Girls in their 20's who want to lose about 100 pounds

Hi, my name is Suzanne and I am 23 years old. I weigh 258.3 pounds(yikes) and would really like to get down to between 140 and 150. I was wondering if there was anyone else out there in their 20's who has about that much they want to lose. We could work together and stay motivated to reach our goals!!! Also, if there is anyone in their 20's who has lost that much and wants to share their success story, I would love to hear it! Thanks!

ally: I lived with hubby 6 months before we got married and do not regret it. I learned so much more about him , and I thought I knew everything about him--but you never know everything...One thing I learned is you find out their little habits and then you get to decide if you can live with them, lol.. Like if he leaves the tooth paste cap off or on, stuff that drives people crazy! Also, you get really personal as far as body odors lol, or personal hygiene--so you get to see how a person is 24/7.It also just prepares a person for married life because it's an adjustment having to live with someone and not being able to get rid of them--I know at first I just wanted my space and felt like hubby was there all the time, it took some time for me to be adjusted to him being around all the time and not living on my own.......I really belive you really never know a person until you live with them.....Good luck!

Hi Ladies! So I haven't checked in in a few days I guess I missed a lot. I'll do my best to catch up and try not to miss anyone. I appologize if I do.

Topeze- Don't worry about going overboard for Thanksgiving. I think most of us did. All you can do is jump back on the wagon and move forward.

Dalma- It sounds like you had a great time suit shopping. What is the party for? Congratulations on the dress. I have always wanted to be able to wear a dress. One of these days!! Good luck on the detox. That in itself takes a lot discipline.

Unlimitedana- Like I told topeze, don't worry about going overboard. Forget about it and move forward. Good luck with the shopping. I'm sure you'll find a nice dress.

Ally- I don't know anything about the least thing. Talk to your landlord. Sometimes they will let you out early. As far as living together, if you think it's right, why not. Only you know what is best for you. My husband and I moved in together after we had only been dating for 3 months. Granted I still lived at home with my mom and he lived with his parents so it wasn't so much of a risk. Two years ago we bought a house (before we were married) so that was an adjustment for us living completely alone without any parents or siblings. In the the end though we have now been together for over 3 years and were married this past spring. Good luck with getting everything shuffled around. I'm sure somehow it will all work out.

I'm sorry if you anyone uses a different name than your screenname and I missed it somewhere. Please let me know. It might take me a little bit but I'll try to get it all figured out. Also just a minor thing, my name is spelled Alica, no second i.  It happens all the time. It is pronounced Uhleesa, but you would never think that. What was my mom thinking?! LOL!

So I've done pretty good with eating these past two days. I still have yet to exercise though. That is absolutely my struggle. I just hate it. I love to walk but here it is cold and snowy and no one shovels the sidewalks. I just can't seem to bring myself to walking on the treadmill. Tomorrow we are going to a huge Christmas store and world's largest candy store. I decided that we would have Subway for lunch instead of going to a restaurant. I am going to allow myself one chocolate sucker. Luckily sweets aren't really my weakness.

I hope everyone had a good day tomorrow.

Alica

breaking your lease won't hinder you from renting another place, as long as you leave paid up!

alica, the party's my company christmas party. it's at the aquarium this year, which is utterly gorgeous!

Hi guys, I actually just joined. I'm not quite 20, but I'll be 20 soon. I definitely have a big weight problem. I'm currently at 297 and I hate every last pound of it. The worst part is, I essentially have the same eating habits as when I was younger....and skinny! I was skinny up until about 5th grade. When I was younger I was outside playing all the time, riding my bike, playing, etc. Then in 5th grade my parents got divorced and I got extremely depressed and I gave up on going outside and being active. I ended up sitting inside, watching tv or sitting on the computer and thus began my downward spiral into my excessive weight gain. According to this, my ideal weight its 140's...but to be honest, I'd be happy to be down under 200 seeing as I can't remember the last time I was under that. My big problem with this though is, I work in a restaurant as a cook, so food is always around me and when we're not busy I end up constantly snacking. I know that is one thing I've got to stop. Another thing I know I should do, but will be considerably harder is either quit, or drastically cut back on pop/soda. At home, I generally don't drink anything or if I do, it's Iced Tea. However, at work I drink nothing but pop...most of the time 2 or 3 32 oz. cups atleast. So, that's pretty much my story, and what I've got so far. Any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated =]

