Girls in their 20's who want to lose about 100 pounds

Hi, my name is Suzanne and I am 23 years old. I weigh 258.3 pounds(yikes) and would really like to get down to between 140 and 150. I was wondering if there was anyone else out there in their 20's who has about that much they want to lose. We could work together and stay motivated to reach our goals!!! Also, if there is anyone in their 20's who has lost that much and wants to share their success story, I would love to hear it! Thanks!

I hope everyone's having a great day!  

Sweepie, I'm glad you can reschedule for Feb, but I'm sorry the weather is wreaking such havoc on you guys! And that pizza sounds wonderful! :-)

Watchme, I'm on my way to your journal, just after this! Glad you had a chance to pop in and say hi! :-)

Buxom and Boots, AWESOME job with 10 hours of exercise so far!  Ya'll are totally rockstars! :-)

Liza/Topeze, I agree with your generalizations about men... It certainly holds true for the BF!  I'm super glad he's doing well, but when I watch him eat a Snicker's bar, and realize he'll still have a calorie deficit for the day, I get a little bitter, lol!  And I'm waaay behind on the BLC right now... Thank goodness for DVR!  I plan to catch up over the long weekend.  Way to go with the Levi's!  Keep up the good work! :-)

Dalma, I'm glad you're losing weight again, but I'm sorry that you re-injured yourself... Take care, and congrats again on the new low! :-)

So I also have happy scale news... I got a 163 today!  Which probably means that I was extra bloated pre-TOM (Monday) and now it's slowly going away.  I'm hoping for 161lbs next Tuesday, which would put me back at my all-time low, and officially back on track.  I don't know what it is, but it almost feels like re-losing weight I lost and then gained back during the holidays doesn't really count as losing.  Like, I'm not allowed to be proud or excited about anything the scale says until I see something under 161!  I know, I'm goofy.  :-)  Oh, and the best thing happened this morning!  The BF and I were cuddling before we got out of bed to get ready for work, and he put his arm around me, and was like "what's this, skinny girl?  There's going to be nothing left of you soon!"  He was feeling my hip bone for the first time, lol!  I've been feeling it for months because I know where it is, but apparently it's just begun to actually expose itself or something.  Or maybe he's just usually very inattentive, lol!  Either way, I totally enjoyed it!  Yay for re-appearing bones! (or in my case, appearing for the first time!)

Have a great evening, everyone! :-)

wrote my last journal entry.  wow.  so draining.  miss you all.  looking forward to hearing what you all think about my comments.

Scarlet, sounds like pre-portioning is the way to go for you.  I know when i set out certain amounts, that's what will get eaten.  So much easier than having to stop myself from eating stuff readily accessible.

Dalma, yay for weight loss!

Ally, grats on the lb!  And I totally know what you mean about relosing weight.  I don't feel like it's the same at all.  Because you already lost it and you have to get back to where you were before you start losing again.  And I can feel bones I haven't really felt before or much at all in long time.  Very crazy, but of course I see it.  Hubby?  No way.

So, TOM came.  I don't know if I'm just that much more aware of my body or what, but I feel totally bloated right now.  And so ready to just munch on really unhealthy things.  But I really shouldn't, not when I want to do well.  And we don't have a ton in the house, thankfully.  Except peanut butter cups.  No idea how those have been there for so long without really feeling tempted.  And snowcaps, which somebody gave me for Christmas.  Those are a cheat day item.  Preferrably with a movie.  I can't wait until Saturday.  Cause then it means all the things that have to get done will be over. 

Ok, happy losing people!

Akela, whine away we all have those moments!! And hope your injuries are better...you will get used to the exercise, it does take time, I have been doing this a while, but am still in pain sometimes, and personally I like it, makes me feel like something is still happening!!

Unlimited, it's funny how you call indulging a cup of sweet potatoes!! :) I got a laugh out of that, when to me over indulging is like chocolate cake or french fries!! Great job on the new nickname :) I too used to be the biggest in the family and am now now, I can't yet say I'm one of the smallest ones, but maybe one day I'll get there...

Iwilldoit, I actually heard that frozen veggies are really good beacuse they are flash frozen when very very fresh and still have the best nutrients, but can't tell you forsure if thats the case, but I too do the frozen veggie thing, I don't buy too much fresh stuff unless I know I am for sure going to be home otherwise it goes in the bin.

