Girls in their 20's who want to lose about 100 pounds

Hi, my name is Suzanne and I am 23 years old. I weigh 258.3 pounds(yikes) and would really like to get down to between 140 and 150. I was wondering if there was anyone else out there in their 20's who has about that much they want to lose. We could work together and stay motivated to reach our goals!!! Also, if there is anyone in their 20's who has lost that much and wants to share their success story, I would love to hear it! Thanks!

hi everyone!

missing you all but I'm glad everyone is busy!

Welcome Suzanne!

Yes its been quiet on here this weekend, hope because everyone is doing well.  Im having a great weekend!  I saw a great number on the scale, and breezed through my shred dvd yesterday!

This weekend was easier that last in terms of keeping a schedule with eating, helps I was a little less busy, and Ive been in a good mood, this new lifestyle is agreeing with me :)  I even had a date and stayed on track while eating out and having some wine, not to mention the date went well :) YAY!!

Ive now lost 14 pounds from the start, and 8 since the 7th when I joined here.

 

Im Sara I am 21 and 245 lbs. I want to be around 140 lbs. I wqas once comfortable at 170 although thats not perfect I was happy if I could get back there I would be happy. Looking for some motivation....

Welcome Sara!!(bowman06)

I'm pretty new to this place myself, but this seems like a great bunch of gals.

Hope everyone has a great weekend. I feel off the wagon pretty hard, yesterday... Went to the bar to hear my beau play in his band and had too many beers followed by a way too late dine-out session at Taco Bell... I only got two things, but one was a 600 calorie thing... So naughty me...

But I am back on track today, and not a bit hungry, so happy about that... And hopefully if I'm good for awhile the one day won't be too much of a set-back.
This is all so new to me I don't know what "works" as far as cheat days go and all of that, but hopefully I can figure it out as I go along.

hey everyone,

I wrote a journal entry--you all are welcome to read it :)

Thanks Dalma and allydan for welcoming me back! Dalma, I love your new pic by the way!!!! I will write more tomorrow!

Thank you  scrletbgnias!

I hope you gals don't mind me throwing in a post here.  I have to confess I lurk here once in a while because I find this one of the most positive, encouraging, supportive threads on CC and I love to read about your successes and accomplishments.   One of the things I am most proud of in my life, is recently helping to guide/motivate/encourage,  my best friend's sister who was 38, 5'6" and was 240, all the way down to 135. It took 18 months, she worked very hard, had ups and downs along the way, but stuck to her guns and got it done, through a combination of healthy eating and moderate exercise.   You have never seen someone so happy as the day she went and squeezed her butt into some size 7 Tommy Hilfiger jeans and I have to say, it was a magnificent butt!!!

You can do whatever you set your mind to and don't let anyone or anything stand in your way!!  Keep up the great work, thanks for all the encouraging and motivational stories, and I'll go back to lurking now if that's ok!!...lol.

aww, thanks johnny, and wtg helping your friend!

I'm so frustrated! My husband got laid off and now I am working so much to make up for it! He gets unemployment but that only helps so much. My mom is VERY ill and I help her with my brother sister and 1 year old niece she has custody of. I feel like just sitting down and pouring my heart out into some comfort food!

 

I have a hard time exercising and all this stress is just making me exhausted my the end of the day. I just feel like I have no idea what I am doing and no idea why I would even attempt this! I was feeling fine until everything started going downhill! I'm just sooooo irritated! Help anyone?

welcome bowman! Your words remind me about the first half of 08. It was a very tough time so I was in the same "weight-loss-go-to-hell-I-need-pampering" mood. Food, mostly fatty junk food, seemed to improve my mood. Exercise was unthinkable.

But then I noticed that I had "food hangovers". Guilt mostly, but also headaches and stomaches. The pain only stopped when I had more food. But then it would happen again. My body was begging me to stop feeding it so poorly.

I then realized that everything in my life was a priority, except for myself.

I decided to be not so hard on myself, and it's a constant battle to accept that I can't be perfect and I can't fix everything, especially stuff that is out of my hands.

My point here is that you need to make time for yourself to do relaxing things. Maybe you can try yoga or meditation. Or you can eat something delicious, and calorie wise (I like sugar free jello) so you can have second helpings. And also make time to do things for yourself.  I bought a Sally Hansen nail polish since my nails were awful, and every tuesday after weigh in I paint them. A treat that wasn't food at last.

