Girls in their 20's who want to lose about 100 pounds

Hi, my name is Suzanne and I am 23 years old. I weigh 258.3 pounds(yikes) and would really like to get down to between 140 and 150. I was wondering if there was anyone else out there in their 20's who has about that much they want to lose. We could work together and stay motivated to reach our goals!!! Also, if there is anyone in their 20's who has lost that much and wants to share their success story, I would love to hear it! Thanks!

If you're burning 2270cals and eating 1650cals that means your deficit is 650cals.

Not eating dinner isn't healthy. Burning 650cals a day is good. It's a nice, steady way to lose weight.

Ok, Ok, Good Morning Everyone!

I finally started keeping track of my food on here. Nothing fancy, but its a start. I read ( cant remember who posted it though) on here where someone was talking about a juice/fruit/veggie fasting thing for 3 days? Spring break is next week and I am thinking of doing that for the first 3 or 4 days and then picking up on my 1400 cal a day plan WITH excercise. I have been having some lower back problems, and its pretty much had me in the WORST pain I have ever been in. I know alot has to do with the weight, but I was seen by a chiropractor and I do have some lower nerves pinched.. ( having your toes go numb pretty much sucks)

Ok, so can anyone explain to me ( please) why when i entered my calories in today, and a few minor calories burned, its saying my calories burned is like over 2k, but when i actually go in to edit activity it only adds up to about 1k.?? Does it include something else I am not aware of?

Still amazed by all the great people on here. You guys are the ones who are keeping me coming back and logging in. :) Does anyone live in Florida??

Ok back to class stuff, hope everyone has a wonderful day. Its almost the weekend!!!

 

EDIT: Ok i think I figured out the calorie thing. It shows how many more cal i need to burn to reach my estimated daily calorie burn. Correct?

sarah - the big number is your running total so far for the day... the small number in the top is your estimated calories burned for the day. You will notice both numbers change if you add any activity to your log.

bzb: I may just take you up on that invitation some day! I am pretty sure I am not a nut case, so it's all good! I have always wanted to go to Cali!

feddie: yay size 12 at the thrift store! I bet even if you aren't really a size 12, and are a 16 now or so, it felt great to be able to fit into it!

bootser1: Thanks for the tips! I will check the sites out!

mladdy: Anytime. I agree that life is a gift, so live it up! I am glad you had someone notice your weight loss! Woo hoo! My husband, either because he is unusually observant or he is saying what he thinks I want to hear, will usually comment that he notices a difference if I have been vigilant for a few weeks. Hopfully, I will start to notice a difference soon!

sarahbear2008 I also have lower back pain. I my L5 disc is torn and fluid is about all leaked out. The only thing left for me to do is surgery.I also have spats where my toes go numb and my sciatic nerve is being pinched. I'd be walking either at work or at home, and all of a sudden a sharp shooting pain went from my back all the way down to my toes and then my leg would go numb. I'v gone to the ER (after a car accident that I was in when my back was hurting really bad from it), they said it was just a severe sprain and I'd be better in a week, they gave me motrin 500mg. Didn't do a darn thing for the pain! Three painfull weeks later, I called a chiropractor, they looked at the x-rays taken at the hospital, and he said I had a spur in my lower back, so he treated me for a few weeks and the pain went a way for a very short time, between treatments the pain would come back and get worse. So I stopped seeing him. I waited a few months to see if maybe the cold weather was agrivating my lower back, thinking possibly arthritis had started to set in, and then I thought to myself, that's impossible I'm only 23 years old (at that time) for pete's sake! So after many nights (about 6 months worth) of crying from the pain and lack of sleep, I decided to see my family doctor. He sent me to get an MRI done after perscribing darvocet, and vicodin and neither of them helping with the pain. From the MRI scans, they found that my disc was torn. He had sent me to a specialist to have him suggest some options. After a few weeks of steroid shot treatments into the disc, and nearly $3000 later in medical bills (still paying for) the shots didn't work. They were supposed to help mend the tissue and fluid would rebuild itself and I'd be fine again. Not the case, he then said my only other option would be to have surgery to fuse the discs/vertebrae  together. I still haven't gotten that done, for many reasons....the main one, I can't afford it and my health insurance wouldn't pick up nearly enough of it for me to try and pay for the rest of it. Or I can live off of pain pills to try and take away the pain momentariliy and do surgery when I can afford it or justl live in pain for the rest of my life. Second, somthing about having somebody mess with my spine just scares the crap out of me! Maybe someday I'll be able to get over that. But I also think that it's my extra weight that's keeping the pain alive. It is the hardest thing to sleep at night with all the pain. I have to litterally pick myself up by my hips and turn myself because it hurts too much to try and allow me to do it in my sleep. I still have lack of sleep at night, but taking a vicodin or 2 before bed helps sometimes...at least till I have to move around. The pain is what has been keeping me from doing a lot of different exercises that I used to do years ago to stay in shape. Seems like the only things that I can do anymore is walk, ride a bike (only for a short time though), or swim. I can do very little workouts at the gym with their weights there, and other classes. It really sucks! I wouldn't even wish this on my biggest enemy!