Topeze....well done on the Levi's that is totally awesome!! Totally wanted to vote of Joelle too, do people actually still think it's going to be a picnic after they have been watching the show for a few seasons??  I also felt bad for Jerry but he looked fantastic, and totally gave me inspiration if he could do so well at his age just what excuse do I have exactly?!  I get the serious munchies too...I'm all about wanting the ice cream, so just make sure not to have any around!

Dalma, I am so neck in neck with you its funny to read your posts, I too have not moved much since October, and was 222 this past week, and am finally moving again, I weighed this morning and was 219.  And same thing with the skin, only a little, and am also setting my goals somewhere at around another 50-70 lbs. And be careful in that gym!

Ally, thanks for keeping score, I'm at 3.5, totally need to step up the cardio hours!! Love the bones story...was cracking up, well done.

 

Totally forgot to add in my hour from yesterday, that makes me feel slightly better, I'm at 4.5 hours for this month.

omg fayny, what i wouldn't give to see 219! that's a new decade! way to go! plus, at 219, i'll have lost 101 pounds. boy, i can't wait to see that!

i, too, used to be the biggest person in my family, by a wide margin, but now i'm nowhere near the biggest. i'm most especially glad that i'm no longer larger than my mom. she'd always lorde it over me that she was smaller than me and her clothes were too small for me, so stop trying to borrow them. the day she borrowed my favorite top (which fit me snugly) and she was practically swimming in it, i felt like a whale. 

when the day came i could fit her clothes, i was ecstatic! then, i slowly passed her size, and now she can't even think about fitting into anything i own. she sometimes asks if i want an extra skirt or pair of pants of hers, and it still thrills me to say, "sorry, no. it's too big!" i don't think i'm the only one in size competition with my mom, am i? am i?!?!

ally, i am so so so jealous about being able to feel your hip bones! i can feel mine if i like push really hard on my fat and feel around the area. they have to be excavated; they're not just there yet. but i'm beginning to see muscle movement when i move. i was on the elliptical, and there's a mirrored wall across the room from it. i looked over at myself and was agog that i could see this HUGE long thigh muscle moving up and down as my legs moved. then another day, i saw my bicep and tricep muscles as i moved my arms, albeit under layers of fat. kinda like when you see a pair of feet moving under a thick comforter. but it's nice notheless.

hey guys, I'm Cait and I'm new, I'm 238lbs and would love to be down to 168lbs by summer, i know thats alot to lose quickly (70lbs in 16 weeks) but i thought it would be better to set a high target to pressure me into realising i shouldnt cheat. working on eating less that 45gs of fat a day (40 on a good day) and burning as many calories as i can lol. its great read about all your successes, and your support when everything isn going to plan. so i just thought i'd introduce myself!

Dalma, your comments about your mom made me laugh.  I have heard of other people with the same mom issues, so don't worry, you're not a freak or something.  But, must have felt really good. 

And hip bone...hmm, what's that??  Oh, we're supposed to be able to feel something through the fat?  What I actually notice (and this is kinda sad, but..) is when I'm stretching out my abs, I lean back on my exercise ball until I'm as far as I can go.  I can totally feel my ribs.  Sitting up, nope, nowhere to be seen or felt unless I push super hard.  But I've never even noticed them before.  Scary that there are parts of us that are just now starting to make appearances.

Welcome Cait!  I'm sure you'll lose a lot and get to where you want to be.  The typical amount CC recommends to lose is up to 2 lbs per week on average.  In the beginning, it's easy to drop a bunch fairly quickly.  Just make sure you aren't overdoing it.  I'd be concerned with how healthy that is, not to mention all the sagging skin issues it could cause. 

So, I just started to notice that there are apparently a bunch of people who are now on here right around my weight.  I don't know if before I just never came across them or if I was just a bit too much on the high end, but I knew like 2 other people who were around my weight.  But all of a sudden, there are a whole group of 290 somethings walking around.  It's nice to be in the same boat as other people, although I will admit that there is a part of me (embarassed to say) that envys them starting in the 290s cause I know while I'm not alone in my weight right now, give it like 3 weeks and they will have all passed me by with all the beginning weight loss people have.  Leaving me larger then everyone again.  Weird thought, right?

