Girls in their 20's who want to lose about 100 pounds

Hi, my name is Suzanne and I am 23 years old. I weigh 258.3 pounds(yikes) and would really like to get down to between 140 and 150. I was wondering if there was anyone else out there in their 20's who has about that much they want to lose. We could work together and stay motivated to reach our goals!!! Also, if there is anyone in their 20's who has lost that much and wants to share their success story, I would love to hear it! Thanks!

Dalma, you make me laugh.  I couldn't not look in your shoes.  I would totally be checking up on it all the time.  I'd be the friend looking for the other friend cause I couldn't stand to wait.  I'm overly patient with all my clients, but in my real life, hubby says that I have absolutely no patience.  Especially when it comes to surprises. 

dalma, please let us know---we support are sister girl! lol....

They offered me 1500 more, I wanted 3000 more (maybe too ambitious??) but I took it, I start the job maybe mid November--so we will see..............thanks for the support

alright boots! way to go!

edit: i just opened my email. he replied last night, not much later than after i sent it. i'm too freaked to read what he said! i'll sack up, or get someone else to read it, soon, then let you guys know.

edit edit: i read it. he said no, but was very polite about it. oh well! at least i asked. that's something i would NEVER have done, like even a few weeks ago. so, i'm not destroyed or anything. and he's still a nice guy, definitely not a window-licking ass-hat!

Thanks Ally, you like brilliant yourself, I can not even wrap my head around being under 200, I don’t think I’ve ever been there!! (as an adult)

Liza, I see muscle in my arms, but my thighs and still very very large, and maybe there is muscle under there somewhere, but I don’t see it, and just wonder when or if I ever will, its so stubborn down there!! Oh also if you’re looking for wide shoes you can try Roamans.com they usually have and the prices aren’t out of control.

Boots, congrats on the job!!

Watchme, welcome back..it’s always quiet without you!!  Way to go on the muscle, usually I don’t want to get too technical about all the weight loss “stuff”, but sometimes a part of me wishes I had all those measurements of myself before I started to see in black and white the changes…oh well…I just have the scale number, and I did take some inches measurements, the rest is all in the clothes…I pretty much got rid of everything, but saved one skirt for a “wrap around twice” after picture when I’m half my size!  We all know those feelings of frustration, you just express it more sometimes, but you’re really doing totally amazing, especially with being on BC and having PCOS, there is only so much you can do and the rest has to go with the flow.

Dani, how’s the cat?

Dalma, sorry he said no, but you’d be thinking "what if" forever had you not, so I don’t think you lost out either way.

fayny i know, that's why i had to do it. i'm so sick of not just going for things, you know? so even though i didn't get the response i was hoping for, i'm still proud of myself for even asking. old me wouldn't have even considered it. no more of that!

oh, and at least i don't have to try to avoid the philly jerk at that party in two weeks. i'm not going anymore. not b/c of him or hotty mcsp turning me down, but b/c i'll be at a different party in new york. i've been trying to hang out in nyc all year! i told you guys i thought that's where i was going last weekend, but it turned out to be rhode island. so, i don't have to pull out my "i'm fabulous without you" card. it's a good card, but i really didn't feel like using it right now.

hey guys,

dalma, i thought the guy was cute (definitely built) but that you could definitely get him or evne better.  sorry he turned you down but, like you said, at least you put yourself out there.  that's more than i can say that i do!  also, i saw your new pic taken at the end of august sitting at that table and WOW, you look great!  that's the kick in the butt that i need to go from 250 to the 220s!

fayny, thanks for the encouragement.  i ended up trying to lose more weight before meeting someone who i really liked because i didn't feel pretty enough or confident enough.  i vowed that i never wanted to be in that situation again.  i really want to lose this weight.  i feel it detracts from my potential prettiness.  AND, as much as people tell me i'm pretty, i don't believe it right now.  i just don't.  i don't think i'm a pretty girl.  i noticed at this dinner party last night though that the girls who get attention aren't even that pretty but they just dress really well and they wear a LOT of make up.  eye liner above AND below the eye, mascara, concealer, blush, eye shadow, etc.  i'm a powder and lip gloss kinda gal, maybe some mascara.  i do try to dress nicely but things just don't fit on me the same way.  just yesterday i saw a girl with the same nine west sweater as me except she was rocking it SO much better.  the way that the sleeves flared and the shape of the sweater around the waist just looked so much better because it was going with the CUT and the designer's INTENT, ya know?  it's just so frustrating for me to feel like i have nice clothes that are fashionable and to have a picture in my head of how the outfit is supposed to look with all of my jewelry, handbag, shoes, etc. but then to NOT see it come together the way it does for other girls.  i always end up looking just a little frumpy, just a little frazzled, just a little not-so-put-together, ya know?  UGH. 

