Greatest Compliment You Ever Got!

There is the thread for the worst insult we ever got when being big. How about the greatest compliment someone has ever given you for yourself, your weight, anything.

Let's see if we can do the positive side of this equation. Get that optimism out of the corner in the back.

I'll start:

About 5 years ago, this guy at the bus stop probably in his 40's just said straight out to me: "You are such a beautiful woman! Have a nice evening."

"i love you" when it's said sincerely.

A customer was getting his hair cut while I was working at the salon. I am a manicurist. I noticed he was looking at me a lot because I could see his reflection in the mirror he was in front of. He was really hot. I am super shy and was turning very red. He left and then came back to give me the cutest bunch of daises. He said he was sorry for staring but he was just blown away by how beautiful I am but didn't mean to embarrass me. It was really sweet.

From a weight loss perspective:  "Wow, I didn't recognize you!"

weight loss wise, it would definitely be my grandmother, who is almost 80 and has lung cancer no less. we were at a family part for Rosh Hashanah and the first thing she said to me when I walked in was "you've lost weight!" she was the first to really notice and it felt incredible, especially considering she has every right to be self absorbed at the moment.  isn't it nice when people notice? :-)

Sabine, what a great idea to start this thread. It is very nice to be able to savor a pleasant memory and share it.

After my divorce from my first husband I started running. I then met my current DH in a karate class. (I'd decided after the divorce that I was sick to death of sitting at home feeling embarrassed, afraid and depressed!) I was working out, eating right and looking great. I found a pretty dress with a well defined waist (and even a belt) and it looked good on me. It was also my "signature" red which helped immensely with the overall look. Anyway, there was the sweetest, shyest 20-year-old who'd just started in the mail room and who never said "boo" to anyone in the office. I remember I was walking down the hall toward the mail room and he came out of the door and saw me. He actually stopped in the hall and looked at me and said "you look great" and then he turned redder than my dress. To a 35-year-old woman who'd felt like dirt just a year or so before that was the nicest thing anyone could ever have said because it was so obviously sincere.

JJ

I like this idea also.  I think the very best compliment I've ever gotten was when my husband asked me to marry him - we'd been together almost 12 years at that point, and it was worth the wait.

On a racier note, and this isn't really very feminist of me - one time a guy behind the deli counter said "You've got great knockers!"  He was so sincere, I just had to take it as a compliment!

aasil - completely agree, that is worth more than anything in the world!

paintnmynails - lovely story I know exactly how you felt at that moment

dutchdunham - that is a fabulous compliment to receive well done!

hak1031 - it is definitely fantastic when people notice your weightloss

stayonpiste - what a cute story, it's even more special because this guy was so shy :)

true megan, one time a guy on the street looked at me in a tank top and went: "Wow those are big!" And I said "Thanks and you'll never touch them."

I like this thread!

Two years ago on my 40th bday, my DH watched the kids so I could go out clubbing with my girlfriends. I hadn't been out past 11 pm in ages and ages! We ended up at a club with a lot of young 20-somethings. We were living it up. A young, hot 21-year-old boy started flirting with me.  I flashed my wedding bands. He persisted. Finally, I told him I was probably old enough to be his mother. He didn't believe me. I showed him my driver's license to prove it. He still didn't believe me. He then dragged me out and under some very bright, harsh lights, and stood there studying my face, looking for wrinkles. He was floored. He kept shaking his head, in disbelief... because yes, his mom was 40 years old too. Totally made my night!!!!!!

More recently, a girlfriend I haven't seen in 23 years - one who back in high school was known as the prettiest girl in our class - told me I looked fabulous and "so TINY!!" She kept going on and on, spinning me around. Since this woman has remained quite fit herself, I was very flattered, especially when she grilled me on my exercise and diet and stuff. (I also think I simply dress much better than I did back then...)

this is nice!

well i went to one of those private schools where the kids were rich snobs...i was the FATTEST kid in my grade all through middle school and high school, i was also pimply. quiet as death and was a total outcast...i used to get bullied alot, a guy actually stuck his finger up my nose just for kicks and caused my nose to bleed for days...weird i know and really disgustingly sad, i used to get my stuff stolen and all the teachers would call me 'lazy' just because i was fat! i had my research paper stolen and i was such a pathetic weakling who couldn't stand up for myself...anyways...fast forward 6 years, i've lost loads of weight, i've never imagined that i could get this far in my fitness goals, and the ex-head cheerleader then is actually fatter than i am now...my skinny underweight so-called friend has put on 20lbs...a jerky jock ex-classmate actually told me i'm now the hottest chick out of the whole high school reunion bunch (ofcourse i proceeded to then give them an attitude pay back and walk off with a satisfied smirk on my face). boy were they so wrong back then and i still feel like i'm still hating their guts till today...lol. so i can't help but feel JUST A little bit overinflated!!!!! i wore my tightest shirtdress and a good pair of heels and just seeing the LOOKS on their faces made me feel like a zillion bucks! wouldn't u feel the same?? esp after having been kicked around for years just because u're 'fat', 'ugly' and all that crap? High school hierarchies are just so superficially unforgiving! no wonder teenagers end up with ED's and image issues!