Good luck and take care!

johnny : thanks for posting, you put a smile on my face :)

bowman:I understand the position your in, and I'm sure a lot of people on here can relate. I actually just wrote a journal on it. My husband currently doesn't have a job and is going through medical issues (doctor's can't find a thing wrong) Income is really tight. The first thing I want to turn to is food, but I can't afford the extra food so I guess it's  a good thing. I personally decided to take time off  exercise for a while and focus more on my diet which I don't have a choice because all I can afford is beans and rice, lol....Anyways just wanted to say VENT Vent all you need and all you want. And if you need to take a break, I understand. I think we've all taken a break one time or another.... But I also agree that you do need to do something for you! No matter if it's a hot bath the same time everyday or taking a power nap the same time everyday---do something for you!

Hope everyone is having a great day! I've been super lazy all weekend. Stayed up too late and slept in too late. I may write another journal entry later. Have time on my hands. Alright Peace....

Boots, very exciting to be doing some "real" work.  And how many hours are you up to on your 40?  I still can't imagine 5 hours a week...10 is just hard core!

Scarlet, good job on the shred video and the 14 lbs lost! 

Welcome Sara!  Sorry everything is so hectic and crazy for you.  I never really thought I was an emotional eater until I had major stress.  And that's exactly what I do...I eat and don't work out.  It's hard to break that pattern (and I'll admit that at least half of the time I don't break it), but I know what helped me is to remember that I'm doing this to make myself feel better in general.  Even though I do want all that crap, it makes me feel better at the time, but 2 hours later, I do feel the guilt that ana was talking about.  Not quite in the same way, but similar.  And we all know exactly why you're attempting it: You're worth it.  You are worth all this hard work you know you have to do in order to be a healthier, happier person.  It took me a while to really understand that while all the food was yummy and sometimes helpful emotionally, I'm worth more than the crap I put in my body that got me up to 367 lbs.  And I know it's not something you want to do right now, but I'd suggest trying to force yourself to get some exercise.  Go for a walk, take your siblings to a park...anything that will get you out and moving.  Make it something that's less "working out" and more "moving more" than you do now.  I never really want to exercise, especially when stressed.  But once I make myself do it, I feel so much better after I'm done.  It's just figuring out how to get myself to start it that's the problem.

Akela, I think that even when we make really bad food/drink choices, it helps in the long run.  Well, as long as we can control it to happening only every so often.  I do a cheat day a week, which really helps to curb all my chocolate desires through the week and help me stay on track.  And, people will say that eating at maintenance every so often helps to keep the metabolism running higher.  And if you or anyone does freak about one day, just make the next day better!

Johnny, very sweet.  Do love being here, though, because of exactly the reasons you lurk, lol.  And gj on helping your friend out.

I so did not want to get up this morning.  Especially after my not having to do anything weekend.  Hubby and I went for dinner on Saturday to this new place.  Although, I was a bit disappointed in their menu.  Thought it was Italian food, but it's just kind of a mix.  Got a gigantic calzone, but obviously did not eat most of it.  And...said no to dessert even though they had this yummy chocolate type dessert.  Anyway, happy Monday everyone!

wrote a new journal: set it to private setting...send me an email if you can't read it for some reason :)

argh, what a weekend! i spent the weekend w/ jay. the whole weekend. not the first time i've done that, but it was draining nonetheless. and it all started because i wanted to draw.

i told you guys he's an artist, right? well, he is. anyhoo, i figured while he was busy working on a piece, i'd keep myself occupied by drawing this awesome amaryllis i found. really intricate and detailed; it was gonna take me all weekend to draw it. so while he's downstairs doing god knows what, i start to draw upstairs.

eventually he makes it upstairs and sees that i'm drawing. he didn't know i could draw, and he's totally excited about this. so he goes, "let's draw together!" i say no. i like to do my creative thing alone. but not him. he's not a solitary person, in ANY way. which never bugged me, until this weekend, b/c he wouldn't leave me alone. it bugged him b/c i didn't want him around, and he thought it'd be "romantic" to art together. but he wasn't understanding that i need to be alone when i art, and it definitely wasn't romantic for him to push his ways on me. ESPECIALLY since he kept insisting on teaching me to draw, when i've been at it for years, and i like what i do.

