Girls in their 20's who want to lose about 100 pounds

Hi, my name is Suzanne and I am 23 years old. I weigh 258.3 pounds(yikes) and would really like to get down to between 140 and 150. I was wondering if there was anyone else out there in their 20's who has about that much they want to lose. We could work together and stay motivated to reach our goals!!! Also, if there is anyone in their 20's who has lost that much and wants to share their success story, I would love to hear it! Thanks!

liza - I also slipped and fell in the shower while getting ready the day of the wedding... cut my arm and sprained my back... made for an interesting honeymoon!!!  LOL!  Definitely have unique memories of our big day!!! I tell everyone, if we could make it through that day, we can make it through anything!

sweepie - my dress came from David's Bridal and I didn't have any problems with them, just make sure to ask any questions you may have, they should be more than happy to do whatever they can to make your big day extra special.

sonini - I have a secret interest in the books, but haven't brought myself to buying them or getting them from the library... but the way you talk about it, I may just have to go get them!!!!  And congrats on the loss... every little bit counts and always makes me feel better!!!

I too am taking a "cheat day" for Thanksgiving.  We're going to a friend's house, so there is no way to know exactly how many calories are in everything, so I'm going to taste everything and just not over-eat.  She asked me to bring dessert... so I'm making a pumpkin pecan braid *pillsbury.com*, apple praline pie, and white chocolate chip cranberry oatmeal cookies... long name... but they are awesome!  My husband is making oyster dressing.  It was his dad's recipe and this is the first thanksgiving since he passed away... so I'm all for him making it. 

And Liza, I totally understand about having to taste as you bake!!!  I think that's the best part.

 

HAPPY THANKSGIVING EVERYONE!!!

Hope everyone has a great Thanksgiving! Me, I'm just chillin--not doing anything, maybe sleep & exercise.....So I'll be around

Happy Thanksgiving everybody!!!!

hey ladies!

I've been busy with school projects but I hope to finish recording the last one next week . Today I have a cold but I'm feeling ok, just enjoying the holiday, went with my mom to have a Thanksgiving breakfast (of course I'm using this day as a cheat day :D) which consisted on tacos (Mexican food in the morning + Turkey at night = Pepto Bismol, hahaha) my sister in law is on"turkey duty" this year so that's a major relief. We're on "mission: dessert" so we went to the bakery at 8 AM only to find out they start selling fresh pies at noon, we're not cooking this year because both my mom and me have a cold. I'm also having lunch with a couple of friends so that means I'll be moving back and forth all day long.

Hopefully after tomorrow I'll be able to catch up with you guys, unless my dad decides to buy the family Xmas tree on Saturday instead of tomorrow (he likes to decorate it the day after Thanksgiving)

 

Take care and HAppy Thanksgiving!!!

Been a lurker the last little while...but looks like everyone is doing well here.

Dani, you look amazing!!

Sweepie....gongrats!! so exciting! love the dresses, I always loved that side sweep waisted thing.  And I think wait till a few months before too...

Ally...164!!! no words!! wow, thats amazing :)

Sonini, so with you on the feeling good about the progress....was bad for a couple of weeks, and now back on track, so far down 4 lbs this week, of course I already lost those and gained them back in the last month or so, but not thinking about that, I'm back and pumped.  I'm still praying I can reach my new years goal...18 lbs by then, might be stretching it a bit, but I'm gonna try.

Happy thanksgiving everyone!! So nice to have a day off, especially since I don't really keep a traditional thanksgiving (please don't throw your pumpkin pies at me) :) but I didn't grow up in the USA, so doesn't mean much to me, but love the festive feeling in the air, and happy to not have the whole feast, since I was sooooo good this week so far!! Got up late, had a great workout at the gym, and now just relaxing.

Hi ladies! I'm back home in Massachusetts now - these past two weeks have been RIDICULOUS for me. I haven't tracked anything and we've been running around eating out a lot so I feel like a lazy slob. Ugh.

Anyway, I forgot that living with Mom & Dad means big dinners every night - a meat, a veggie, and a starch, inevitably cooked in olive oil. I'm picking up tracking again starting today and I hope I can judge things as accurate as possible. I'm sure I've told you that my mom has weird things with food - I'm worried that if I refuse to eat something or say I'd rather make it myself she's going to fear the worst and get all up on my case about it (as if living with my parents again isn't bad enough). Since I know we're going to have calorie-full dinners, I've been trying to keep other meals small, but I'm getting hungry and cranky more often and I don't like to behave that way when I know it's just because I need a snack! ;) I'm thinking I'll have the meat and veggie and skip the starch? My sister is already a HUGELY picky eater so I don't want to make more work for my mom, and she takes it a little hard when you say you want to prepare your own meals... I'll figure something out!