The moral of this little problem of mine for you is to get a few different opinions. Obviously I did, and I was told by 3 different doctors...3 different problems. Please make sure you get your back checked out by a few doctors to see that it isn't worse than what you may think it is. It could be something as simple as a strained muscle...but something as serious as what my problem is. Just don't ignore it, it may only get worse.

I really hope for your sake that it's nothing serious! I understand completely about the pain your in.

OK. So my friend, who was close to 350 lbs last summer went for a sleeve gastrectomy in January. I've got to tell you girls, I do NOT envy her at all. She has gone from just over 300 this new year, to 245 in three months, but she can't eat anything. She's weak because she has no muscle, and she's depressed because she had such a torrid love affair with food before, and now she can't eat a whole piece of bread without getting sick. I've never been so determined to lose weight the old fashioned way as I am when I see her. She thouroughly regrets going through what she has, and I can't say I blame her. When you go on the websites and talk to doctors etc, everyone makes it sound so great. You lose weight fast, *real fast* but do you think it's worth it? I'd like to hear some thoughts.

ennazus- Please come visit some day! I love taking people around SoCal. And we could meet up with mladdy.

m_c_85- I think that if you weigh 600 lbs(I am exagertaing a little) and can not stop eating you need the surgery. But if you are 150 to 200 away from your goal weight and are determined you should do it with diet and exercise. I know several people who have had the surgery and I don't envy them either. And they really don't learn much from the journey. I do not consider it an easy way out because it is painful, but I don't consider it good. Its all about the $$$$$ for the doctors.

I would never have the surgery. I've always known I could do it on my own if I wasn't so lazy. I agree with bzb though, that if you are severely overweight (like 600lbs) and it is your only option, then it can save your life. The thought of going under the knife when I don't NEED to though, really scares the hell out of me. A friend of mine is 270lbs and is looking into having gastric bypass, and I just don't understand it. I weigh about the same and would never even consider it. I don't think you learn how to be healthy from the surgery. And the risks of complications just aren't worth it. I would rather do it on my own, however achingly slowly it may be, but be healthy and alive in the end.

I am glad that someone else out there feels my pain! ( literally!) but hope it gets better for you. Mine stopped hurting for a good 2-3 weeks and has started back up again. *sigh* I WILL not have surgery unless it means saving my life. I do not want anyone going near my spine/and or spinal cord with any kind of sharp instrument. Nowdays You cant even trust some doctors! So I made the mistake of hanging out with a friend of mine today and devouring half a .99cent bag of chips and 4 Hostess sweet rolls.. OMGAH . I feel so bad for doing that to myself and i was just getting on the right track. I did stop myself and put whatever was leftover in the trash. NO THANK YOU.

sonini- Im not sure if thats correct only bc, when i put the daily activity in it shows a total cal burned at the bottom..when I go back to my front page it in the little box it says almost 1k more than that. right now its saying  3197. When i add it up its only 2,137(as it shows when i enter in the daily activity window). And the Estimated ( the small number at the top of the box) says 4030 *confused* LOL.

 

ok apparently the cal burned in the blue window changes every few mins..bc i refreshed the page and its different now lol.

 

(bear with me yall im a bit of a newbie..ill get it one day)But still not sure why it would be so much higher than what ive entered in the daily activity log. Im up to 690 cals so far today.. so weird.

dont hate me for being slow! LOL

Hi everyone!

Suzanne:  THE GUY did stop being busy, at least for now.  I just kinda decided to stop obsessing and just kinda go with the flow.  That having been said, I know I'm probably just chill about it right now because he's NOT busy, lol.  As soon as he disappears again, I'll probably freak out again. *shrugs* But while it's good I'm enjoying myself!:-)

Feddie:  it's WAY awesome that you got into a 12!  Isn't it crazy how good those little numbers on clothing tags can make you feel! I agree with Melanie that you should try on some 18s and 16s... You might be truly a smaller size! :-)

Melanie, (mladdy):  I'm so glad someone noticed!  We all could see it here, but I know it was kinda bugging you that other folks hadn't said anything.  Keep up the good work, chica!  BTW, I'm soooo jealous that you live in Cali!  I love, love, love California.  Well, San Fran was just okay (it annoyed me 'cuz I was there in July and had to buy a sweatshirt since it got so cold there at night.  Cold weather in California in the summer just didn't make sense to me!), but I loved LA!  Maybe I'll join Suzanne and come out and visit you and bzb!

