goals to gain weight what do you think?

(sorry long) 

soo im new to this site and i think its great that theres some support for other people with gaining weight because it is SO HARD.  for me naturally i just dont. i eat an average amount but sometimes below average, i can get by fine with out eating much and feel fine.   im 19,  5'7" and i weight usually about 105lbs.   recently i have been sick and just not eating much because im in college (opposite of most people i guess)  when i went to the doctor i was 102 pounds. that is realllllly bad for me.   imagain being 5'7" and only weighing that much!

over the summer i tried to gain weight, i basicly ate icecream and hot dogs every day, 1 to 2 protein shakes a day, and just ate and snacked as much as possible.  my goal was to be 115. i did gain some weight i got up to like 111 it was great, but so hard to maintain and get to that point.  

so now im way way below even my regular skinny weight.  i really want to get up to even 115 eventually, i think i would look so good!! ive never been that weight in my life.  im seeing my boyfriend in like 2 weeks and i wish i could put some weight on by then (maybe get back to  107lbs,  from 102 now eek, so thats gaining 5 pounds?!?!) id like to have at least a little bit more boobs by then, ya know? lol.    (even tho i know weight starts by going to your stomach when your skinny, whatever i sitll notice a difference)

so do you think i can do that easily or what?

i planned out a  diet of eating about 2300 calories a day  and it just seems like sooooooo much food.  should i try to push it to more that that?  i'll do what ever i have to.

how the hell am i supposed to eat 4,000 calories a day???

to gain 5 pounds in a week and a half i need to ear 4000 calories a day. i dont even think  foods exist with that many calories.    ... so much for that goal.

Five pounds in a week and a half would be an unhealthy goal anyway. It is possible to eat 4000 calories a day - I know because I have done it myself. But if you want to gain five pounds, aim for 2500 calories, start from there and don't weigh yourself for two weeks to get a good idea of the trend in your body. Have patience - gaining too quickly is as bad as losing too quickly. It is good you recognise that you need to gain, however. You do not need to do it through all junk food. Try:

1. High calorie, low density foods. These are foods that are as the name says - high in calories but low in bulk. These are not only vital in the sense that they can still easily be broken down by a stomach trying to mend itself but also because they add calories without adding bulk. Examples of these would be whole fat dairy, nuts and nut butters, avocado, oils like olive oil and canola (rapeseed) oil as two examples, oily fish, dried fruit and dense fruit like bananas as just a handful of examples. There are two threads stickied at the top of this forum: Support Recipes and The Official High-Cal Food List. The first of these is a list of example recipes that are tasty, high calorie and helpful in gaining. The second is a more general list of foods that will also help in gaining.
   
2. Eat your meals spaced out over the day - aim for about five to six total. Breakfast, a mid-morning snack, lunch, an afternoon snack, and dinner, or switching one of those snacks for an evening snack would be an example. This is both to make it easier on your stomach and to help rev your metabolism. Do not skip them. If it is easier for you, devise a meal plan routine by yourself or with a nutritionist and stick with it.
   
3. This is an important one: do not weigh or measure yourself for two weeks when beginning refeeding. Why? Because our body will hold to a large amount of water initially. This water shows up on the scale, but is not a true indication of weight gain and will flush out after two weeks.
   
4. If you eat a steady 2500, and then find you are maintaining or even losing weight, you will need to increase. Do not think about this just yet - just get to 2500 first.

Do not worry about nutrition at this point. You will probably have a higher intake of everything compared to others - and really, comparing yourself to anyone else at all isn't the way to go. The only thing I personally think is worth watching in gaining is salt and trans fat, and if you are missing your period at all make sure you get plenty of healthy fats from oils, nuts, seeds and nut butters, avocados, oily fish, and so on. But, any other nutrients and food groups? Don't worry about it. Aim for carbs, proteins, fruit or veg, healthy fats and dairy in all your meals over the day and take a full multivitamin as a buffer, and you'll be fine.

If you must exercise, weight lift to build muscle and do light, resistance exercise like yoga. Cardiovascular exercising is completely counter-productive during weight gain unless you are willing to eat back everything you burn. If your doctor, nutritionist or another professional tells you not to exercise at all, not even weights or yoga/pilates, then listen to them.

I wish you luck in gaining and if you have any more questions let me know.

- Ellie. :]