Ugh, now I have to get my work done.  So not wanting to right now.

hey ladies!

Today I went shopping to a flea market (to save cash for my big new wardrobe when I hit my goal) and I just got a tshirt because everything was one size too big or one size too small. Afterwards my friends and me went to the mall but the clothes there were way too expensive, though I can finally fit most of the large sizes in juniors :D.

fayny, I consider the sweet potatoes indulging because my mom cooks them with cane  syrup (loads and loads of sugar!), by the way today I has a slice of cheesecake (which tasted so good) but I did tons of exercise today to burn it off.

dalma, lol with the size competition! I also did that with my mom. I could never fit in her jeans, and now she can't fit in mine.

ally, congrats on the hip bones mine are still MIA, though I think they will pop in a couple of months more, lol!

welcome cittie!

topeze congrats on the levi's! They're my favorite brand of jeans (highly resistant in the thigh rubbing area (if you know what I mean;)). And no matter the weight, I think we're all in the same boat because we're fighting to lose about half of ourselves (in the end we should carve statues of ourselves in butter! :D)

hey guys, just wanted to say hi :)  i'm not really logging my exercise hours these days but am just glad to have dropped the 8 lbs gained from the holidays.  so, i'm back in the mid-250s (255.5).  still 5 lbs higher than my all-time low in october but i know that i put on some muscle with the regular personal training sessions so i'm trying not to sweat it.

my next major goal is to get from a 20W to a regular 18 (not to be mistaken with 18W), as I have a bunch of pants from NY&Co that my mom gave me that are those size.  It will be nice to go from having like 4 pairs of pants that I can wear to like 7.  I'm going to make that my goal by April.  That gives me 3 months to lose 20 lbs and 2.5 inches!!

Original Post by dalmalama:

i don't think i'm the only one in size competition with my mom, am i? am i?!?!

when i went home for Christmas i was trying on my mom's clothes... i haven't been able to fit in them since freshman year of college!!!!  that was about 9 years ago... so now my goal is to be smaller than her... i've NEVER been smaller than her, so i totally get the competition with mom!!!  i have a best friend that i'm in competition with too... it's been that way our whole lives... she was like a size 6 when she got married on my 18th birthday, and i was a 14.... she got pregnant and gained a bunch of weight... we're now the same size and she's always saying how jealous she is that i've lost weight... totally motivates me to go to the gym!

Wow, do I relate to this mom competiton!  Ive always been close in size to my mom, I look like her identical twin, we sound exactly the same, and we are incredibly close expect for this secret shame I have bout our unspoken  weight competiton, Ive always had a little edge as Im 5'!0" and she 5'8" (and shrinking) It was a year 5 days ago that she had gastric bypass surgery and had lost probably about 60-70 pounds and this has really put a strain on things I cant brign myself to tell her her I somehow feel let down or abandoned by her.  Is that crazy?  Its always been that at least my mom understood, and she had to shop plus size with me too, so when I couldnt handle having my skinny friends sit bored in the fat girl store, while I desperatly try to avoid a melt down, I could always call my mom.  Then she was just so thrilled about her surgery [she was very fortunate and had no complications and an overall great experience with it] she was really pushing the idea on me. She didnt understand why I didnt wat to talk about it or consider it just go for a consultation.  I would never consider this and it really hurt me.  I may not have had the motivation or mind set to lose my weight on my own in the past, but Ive always been capable and now Im proving it not just to myself but even more to my mom. 

scrlet, when i first started losing weight, my mom and i went in for a gastric bypass consultation together. the complications were enough to scare me off. but i also realized i didn't need it. everyone else there had serious health issues; sleep apnea, diabetes, uncontrolled blood pressure. for most of them, the surgery was literally the difference between life and death. my mom decided against the surgery, too, but she never decided to try to lose weight on her own, either.

i had a different p.o.v. when it came to shopping w/ my mom. i hated it, b/c i felt like i was dressing like an old lady. my mom's not that old, but i didn't want to be treated like her peer, but her kid. and shopping together was more girlfriend things. we're buds now, so i'm cool when we shop together now. even though she pushes me to go into misses'-size stores when i'm terrified that nothing will fit and i'll be judged and pointed at. but really, she's supportive about all this, and not at all jealous,which i'm grateful for.

