Goal Weights. A bit confused...

I am 5'6"-5'7" range, female, 21 years old, and currently around 108-110 pounds. My LW was 93 and according to my doctor, my GW should be a BMI of around 20, which would be around 125.

I feel like a lot of people posting on this forum who have similar stats are aiming much lower, even as low as 115. I don't understand. Am I aiming too high???

I always maintained at around 120-130 pre-ED, so I thought 125 to be an acceptable goal.

Any thoughts or advice?

Im 5'6" and right now I weight about 117? My lowest was 108. Im think 120 is good for me to reach, 125 would be better though. Pre-ed i was really overweight and was up arounf 150 so im not really sure where I should be. Ive never been comfortable with my body.

aim for what u were before, if that was 120-130 then that sounds perfect, at least 125 though probably.

it may be that ppl are aiming for 115 as a MINI INITIAL goal on there way to 130 or more.

thanks guys! this makes me feel a lot better

Original Post by mikfizzle:

Im 5'6" and right now I weight about 117? My lowest was 108. Im think 120 is good for me to reach, 125 would be better though. Pre-ed i was really overweight and was up arounf 150 so im not really sure where I should be. Ive never been comfortable with my body.

Just so you know that's not "really" overweight, that just barely pushing you over the normal to slightly overweight line.

OP: If that's the weight you we maintaining before without any issue it sounds like a perfect weight to gain to. It's good for you to have that 20 BMI cushion in case of illnesses or slip ups. Keep up the good work!

I actually used to weigh 200 pounds and my weight always fluctuated. I went from 180 to 150 and back up and down. Im really terrified of gaining again because I dont want to get back up to where I used to be. I hated being the fat girl

Everyone is different and though this is hard it is important to focus on your needs. Many people who have had ed's try to remain a low weight and that is why I feel many don't fully recover. I did that in my past and always relapsed because my body and mind was not fully healthy. Now though I am so scared I am trying to focus on set point weight. Mkfizzle I understand your fears about how you were overweight but try to focus on today and what you need to do to be healthy. You can do this and I hope you see how far you have come

I'm also 5'6, with a GW of 120-125.

I'm 115 (maybe more?) as we speak, and I still don't have my period, my hair is still falling out, and I too was never this thin before my ED.

I think we have a healthy goal! Stick with it :)

My doctor and nutritionist gave me a minimum goal weight, but to me the number doesn't actually matter. My goal weight is one where I will be able to go out to restaurants with friends and not restrict, eat three solid meals a day plus snacks but not for the purpose of gaining weight, exercise and have energy, and get my period back. The first three are for my mental well being, and the last proves that my body is happy with the weight. That's all that matters to me.

Original Post by evolution_revolution:

I'm also 5'6, with a GW of 120-125.

I'm 115 (maybe more?) as we speak, and I still don't have my period, my hair is still falling out, and I too was never this thin before my ED.

I think we have a healthy goal! Stick with it :)

 I am in the exactly same posistion, i havent had my period in months and my hair is falling out alot. Do you by chance know how long it might take for the hair to stop falling out?

The one thing I love about this website is that you find other people going through similar things, when you thought you were totally alone.

I've heard that 3-6 months of good solid calories and fat is about the time you start to see improvements in your hair, but some people on this website say it took less time for them. I'm so mad at myself for failing to seriously up my calories for SO long. I spent ages thinking about recovering, while only eating maintainance calories, or less. Maybe if I had gotten my **** together, my hair would be better already.

Honestly, my hair is my #1 motivation for recovering right now. I cry about it most days, and stress about it all the time. I seriously used to have the thickest, shiniest, healthiest hair, and now it's like a sheet of paper. :(

We can do this! I have to believe its possible.

Oh, and I also used to be overweight, pre pre pre ed. In fact this whole thing came from a healthy attempt to lose weight, which spiraled out of control. So I know what you're going through as far as fear of going back to that extreme :)

My hair is the same way! Used to be SOOO thick and shiny and healthy. Now it's thin and dry and brittle and dull.

We can do this! Also, evolution, I'm glad we have similar GWs.

Have any of you guys thought about wigs? I hated the idea at first but i have senior pictures and school coming up in less than a month and i need to do something about my hair. Im not sure though... ive never had to shop for one and I dont have the first idea about it.

I also think it is really cool how all of us have similar GW's. :)

I haven't though about wigs. I try to do creative things with my hair and put in hair accessories like headbands and stuff, but it is hard. It will eventualy get better though!!!