rainydaze22 I absolutely agree, lots of people who were hot in many different ways in school kinda lose their buzz when they get older because they were spoiled with attention early on.

It's how you pull through that counts.

This is a great thread!

One year just before Christmas I was working in retail.

The shops were absolute madness, and the que I was serving was probably around a twenty minute wait.

After serving so many grumpy, impatient customers, and working an eight hour day on my feet, it almost brought tears to my eyes when a middle aged gentleman looked at me and said, "it was worth waiting in line just to see your smile - merry christmas." 

It's incredible how words have the power to build, and break a person's spirit..

 

I dont think this is the best compliment I've ever gotten and its actually kind of inappropriate but there used to be this guy at work who was around my age that every time he would see me he would say "Hey sexy" and smile at me (even though I weigh 239 lbs).   The only reason I'm including this here is because I am 19 yrs old and that is the first and only time a guy has ever shown any interest in me.  It caught me by such surprise the first time he said it that I actually convinced myself that I had heard him wrong, until he said it again a second time.  It was weird...in a good way.

Doesn't matter what it's for but:  "Please help me" followed by "Thank you for helping me" and then "Thank you for trying" The first because it clearly implies (that this person believes) that I have the knowledge/skills required to help, the second because I succeeded, and the last -- well, it was clear I tried.

I actually get complimented all the time (not for my looks or my weight!) -- now if I can grasp the acceptance of those compliments with grace and poise (I generally deny it all -- but am getting better) then I will have truly moved forward.

 

I have a very good friend who I look up to a lot.  She is the kind of person I strive to be, she's warm, caring, a true humanitarian, and the kindest, most generous person i've ever met.  Recently she told me I was an inspiration to her.  This was very humbling to me, and I still haven't actually owned it yet, but I know she truly meant it.

Years ago when I had my daughter at the orthodontist for her first visit, he kept looking at me. Finally he said, "Did you have an accident or something that caused them to have to give you dentures?" I said "No, I don't wear dentures. These are my own teeth." He was shocked. He said that they were so perfect and beautiful, that they had to be dentures and he wondered why I would have dentures at such a young age (I was about 32). And he said I had a beautiful smile.

I went out with my SIL about 1 1/2 months ago and a complete stranger, female, told me that I had a gorgeous body.  When a girl tells you that you look gorgeous, now that is a compliment.

In the last couple years I've gotten the "you look great" comments after the initial weight losses.  But this week I got 2 very nice compliments.  One from the physical therapist who said "you always smell so nice- very clean" - something different.

And earlier this week a lady in weight lifting class said "you are truly an inspiration to me - I see you every day and every day you look better and better"  and a couple weeks ago another woman asked how much weight I had lost I said I've actually gained she said well I wish I could gain weight and look as good as you.  

I guess I have been told that I am very positive and funny or something...

 

This is sooo embarrasing, I don't know what to say, IM TOO BASHFUL!!!

Hmmm, there are a few instances I can think of since I lost the weight, and some were flattering and some I'm not so sure! Ok, I haven't actually SEEN my paternal grandmother in AGES because I'm terrible at keeping up with family. But my dad said he was showing her some pictures one day...some time ago actually, when my weight loss was probably only 3/4 of what it is now. She (my grandmother) gave my dad (playful) hell for always being so old (he's 51 now)and hanging out with ''young hussies''! She said this after seeing a picture of me with him at one point...and he stared at her and told her it was ME, his daughter! (her granddaughter!) Needless to say she didn't even recognize me! Now, either I need to go visit her more often, or that was the sweetest (off colored) compliment I've ever gotten! She was the very critical gram ma when growing up, would tell you to ''sit up straight and get your elbows off the table". She really irritated me growing up...ALOT...nothing I did seemed good enough, so a compliment from her now seems awkward but gratifying!

Maybe I should call or send a picture...or maybe when I can afford the drive, I can bring the whole family down for a day and help her clean the place up (she had a stroke and is a bit handicapped). Ok, now I'm feeling guilty just thinking of this. hmmmm...!