Hey everybody! I'm Elizabeth. I'm new to the forum and the site. I'm 19 going on 20, 5'10", 225 lbs and I want to get down to a 150-170. I've never really tried to lose weight before. I've always had the desire to lose weight, but I've just never honest-to-God tried. Only last Monday did I truly decide to just buck up and do it. Really I'm here looking for some moral support, some friendly convo between people in the same boat as me, and maybe some good ideas or tidbits one might have. One of the worst things for me is the fact that I haven't moved away yet so I'm still living with my family. Needless to say, they are not harbouring the same ideas of fitness like I recently came in to, and when I suggest they maybe...participate...they scoff a bit. It's all good until a situation like tonight happens. As I said, I've only been dipping my toe into the weightloss process for about a week now, and naturally my parents did the worst thing ever although with the best intentions. I had to work till rather late and when I came home they took it upon themselves to buy me dinner. Although they know I'm trying to lose like 70 lbs, they bought me a HUGE platter from Taco Bueno. UGH. Carbs...fat...beastly proportion. *cries*

I expressed my gratitude for the meal but informed them of my woes, and of course my mother looked crushed that I obviously wasn't going to eat the meal that she went out of her way to purchase for me with the intentions of saving me the hassle of cooking. Eventually I caved and ate dinner from the BEAST. I ate about half of it *shameful* but threw the rest away. I felt totally, utter, and complete guilt while eating it.

Has anyone else slipped? I don't mean to make this a regular thing by any means, but I'm just craving someone that is in the same boat so I don't feel like a failure already. lol

dancing: I say you did great---you ate half the dish! How much would you have eaten 2 weeks ago?? probably the whole thing right?? I say take baby steps and your doing great!

free: have you tried chewing gum during your shift? Also how about just trying to having 2 sodas during the shift, and gradually cut down..I'm a big believe in taking it slow at first...Although not as slow as me, lol took me a year to finally understand it all...Good luck!

watchme: "HI" miss you.....and "HI" to all you lurkers

booster: i chew gum like my life depends on it. the only problem with cutting down on the pop is that i hate water because it has no flavor, and i dont like pink lemonade or the brand of fruit punch we have, which eliminates all other beverage choices =[

Dalma, glad to hear that mcYummy was on the same page as you and asked what sort of things you like.  Amazing how you sometimes just find a guy that gets you, even if he isn't sure of what you like yet.

Ana, omg, that nutella pie sounds to die for!!!  I did actually leave our dessert at the mother in laws house on purpose. 

Ally, very cool about the bf and you moving in together!  With the lease, a lot of times you can get out of it.  If you can get somebody else to move in after you, a lot of times they don't charge once the new people are there.  But, I had said this earlier when pixie moved, I talked to ours and explained that I had to move back home with the parents due to job loss...it was a little bit of a stretch.  So, they kept the deposit (1 month rent) and didn't charge us anything else.  Might as well ask and plan a sob story.  If that won't work, can you temporarily live at your place until you finish the lease? 

Alica, I'm not huge on exercise.  Big thing for me is having a routine, which helps me just know that I'm going to work out, so less thought to try to find ways to avoid it.  And figure out what you like best, even if it is just as easy as listening to music, watching TV, reading, ect while you do whatever it is you do.

Welcome Freebird!  Sounds like you know what to change to make things work.  Can you bring water to work?  Or even some of those powders you can add to water if you need some flavor?  If you're sipping on water all the time, it's a lot harder to reach for food at the same time.  And if you ate the same way and were just that active, then can you get active again?  Do you have any teams in the area that do things you like?  Do you have a bike?  If it worked before, it should help a ton now.