Happy post-Thanksgiving, everyone! Watch out for those leftovers!

Hey ladies! It's been weird to not be here for a few days! But California is awesome! And my friend and I have been running the last two days and even did this big set of stairs (65 steps) 4 times last night! So I'm trying to get some exercise in so I don't gain 10 pounds while on vacation!

Thanks for all the compliments about the dress. Man - I know I felt smokin hott in it! :)

I hope Thanksgiving went well for everyone. I did all the cooking here! It was delicious! Then we went and saw a movie. It was a pretty good day. Today we're doing the tourist stuff...Pier 39, Fisherman's Wharf, Golden Gate Bridge, etc. Talk to you again soon!

Pixie: I would personally eat the starch and veggies and skip the meat...I'm not sure about anyone else but I find that startches keep me fuller for longer, i dunno.....

Dani: Glad your having fun on vaca!

fay: I live in the USA and didn't celebrate Thanksgiving, it's ok--really..Lots of people don't....and lots of people do...Good job on the work-out and enjoy your day!

dana: good to hear from you!

I'm just enjoying my day off ...Slept in...and still laying in bed..I'll probably get up later to exercise and then get back in bed lol---it's also a cloudy day so that helps me to stay in bed, lol....Hope more people will pop in today

hi girls!

i hope you found your dessert, ana!

fayny, don't worry about the no thanxgiving thing; to each his own. i think younger people, in general, are more accepting of nontradition than our parents are. so it's so not a big deal!

ooh, pixie, i would not know how to handle those dinners! good luck with 'em. and leftovers? fuggettaboutit! i'm TERRIFIED i'm gonna pull a repeat of last year and gain a bunch of weight over the next month. i know i have it within me not to do that, but i'm scared nonethless.

dani, your vacay sounds awesome! wish i was there!

enjoy your day off, boots!

so thanksgiving w/ mcyummy was awesome! he and my mom really hit it off. they're both artists and talked each others' heads off for hours. it was nice that they got along, even if my mom did have a snarky comment about the gift he bought me.

it was just a little flower he obviously picked up on his way over. it's not what i would've picked, but he's not me. it's the thought that counts, but she had to be a little itch-bay about it. that said, she did have a point. if this works out in the long term, i don't wanna keep getting tacky gifts (he's bought me some other things that weren't exactly my style), so i'm gonna have to show him the kinds of things i like. but that seems emasculating to me; i don't know. i'd rather accept sweet but kinda ugly gifts than get nothing b/c i bruised his ego. i don't know.

so he and i are buying him a suit tomorrow for him to wear to my company christmas party. i'm gonna try my best not to influence his choice too much b/c i don't wanna impinge on his personal style, but i already know what he'd look good in. but i'm not gonna make him my ken doll. i'll just try to give opinions on what he picks out, unless he asks me to pick out a suit (fingers crosed!). but then i wouldn't want him to ask me to pick out a suit b/c then what if we break up, and he's left w an expensive reminder of the last chick? am i overthinking a simple purchase?

dalma:I dunnoo....I think you have the right idea about being careful about it.. Hubby & I definitely have 2 different styles...I would love to see him in certain styles but he hates them..so I have learned to stay away from that department. I don't even buy him clothes anymore..Did that once and they all had to be returned...so instead he just takes his own money to go shopping.....I think to each his/her own because I wouldn't want him dressing me either ( he doesn't always like my style) ...so as far as that hubby & I both stay away from the clothing department...And I have gotten a few bad gifts too, of  course he doesn't know that...He also admitted to me that he doesn't know what to buy me after almost 4 years of marriage....So we have decided to make our own list  and print out pictures of everything that we want, that way we both never get an item that we don't want...So it does take all the surprises and fun out of it but it works for us....Good luck to you and your Thanksgiving sounds great!

Hi! I'm Alica. I'm 24 years old and weigh 213. My heaviest was 222. I want to lose at least 70 pounds, maybe more. I am looking for people like myself to help keep me motivated. Last week I completely blew it and gained 1.2 pounds. I am starting to struggle and need all of the help I can get. My main reason for wanting to lose weight is to be healthier. My husband and I are trying to to conceive and I refuse to be the fat mom sitting on the sidelines.

Welcome Alica!

dalma - I also think you're right about being careful.  you don't want to come across as "motherly" ya know?  BUT, I'm sure he'll appreciate your opinion.  Glad you enjoyed Thanksgiving with him!!!

I didn't do too much calorie counting over the last few days.  My plan is to start again tomorrow and really get focused between now and Christmas.

Anyway, hope everyone had a great holiday!  Enjoy the rest of the weekend.

Welcome Alica!  A small part of losing weight for me is also having kids.  So, I totally get that.  But, you can totally do it.  It's hard to stick with, we have our ups and downs.  So, hang in there!