so, we had our first argument. and it lasted all weekend, across multiple topics. we'd get off one thing just to fuss about another, then go back to the first thing. it all came to a head last night, when we finally just laid out the facts: we weren't hearing what the other person was saying. our perspectives are entirely different, which is what caused all the arguments to begin with. i still don't think he gets that i need him to not only hear what i say, but understand that i mean it, and that him dismissing what i say severely pisses me off, even  though i've come out and said just that multiple times.

he frustrated the hell outta me this weekend, but it felt good to talk about this stuff with calm heads and voices from both of us (after we set aside the pissy attitudes). it's nice to know he's not perfect and that he finally saw a side of me he didn't like, and it wasn't worth breaking up over.

just saying hi, and I hope you all are doing well!

dalma: I can say arguments are good because you can really see how a person can be and if they listen or not listen and how they do communicate which does show a lot about a person and then you have their actions once you communicate. Boys eh?? Right....Glad you got it all out though ....

So I'm a little angry...So you guys know the week before I did 10 hours of exercise and gained like Three Pounds (I got all the way up to 225.6)  and then I decided to take a whole week off of exercise and I'm at my lowest weight 219.4 wtf???((I haven't eaten anything different)) I just don't understand--so to exercise or not is the question or just focus on my diet.. eh??

hey laides, i've just kinda been lurking the last few days.  not been doing so well counting calories.  i stopped measuring my food out and in an attempt to not overeat realized i was not eating enough.  i was really tired all the time and didn't feel like going to the gym... the hubby forced me to sit and count my calories from the day b/c i kept saying i didn't want to eat b/c i wasn't hungry, but i had only had like 1100 calories that day.  it was kind of ugly.  but i'm better now, trying to get back in the habit of counting my calories.  i don't know, i've been stuck at 208-206 for a couple of months now and i'm just really discouraged. 

i did get 4 hours of exercise in last week, so that's a total of 10 for the month of january.  i'm gonna try really hard to get in my last 10 before the end of the month. 

hope everyone is doing well... i'm gonna try to catch up on all the posts tonight after the hubby goes to work.

Happy Monday everyone!

Dalma, keeping my fingers crossed for you to get there shortly!! At 219, I am 80 lbs down, wanted to be down 100 by new years but that never happened!!

Cracking up about your mom....I have an aunt that I was the the same size as and if she liked something I was wearing she would always ask where I got it, since we shopped at the same stores, I gave her some of the clothes I had that were just about new when I left size 26 behind me, funny thing is now at a 14/16 she still asks me....it always makes me smile even though she still thinks I'm big!! For some odd reason I get a kick out of it.

That is always the million dollar question....why people are so nasty to overweight people, it boggles my mind all the time. 

I almost think that if I did it through surgery I would be back where I started after a few years, cos I wouldn't do a full on surgery just the less severe band, but I dont think I would have learned as much as I have going about it like this, and just really struggling at times with it all.

Welcome Cait and Sara.

Topeze....I'm also still in the hip bone whats that stage!! Don't stress too much about the people that pass you by, we can only do what we can do, I've been hanging out in the 220's for almost 4 months now...it's just how the "game" goes. 

Unlimitedana....love cheesecake!!! I stay far away, cos I could still probably eat a whole cake!

Akela I wouldn't worry too much about the scale, dont let it get to you, I am different on every scale I've stepped on but I use the one at home to track my progress, and I'm not as concerned with the actual weight I am apposed to the difference which is what I'm tracking, I would think that that is going to be the same on any scale.

Boots, scales and all that are tricky little things, I'm up and down all the time, some days I think this is gonna be a good day and i gained, other days I wasnt expecting to see a loss and I do...go figure!

today was a bad day. A machine at work caught fire! nothing major but it did shook me and messed up a client's work. And then I went a bit over in the calories eventhough I now that tomorrow is scale day, I guess I ate out of the shock without thinking.

On the bright side, my brother asked me for weigh loss advice (3rd person to ask in the last week :o). He's only a bit overweight but he wants to get healthier this year. We already planned his whole diet ahead of time because he's always in the run.

johnny you're so sweet! thanks for the compliments :D

qtpie, take care! hopefully that plateau will end soon :)

dalma, sorry about your weekend with too much jay :S

fayny we're weight twins right now, I'm 219 (at least until tomorrow's weigh in) :D

boots, scales are tricky. how are your measurements going? I would refocus on the cardio, but less time and up my calories a bit.

topeze, way to go with the Italian restaurant. Italian food is a major temptation for me.