Welcome dancing!  Totally don't even worry about the meal.  We all slip up (read my past 2-3 weeks of posts lol).  But it's all about moving past it and making the next time count.  There are times when we do eat things like that so not to offend others.  Maybe make some suggestions for next time they decide to do that.  And I 2nd boots, haha.  I'm going to guess she's right that you would have ate all of it before you started. 

And I was thinking the same thing, saying hi the the lurkers and missing Watchme.

Ok, so I went to the grocery store today.  The weirdest thing happened.  So, it's been quite a bit cooler than it had been down here, almost needed a jacket.  So, I'm sure the cold effected this.  But I was standing there and my wedding and engagement ring fell off!!  I don't know if I was moving my arm, but it shocked me.  I picked them both up, they were fine.  But apparently, I've lost enough that I need to get a sizer to hold my rings on.  Crazy!  They've been lose and I've been thinking I'll need one soon, but jeez, didn't expect that.

And thanks for all the encouragement.  Just frustrated with myself.  I need to work out again.  Maybe tomorrow, cause today I just don't have it in me.  Way too tired due to lack of sleep.  I think that's part of it and the stress and hell that my family life has been giving me.  Hopefully we'll have more direction this week with everything going on.  But just so frustrated with my daughter's other parents.  I mean, I've been stressed before, but this just adds a whole other level.  I was trying to get my paperwork done yesterday....procrastinated so badly compared to what I normally would.  And then my concentration just wasn't there.  Maybe I should take up some sort of kickboxing or martial arts and use it on some people I know. 

Free, What about propel?  Crystal light?  Some of those sorts of things?

Thanks for all the suggestions guys. The gum idea is actually pretty genius. I never would've thought of that otherwise. So I guess this site is already paying off. :D I know what you mean boost and topeze! I definitely would've polished that thing off guilt-free 2 weeks ago. Maybe it's the fact that I've got positive thoughts in my head, realistic goals I have for myself, curbing of my appetite or all of the above and more, but I totally didn't even WANT to eat it all!

I've really been focusing on little things like portion. All my life I've been totally ok with huge amounts of food, but starting out I was dead-set on convincing myself what the right amount of food is. Seeing that mound of fast food was like a horror story. The thought of eating it all made me feel immediately groggy, ill, and crushed for falling so behind on my goals.

I'm just scared that I'll lose sight of what I really want out of this and yet again put off what I really need to do for myself. I don't want to wait any longer to be healthy and the happiest I can be in my own skin.

currently i have $0 to my name lol. and with christmas and bills, and not making a whole lot, i honestly have no money left over from my pay check afterwards to afford propel and stuff. however, i can chug those sams club[or walmart brand...same thing] flavored waters like nobodys business. the only downfall with those is that since they're carbonated they make me burp a lot. lol.

hello everyone, i haven't really had time to post the last few days.  hubby was home from work and i usually don't get much done when he's home!!!!  he finally went back to work tonight... woohoo!  LOL don't get me wrong, i love him dearly, but my chores and exercise were suffering from our spending so much time together! 

welcome freebird and dancing!!!  congrats on taking a step in the right direction.  this site is one of the most helpful things for me!  and i know the other girls agree.  having other people to talk to and get advice and support from is a lifesaver!

freebird - i have been soda free for almost a year... i gave them up last january.  i started by drinking diet sodas... i don't really like them, but it was fewer calories and started to break my addiction to the sugars.  at the same time i tried to drink more water... think about how much sodas cost when you eat out... if you get water, you save money!  i tried a water packet thingy by Hawaiian Punch that was pretty good... that was what really got me off of sodas.  now i rarely drink anything other than water, juice, or milk.  just stick with it, it will be tough at first but eventually it will be normal.  i had sweet tea the other day for the first time in  months... i'm from the south and that is like gold to us... i couldn't drink it.  it was too sweet!!!!  my parents think i'm crazy!  hang in there!