boots, re the whole "you have a pretty face" thing.  i've gotten that my whole life.  i lived in my sister's shadow (you can see her pic in the green turtleneck standing next to me in my pic in front of the fountain in vegas).  she was the perfect person, looked the perfect way, etc.  now she's "gained" to the extent she's a size 14 and she still looks pretty nice.  anyway, people always would say to me "you have such a pretty face, you would be even prettier than your sister IF you lost weight.  you would be pretty IF you lost weight."  now i'm scared cuz i don't feel pretty now and my FACE IS CHANGING with the weight coming off so i don't know if i'm going to end up liking what i see.  i seriously stop and stare at my face sometimes and think WOW, i look different from 2 years ago what if i don't like the end result?  i'm scared those people will be wrong and that i will lose the weight and just be average still.  having the hope of being above average has been one of the motivators for this routine.

ally, thanks for the advice re sizes.  you are right about the weight differences.  i'm not going to let that get me down.  i know people ranging from 150-205 who are a size 14 and for all of them, their "look" is what i'm going for.  it's like the great crossover in my opinion, i guess.  the crossover from when i start thinking of people as "average" weight instead of fat.  yes, i generally don't look at size 14 girls and think wow you're so skinny -- even disgustingly so -- as i do for my size 00 when shopping at ann taylor friends.  but, i also would never think "huh, i wonder if she was a size 28 once."  weight just isn't something that registers for me when i see people of that size walking down the street.

watchme, he's still conversing w/ me on the message board over there, so at least nothing uncomfortable came of it. and that's cool, b/c he's nice to "talk" to. i'm still gonna have dreams about that body, though....

and thanks about the pic! yeah, i didn't realize my progress until i saw the photo. i was pretty stunned!

also, there are too many voices in your head. i get that you're a competitive person, but sometimes you gotta let that go! i know, WAY easier said than done, but all the comparisons are gonna drive you nuts! and you are pretty. i think you'll see it soon.

dalma, yeah, i know i shouldn't compare myself to those chicks but i totally want to be in a relationship and have all the hoopty glitter and it's so depressing when guys don't even glance my way, ya know?  i just feel more quasi modo-ish.  it's so frustrating to be spinning my wheels and still be stuck in the same damn ditch!!

liza, i think i'll take your advice and start carrying around a picture or something.  i think it will help.  i'm also going to start weeding out my closet and tossing the size 2x clothes.  they are a little loose but i've got plenty of clothes that are just right or a little snug that i need to be working on wearing.  the size 2x clothes are basically the last of the clothes that i bought in 2006 and i want to be rid of them so that i'm officially OUT of that realm of existence even!

watchme, my dear, believe me when i tell you i know EXACTLY where you're coming from. i'd been spinning my wheels in that fat ditch for most of my 20s. it was frustrating, and it drove me nearly insane. which is why dating is basically the only thing on my mind now; i feel like i'm playing catch-up, like i need to make up for all that wasted time.

i was right where you are now, and not that long ago. i don't know what happened, but somewhere last year this switch just flipped in my head, and that old me just died. i was still up there, like 280 lbs, but i realized i was attractive, to some guys, i was desireable, and i was worthy of being in a relationship. so, that's what i've been working on. but man, until you get there, everything else seems kinda dim in comparison, b/c you're just so unhappy w/ that part of your life.

edit: i just found out my company's gonna start policing our internet usage. so i might not be able to talk to you guys while i'm at work soon. bummer! i barely have anything to do as it is! i won't even be able to access my personal email account. come on!

Hi, gals. I know, I know, lurking and all that. Except I haven't been lurking, I've just been plain MIA. I'm still counting and eating pretty well... Not showing any results for so long as made me so "blah" about the whole thing. I went to Chicago and had a, um, "cheat weekend"? where I didn't count cals at all, just made sensible choices (except at the Grande Lux Cafe - mmm). Maybe that gave my metabolism a kick in the rear? I'm weighing next week, crossing my fingers, for sure.