edit: i've noticed a new thing with people now. they openly discuss weight with me, particularly the weight of (other) overweight people. like, we could be watching tv, and a big guy comes on screen, and the person i'm with will say, "damn, that guy's enormous!" or someone will be telling a story and they'll mention how the person is really big. the actual word was "obese."

i think it's nice that people feel they can be comfortable talking about weight around me now, but i don't like that they're generally so negative about it, even though i always knew they were. i'm not officially thin yet, but i still don't like being considered "one of them." them being the people who talk about overweight people. even if i were thin i'd hate it, b/c it's just wrong. but i haven't come up w/ a way to tell these people not to be so rude about someone's weight.

why is it that people who've never had a weight problem are so nasty to/about people who have to struggle with their weight? they're harder on us than they are on alcholics or drug addicts. i just don't get it.

I agree with you about the surgery but as you said I dont experience the serious health issues that many do.  My weight really limits me more emotionally than physically.  I felt that her suggesting that I need surgery when Im a young, generally healthy person was more of a judgement on character or will power or something like that.  I know thats not how she meant it but it has become a sensitive issue.  I sleep fine, do what I want to do, my blood pressure and cholestrol are normal, no diabetes, I have no injuries prohibiting me from excercise etc... 

I commend those who make the difficult and scary choice to under go the surgery to improve their life. 

However, I think that it does in some cases reflect the attitude of take a pill or get a surgery and feel better that so many people have, and I was tryign to resolve the issues I had becuase on some days I have to say I was disappointed that my mother made that choice.  Ultimately I am happy for her, she looks great, and feels amazing and that is what matters. She is being very supportive of my new lifestyle and Im just starting out but I know this time is it.  Now that she's lost some weight she wants to join me in excercise, and Im happy that we can come together in that way. 

i know what you mean. doing it this way feels like the proper way, you know? it forces you to look at the choices you (i) made to get to this point, and makes you shift your thinking and your behavior. and sticking with it teaches you the discipline you didn't have that caused this problem in the first place. it also teaches you how to be resillient, and learn to forgive yourself when you slip up, and to accept that you're not perfect and move on.

losing weight this way seems as emotionally and mentally demanding as the surgery is physically. it's so hard to stay in, and it takes all your resolve to do so. but i think it makes you stronger in the end.

topeze- Thanks for your kind words, hon. I appreciate it.

fayny- Thanks for indulging me! I'm afraid I'm going to have to go off again, a bit! :D

You ladies are all great. I really look forward to popping in and reading posts.

I've had a bit of a (mental) set-back. The scale I was using was ancient... And apparently not very acurate. The beau bought me a digi scale last night... Never used one before. Instead of the 260 I THOUGHT I was at, turns out I'm more like... 275. I try not to be emotional about my weight, but I almost bawled. Yeesh. I'm really feeling like I can't win at the moment. But I'm NOT giving up, darn it.

I'm not a breakfast person so we went out last night and I got some Slim-Fast for breakfast. Give that morning jump-start to the metabolism. And I am NO LONGER going to eat after 7:30. Period.

So I'm frustrated, but determined. Keep your fingers crossed for me, ladies. I need all the help I can get at the moment!!

*Hugs*

 

 

hey ladies!

I'm making spaghetti today, but with a twist. I'm adding soy beef to the sauce instead of regular meat, I'll tell you guys how it goes :). Hopefully it will taste good!

watchme, good luck with your new goal! And it's great you lost the holiday pounds :D

qtpie, congrats on fitting in your mom's clothes.

scrlet, I was also dissapointed when a friend got the gastric bypass. I mean we WERE the fat friends of the group and now she had left me alone. Over time I have learned to accept her decision and support her on the side effects of the procedure. I think weight loss "old-school" style is empowering because it heals both body and mind. Our mind starts working different and our perspective on eating well changes too.

dalma, I've noticed that my friends are now more comfortable talking about weight matters with me. One of them actually asked me for advice yesterday (advice!) and I was able to tell her the basics. I think people (slim or not slim) who is negative about being overweight base their opinion on their own fears because they relate their size with being accepted/loved by others.

akela, having to step on accurate scales is so hard but they help us to reach our goals better than inaccurate ones. Remember to review your daily calorie goal and your burn meter. Good luck!

