a lot (understandably!), but get down on yourself about it often too =( I can't lie and say the numbers don't matter, because they matter to each one of us. But every time you look how far you've come already, it seems to make you feel refreshed. Do you have something that's a constant or daily reminder of how far you've come? Maybe a picture you look at every morning to help remind you that you will get there?
Dalma, so, if you ask him after talking to him on the message board, won't it be a lot less intimidating? I mean, you never had to do it face to face? What's the worst that will happen, he says no? Ok, then you never meet him anyway. And then we all get to call him a schmuck and an idiot for not realizing that he should have of course taken you up on that offer. Granted, I'd freak out too, but if you want it bad enough, you'll make that move. Kinda like weight loss. We all made that scary first move and look how far we've come.
Ok, back to work, I guess.
liza, it would be less intimidating since there's been some message board correspondence, and a few (platonic) pm's back and forth, but his hotness is what's throwing me off. seriously, this guy is like the hottest guy i've ever actually wanted to date, and not just drool over. i don't feel like i have any control over whether he says yes or not. i mean, i know i never do, but i don't feel like i have the advantage this time around.
but i've determined i'm totally gonna ask him out sooner rather than later, b/c even though i thought he was way into himself at first, he doesn't come off that way anymore. he seems open, evolved, smart, and just aware of the world. his hotness is just cake. so yeah, i can't leave that question of "what if" just dangling there for all eternity. i'm just hoping he doesn't have a girlfriend (don't know 100% yet) AND that he says yes.
ummm hi, i have to see a picture of this guy.
Hi ladies!
Um, Dalma? Dude, YOU'RE hot! HE should be stressing over YOU! And if he says no, he's a window-licking ass-hat, and clearly not worth being around anyway! Keep your confidence, chica! You wear it so well! :-)
And as far as Halloween goes, I LOVE Halloween! It's tied with NYE for my favorite holiday! I've found, though, that buying costumes is a TOTAL waste of money. I think the She-Freddy idea will not only be more unique than the stewardess, but it also will be made of material that's not paper thin. Every Halloween costume I ever bought has cost $50-60 and is either partially destroyed in some way or another by the end of the night, or is being worn by 8 other girls at the bar. Making your own is totally the way to go!
Watchme, you're so awesome! I'm glad you're looking at the inches and kinda readjusting your thinking! You WILL do this! I know you can! And you know we're all here pulling for you! :-) And really, sizes make no sense at all, so I wouldn't think too much about what you "should" weigh at a certain size. I'm about 170 right now and I'm barely a 14... I can still wear some 16s! For a while I let that stress me out since most other girls at my weight are 12s or 10s, but you know what? So long as you look good, and rock your size well (which you do! You're so fashionable and put together!) the number on the tag doesn't matter! Keep up the good work, chica! :-)
Boots, congrats on the job! Yay for you! :-)
Ana, your major most definitely sounds cool! Which type of media are you most interested in?
Dani, one of my cats has a skin disorder too... She has this weird Alopecia thing going on, but switching to a new (but super expensive) food has helped. I hope it's as simple that with your cat too! Let us know how things go!
So I'm doing well... The scale was definitely up a little bit on Tuesday and I'm back up to 171, but I'm not really bummed, because I feel really good right now. I'm loving cooking again, and I've made my own little personal challenge with calories to help keep me motivated. My plan is to get myself into really good habits even when I'm with the BF or going out to eat so that when the holidays come around I don't gain 10lbs back. I've put myself into a sort of emergency prep mode because I know that as soon as November 1st hits my office will be full of food, and everyone I know will be having dinner parties and I refuse to have this belly go back to "bowl full of jelly" status! I'm counting EVERYTHING. I figure if I'm vigilant enough and pay enough attention then I'll be more thoughtful all the time about what I'm eating. I hope so anyway!
Happy Thursday, ladies! :-)
ally you crack me up! i've since decided what i wanna say, so the anxiety level's gone down quite a bit. i just wanna wait till saturday to ask him. and way to go on planning ahead for the hideousness that is the holiday season.
watchme, i've posted a friends-only pic of him. let me know if you can see it.
