Giving Up On Love

I really want to. I'm 20, and I broke up with my b/f of almost 2 years about 4 months ago. I've gone on a couple dates since then, but I see happy couples all the time, and it makes me so sad. I don't think I'm particularly unattractive, I just wish I'd meet a great guy! Where are they?! I'm still a student in Business, but I feel like there's nowhere for me to meet guys. Where will I ever meet Mr. Right? :( Anyone out there in the same boat as me? Or any guys in Michigan who are cute/funny/nice who are looking for a great girl?! Hahaha! Well, hope someone can help/relate.

first of all, I live in Michigan, so what up!?! and second, I can totally relate, I just got out of a relationship about 2 months ago...and Im still bummin, I'm sure it'll go away though, plus stupid v-day doesn't help!

Yeah, I took my mom out to dinner, and, of course - I get to witness the couples parade. Ughhh... So sad. :(

Never give up on love!

Everybody goes through heartbreaks, upsets, bad dates, great dates, ect... Eventually that perfect guy (for you) will show up and you'll just know it. Just have to stay positive and remember to have fun!

Hi. I'm 43 and have just broken up with my bf of 2 and a half years. I have had my share of heartache over the years and it hurts a lot every damn t ime.  Look on the net for breakup advice, that's what I've been doing. It helps me to understand how things go wrong and how to communicate properly with guys. Get some books on relationships, it helps to read and understand and helps you to work through things. And stop looking for love, wait for it to find you. Desperate vibes look unattractive to guys. Act as if you're not bothered about getting a guy and you'll probably attract loads. Hope this helps you. We can get through this!

It'll happen when it's supposed to. I say just forget about guys for awhile.

 Or, just get out there and have fun. Don't worry about finding the love of your life, that's too much pressure. Just date and enjoy yourself! You're soooo young - aren't you supposed to be dating all sorts of different people at this age?

Watch "Under the Tuscan Sun" and pay attention to the lady bug parts of the movie.  Basic idea here:  You can't look for love...it has to find you.

When I finally said the heck with it, decided to get a couple of cats and be single, along came the love of my life - and I was 30 when we married. 

Be patient - he will be worth the wait!

u already got plenty of advice from the others, so i'll just say this... u ARE attractive from ur profile pic! be more confident! (i need to tell myself this too, lol)

I was feeling just like you.  There was a time when I swore that if another man broke my heart, I'd never give another a chance. 

I started going on chat sites and dating sites.  Now the idea of internet dating to me was totally cheesy not to mention slightly scary.

However, I thought there could be no harm in looking and in finding pen pals, right?

Wrong - I was robbed - that's right, this adorable, totally grounded, sweet person came and stole my heart.  We talked for 3 months and then met; he came 4,000 km to spend 10 days with me.  Those 10 days have turned out to be 6 months and we are considering getting engaged.

It's amazing what you can find when you just put yourself out there and try to live life for yourself. 

when I was 21, my bf of 2 years + 8 months broke up with me. It's the opposite of your case, but it was pretty painful. I did not date for a year after that. Then I met someone, stayed with him for 6 years to realize he was the wrong one. And I met my husband very quickly after that :-)

I've always my bf in the classroom or workplace. I guess I'm lucky I never had to do online dating or go into bars. Or you could say I don't have many experiences. 
You'll find someone when the time is right :-) When you change school or get a job, perhaps change town, you'll be in a new environment and things can change very quickly then. It was the case for me, and my best friend too.

What do you mean by "lucky" that you didn't have to do online dating, Plume?

I live in a town of just 15,000 people, where everyone knows everyone and the only places to meet people are at church or at the bar.  One of the two -

Well I gave up on the bar scene and thought, if I'm a good person and I'm on this website, then there have got to be other good people on here too.  And I couldn't have been more right.

Don't knock it till ya try it. :)

I have nothing against online dating. My Dad did it and my husband before meeting me :-)
I am a shy person and I would be uncomfortable with the idea of meeting complete strangers like that. That's all. In that sense, I am lucky that I never had to do it. But I agree it is a good way to meet people that you would not meet otherwise. I know meeting people is not easy in general.