Good to see everyone's doing well! I'm catching up on posts and pics and whatnot. :)

pixie, where all did you eat in chicago?  i just went to that same grand lux last monday and my friend ordered this appetizer which was basically something stuffed with mashed potatoes.... so freaking good.  i ordered the apple crisp which was way too filling... only finished half!

dalma, for my sake, please get an i-phone!!!  :(

i want an i-phone--is it free?

It's finally Friday! Whew! This week seemed to take forever! I have a group personal training session in less than an hour, and then I've got to hit the steam room to try and sweat out a couple more pounds before the official weigh in tomorrow morning. I almost got eliminated last week, so I hope I have a big loss this week. I need it. Anywho, I'll update you all tomorrow afternoon, when I'm done with the challenge and stuff! :) Adios!

haha boots!  you are asking the girl who has used an ipod with a cracked screen for 6 months.  i can no longer see the song titles on my ipod.  i have a blackberry (and a spare) but no iphone myself.

TGIF everyone!!

Dalma, sorry he said no, but at least he was polite.  And I'm with watchme, you can totally get a guy like him or better.  No question.  I also thought the same about the most recent pic of you.  totally see the difference.  But I think you got the big picture there...that you actually did do that, with some nervousness.  Big steps we're all taking.

Fay, when I say muscle, I'm feeling it, not seeing it.  That's all that matters to me right now.  And I must have the same thighs as you!!  I looked at the lane bryant catalog, but not Romans.  I'll check them out next time.

WB Watchme!  I think a lot of it is how we feel inside.  If we don't feel confident, sexy, happy, cute, hot, etc, then we don't show that on the outside either in how we dress.  And seriously, more in Jersey than down here (not as many foreign black people down here as up there), but I got hit on much more after I was engaged/married.  Probably cause I did feel more that way cause I had somebody I love telling me that.  And I'm sure it showed. 

Pixie, good to hear from you.  Maybe it's just the bump you need to lose the weight.  Have you upped cals at some point to see if you gained/maintained/lost?

Dani, I'm amazed you wait to weigh in on Sat.  I'd be too curious to have to wait and see if I lost nothing or a ton until I'm in front of everyone else.  You know, it just dawned on me, do all the other people see your weight too??  I don't think I could do that.  I talk about it on here fairly freely, but in some of the other rooms I'm a bit more hesitant to say it out loud to them (some of them freaking they need to lose 5 lbs).  But in front of other people?  Real live people????

And as for the clothes, some of them I don't think I'll really wear again.  They're baggy enough, that even with a belt or whatever, I think they're too big.  But I can't get rid of them yet cause I'm not sure enough that they don't fit.  It's like something to fall back on.  Not that I think I'll regain (although who knows if somewhere hidden in my head is that thought), but I just can't get rid of them yet.  I don't feel distanced enough from them yet.  Although just this morning while driving, I did think to myself that by next summer, none of these that I'm wearing will fit.  Well, capris here start in like, Feb.  Don't know about them, but the ones I have on right now are 26s and they feel a little baggy.  But I can't let go of the really baggy ones yet.  Why?  Hoping to be in 24s by Christmas.  And then I can raid my own clothes from my closet at my parents' house.

Oh, and those Levi's are more like a 22.  The thighs are seriously about 2 inches smaller than my Lane Bryant 24s.  They are a lower rise, and they're a bit slimmer through the hips.  So, when I fit in those, damn, I'll feel good.

watchme, what do i need an i-phone for? internetting @ work? 'cause that's not a bad idea!

hope everyone is having a relaxing day!

i met the cutest, sweetest, most amazing guy last night.  he's SO cute, plays violin, helped out in the kitchen (my friend hosted a party last night), was really sweet and super polite, and talked to me for about 3 hours when we went to smoke sheesha afterwards... he's a consultant and getting his MBA part-time from a top 10 school.  he's so NOT my type in some ways -- a little bit of the dorky cute type.  i also tend to go for doctor/med student types (my theory is that this is b/c girls tend to go for guys like their fathers and my father is a doc but, who knows)... unlike the typical business/law types who my friends go for who i usually don't go for, this guy has the same kind of slightly nerdy but still preppy look that the doc/med student guys i go for have.  same demeanor too.  he's not smooth, slightly awkward, but confident and smart... anyway, i'll stop gushing cuz i'm probably not gonna act on it though i may add him on facebook. 

lol...i'm sorry but I can't help myself...watchme, y do you have to act on it? How come you can just let it be and let nature take it's course, i dunno---maybe I'm old fashion???