Original Post by dalmalama:
liza, it would be less intimidating since there's been some message board correspondence, and a few (platonic) pm's back and forth, but his hotness is what's throwing me off. seriously, this guy is like the hottest guy i've ever actually wanted to date, and not just drool over. i don't feel like i have any control over whether he says yes or not. i mean, i know i never do, but i don't feel like i have the advantage this time around.
but i've determined i'm totally gonna ask him out sooner rather than later, b/c even though i thought he was way into himself at first, he doesn't come off that way anymore. he seems open, evolved, smart, and just aware of the world. his hotness is just cake. so yeah, i can't leave that question of "what if" just dangling there for all eternity. i'm just hoping he doesn't have a girlfriend (don't know 100% yet) AND that he says yes.
dalma: i get where you are coming from...I have to be honest and let you know if I would have seen my husband on the street I would have never even in my entire life approached him--never! And I also don't think he would have approached me,actually he told me that......So I hear you load and clear! My husband is so hot, I still think he's out of my league (6 pack and all) and here I am with my non-flat stomach-----------specially since I've always been the girl with the pretty face (that's what people say) but you know these are rules are society put in our heads and we must get rid of them--YOu are HOT! And I'm hot, lol---screw what society says because we both know it.....Go for it!!!!!
ooh, boots, hubby's hot? way to go! and yes, you are smokin'! and thanks for the pep talk. really though, just like an hour ago i was reading something that made me realize, yet again, how short life is, and how dumb it is to avoid doing something you really wanna do, b/c you won't always have the chance. so the hot guy freakout is officially dead! i'm askin' him out tomorrow. i've got my fingers crossed!
good decision dalma!
I'm sitting here waiting impatiently on the job to call, to negotiate salary and officially accept the position..I've just been doing other stuff like reading but my minds really on the job..I have never negotiated before but this time I'm going in full-force..I went to a workshop and the lady said when you negotiate salary you need to think "what am I worth and how much do I deserve, and don't take less." I keep telling myself this but it's hard to not just take what they offer, especially since what they are offering is the most I have ever been offered, lol...ok so I'm just lurking..
yeah, boots, highball 'em. they'll try to talk you down, but even if they do, it should still be pretty high if it ends up being higher than their current offer. you can do it!
Boots, definitely ask for more. Sometimes they up it a bit and it's worth just asking. They say that the little bit in the beginning adds up over time. Even $1K more if you have a 5% increase the following year is $50 more dollars than what you would have started to begin with. And isn't CA more expensive than where you were living? So wouldn't salary be higher too? Where I am now, I make enough less than what I was making in a non-profit in Jersey that paid low. And I have my license and more experience. But down here, it's apparently (but appallingly) decent.
Dalma, glad you're asking him. What ever made you think you weren't Hot hot?? He looks ripped, btw. Ripped is nice. =) Hot is nice too. Ah, boys. What would we do without them? I would always think that there's no way somebody would be interested in me cause of that unless they got to know me. I never thought that somebody would look at me walking down the street and think, damn, she's hot. Ironically, after I got married, I got a lot more of that. And always black men...some African American, but way more Islanders or Africans. It was the oddest feeling having somebody literally go out of their way to come over to me. And every time, I would think, why?
liza, when i said he was hot, i was talking about his rippedness. he's cute-ish facially, but that body? damn! he has another picture up where his biceps are as big as his head. i love muscly guys! but more than that i love smart guys. and he seems to be both, plus he loves to write. if he doesn't have a girlfriend, i NEED to remedy that! 
plus he's 6'5". yum!
and missy, don't wonder why someone would think you're hot! accept that hotness has been thrust on you, and you are officially one of the hot ones. accept it!
hey ladies!
just a quick post because I'm really busy (midterms!)
dalma, you're going to look great in your freddie kruger costume! by the way, just saw the pic of the guy, he's Hot HoT HoT!
boots, good luck with negotiating your salary!
ally, I actually like screenwriting and filmmaking, so I'm planning to move to LA to enter a graduate program after I graduate.
take care!
i've decided to ask him tonite, and of course i'm nervous! mainly b/c i'd planned on waiting till 2morrow, and figured i wouldn't have to go near a computer all weekend and wouldn't see his answer till monday. but if i ask him tonight, he'll probably respond by sometime tomorrow, or maybe later tonight, and i don't wanna know his answer yet. i just wanna ask now. can't i forward email to one of you guys?
okay, i sent the message, and hit send before i could stop myself. i can't go back to that site tonight. i don't wanna know what his answer is yet!
good luck dalma!
(yep, midterm tomorrow and still lurking)
Dalma, I still don't think I'm hot. If anything, I'm cute. Not hot and sexy, cute. But whatever, I'll take that. But, he sounds pretty cool...and those muscles are nice. I always like a football player body with bigger shoulders and biceps than the scrawny ones. And you're kidding, right? We have to wait to find out what he said? But, my bet is on you looking every hour. Hehe, just what I think.
Ana, good luck with midterms!
seriously, liza, i'm too terrified to look! i'm not going anywhere NEAR that site or my email account until tomorrow. i need to prepare myself mentally for whatever answer he gives. this is so stupid! but he intimidates me a little. although i'd get over that in a flash if he says yes.
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