Boots, that's too funny about you and hubby with gifts.  I love surprises in general.  Hubby is pretty good at getting gifts, but he's impossible to buy for.  There's never really anything he wants or needs or whatever.  So, I ask him, but I try to listen to the things that he says that he wants throughout the year.  The problem is that he buys most of them on his own.  It's easier now that money's tight, he doesn't just buy as much.

Dalma, can you give hints about what you like?  Instead of directly coming out with saying "get this not this", can you just gush about what you like?  So like, walking by a flower store (wasn't sure if you didn't like the flowers altogether or just the type of flower) say something like "Oh, those _____ are so pretty!  They're my favorite!"  Just insert this types of things in the conversation.  Some people are practical gifters and others are more fanciful gifters.  My grandmother wants useful things (so this year is a whole bunch of assorted cards for her to give out since she doesn't get out much).  My husband wants things that he just wants to have, even if it doesn't somehow make life easier, just more fun (so he's getting a game for the Wii).  I think that's a huge difference for a lot of people.  Dunno.

Dani, glad you're having so much fun on vacation!  And keeping up with your weight loss!

Pixie, I don't know how you're doing it.  Can you just eat smaller portions of everything?  Or will she be offended that you aren't eating enough of it?  Can you blame it on the "omg, I'm so full cause of all this weight loss...I wish I could finish"

Qt, I didn't count much the past few days either.  It's necessary sometimes.

But I just haven't been sticking it out nearly as much.  I tasted as I baked more than I should have on Wed and then had an extra cheat day and was up above 300 again yesterday.  I'm down to 298 something today, but it's just frustrating.  I need to be able to control my eating more.  I mean, I can't keep losing if I keep up what I did this week.  The good thing is that I have no cheat days between yesterday's weigh in and next week's weigh in, so I'm hoping I'll drop again.  I know a lot of it is water retention and the weight of the extra food and stuff that I'm still carrying around, but if I want to fit in my new clothes and have clothes that make me look decent cause they actually fit, I need to keep on track.  Just frustrated with myself, cause I know I'm the only thing holding me back.

hi alicia! it's slow right now b/c of the holiday and the weekend, but it'll pick up again soon. welcome!

so, suit shopping: it went pretty well! we were basically on the same page. he's fairly dark-skinned, so it was my mission to find a suit that complimented his skin tone. that's what he wanted, too. as for styles, he asked me which ones i liked. i was hesitant at first but then he was all, i wanna look good for you, so whatever one you think i look good in, i'll get that one. awesome!

so we found this gorgeous navy suit. he tried it on w/ this lavender shirt. omg he looked so hot. but he had an issue w/ the color of the shirt, even though it looked so good w/ the suit and his skin. he said he didn't feel comfortable wearing purple or pink. so i was like, your masculinity isn't defined by what colors you wear or don't wear. wearing those colors shows how secure you are with your sexuality that you can ignore gender stereotypes. but he wasn't buying it.

not till he asked another guy in the store how the suit looked w the shirt, and if he'd wear it. the guy told him he looked great and that the whole purple/pink thing was stupid. he said he wears those colors all the time, b/c he knows he's a man, and he's secure in himself. mcyummy couldn't believe the guy said the exact same thing i said, and that guy wasn't even in the store when i said it! so he got the suit w/ the lavender shirt. i gotta find my camera so i can take a picture @ the party.

oh yeah, the coolest part, for me at least, was on our way out of the mall. mcY was saying he didn't know what i liked, and that he'd have a hard time picking out a good xmas gift for me b/c he hadn't yet figured out my taste (eerie! i didn't mention that to him at all!) so we're walking past the misses' dress section and i see this cute dress. so i say, i like that dress. it's my style. so he goes, let's see how you look in it.

just a month or so ago, this would've been an embarrassing situation. none of the dresses would've been big enough. but yesterday i was able to look through the few dresses on the rack, find my size (misses' xl, thanks), and try it on. and i looked cute in it! so he got me the dress. i was beginning to take for granted that i can fit some things in the misses' section, but not being embarassed by my size, and just picking up something b/c it was cute and not worrying if it would fit, made me appreciate my progress all over again.

holiday food: i have GOT to detox! i've spent the last 4 days eating like an utter idiot! i can't weigh myself until next week, b/c i went way overboard, and i need to flush all this garbage outta me. so i'm gonna attempt a post-holiday detox. lotsa water, tea w/ lemon, exercise 5 times this week, mostly water-dense fruits and veggies, no dairy, no caffeine, and no red meat. i know i'm gonna wanna cheat by tomorrow afternoon, but i have to do this! i can NOT gain any weight over the next month. that'd be total bull! i wanna be able to keep fitting my new dress! 

edit: liza, he doesn't like hints. he prefers outright being told what i'd prefer, which is a load off my mind! this way i get nice gifts that we both feel good about! as for the flower, it was just ugly. i love getting flowers, but i much prefer some over others. but i wouldn't get rid of it; it was a really sweet gesture.

liza & dalma: I'm sure the scale will go down!...