dancing - go you for not downing the whole thing... fast food is one of my biggest weaknesses!  my family, mainly my mom was not very helpful in my attempts to lose weight.  the funny thing is, she was always the one telling me how i needed to lose weight!  she's finally gotten the picture though because she's actually started telling me how proud she is of me for losing 25 pounds and how she's tried losing weight since i have and how it's so hard for her!  but don't be discouraged... you obviously have the right mindset because you were strong enough to not eat it all!  and yes, i think it's safe to say we all slip at some point!  i stopped and got sonic night before last because i didn't want to cook!

liza - awesome about the rings... i'm know it makes you feel good!  i really hope things with your family work out.  you've definitely been in my prayers!

well, oddly enough, i'm off to bed... 5:30 a.m.  hubby's night shift is starting to get old!!!

Original Post by allydan:

In other news, the BF and I are talking about moving in together!  I'm super excited, and I know it's a big step, but I think it'll work out really well! The only problem is that my current lease isn't up until next September!  We have to have a 2 bedroom, and my complex doesn't have any so it's not like I could even do a lease transfer.  Have any of you ladies ever broken a lease before?  Is it a really bad idea?  Would moving in together before we've been together a year be a bad idea anyway?  I've never lived with a SO before, so any advice would be welcome! 

 Ally, moving in together is quite a big step. Sucks that your lease isn't up until next September. Is it possible that you guys could live there until then so you don't have to break your lease? Sometimes those penalty payments are horrible!!! I can't say whether or not moving in together would be a good or bad idea since Shawn and I moved in together after only being together for 2 months. But it really was the only choice at the time. I was being kicked out of my house that I was renting from my aunt since she was getting a divorce, she was moving in. Shawn and I had known eachother not even a year yet, but I couldn't afford to go out and get a place on my own, and all my friends already had roommates and what not. My parent's wouldn't let me move back home at the time either. He was living in a house with a bunch of roommates, but didn't have to worry about moving out since there wasn't any lease paperwork to break on his behalf.  But great things have come out of that, we've never broken up, came cloes a few times, but we worked it out and promised to never go to bed mad at each other. And look at us now, we're getting married next year!!! We've had a lot of trials and tribulations, but the strength of our love for eachother got us through it all. Check with your renter and see what the possibilities are and go from there.

 

To everybody else, I've got a horrible head cold. I just want to sleep and sleep and sleep. I skipped going to the gym last night because I felt so crappy, but I had to go to the appt we had made to check out the ceremony site for our wedding. Thankfully that only took about 20 minutes, we were only gone for about an hour or so. Shawn's parents went with us, and after going back to their house, they had offered to pay for the ceremony site rental and the reception hall rental. How awesome is that?!?!

Shawn's off today so he's putting up the x-mas lights outside..before it gets any colder outside. The sun is shining right now, but it snowed a little bit last night, just enough to put a light dusting on everything.

Oh man, I just want to go home and crawl in bed in my new fleece x-mas snoopy pjs... my head feels like it's going to explode. I've been drinking hot tea like it's going out of style. I'm getting cold chills constantly, my throat feels like somebody took a carving knife to it! Soup has been my friend! I think I'll have some chicken broth for dinner tonight...low sodium of course! My ears feel like their plugged up...hard to hear things.

Hope everybody is having a great day...

by the way, I was very good on Turkey day!!! I only had 1 plate, with very small portions of everything that I made. Saved my points for the chocolate mint cake my mom (step-mom) made me for my birthday. I of course needed to have a piece of that...and remember all the past Thanksgivings that my grandma (my step-mom's mom) had made me a chocolate mint cake for my birthday since we celebrated it then with her. Usually my b-day was only a few days away from Thanksgiving. Man I miss her.

