Girls in their 20's who want to lose about 100 pounds

Hi, my name is Suzanne and I am 23 years old. I weigh 258.3 pounds(yikes) and would really like to get down to between 140 and 150. I was wondering if there was anyone else out there in their 20's who has about that much they want to lose. We could work together and stay motivated to reach our goals!!! Also, if there is anyone in their 20's who has lost that much and wants to share their success story, I would love to hear it! Thanks!

watchme, if you've already written the journal entry, i can't see it. :-(

also, stop saying you're a wimp! start to believe you are one hot commodity, and any dude would be honored to know you. you're doing him a favor by gracing him with your presence, you know?

liza, the norm is for the dude's mom/sister to call up my mom and be like "we're interested in our son/brother getting to know your daughter for marital purposes."  then they usually follow up with a  "do you mind if they meet/talk on the phone/email?"  (the content of the second request generally depends upon the geography.)  i've got one sister of a boy who basically pounced on me the other day at a community holiday brunch and went and took me to meet her mom who was visiting (the mom lives with her son in FL).  she made this big grand introduction and so all the ladies sitting around (who know that she's shia like me -- this was basically a sunni muslim gathering, that she's looking for her bro, etc.) ALL knew why she was making the introduction.  needless to say, my mom got a lot of excited calls from random ladies in the community like "is your daughter going to marry so and so."  these women have nothing better to do than plan on what to wear for parties and weddings so they like to come up with marriages out of air. 

but, anyway, yeah, since i've only stuck to the traditional route i don't know how the dating approach goes.  i know that some people do go that route but they usually met the person in college or grad school, were friends who hung out in groups first, and get married shortly after graduation.  there's no initiation in the "friends" zone, ya know.  so i can keep it to the friends thing and see if he progresses but highly doubt he will.  he's too shy from what i've heard and been told.  that kind of explains why someone SO cute and so accomplished would be single still.  most guys get snapped up in their mid-to late 20s.

dalma, i posted the journal HOURS ago.  the privacy filter group is the same for my pics and journal entries.  i dunno why you can't see it.

me either. the last one i can see is the measurements one. this is driving me nuts! who knows what i've missed! dagnabbit!

and you didn't tell us someone was tryna marry you off to her brother! niiice! that had to be an enormous ego boost!

if he's shy, ask him out! seems like there's nothing specifically prohibiting it. if you're worried about what to say, ask him to do an activity that you like, or go to a sports game, or find out what he likes and go to whatever it is with him. something where the attention isn't on just the two of you.

i can't see the journal either ..i dunno..

boots and dalma, dunno why you can't see it.  you're in the same group as liza and ally and they both commented... dalma can see the boys' pics in my gallery... can you see them boots?

dalma, it wasn't really an ego boost cuz my mom was like, "they're total gold diggers, that's why they don't care about looks."  sigh.  i either get guys who need green cards or gold diggers apparently.  cuz no one could just like me for me.  this process isn't made to be about me, the REAL me, my feelings, my thoughts, my hopes, my wishes, my dreams.  it's about what i look like in terms of my stats:  both physical and educational/professional and financial.  UGH.

and btw, before you get on me for getting down on myself, the BOY himself (from FL) has never seen me or talked to me.  so, this is all his mom and sister!!  they've been after my mom since LAST november when i was talking to He Who Shall Not Be Named (HWSNBN).  HWSNBN actually got jealous when he heard.  haha. 

Hey ladies, I've been lurking like crazy. My weigh in for BL Saturday was down another 3.8. I was in 11th place this week. And I have not been doing very well the past several days. I need to kick it into high gear. Seriously. I have no drive. It's like I reached a lull. Like I'm burnt out. Trying not to feel that way, but it probably also has something to do with the fact that I had my first evaluation at work today and I'm getting videotaped 3 days this week.

Watchme - he's cute! I love this boy "drama" you're having! :)

i can see the picture of the boy but just not the jounral:: I dunno

Have you ladies tried seeing it through the "my friend's journals" tab under "journals"?  I can't see it just looking at watchme's page, but I can find it through my friends' journals...

And watchme, I think this way might be BETTER for you... It makes the process about YOU as opposed to about all these other people and their agendas.  It seems like the traditional process is set up with neither of the involved parties actually getting that much say about who they end up with... But, as Dalma mentioned, there doesn't seem to be any express rule about you taking the initiative and dating, I think you should.  I think if he accepts it'll show you that he's willing to think outside the "tradition box".  Also, I don't know that his being shy has a whole lot to do with him being single still, especially since the initial process is so mother/sister/family driven.  Maybe he's just waiting for the right girl to come along! ;-)

ally, you are a freakin' genius! i usually just click her picture to get it! they should fix that, though. what a stupid bug.

dani, you've lost 3.8 lbs since the last weigh-in. that's incredible! don't beat yourself up!

watchme, screw those goldiggers. you're better than that. now i'm gonna go read your posts! and wasn't it delicious when you-know-who was jealous?