Dalma: congrats on the clothes shopping, sounds really great--and stress-free!

happy monday!

hey ladies!

dalma, I'm also planning to make this week my detox week after the neverending Thanksgiving leftovers weekend. By the way, in the end we bought two pies instead of only one, one hot apple cinnamon pie and a cold cheesecake with cream cheese swirls, nutella and whipped cream on the top (craaaazy stuff but so yummy!). I'm also fitting in normal sizes again, I actually wore a pair of jeans that I hadn't worn since three years ago and now I'm looking for a cute cocktail dress for a wedding I'm attending this Friday.

dani, I hope you enjoy your vacation! I love SF! Even with the crazy weather and all, because it changes so fast. One minute I was freezing, the next one I was sweating... I loved the Chinese restaurants there, but the best thing is Ghirardelli's and the bread, they bake awesome bread. And the shopping district was awesome too... even the Ross store was so big!

ally, 164! wooowww.

wannabepixie, I'm agree with you that living with parents mean BIG MEALS. My mom's food usually includes pasta, potatoes and meat. I try to balance it out skipping either the pasta or the potatoes and adding vegetables.

Hi everyone!  

Dalma, I'm glad Thanksgiving and suit shopping went well!  And it's awesome that you're both on the same page as far as being honest about things that you want!  I hate the guess-work part of relationships.  Yay Dalma! And good luck on your detox! :-)

Liza, hang in there, chica!  We all slip up on eating well, especially during this time of year when it's pretty much expected that everyone will stuff themselves completely every chance they get.  You'll get those numbers down again! :-)

Welcome Alicia!

Dani, Cali sounds awesome!  I'm glad you're having fun! :-)

So as for me, I had a pretty awesome holiday with the BF's family!  There was some family drama, but luckily it never got too awkward, and since it didn't concern me (thank goodness!) I had a pretty relaxing long weekend.  I ate like a cow, but I also spent most of Thursday and Friday running around after the kids (to avoid hearing about the family drama) and Saturday and Sunday we helped the BF's mom decorate her yard for Christmas, so I was up and down ladders hanging lights on trees and such.  I'm hoping that's enough exercise to counteract some of the calorie dense deliciousness that I was chowing down on, but I'm not holding my breath.  My plan is to be super on top of things between now and Christmas: hitting up the gym daily, eating really, really well when I'm not at a Christmas party, etc.  I doubt I'll get my 164lbs again tomorrow, but I'm hoping I'm not too far off.  

In other news, the BF and I are talking about moving in together!  I'm super excited, and I know it's a big step, but I think it'll work out really well! The only problem is that my current lease isn't up until next September!  We have to have a 2 bedroom, and my complex doesn't have any so it's not like I could even do a lease transfer.  Have any of you ladies ever broken a lease before?  Is it a really bad idea?  Would moving in together before we've been together a year be a bad idea anyway?  I've never lived with a SO before, so any advice would be welcome! 

Happy Monday! :-)

wow, ally! huge news! i've never lived w a guy, so no advice there, but i have broken a couple leases. the first one was professionally managed, like yours seems to be. the second was privately owned.

for the first one, they made me pay them all the remaining months due on the lease. i was only leaving a month early, so that wasn't a big deal. but with 10, 11 months left on your lease, that'd be a lotta dough. it was also spelled out in my lease that i'd owe them any remaining months should i break the lease.

for the second one i read the lease, and the owners neglected to put in a clause in case i needed to break it, so i was able to break the lease and just walk away. i had about 5 months left on that lease.

so long story not so short? just check your lease; it should let you know!

Thanks Dalma!  I'll definitely reread my lease.  I seem to remember it saying something about breaking a lease (I always try to at least skim those things before I sign them), but I'll dig it up tonight and see what it actually says.  The BF's lease ends in April, so the time that I'd be ducking out on wouldn't be quite as bad as 11 months, but 5 months would still be a boatload of money if I actually have to pay it all.  Did breaking leases make it harder for you to rent a new apartment?  I know it affects your rental history, but I'm not sure by how much.

Truthfully, waiting 5 months longer wouldn't be that bad, but it would make it trickier for him.  He'd either have to sign a 6 month lease somewhere or crash with friends until my lease was up.  Either way, he'd have to move twice in a year, and if he stayed with friends he'd have to put his stuff in storage.  It'd be easier if we could move at the same time, but I guess we'll see what looks to be the least difficult thing to do.  What a mess!  If only I'd known we were going to work out this well before I resigned my lease! :-/