Shawn and I decided that instead of doing a unity candle, we're going to do a Rememberance Candle. Similar to the unity candle but, we'll have pictures of our grandparents on the table that were unable to make it to the ceremony since they'd already passed.

hey ladies!

welcome dancing! Weight loss is such a major journey but one thing I have understood is that is not a win or lose situation. This means that if you fall off the wagon, you haven't fell for good and that you can always start over. The important thing is to not give up. About portion control, I think is one of the things you learn on this site. I still eat pasta and bread but I calculate how much of it I can eat

freebird welcome! I agree with qtpie about the soda. I used to drink regular Coke and Pepsi everyday, but I replaced at first with Diet Pepsi, slowly I've been including higher amounts of plain water so the change it's not so drastic.

liza, lol with the falling ring, you should definitely get a sizer to keep them on. By the way, wait until you have falling pants! that's a shocker as well when it happens.

watchme, we miss u!

dalma, you should post a pic of the party! It sounds awesome!

alica, I hate exercise too but I've been walking three days a week for an hour dividing the session into two half-hours. It takes about a month to make a habit and even a need. Yesterday I had only walked for half an hour and just felt "off" so I just turned on my Ipod and danced (like a little kid, jumping and swinging my arms) for thirty minutes.

sweepie, the remembrance candle is a great idea :) And I think it's great that Shawn's parents offered to pay the ceremony site and reception hall rentals! :D Hope you feel better soon!

hey everyone!  thanks to everyone who gave me shout outs and emails (boots, ana, ally).  missed all of you chicas too!  i just got back from ohio late last night; took off wednesday and monday.  had a lot of fun and accomplished a lot of things.  have caught up on all of the posts (skimmed) and am glad everyone seems to have had a great thanksgiving! 

ally, g'luck on the moving decision and stuff!  ditto re dalma's comments on breaking leases.  i think that will free up a lot more time for you to get exercise in by not having to commute back and forth to visit him the hour or so that you guys lived apart :)

ana, hope your end of semester stuff is going well.

dani, i need to follow your exercise plan!!  need to drop some serious pounds!  please send it along to me after you get back from cali :)  hope you're having a fabulous time.

sonini, where are you?  we need to keep up the work outs!!

sweepie, i really like the idea of a remembrance candle too and loved loved loved the color for your bridesmaid's dresses.

boots, how's your new plan going?  i need your advice on something that i will journal about later today.

dalma, i'm glad the shopping with mcy worked out. 

as for my update:  i went shopping at macy's and snagged a bunch of $40 suits since mine were all way too big on me, but for that one suit that i got from lane bryant in september.  i went a little crazy and got 7 suits (ranging in size from 14-18) in total but each were $40 and originally priced at $300+.  they're all tahari and jones new york suits.  3 of the 7 suits are actually those cute dress suits.  didn't do any other black friday shopping, though i did buy my brother a HDTV 32" flat-screen... my parents are paying for most of it but just needed me to go pick it up.

i'm feeling a little discouraged about my weight loss this year now that it's december and i've basically been doing the CC thing for almost a whole year.  according to the scale, i've dropped 40 lbs and probably have some loose skin and have put on some muscle so maybe 50 lbs or so of actual fat loss this past year.  i guess i'm just a bit discouraged though cuz i'm still at 251 lbs (it won't budge!!!) and i really had hoped to be at a 14 by the end of the year and, instead, am likely going to stay at a 20w or hit an 18w at best.  granted, that's better than the 24w that i started off at this year but it's still frustrating. 

on a positive note, i snagged another one of my mom's coats this weekend.  it's the exact same coat (style, color, brand, EVERYTHING) that i wore last winter except that NOW instead of wearing it in a size 2X i'm wearing it in a size XL.  i keep telling myself that next year, that means i could be wearing a medium or a large even.