Absolutely loving Watchme's boy drama.  I had more of a Boots route with guys.  I was always the girl who had the crush on the guy friends and never got anywhere with things.  Well, the part that's like Boots is that I didn't date very much.  And with hubby, somehow we both just sorta knew.  They say that guys fall in love faster, and he did before I did.

But anyway, I imagine it's really hard for you to try to initiate, since that's not something you've done.  But even "gold diggers" have standards.  Even if money and all the other was a big thing to them, I'm sure they'll also be concerned of what the grandkids would look like too.  I would like to think that looks were taken into consideration.  Seriously, when setting a friend up on a blind date (which I have never done), I wouldn't accept anyone who I thought wasn't good looking.  So, I think you still need to take it as a compliment.  You don't see it, but you really are beautiful Watchme!  Do you have a Jessica Alba body?  No, but that doesn't deter from your beauty.  I've heard you comment that others on here are beautiful (I think I have)...and from all our eyes, you're in that category too.  And even though they don't have Jessica Alba bodies either (for some not yet, for others like me, even starving I'd look huge compared to her!!), you still say that they're beautiful with bodies similar to yours.   Hehe, and who doesn't like when a boy gets jealous, especially somebody like you know who?

Dani, you've been working your tail off!  Grats on all the loss!

Haha, though.  I can imagine all those women sitting around talking about this.  If I were old and no longer working, I'd so be into who's going out with who and marrying this or that person.  I also know that it must be a very small community so everyone knows everyone!  But come on, who doesn't like a mushy love match??

um the journal tab is stupid, stupid---sorry I just had to rant....lol, they need to be put in a different place!

i know, right?

i had an idea earlier today to have an enormous, ridiculous new year's eve party, with a playboy theme. i have NO IDEA how i'm gonna pull this off, but i've sent begging emails to all the people i think can help me organize and advertise. i wanna host a huge party, like 100-200 people. i've never hosted a party that big, but i'm gonna try this year!

dalma, you should totall do it! Huge parties like that can be ridiculously fun. I'd sucker some of your friends into helping you clean up the next day, though (unless you host it not at your house, which I also recommend).

watchme, not to sound like a creeper, but I enjoy hearing about your customs and traditions surrounding dating/marriage. It's so different from what I've experienced in my life, but after reading your posts, I can totally see that it has its merits and why people continue the traditions. Meh, what can I say, I'm a nerd when it comes to learning about cultures/traveling. :)

dani, I am SO jealous of your fabulous progress! I know you said that 3.8 pounds isn't a lot for you, but HOLY CRAP! What I'd give to lose 3.8 pounds, or even 0.8 pounds a week! I wish we had a BL Challenge here - we had one at work last year but it was just the weigh-ins and you were supposed to work out on your own (some teams did work out together, but none of the teams I was interested in joining wanted "that much committment"), so I couldn't see it helping me a ton. I do have the motivation to eat well, it's just going to the gym I can't get it together for. Maybe if I had a personal trainer or someone else that kept me accountable? I think that's why WW worked for me for a while (until my WW buddy dropped out... see?).

Anyway, despite my lack of progress, I do have a positive to report. Two years ago, my mom gave me a pair of grey dress pants for Christmas that have never really fit well (weird cut through the thigh, baggy waistband). I found them in my closet this morning and I already had my outfit on for the day, but I was like, "What the heck?" And, donchaknow, they fit pretty great. My thighs are a bit more "buldgy" than I'd like, but I'm wearing the pants and I feel good about it. I love it when I can fit into clothes that I haven't worn in a while; it makes me feel like I'm saving money but getting new clothes at the same time! Bonus!

Thanks for all the support ladies! I haven't weighed in a while, but I think I will this Friday to get me back on track. Maybe I should weigh every two weeks instead of every week? A while back I remember boots was doing a monthly weigh-in (is that right? or am I confused?), and I think that may be the way to go for me, rather than have "Friday morning" looming on my consciouness every week... 

Ok, this post is too long for this early in the morning. :) Have a great day, everyone!!

mornin' ladies!

i weighed myself this morning, and i am pissed. i know i said i wouldn't get unnerved if the scale stalled out while i'm new to the weight training, but that was easier said than done. i've been stuck at the same weight since october 1st. and yeah, i know it's prolly my muscles gettin' bigger (b/c i've stayed w/in my calorie limits just about every day), but still! plus, i was hoping all the cardio would kind of burn the fat quicker than i'm gaining muscle.

i was doing an hour of cardio w/ an hour of weight training every other day, for a total of 4 days a week, only 3 of which had weight training. but i've decided to step it up a bit. still keep the hour of cardio and hour of weight training 3x a week, but add 2 days a week of 90 minute cardio. i tried the 90 min thing last night, and it wasn't too bad. i just hope it works. it's so frustrating to be so close to a massive benchmark (100 pounds lost!) and have it still be out of reach.

edit: way to go with the pants, pixie!

and yeah, the party's SO not gonna be at my house. i put the word out yesterday (plus facebook/myspace/craigslist between today and tomorrow), and i'm gonna start looking for a space to rent over the next few days. this is something i've never done, and don't really know what i'm doing, and don't know where i'm gonna get the money for it, even though i'm gonna charge for it, just to make back what i put out.

edit edit: i just realized, i lost weight the best when i went mostly vegetarian. i'm gonna go back to that this week. every little thing helps!