The following doesn't apply to all thin people, obviously, but we all have our prejudices and unfortunately we all pass judgments on others, and so much of that is based on appearance. I have to struggle myself not to feel catty or bitter when I see a really in-shape person, because I "know" they're judging me... Petty, but it's just how our brains are wired, sometimes. We try to rise above it, and I'd like to think we're successful, most of the time, but still... It happens. And the prejudice runs both ways, thin people towards the heavy-set and vice-versa.

dalmalama: I think people who have never been on the heavy side and don't have to worry about thier weight often have the impression that overweight people (sometimes that ALL overweight people) are just lazy or that they don't have will-power. "Well, that's just disgusting, that person needs to eat less/work out more, etc." Unfortuneately, I fit into that catagory.

It does make me feel really bad, though, for people who can't control their weight due to health or medical issues. They get lumped in with people like me, and that's just wrong. Also, we have all this sympathy for people who have eating disorders like anorexia and bulimia, but little or none for the people who have disorders where they can't seem to stop eating. That's just chalked up as "gluttony." Very wrong.

We've also all been so brain-washed by the media that the "norm" for everybody should be 20 or more pounds UNDERWEIGHT. "Thin is beautiful" and all that crud. The reason this really bothers me is watching young girls now-a-days struggling to be "Hollywood" thin and all that just so society will think them to be pretty. It's not even healthy, but it's what they strive for because they've been programed to believe that's the way they should be. I mean, MY GOD. Just walking through Wal-Mart and seeing the fashions for young girls makes me cringe. Who lets (or wants) their CHILDREN (Pre-teens)  to dress like that?? It's insane.

 

Ana, haha, like I didn't know what you mean about the chub rub, as I've heard it called.  I have actually worn pants enough and had enough rub to make holes in some of my pants.  Then I debate how long I can still wear them for with the hole not quite big enough yet.  And yeah, you're right, we're all trying to lose half our weight.  I think I'm just envious thinking that if I had started where I am now, I'd be only 220s right now.  And omg, that is soooooooooooo far away.  But, I am of course happy for anyone losing without care to what the starting number was (minus those already too skinny girls that have some issues).

Watchme, Yay for dropping back down again.  We all knew it was just holiday weight.

Dalma, I have a theory.  Naturally thin people don't understand how friggin hard it is to lose all the weight that we have to lose and the issues leading up to it.  They think it's just mind over matter.  Some of it is (Yes, I'll have the ding-dongs).  But a large part of it is emotional and physical.  They see us as just being lazy when we really aren't necessarily at all.  But those comments would bother me a lot.

Scarlet, I totally get that this time is it.  I've ate better or worked out at different points of my life, but this is completely different.  I really do see it as a whole lifestyle change.  Although, my mom made the comment to me that whenever I put my mind to something, she knows I'll achieve it...therefore she knows that I'm going to lose every pound I want to.  And I think that's what's different.  I know now that even if I gain 10 lbs back in 2 weeks, I'll keep plugging that next week anyway, no matter what.  I guess I never really thought that I could even stop what I've now started.  I don't think any of us will, even after we slip.  I think Dalma's totally hitting all the good points in her responses to this too.

So, looking forward to the scale tomorrow.  I'm really hoping it's good to me.  I'm not feeling quite as bloated as I had been, and feeling more on track than before, but I'm so tired.  Got to bed later than late last night.  So, looking forward to an easy weekend wtih barely anything that has to get done.  Finally, cause this week was a killer.

Hmm...maybe a nap quold help me.

 

Hi all,

I've been MIA, work has been busy this week. I'm just now starting to do some "real" work and getting out of the office after almost three months of working there. It's nice I'm getting all this training, they said I probably wouldn't be busy until after 9 months of employment.

As far as the exercise, yup, I just skimped out on it thus far this week. I plan to make up for it double time over the weekend. I think I need a break. I still have time to get my hours in. No harm in taking 5 days off--lol---

As far as the scale, I've just been going up and down all around the same weight....I'm not really stressing over it...Just more focused on how I feel right now...The weight is always there to come off--lol----I might try to focus on it more next week and actually count some calories so I can find the problem but right now I just have no energy.

I'm so glad it's Friday--and a long weekend at that! I'm sorry I can't reply to everyone's post but I have been lurking! :)