Sweepie: OMG that back pain sounds awful!  I'm so sorry!  I have to say that it's amazing that you can focus on weight loss while you're living with chronic pain.  I don't even like to try to eat right or exercise when I just have cramps during TTOM! You're totally awesome! :-)

m_c: I agree.  I don't think I'd ever get the surgery unless I was like 600lbs and my life was in immediate danger.  I've heard a few stories about people who ended up gaining a bunch of weight back, because eventually the stomach space just stretches out again, and if you haven't learned how to eat right and live a healthy lifestyle like sonini said, it's easy to put the weight back on.  Also, I think I just appreciate stuff more when I have to work for it.  Like after all this when I'm just maintaining, I know that if I see the scale up more than 5lbs, I'm gonna freak out and be like,"Noooo! I don't want to do it again!" and work hard to get it back off!

Anyway, as for me, despite my worrying about the weekend, I ended up actually down 1.5lbs yesterday!  Yay!  I was thinking about it, and I realized that even if I was eating out a lot, I was kind of subconsciously was counting calories and adjusting for it throughout the day.  Like if I knew I was going out to eat that night, I'd eat lighter in the morning to compensate.  And in addition to being really active (walking around the mall, and the park, and helping THE GUY move/unpack), I worked out twice during my five day break which had to have helped as well.  Could this thing be becoming an actual lifestyle now?!  I'm hoping it is and wasn't just an accident! :-)

Original Post by sarahbear2008:

ok apparently the cal burned in the blue window changes every few mins..bc i refreshed the page and its different now lol.

 

(bear with me yall im a bit of a newbie..ill get it one day)But still not sure why it would be so much higher than what ive entered in the daily activity log. Im up to 690 cals so far today.. so weird.

dont hate me for being slow! LOL

SarahBear, The big total is your added activity PLUS what they assume a person of your height/ weight would burn just being awake in a day basically. Those cals are burned by being alive ;)

Since everyone is talking about the gastric bypass... My brother in law had it like 2.5 years ago now. He needed it, He was like 430 pounds. He lost a lot of weight in the course of a year, and went down to about 250. However, now he is gaining it back. He still pushes himself into 2xl shirts, but only if they are stretchy, and they are way tight. He denies that he is gaining weight back and insists he is just bulking up from going to the gym. He does go to the gym, but only to gander at the girls working out. He doesn't do any cardio or anything...he just mostly hangs out there with his friends. Anyway, he never learned how to eat properly. My mother in law has been trying to get the surgery for years, but she can't because she has never gone on a proper diet, so they won't do it for her. My husbands family wants my husband to get the surgery, but he is conviced he can lose weight on his own. The funny thing? People have thought I should get the surgery....when I was like 40 lbs lighter. I know I can lose weight, I just have to be determined to do it. I have been gaining more and more determination lately, so it is going to happen!

I agree that the surgery is a good idea for like 600 lb people, but only if they are going to take it seriously and try really hard to keep the weight off.

Original Post by m_c_85:

Original Post by sarahbear2008:

ok apparently the cal burned in the blue window changes every few mins..bc i refreshed the page and its different now lol.

 

(bear with me yall im a bit of a newbie..ill get it one day)But still not sure why it would be so much higher than what ive entered in the daily activity log. Im up to 690 cals so far today.. so weird.

dont hate me for being slow! LOL

 

SarahBear, The big total is your added activity PLUS what they assume a person of your height/ weight would burn just being awake in a day basically. Those cals are burned by being alive ;)

 lol i figured as much. go me. thank you for clarifying it :)

Ally: way to go on the 1.5 lbs down!!! That's excellent! The pain...it's there daily, but I just try to push it aside the best that I can and go to work, do my job, come home and do the normal house wife things! I guess I've learned to live with it. I don't want anybody putting sharp instruments by my spine!!! Getting those darn steriod shots was scary enough!! They had to give me 2 valiums to take before getting my shots done every session. Those aren't cheap either! I nearly flipped out the first time I was so scared!

Feddie: I agree, try slipping into a 16 or a 18 and see how that feels, keep trying to get into a smaller size until you're into something that fits comfortably. I'm so excited for you being able to get in those 12s!!! I remember being there once...a few years back...almost 5 years ago. The feeling was amazing!