so, my total progress for the year has been:

size 24W elastic pants --> 20W non-elastic pants loosely/18W elastic pants

size 22W skirts --> XL (elastic), 16W-18W skirts

size 22/24 shirts + sweaters -->  sizes XL and 14/16 mainly with a few 18/20s still if they are stiffer fabric or silk as opposed to cotton

size 2X winter jackets --> size XL

i will journal post soon about something i need some advice on (a guy!) but right now, have a pile of work waiting for me. 

watchmeshine: way to go on your results thus far. keep up the good work! any suggestions you can give?

aww sweepie, i'm sorry you're not feeling well.  hope you get better soon!  i also love the idea of a remembrance candle... very precious!  and what an awesome thing for your future in-laws to do!

watchme - don't be discouraged, you've had amazing weight loss!  just remember that when you lose it slowly and in a healthy way, it will be easier to keep it off in the end!!!  and congrats on the jacket and suits!!!!  and glad you're back!

ally - i lived with my bf in college and we didn't make it, which really is ok... i'm glad i found out he cheated on me before we got engaged or something!!!  i didn't live with my hubbby, but stayed with his on weekends.  i agree with boots that you never really know someone until you live with them!  our apartment lease says that if you want to break your lease you only have to pay one extra month, so you definitely need to check it out!  hope it all works out!

Hi ladies!

Boots, thanks for the advice about living together!  We spend so much time with each other, it's almost like we already live together, but I suspect I'll miss having my own space a little bit when we first get our place.  It makes me feel better knowing that other people felt like that and everything worked out in the end! :-)

Alica, thanks for your advice!  And don't feel bad about the not exercising, it's SO hard to make yourself start.  The key is to find something that you like and will actually do... Is there a gym nearby?  I'm notoriously bad for sporadic gym usage, but when I DO go, I feel so much better!  And it's easier to make myself go when I've got something interesting to do when I get there.  Have you ever tried any of the work out videos?  They're cheaper than a gym, and can be pretty fun!

Dalma, you absolutely must post pics of this Christmas party!  I at least want to see the dress!  I bet it's gorgeous! :-)

Freebird, I've found if I'm going to snack, it's got to be on things that are fairly protein rich or have a lot of fiber because then I'll eat less.  If you have to snack, try to go for things that are more filling.  Sometimes it's just a case of picking the lesser evil, lol! :-)

Welcome dancing!  It helps if you think of it less as a diet and more as a lifestyle change.  It's something you'll have to think about for the rest of your life, so try not to think of it in terms of guilt, and being bad... Think of it as doing the best you can and taking it day by day.  I find that the guilt makes me feel overwhelmed and bad, whereas if I look at it in the grand scheme of things, and try to do better the next day, I work even harder.  And I agree with the others; eating only half is AWESOME! Just controlling portions and stopping eating when you're full is a great start! Keep up the good work, chica! :-)

Liza/Topeze, Lol, I've been trying to think of a good story, but I'm hoping I won't have to use it... I have a hard time pulling off a convincing story, lol!  We can't stay at my place because it's a 1 bedroom and we have to have a 2 bedroom for when his daughter stays with us. :-/  I'm hoping when it gets closer to time for his lease to be up, we'll have thought up a solution...  I hope things with your family situation improve soon!  Hang in there, chica! :-)

Sweepie, thanks for sharing your story!  Every time I think about your wedding I get so excited!  That's totally awesome that your future in-laws are going to pay for the ceremony site and reception hall!  What's the ceremony site like?  Indoors or outdoors?  I'm living vicariously through you! Feel better soon! :-)

Yay, Watchme's back! You know, that's one of the things I look forward to most about moving in with the BF... I won't feel like I'm missing out on time with him when I hit the gym!  I use that as an excuse not to go way more often than is legit, lol!  Also, maybe we'll eat out less if we're eating together every night.  It gets hard to be good at restaurants!  How awesome about your suits!  Now I'm kind of annoyed at myself for not getting out and shopping this weekend.  That whole weekend is so crazy that it scares me, though!  Keep up the good work, chica! :-)

Happy Tuesday! :-)