Original Post by dalmalama:

i know, right?

i had an idea earlier today to have an enormous, ridiculous new year's eve party, with a playboy theme. i have NO IDEA how i'm gonna pull this off, but i've sent begging emails to all the people i think can help me organize and advertise. i wanna host a huge party, like 100-200 people. i've never hosted a party that big, but i'm gonna try this year!

 Ooooh... are we invited?!?!  lol

Ok, just on here quickly.. so much to get caught up on, haven't been around lately... will try to get caught up today!

Miss you all!

you are all totally invited! but you've gotta wear a bunny costume!

dalma: I'm glad it won't be at your place, but it will be a great time, I can tell already. :)

Does anyone have ideas for fun/easy/inexpensive Halloween costumes? For the past couple years I've avoided the event altogether because nothing I wanted to dress up as fit me well or I would have had to go with one of the obviously unflattering costumes in a room full of sexy cats/witches/police women/beer wenches/whatevers. Just wondering if anyone has had a stroke of genius for this year. :)

Thanks for the comments guys. I know I shouldn't beat myself up - 3.8 in a week is awesome! Above average! But it's hard when everyone else around you is losing more! They have time to hit the gym twice a day and I'm working 12-14 hour days. I just can't swing twice at the gym! I'd be burnt out! Heck, I feel burned out now!

Plus, although it's awesome for her, the other girl on my team started a LOT smaller than me (like by 50 pounds) and she's lost 25 to my 18. She's also been taking diet pills. And I haven't. So I know WHY I shouldn't feel the way I do, but I still do. Ugh.

Oh well. Work for another hour or two and home for dinner, and off to the gym for another round. And these are the days of my life.... :)

hey everyone :)  work has been crazy this morning so haven't had a chance to chat.  it's post-TOM now so the scale is back in the low 250s as opposed to the mid-250s.  but, it's still not budging into the 240s.  i'm going to be optimistic and stick to my 1000 calorie deficit per day plan and hope to see it go down. 

sadly, my year-end goal is to just hit my high school highest weight of 235 lbs.  that's where many people here started... or perhaps even higher, since the norm seems to be around 220-235 lbs.  i'm angry at myself cuz earlier in the year, when weight was coming off at 6-9 lbs/month, i was hoping to see 199 by the end of the year. 

meaning, my goal was to basically lose 100 lbs in the year, basically averaging 2 lbs/week, and to be fitting into regular size 14s on bottom and size Larges on top.  now it's more like 55 lbs, averaging 1 lb/week, with the hopes of wearing 16Ws (regular 18Ps) on bottom and all size XL on top.  that's certainly a big change from the beginning, when i was in 24Ws on bottom and a mix of LB 18/20Ws-22/24Ws on top but i'm skeptical that i will even hit my 55 lbs goal in light of the fact that the scale hasn't budged and i'm trying to lose 15 more lbs by the end of the year!!   (I'm currently wearing 20Ws and some size XL but more so 1X or 14/16Ws on top.)

dani, i'm super proud of you.  you're doing an amazing job.  diet pills are NOT the way to go.  they screw you up.  and people who use them often haven't changed their eating habits as well as others who take the old-fashioned route.  that girl could very well end up eating crazy amounts of food and gain it all back down the road. 

dalma, i totally want to come to your party.  but i'm too much of a prude to wear a bunny costume. 

pixie, i had similar reservations about halloween costumes all these years.  i don't know what to be ever, usually just wear a witch's hat (boring) the few times i do have parties to go to.  my friends aren't really the halloween party type.  they're kind of boring, married with kids types.  even the ones who are only in relationships/engaged are already like that.

sonini, you have been missed!

ally, thanks for saying the guy is cute :)  and helping dalma and boots to see my journal.  i put them in a privacy filter even higher than the "core" as well in the hopes that that helps from now on.  i'm taking advice from you and boots and going to try to go in with lower expectations and not stressing.

anyway, i think i'm going to run out and grab a salad or something.  not feeling like my pbj.

watchme, i'm trying to work up the nerve to wear it myself! if the party were this month, no way in hell would i put it on! but hopefully over the next 2 1/2 months my trainer will get me lookin' right! b/c i've already bought the bunny ears, tail, and bow tie!

btw, you made any decisions a/b the boy yet?

and oh yeah, the weight stall is NOT your fault! you've been trying as hard as anybody could, and your body just isn't cooperating. you can't control that! it sucks, but it's not your fault.