Everybody: I totally agree about the gastric bypass surgery thing. I don't think people should get it unless they are deadly overweight, like 600+ lbs. My generic sister in law (my boyfriend and I aren't married yet, but his parents and the rest of his family say that I'm already a part of their family) had the surgery about a year and a half ago, and granted even though she's lost a lot of weight...she still has extra skin hanging off her body, mainly in her stomach and arms. She's been to the hospital countless times for being sick and weak, not being able to keep anything down, malnutritioned because she can't eat large of amounts of things to give her those nutrients. She has to take certain vitamins every day because she lacks a lot of nutrients she needs. She started losing alot of her hair because of it too.  Shortly after she got her surgery done, I thought about having it done myself...but then I changed my mind after I saw all the problems she was having with it. I wouldn't recommend anybody having this surgery really unless they were truly aware of all the problems and consequences they're about to face.

I really believe that the surgery should be a last option--That after you saw a nutritionist, dietitian and personal trainer and you still couldn't lose the weight then maybe have the surgery--it just worries me--sometimes we don't hear it in the media but there are bad side affects to the surgery---humph

welp, gals, I was just so tired this morning I couldn't worm myself out of bed so I skipped class--Now I have a second class to go to but don't feel like it but the just showing up is 25% of the grade! lol, so I"m not sure what would happen if i just missed one class --but I sure am thinking about it--I've just been under a lot of stress lately--trying to balance everything and it hasn't quite been working (not really a balance) and then my grandmother got put in the ICU yesterday and I felt like a big bag of bricks fell on me....literally....I don't handle stress well which isn't good because I have been eating whatever I want without consideration to the calories---but I haven't been going over my maintenance calories which is good in a way. I was hoping to get back on track today but I just don't feel like it--still stressed out--the more I write about it the more it makes me not want to go to class...I will get over this---So I basically took this week off from everything--one week out of the year won't kill me..so we will see.. Everyone is doing great, keep up the good work..

bootser1-All our prayers are with your grandmother!!

I lost an Aunt to the lap band procedure a few years ago. Her body basically denied the foreign object and her liver shut down. She was maybe 100 pounds overweight.

 

My EX Step-mother had it end of last year. dropped 95 pounds in about 4 months. She looks good. But the diet you have to do prior AND after is very strict.  i couldnt do it. I need food lol. She would tell me stories of how she would eat 2 bites of lasagna and throw up bc her body couldnt handle it. No thanks. I feel much better knowing if I work hard and stick to it..and get to my goal.. then maybe one day i canhave a WHOLE piece of lasagna and not feel bad for myself. :)

Tomorrow is Friday!! Hope you ladies treat yourselves to a well deserved good time!!

<3

SarahBear

Losing weight using those procedures also doesn't give your skin time to snap back so you are left with hanging skin and more surgery. NO THANK YOU!

Cheer up Bootser! Don't be so sad! (Sung to the tune of Cheer up Charlie from Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory) Anyhow, it's good to take some time for yourself once in a while, though I hope you went to class! I find that if I miss a class, I am more prone to missing more classes because I feel like...well I missed one and it wasn't a big deal....anyway, I am sorry I about your grandmother, and I hope she is alright. You have to remember that you are doing great too! Even though you are sliding a little, you are still aware of what you are doing and not writing it off completely! You can do this Bootser! I am in your corner!

allydan: Yay the guy is unbusy! I hope things work out for you two!

Hi Everyone!

I  came across this post and I think I fit in! Im 22 and weigh 283lbs :(  (Biggest ever)  I want to loose 100+ lbs I have struggled with my weight my whole life. A battle I never seem to win but determined TOO! I am also a vegiterian. So finding protein is a little hard for me. I am trying to follow this 6wk program I bought. The whole science behind it is to find your body type and find what foods work with your body and NOT against It. And eat every       2-3hrs (this takes alot of planning ahead ) I have been trying to follow it but but dinner time, I'm so tired of eating the same thing that I fall off track and eat what ever I can. I really believe if i can stick to this, I will see results! I also tend to go on beinges      &n bsp;     (I have BED) Binge Eating Disorder. I did good all day yesterday but dinner came and I broke down and had a grill cheese, some peanuts,  and pasta!! I weighed myself this morning accepting that i am going to see a 2lb pound weight gain and I still weigh the same!!!!Thank U!!!!! i have notice, I follow this diet plan all day til dinner and when i fall off track, I am not gaining as much. i need to stop because thats how i got to where I got. I was a stable 250lbs for a while and lost control. Now I set myself back about 30lbs!!!! :( Enough is enough!!!!