Girls in their 20's who want to lose about 100 pounds

Hi, my name is Suzanne and I am 23 years old. I weigh 258.3 pounds(yikes) and would really like to get down to between 140 and 150. I was wondering if there was anyone else out there in their 20's who has about that much they want to lose. We could work together and stay motivated to reach our goals!!! Also, if there is anyone in their 20's who has lost that much and wants to share their success story, I would love to hear it! Thanks!

OMG WATCHME, GO FOR IT!!!!!!!!

i WILL come to chicago, grab your hand, and march you to this guy's house if you don't! remember that ditch you're trying to get out of? GET OUT OF THE DITCH!!! call him up, send an email, something! don't let this go! you'd better not!

lol...an email would be cute..you could just say "it was nice meeting you and I enjoyed chatting with you, maybe we could meet up soon for coffee and another chat." lol..i dunno

ooh, boots, that's good! watchme, cut and paste that!

haha, i'm no expert....you know i only dated one guy in my whole life before i met my hubby--and that was only 1 date and hubbs and I didn't really date .....

no matter, boots. that was a terrific line!

i'm 260 and yikes is what i think everyday i look in a full length mirror lol. im 22 and married but am in much need of a support group. my goal is set at 138~140. I have a disease called poly cystic ovarian syndrome so if you know any one on here with that it'd be a God send to hear their tips and advice! im here if ne one ever needs to chat!

cystar: there is lots of people on this forum with pcos....and there is a few people on this thread with pcoswho can give you advice...my best friend was just diagnosed with pcos, i was surpised to find out it's not really  rare at all.. ....we are here everyday all day most of the time, just stop by

dalma/boots, i added him on facebook.  let's hope he accepts my friend request, haha!  i'll take it from there.  slowly.  but i'm going to try.  i can create opportunities to hang out, i'm sure.  sushi, brunches, etc.  he lives about 20 minutes away but his school is only a few blocks away from where i live (and work) so maybe i can make an excuse to ask him if he has time to meet up and chat about his mba program.  he knows i'm considering applying next year and that his school is one of the places i'm looking at... so maybe that can be my first excuse to hang out though i'll definitely have to wait another 2 or 3 months for that excuse given that he knows i'm applying in the summer.... after that i can ask for help writing the essays specifically, talking about the interview process, etc.... but then if he doesn't act on it after that, i dunno... we'll see, i guess.

cys, i have pcos and went from the 320s to the low 250s.  i've kind of stayed the same weight on the scale since may but seem to be losing inches still (i'm a size 20W).  after the initial weight loss, the weight comes off much slower than for other people (but it DOES come off) unless you stick to a less manageable diet meaning tons of salads and proteins with more severe carb restriction. 

i decided to adopt a healthy BALANCED eating style that i can maintain in the long run but that means i'm losing slower... but it's a more permanent style.  meaning, i still eat carbs... i eat high fiber bread, fiber one cereal, 100 calorie snack packs (pretzels, mini oreo crisps), etc.  most of my carbs are from dairy, fruits or are high in fiber but i do have my allowances... i have rice about 2x a week at most, and try to eat brown rice whenever available.  i eat pasta no more than once a week.  hope that helps.

not a bad plan, watchme, but i hope you don't just stick to the academics. if you'd really like to go out with him, that's not gonna give him a clue that you like him. just see if he wants to hang, and at least one of those times, DON'T talk about school. AT ALL. then see how it goes!

the friend whose party we met at just said (on my wall) that we should form a sunday breakfast club!  maybe we can start that and invite him along... ? ;)

dalma, i think i talk about school and jobs stuff way too much these days... probably cuz that (and weight loss) are the most pressing things on my mind... he was obviously really into talking about that stuff cuz he's in transition doing his mba part-time and all, trying to figure out what he wants to do after consulting, especially in light of the economy being crap.  but yeah... i just realized that more than half our conversation was about work/school stuff and the other half was about politics/the election/the economy being crap... the boy does not own a TV so there wasn't much to talk about there.... we didn't talk about music much except that he mentioned he plays violin cuz one of our friends pulled out her guitar and sang a bunch of songs (she was damn good btw).  i dunno.  i'm not good at this whole talking to boys thing... maybe he was just nice and not really into me =( 

watchme, do NOT do that! don't keep putting yourself down! no guy is gonna talk to a girl for 3 hours if he's not interested in her, no matter what the subject matter! i swear, i'm coming up there and shaking  you! invite him to your breakfast club! that way you two can get to know each other better w/o "date stress." please, do it for me! i need somebody to have some fun w/ boys!

haha, ok dalma.  let's see if he accepts my facebook invite first.  then, i'll start cooking up some breakfast club plans :D  what do you talk to guys about?  i think i come off as a "smart girl" and that intimidates the hell outta most guys...

i noticed this at the party the other night with respect to some of my other friends who were also really smart.  one guy in particular made a bee line to go sit with these other girls after my friend tried to talk about the political message behind a movie she had seen... the girls the guy ended up sitting with were girls who were talking about shoes and parties they were planning on going to.  they were also rail thin compared to my friend (who is a size 12) and had heavy make-up.  the whole batty eye lashes types.

but my new "friend" talked to 2 or 3 guys for a while and then came and sat down next to me (after i asked him a question) and pretty much stayed there (and then sat down next to me again at the hookah place) for the night. 

Freakin A, lol...I agree after 3 hours it shows he was interested in some way, you may not realize it now but someway/somehow he found you interesting...3 hours is way too long to be a nice nerdy geek and just stand around;;;; even geeks have their standards...lol..watchme:how bout you set a new goal that you will say nothing negative about yourself for 6 months and every-time a negative thought comes into you head you say "I'm beautiful, I am worth this and more."

I decided that I'm going to Lane Bryant after work tonight to try on some size 18W pants.  My capris style LB 18W pants don't fit me but I've noticed that those are always tighter than the regular LB pants so I'm starting to think it's because they sit differently on my body. 

I also measured myself again today and saw some decreases.  I'm going to begin to measure my neck, arm, wrist, and thigh... my bum trainer did some of that when I was supposed to start with him back in August and I also vaguely remember some of my measurements from before in that area but I think that it's important for me to focus on these measurements more so than the scale.  Especially, during TOM!!!

watchme: also remember all guys are not interested in the same rail thin barbies that talk about shoes; don't put guys all into the same category, that's so unfair; even if that is what your used to . There are men that actually like substance and like to talk about more things than materialistic things

btw, i think i should work for the fbi or cia.  i'm really good at doing the 411 on people through internet browsing.  i've got his undergrad info, info about music he likes, info about sports teams he's been on, and info on his last couple of employers.... the JOYS of the internet.

how u do that? that's kinda of scary

i hope you're listening to boots, watchme, she's making some excellent points! and geez, you already got all that on him?!?

as for what i talk to guys about, i let them lead the conversation at first. whatever he wants to talk about, i'll find a way to have an intelligent response. if it's something i know nothing about, i ask him to explain it to me. guys love talking about themselves and what they do/like. and they LOVE teaching women how to do things. remember that....

i don't really wanna open up to a dude that much when it's new anyway, so that's not a problem for me. my whole strategy is to keep asking questions, have him talk more about himself.

i don't think i've ever talked w/ a new guy about anything serious like politics. maybe the day's headlines, but i don't wanna get into a debate w/ a guy i could potentially go out with. it's almost always superficial stuff, like places to go, movies, hobbies, whatever. i like it best when i can get a guy to tell me a story, like about the last really cool trip he took. that way he loosens up, you get to see what he's passionate about, and he sees you don't think it's all about you.